Dating Outside your Religion (or lack thereof)

[Asymptote Angel]

I don't care what religion she is, and if I'm lucky, she feels the reverse. If she can happily be around me for more than an hour, then she's guaranteed passage into whatever heaven she believes in.

 

[Marble Dragon]

I've got no trouble with interfaith dating. As long as people understand that just because I'm polytheistic doesn't mean that I'm a crazy, suicidal, satan-worshipping, self-cutting hippie freak, I'm fine. Heck, I'll even try to explain my religion, and that's a hard thing to do. (Everybody tries to be understanding, but what they're understanding is a completely different thing from what I practice, so it doesn't work.)

Yeah, if they get all that, I'm good.

 

[riskroWe]

My partner could have any belief, and like a true Aussie I'd profusely make fun of it, but as long as there's no incessant preaching or indoctrination going on and everyone keeps an open mind, religion really isn't a big issue. Ever.

 

[Hexenwolf]

I honestly don't care that much. Christian, Catholic, Agnostic, Atheist, Buddhist, Muslim, Pagan, Wiccan, Satanist, whatever. IF the person and I make that first connection, nothing else matters. I'll take what I can get.

Heh, I find it amusing that you forgot Jewish, even though it's much more common than pagan, wiccan, or satanist.

OT: I don't really see a problem with it, but I believe it could easily become a sticking point, and probably a relationship breaker if the two people didn't really care for each other, to the point of love. However, if they do, then it really shouldn't matter. I know one couple where the man is Christian and the woman is Jewish, and they're married with 2 kids so... yea, nothing wrong about it.

 

[SharPhoe]

Heh, I find it amusing that you forgot Jewish, even though it's much more common than pagan, wiccan, or satanist.

...I did?
*looks back*
...I did. And here I thought I was being thorough. >__>;

 

[Khada]

99.999% of the time i will refuse to date someone who is religious... because religeon itself repulses me and i take it as a sign that they dont base there decisions/opinions/beliefs on logic. (baring in mind, there are always exceptions to the rule)

 

[Sightless Wisdom]

I'm quite positive anyone I've ever dated has been Christian, whilst I am an Atheist.
I just don't beleive in it, and if that makes me less of a good guy, I'll be god damn amazed.
You know what I love about the whole Belief thing?
Some christians made this comic:
Now let me take a moment to reflect on this:

What the fuck?
We are NOT Grumpy in the slightest, and btw, "May trick you into neglecting God's word"?
Fuck you, we give our honest opinions on Religion that always MAKE FUCKING SENSE.
We are not tricking you, we are showing you how it really is.
And at the end of the picture, you may notice that they say they will 'handle' us, and I take this as both a threat to my safety and also more likely a threat to having to listen to these fuckers babble on and on about why I should beleive in God and that I'm going to hell and shit like that.
It also says that we are lost souls, and again, Fuck you.
Fuck you up the ass with a drill, because we are NOT 'lost souls' which is thus referring to us as a lesser person, unworthy of existing.
Really, when you think about it, Christianity is Communism:
For you must do this, and that, and you must believe in God and Jesus as the mightiest beings ever, and you must hail them every night or GO TO HELL.
Mmhmm.

Nice ranting and while I agree, I sincerely hope you don't take that comic seriously.Mainly because if it was intended to be serious....wtf talking goat?

 

[Sightless Wisdom]

99.999% of the time i will refuse to date someone who is religious... because religeon itself repulses me and i take it as a sign that they dont base there decisions/opinions/beliefs on logic. (baring in mind, there are always exceptions to the rule)

I think you would enjoy the Satanic bible, here's a couple quotes:

""God" is a human concept, a means of explaining that which men have been unable to explain either through ignorance or through philosophical inability to grasp the nature of reality."

"...the Satanist simply accepts the definition which suits him best. Man has always created his gods, rather than his gods creating him"

 

[SoonerMatt]

But I'm agnostic and coffee DOES give me solace....

I know a lot of Christians and not many are like this, but the ones who are happen to be the loudest. I rhetorically have to wonder what their opinions on this issue are.

 

[Herb sewell]

I am an agnostic and have dated a few christian girls. The only time it ever became an issue is when I dated an Jehovah's Witness and that was mainly a personality difference.

 

[spiggy]

You can say 'it's not an issue' all you want. Not sharing a religion is not a negative, but if you do share a religion, that is a huge positive. You can have a physical, an emotional, an intellectual connection, but what about a spiritual connection. I'm a Christian and I'm dating a Christian girl and it's wonderful, we can share our opinions and thoughts on God, help each other figure out our respective faiths. My relationship with this girl has had a huge positive effect on my relationship with God.

Not all of us Christians are the monolithic, self assured nutbags who write things like the above book page. Some of us are actual humans, just trying to figure it all out for ourselves, and a person who shares your faith can help you do that. It's not that not sharing a faith is a detriment, it's that sharing a faith is a benefit.

 

[Sightless Wisdom]

You can say 'it's not an issue' all you want. Not sharing a religion is not a negative, but if you do share a religion, that is a huge positive. You can have a physical, an emotional, an intellectual connection, but what about a spiritual connection. I'm a Christian and I'm dating a Christian girl and it's wonderful, we can share our opinions and thoughts on God, help each other figure out our respective faiths. My relationship with this girl has had a huge positive effect on my relationship with God.

Not all of us Christians are the monolithic, self assured nutbags who write things like the above book page. Some of us are actual humans, just trying to figure it all out for ourselves, and a person who shares your faith can help you do that. It's not that not sharing a faith is a detriment, it's that sharing a faith is a benefit.

This is why I'm non-theistic, because I thought about things, for years of my life. Even though I was raised Christian and most of my family still doesn't know I'm a Satanist I chose on my own. Unlike the unfortunate people who had faith thrust upon them so heavily as a child they never had the chance to figure out what they thought.

 

[Odude]

I had a 2.5 year relationship end because her mormon family all disowned her because I was not a "brother." She was raised to be controlled by them and I guess the brainwashing payed off. I will never date people involved in cults ever again.

Achievement Unlocked: Became a Cultist

Epic win!
<color=red>SARCASM ALERT! <-- ha!

You have no clue my friend. The things they teach behind closed doors make the teachings of Scientology look like an elementary school "no girls allowed" club by comparison. That, and they've mastered group hypnosis beyond anyone else in the world.

 

[Zer_]

To me personally the religion of whoever I'm seeing doesn't matter. I respect whatever religion anyone might have and if they don't believe the same things as me that won't stop me form persuaing a relationship.

Having said that though my last relationship was actually broken up because of religion. She was a Jehovah's Witness and just refused to compromise when it came to religion. She would constantly hassle me about going to her church, church functions, stuff like that. I'm not the most religous person in the world and I rarely go to church, but when I do I go to catholic churches because I was raised Catholic.

Now I don't mind going to other peoples churches and I've been to many different ones even a
mosque(sp?) once, but heres the catch; She wanted me to go to her church but refused to visit a Catholic church with me. I had told her that if she went to a Catholic church with me or at least promised to I would go to hers, but she wouldn't hear it.

Besides that everyday little things would turn into issues. Even something like going to the movies became a problem because she would always have an issue with R rated movies. (sex, violence w.e.)

Long Story short our differences in religion eventually broke us apart. Ever since then I've always been kind of wary about girls who are very religous like she was.

Jehova's Witnesses are essentially a fanatical religion. I've also been involved with one myself, but I was the one who broke it off. She wouldn't ask me to go to one of their services or anything and I wouldn't ask the same. I was curious and all, but being an agnostic I really didn't care about her beliefs.

What had happened was that she got pretty drunk, and also drugged up on sleeping pills and next thing I knew I found myself in bed with her. Now Jehova's Witnesses are firm believers in no fornication before marriage, and they also frown upon relationships with people outside their religion. This isn't just some social stigma within the religion either it's a significant part of it. Fortunately she was so messed up that I was able to hold her off until she passed out...

After that awkward night I cut it off. To me someone who can't even be faithful to their own beliefs is someone who can't be faithful to others. I have also essentially blacklisted any Jehova's Witnesses for relationships because I know that their doctrines and beliefs go against many things I believe and do.

 

[red the fister]

You can say 'it's not an issue' all you want. Not sharing a religion is not a negative, but if you do share a religion, that is a huge positive. You can have a physical, an emotional, an intellectual connection, but what about a spiritual connection. I'm a Christian and I'm dating a Christian girl and it's wonderful, we can share our opinions and thoughts on God, help each other figure out our respective faiths. My relationship with this girl has had a huge positive effect on my relationship with God.

Not all of us Christians are the monolithic, self assured nutbags who write things like the above book page. Some of us are actual humans, just trying to figure it all out for ourselves, and a person who shares your faith can help you do that. It's not that not sharing a faith is a detriment, it's that sharing a faith is a benefit.

why are you trying to figger it all out? doesn't that Book already do that?

