Dating Outside your Religion (or lack thereof)
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As long as she can accept the fact that I don't share her beliefs and she keeps them out of my face, then I don't care.
Some religions, like most Muslim religions, consider dating outside your religion a sin. If caught, you could be branded from your faith and possibly, in some freakier civilizations, killed.Calobi said:
This is the biggest issue facing my fiance and I right now. She's Muslim and I'm not. I'm more Christian than anything else, but I mainly just believe in faith, not so much in religion. So her choice is to either be with me and be basicly exiled from her family and her order, or, well... yeah. Basicly, it doesn't look good for us.
This is more how I originaly think, but after awhile I'm sure some issues might arise from some unions. Sort of like, even though I'm very open-minded, I'm not sure how well I could stand being with someone of blind faith. If they can't logicly reason thier beliefs to me, even if I do disagree, I couldn't respect that aspect of thier life. And this is where most die-hard Christians and die-hard athiests lie.SharPhoe said:
This is what most confuses me. People say they couldn't date soemone of a different religion because thier beliefs would differ so much, yet if you examine most of the bigger religions, especialy Christianity and Islam, thier messages are almost identical. The only real differences is they have different names for the characters in thier books. And most of the time, the names are the same, just different versions because of different languages.sneakypenguin said:I couldn't date someone who wasn't a Christian, my beliefs would just be way too far apart. Plus like the Bible says be not unequally yoked.
Personaly, I'd prefer my partner to have belief and follow the messages from one of the Good Books. But I would also them to be open-minded and feel free to question thier beliefs, if only to make them stronger. And hopefully not a fanatic either.
In order to sound truly pathetic to start off, this post finally convinced me to register on The Escapist forums. Anyway, I'm a Baptist dating a Catholic, and while that's Christian on Christian action, there are deep-seeded differences in beliefs. In fact, I really can't tolerate most of Catholic dogma. However, she's very cool about it and often discusses the differences in our views. Only problem is dealing with a Catholic wedding down the road at this point.. with a family full of Protestants.
agnostic, the lazy mans choice, allowing enough room for other people have have beliefs but not really bothering yourself. i have dated a devout catholic, and an atheist the only real difference, at least religiously speaking, was the former would go to church on Sundays and the later would sleep in.
Hmm well as someone who has grown up in Church since a kid I would say that Christianity (Baptist) is quite different. Perhaps I shall create a thread on why I believe the way I do but needless to say my Faith is more than just stories/morals/message. So while say Islam or catholicism might seem similar to Christianity, it could scarcely be further once you delve into it.New Troll said:This is what most confuses me. People say they couldn't date soemone of a different religion because thier beliefs would differ so much, yet if you examine most of the bigger religions, especialy Christianity and Islam, thier messages are almost identical. The only real differences is they have different names for the characters in thier books. And most of the time, the names are the same, just different versions because of different languages.sneakypenguin said:I couldn't date someone who wasn't a Christian, my beliefs would just be way too far apart. Plus like the Bible says be not unequally yoked.
To me personally the religion of whoever I'm seeing doesn't matter. I respect whatever religion anyone might have and if they don't believe the same things as me that won't stop me form persuaing a relationship.
Having said that though my last relationship was actually broken up because of religion. She was a Jehovah's Witness and just refused to compromise when it came to religion. She would constantly hassle me about going to her church, church functions, stuff like that. I'm not the most religous person in the world and I rarely go to church, but when I do I go to catholic churches because I was raised Catholic.
Now I don't mind going to other peoples churches and I've been to many different ones even a
mosque(sp?) once, but heres the catch; She wanted me to go to her church but refused to visit a Catholic church with me. I had told her that if she went to a Catholic church with me or at least promised to I would go to hers, but she wouldn't hear it.
Besides that everyday little things would turn into issues. Even something like going to the movies became a problem because she would always have an issue with R rated movies. (sex, violence w.e.)
Long Story short our differences in religion eventually broke us apart. Ever since then I've always been kind of wary about girls who are very religous like she was.
Having said that though my last relationship was actually broken up because of religion. She was a Jehovah's Witness and just refused to compromise when it came to religion. She would constantly hassle me about going to her church, church functions, stuff like that. I'm not the most religous person in the world and I rarely go to church, but when I do I go to catholic churches because I was raised Catholic.
Now I don't mind going to other peoples churches and I've been to many different ones even a
mosque(sp?) once, but heres the catch; She wanted me to go to her church but refused to visit a Catholic church with me. I had told her that if she went to a Catholic church with me or at least promised to I would go to hers, but she wouldn't hear it.
