Depressed

[Ancalagon]

I don't know I'm just bored with life seems to monotonous and i don't have the money to go to a real professional i was happy with a bit with someone but they won't talk to me anymore and the depressions gotten worse

So it's about a girl, huh? It's a little difficult to give advice when we don't know the details, but I'll do my best. The people posting on this thread telling you to stop whining and get on with it are pretty heartless, but they do have a point. You say this girl won't talk to you; I'm going to guess that that's because of your behaviour while depressed. If you haven't done anything to irrevocably destroy any friendship the two of you could have, then just by relaxing a bit, and behaving like the person who she once had, presumably, strong feelings for: maybe the two of you could start talking again, and I'm sure that'd help.

I'm not saying that if you straighten yourself up and stop feeling sorry for yourself she's going to fall right back in to your arms: in fact, I doubt that's true. But if you can get yourself back in to a rational state of mind, rather than one - and again, I'm presuming - where you're paranoid and imagining all sorts of possible reasons for whatever happened, and using it to sink in to all sorts of misery.

I've had two ex-girlfriends whom I went through hell getting over. Eventually I got over both of them, one with the doctor's help, one without. I'm friends with them both on Facebook, one of them is married, the other is thousands of miles away. But by now, I can honestly say that I just want them to be happy. I'd be lying if I said that I didn't still have my moments of regret, when I think about what might have been, but I know that they still think of me sometimes, and I don't regret a thing.

Oh, and if you have done anything to irrevocably destroy your friendship with this girl, then there's no point dwelling on it. I know that's not going to stop you dwelling on it, but you should try your best to spend as little as time possible doing it. Because all you'll ever get from feeling sorry about what's happened is pity; and that'll get you nowhere. You have a certain amount of control over what you think about, and if you can pull yourself together, and appear like the man whose been through a difficult relationship but pulled himself up again, you'll find you'll feel much less isolated.

I'm thirty years old, and the first time I went through this, I was nineteen. I'm not the most attractive guy in the world, and I'm a little, well, different to most people. But there have been so many girls in the interim period who have been amazing; who can make me laugh, who have been so beautiful that I can barely believe that they're interested in me. You're setting off on a big adventure; you can't imagine what will happen to you from now on.

Finally, if at any point you feel that you can't deal with this by yourself, or with your friends, then please see a doctor. I don't know if anti-depressants work, or if it's just the placebo effect, but either way, having a bit of distance from your problems can help. Also, consider how many people have answered this thread, despite knowing nothing about you, to try to make you feel better, imagine how your friends and family feel. And if you want to talk, you can always PM me.

 

[Neonbob]

George Carlin also helped me give a more cynical view on the worlds problems. In case those things worry you. I actually helped a ladyfriend of mine with her problem of "I think the world would be better off if all humans were dead" by recommending watching George Carlin.

George Carlin worked as a therapist for me too I also think that world will be better without people around, you think that's wrong? :/

Carlin pretty much tought me to be cynical about the worlds problems in order to deal with it mentally. Humanity will manage. Nature will always find a way (ask the volcano victims in pompeij) etc.

Carlin does work wonders. Once I realized there was humor in just about everything, my outlook on life was drastically improved.

 

[Dr.Sean]

I know a cure for depression, suicide. Suicide is the last form of Natural Selection that health care is vigorously trying to stamp out.

 

[MercenaryCanary]

I don't know I'm just bored with life seems to monotonous and i don't have the money to go to a real professional i was happy with a bit with someone but they won't talk to me anymore and the depressions gotten worse

Just realize that life is suppose to be like that for everyone.
If you want to stop this whole "depression" thing, just go into a war zone.

 

[IronDuke]

If he gives me 2 good reasons why he would consider himself depressed and I may humor him.

While being a bit bored doesn't sound at all like depression to me, I also have to say that you don't need a good reason to be depressed. That's part of why it's so messed up-everything is going alright but your mind just isn't. I don't have any cause in my life to be depressed, I have it pretty damn good infact, but every few months I end up depressed anyway because of my stupid bi-polar/manic depressive disorder. As much as I tell myself I have absolutely nothing wrong in my life, my neurotransmitters are at abnormal levels and so I keep feeling depressed until my body works itself out.

For the OP, I'd really make sure you aren't confusing sad/bored for depression or you might end up paying alot for meds and therapy and having those meds fuck with your mind or even cause depression. Alot of people your age say they are depressed without grasping what it actually means, and few of them actually depressed. So go see a shrink or an MD and talk about it with a professional, or your school guidance councellor.

 

[Snugglebunny]

Depression is a test of character. You really gotta reach out to people in your life like family. Try to be active physically in your life, find a purpose that you believe that is worth fighting for. Get your friends to help you get to where you want to be by being a friend to them.

It is up to you to make the most out of your life. The U.S.S Hope isn't going to dock itself and get you out of your depressing. Only you are. I've been there and you have to make an effort everyday to move yourself forward and sitting on the computer isn't going to change anything.

Good advice! Even though the world seems dark and sad, and everything would be better if it went away, remember its not the worlds job to change. You can't make the entire planet change, only yourself.

So be positive even when you think its impossible! Do more even if you think you can't! You can beat it! Yaaaay encouragement!!! I really want you to feel better, and I know you don't know me and I don't really know you, but please feel better! You have all my best wishes.

 

[slevin8989]

Well thanks everyone i haven't been on the whole weekend trying to find something to do to get over it and i just wanted to say thanks for the advise

 

[hondommond]

I am currently dealing with depression and something known as emotional deadness so i know what your going through bro just hang in there

try seeing a doctor its what really helped me

(just dont mention anything about suicide or they are gonna put you away)

(quote)Didn't we have a thread just like this just a couple of hours ago?

Some more details would also help.(quote/)

 

[DalekJaas]

HYPO *cough* CHONDRIAC

There a small children starving in Africa and families being torn apart in war zones

get over it.

EDIT: Sorry bit harsh but I remember seeing kids in school saying they were depressed when they had nothing to be depressed out. Normally its mood swings I think.

 

[Vrex360]

I wonder what you are depressed about, I mean I am depressed by my urge to go out and kill people and my insatiable thirst for blood that can only be satisfyed by dissecting prositutes in my garage while they are drugged and still alive, then taking their meat and making it into pies... but hey you don't see me making threads about it.