... i'll make an OT post after i finish the rest of the thread, i promise.

EDIT.

WoW, i was only 3 posts away...

fyi i'm now speaking to whoever is reading this post

fact. I'm Pagan to a fault. My Ex-Wife is an Ecclectic-Cun, errr... Wiccan.

fact. i have no need for the fanciful High or Low magic Rituals that your faith deems mandatory for proper Worship.

Truth. all Temple ceremonies are the same damn thing. High Magic. attempting to change the Universe through Prayer - even if all your praying for is personal, internal, spiritual strength. and that's no different from a coven of Witches casting their spells to make the crops fertile or the Global Recession end.

fact. this world will end in Flames. because one day Sol Will Explode. Or engulf Terra as it becomes a giant.

faith. in the grand scale of the cosmos we are less important to existence than the Salmonella in our intestines is to our lives. but you know what... fuck it. while i'm bound in flesh i'll strive to make my world a better place, for myself, for my loved ones and for teh kids i want to have. i don't need Abe, John, Muhammad or L. Ron telling me how to live. (i have no idea who's hand held the pen that wrote the old testament, and i didn't wanna do to much name dropping for the new one. and yes that's chronological order of publication.) i also don't need H. P. Lovecrafts "teachings". people suck by nature, if we met chances are good that we'd hate each other.

in case you can't tell - I HATE RELIGION. all of them. I see them as just another way to separate Our Race into Tribes within the myriad ethnicities. i don't see a need for them. they take the concepts by which we could pull Ourselves out of the Muck, twist them, and use them to Grind the Unbelievers into the Muck. Honor. Courage. Sacrifice. we should aspire to those virtues above all else... hell i'm not a hypocrite honor is easy to claim... but impossible to understand. look at what the muslim terrorists do for honor. ...damnit i depressed myself /cry

really, truly on topic this time.

Meh. religion can destroy relationships (my first serious GF was Irish Catholic and a pure blood at that), religion can make for awful relationships that never end (the Puffington Family of [as]s Moral Oral is the best example i can think of and yes it's a Satire) and i'm sure you know one couple that is Happy regardless of their faiths. and on this topic.... that is what we should aspire too... don't settle, don't do the "Right Thing", find your happiness wherever you can, just don't cause other to suffer for your own gain... for that is the Way of the Douche.

someday i'll learn what my gfs "religion" is. till then, i'm gonna seek the same thing Vash the Stamped sought. Love and Piece(of ass)!

later all, that was a hell of a rant...

i feel mod wrath coming... meh

 

[sidhe3141]

Considering that I follow a non-proselytizing faith that I'm still in the process of making up... who else would I date?

 

[Sightless Wisdom]

I'm quite positive anyone I've ever dated has been Christian, whilst I am an Atheist.
I just don't beleive in it, and if that makes me less of a good guy, I'll be god damn amazed.
You know what I love about the whole Belief thing?
Some christians made this comic:
Now let me take a moment to reflect on this:

What the fuck?
We are NOT Grumpy in the slightest, and btw, "May trick you into neglecting God's word"?
Fuck you, we give our honest opinions on Religion that always MAKE FUCKING SENSE.
We are not tricking you, we are showing you how it really is.
And at the end of the picture, you may notice that they say they will 'handle' us, and I take this as both a threat to my safety and also more likely a threat to having to listen to these fuckers babble on and on about why I should beleive in God and that I'm going to hell and shit like that.
It also says that we are lost souls, and again, Fuck you.
Fuck you up the ass with a drill, because we are NOT 'lost souls' which is thus referring to us as a lesser person, unworthy of existing.
Really, when you think about it, Christianity is Communism:
For you must do this, and that, and you must believe in God and Jesus as the mightiest beings ever, and you must hail them every night or GO TO HELL.
Mmhmm.

Nice ranting and while I agree, I sincerely hope you don't take that comic seriously.Mainly because if it was intended to be serious....wtf talking goat?

Note that this article was clearly made for Children, as it tells you to tell the adults about us grumpy dumpy Atheists.

Well yeah, but even for this to be serious in regards to children is absurd.

 

[similar.squirrel]

I'm not sure I could do it.
I like being able to talk to girls.
I mean, my current girlfriend and I have certain ideological differences [transhumanism, misanthropy etc], but it makes for interesting conversation because it gives some objectivity and we sometimes end up convincing one another of things.
But a devoutly religious person..no.
One of us would get very pissed off, very fast.