Besides that everyday little things would turn into issues. Even something like going to the movies became a problem because she would always have an issue with R rated movies. (sex, violence w.e.)
Long Story short our differences in religion eventually broke us apart. Ever since then I've always been kind of wary about girls who are very religous like she was.
Excellent Star Wars reference there sir.Jedoro said:
That one is second only to "Negative, it didn't go in; It just impacted on the surface."
It's not that I wouldn't date someone who's religious, it's that I wouldn't date someone who wanted me to be their religion. As long as they don't care what I believe, I don't care what they believe. Intelligent conversations about their faith are acceptable but if they try to convert me, I'm out.
Some of my friends are religiously confused because they were raised by parents who participated in different religions, so I'm not sure about the whole children thing.
Some of my friends are religiously confused because they were raised by parents who participated in different religions, so I'm not sure about the whole children thing.
At least you actually dated her. I once asked a Jehovah's Witness out on a date and she turned it down because I wasn't one. And this was when I went to an Episcopalian church!Bigeyez said:
Hehe, I was raised Baptist since birth. My family used to own thier own Pentacostal church. My grandfather was a pastor and a missionary, both my uncles are pastors, and one of my cousins is a missionary throughout several different countries. One of the main reasons I say I consider myself a Christian is because that's the religion I was raised in. But, just like most Christian pastors, I've tried to learn about other religions as well. Some of my best discussions about Islam was not from a Muslim, but from the pastor of my old church.sneakypenguin said:
The Christian faith is based upon His message which is brought to us through the Bible. His message is delivered through stories, some of his deeds and some of the acts of man in his name. He even delivered his son down to us to tell us a message, that He loves us no matter what. The overall message is to have good morals, wether they be to your family, to your friends, to strangers, to enemies, to yourself, or to Him.
Hope you don't think I'm trying to dispute your faith, but I do wish people would think about thier faith more instead of just blindly following it without a clue. Again, not saying this is you since I don't even know you, but there are many people like this out there.
p.s. The Qur'an gives the same messages, but it refers to Him as Allah (Arabic for God).
I decided to follow Jesus (which means I converted Christian) when I was 13 and was raised to be agnostic. I'm not in an organized religion like Catholicism or in any sort of denomination (I don't even go to church because I've been there and the super-conservative attitudes they have towards life makes me feel like I'm living my life wrong when I find I can still make my life work following Jesus' advice and not their own made up ones). My parents never once explained to me religion or any religious figures like Jesus, the Pope, Allah, Buddha, etc. So because I wasn't a sheltered Christian child like a lot of my friends, I enjoy mainstream music, humour, television, music and I don't limit myself to authorized Christian media. Why does that matter when we're talk about love? It matters a lot. I know the main reason why a lot of my "sheltered" friends (who were raised highly conservative and warned not to associate with secular people) wouldn't date non-Christian people is because they were raised and are living in a totally different world where they are separated from mainstream media and pop-culture and only expose themselves to Christian music and such (most of them don't even have cable TV). They wouldn't have anything in common with someone out of their bubble, they wouldn't find the same things funny, they wouldn't like the same music, movies, parties, clothes, anything. Also, their parents brought them up to fear the outside world and its people.
I'm not saying this about all Christians, just the ones I know who all seem to have this in common
In my case, since I wasn't raised Christian and converted later on in life, I was raised in this world and not as a sheltered conservative, so I wouldn't reject dating someone because they are not Christian because I'm not scared of them like some of my friends are.
To be honest, I don't think it would last long anyway because your religion is your lifestyle, and I don't think you can be a life partner with someone who disagrees or apposes your lifestyle. But I'm not saying it can't happen, I'm sure lots of people make it work.
I'm not saying this about all Christians, just the ones I know who all seem to have this in common
In my case, since I wasn't raised Christian and converted later on in life, I was raised in this world and not as a sheltered conservative, so I wouldn't reject dating someone because they are not Christian because I'm not scared of them like some of my friends are.
To be honest, I don't think it would last long anyway because your religion is your lifestyle, and I don't think you can be a life partner with someone who disagrees or apposes your lifestyle. But I'm not saying it can't happen, I'm sure lots of people make it work.
I think the message is to have a redeeming faith in Christ's saving grace rather than morals, I'm not a fan of the works based salvation as I don't think it's biblical. Hence a huge dissagreement with most any other sect of Christianity. And how could I date/marry someone who I believed is going to hell (say if they are Catholic or similar). It would be too big an issue of contention for me to deal with in a relationship.New Troll said: