Do I deserve to be spat on for saying this to a gay person?

[Bat Vader]

No, your friend did not deserved to be spit on. Any two people in a relationship should be respectful of other people and understand that there is a time and place for making out. A movie theater is not a place to make out in.

The media does stuff like that mostly all the time.

In my opinion I think what you and your friend should have done was report it to the theater staff or demand your money back.

 

[CJ1145]

I'd have done the same thing, no matter their sexuality. If it's been a man and a woman, two women, two men, or a man and an animal, or really any pairing, I'd still get pissed and ask them to stop. Being gay has nothing to do with it, some people are just dicks, like the two guys in the theater, and MizPiz

Spitting wouldn't be my personal choice (a bit of an overreaction, I'd probably just continue to kiss, maybe be a bit more passionate about it), but yeah, your friend should have just ignored it.

That makes no sense. If you're there to watch a movie, watch the damned movie. If you're doing something that doesn't contribute to watching the movie other people have every right to ask you to stop. And this is coming from the guy who dresses up with friends like Mike Tom and Crow to riff on stuff in theaters.

 

[demoman_chaos]

Gays are like blacks (let me qualify this statement before you deem me racist), most are normal and easy to get along with. But there is a small group of each that everyone judges the rest on and use any chance they get to make a scene. Like Al Sharpton, if it can be twisted into racism, he will twist it just for attention.

The press is the biggest culprit. They saw this as a chance to make a big headline and get attention, so they spun it to be an anti-gay act of violence to sell more papers. They never look at the real facts, they interview the offended gays and go off their story. So the press is much to blame for blowing it out of proportion and the 2 guys deserved a good punch in the face or two.

 

[PoliceBox63]

It was wrong for him to spit on your friend but I disagree that they should have to stop making out. They paid for a ticket too and it is what couples might do in a cinema.

 

[Dragunai]

I wrote the title in first person so it'd be more immediate and attention-grabbing, but this actually happened to a friend of mine (yeah right, I'm sure you're thinking). Though it could hypothetically happen to me.

My friend and I have discussed how we feel about homosexuality, and we generally agreed that we accept it as long as it's not annoying or obnoxious, just like everything else. We don't like gays going all "look at me, I'm so gay!" just as we dislike emos going "look at me, I'm all deep and dark!" or political extremists or whatever. We're both friends with a gay guy, and we treat him the same as anyone else (I mean, we "tease" him about it, but he doesn't mind, and he slags us right back. Everyone's got something to rip on).

But one thing was that it always creeped me out to see guys kiss. I don't think I'm really alone on this. It's like the equivalent of watching someone pick their nose. It's just... eew. It's not something I have any control over, it just disturbs me on a fundamental level. People have been throwing slogans around like "homosexuality isn't a choice, but homophobia is", and I'd have to say that if being a bit disgusted by men kissing is homophobic, then it really isn't a choice. If I had a choice, I wouldn't choose to be disgusted by anything. (On a side note, I always hated the word "homophobe". 'Homos' means 'one and the same', so 'homophobia' would technically mean 'a pathological fear of things staying the same')

Anyway, here's the thing. Recently my friend and his friend went to see Inception (I think), and the cinema was fairly empty, except for these two other guys in front of them. And halfway through the film these two other guys got bored, for whatever reason, and started making out. And my friend was distracted, and grossed out, and couldn't enjoy the film properly. So, never being one to suffer in silence, he gently (according to him) said something alone the lines of "here lads, would you give it a rest? We're trying to watch a movie". And then, one of the guys turned and spat directly into my friend's face.

This apparently resulted in a big brawl (as all things in Ireland inevitably do), and everyone was ejected from the cinema. The local newspaper even caught wind of it, spinning the whole thing to sound like some sort of hate crime riot.


So, what do you think? Was my friend being intolerant, and deserved what he got? Were the homosexual couple being rude, and should've stopped when asked? Did they overreact? Do you think gays in general seem to be more intolerant of people expressing their feelings about homosexuality than heterosexuals are? Or do you think the homosexual community should take a zero tolerance policy to any form of discrimination?

I'm not really sure what to believe.

Its not really discrimination because if I was sitting behind a guy and girl making out I'd be equally as annoyed because there are sounds unique to that action and that action alone.

However if two girls sat infront of me making out then tbh the £7 I paid for the ticket was well worth it assuming the girls are cute >.>

Predictable humour aside PDAs or Public displays of affection are a constant no no in several locations including libraries and pools so I fail to see why it can't be extended to a cinema, particularly if your in a row behind 2 people kissing (regardless of gender and or sexual preference) because the only light in the room comes from the screen so your going to get a lit up version of the making out session.

So with all logic and fairness applied, your friend was well within your right and that Gay dude was frankly an animal for spitting in someones face at what I woulc call a perfectly reasonable request.

Though you gotta see it from the 2nd Point of view which is:
"Your making us stop because we're 'insert personal discrimination here' " which is the crying point all non heterosexuals / ethnic minorities / religious groups as soon as they become an annoyance to the local population.

No I don't want to here the good of of Jesus / Mohammed Im happy with my religion.

No I don't want to watch two gay dudes kissing in a public area while trying to watch a movie (if you have to do it, take that shit home and frankly Id say the same to a hetero couple too)

No I'm not asking you to turn your loud obnoxious and offensive music down on the bus because your black.

Im a white south african living in the UK, Ive been yelled at by teachers and so on because of stupid little things I brought on myself but I have never ran crying that it's because of my origins. I consider the people who do this sort of stuff to be weak and pathetic.

As for the media's spin on it, the maggot infested bootscrapings who call themselves journalists will sensationalise anything to get a story sold. At this point I don't believe anything in the media because its all hype, spin and garbage.
Hell I don't even believe any major newspaper to tell me a meteor is about to wipe out earth unless I look up and see the damn thing myself.

 

[Burningsok]

one thing about being disgusted by two guys kissing. That's just how you handle it, some people don't find it disgusting at all, gay or not. I believe homosexuality is a choice, however; I think that certain personality types are more susceptible in choosing to be gay then others. I'm fine with it though. I don't hate gays because of it, just the ones that are ridiculously flaming and annoying; the sex crazed ones. Those kinds of gays are the ones that the stereotypes came from. Overall it's ok by me. it's their choice and life, and it's not really hurting anyone.

OP: Well I can see why the two got upset. They probably took the statement like it was an expression of how annoying gays are or something. Your friend could of said it a little nicer, but it's certainly nothing to get angry at and spit on the person for. Yeah the two definitely overreacted. They could of just stopped, went to another seat, or made a little statement of their own without being too harsh. Spitting on someone is extremely insulting.

 

[DamnedChoir]

I would have trouble concentrating if a man and woman were all over each-other in the front row and I would ask them to stop.

 

[William Dickbringer]

SNIP for room

no you didn't you would have if you called him a certain term that can't be said on here then you would

 

[ugeine]

If there was there was a guy and a girl sitting there kissing (or even two girls) would he have asked them to stop?

If not, that's homophobic (I agree, it's a stupid word). When you don't have a problem with straight people acting in a certain way but you do when gay people act the same way that means you have a prejudice.

Having a prejudice can range from feeling slightly uncomfortable around something to thinking that thing needs to be destroyed, and I think there's a lot of a difference between somebody, for example who feels uncomfortable around men kissing and somebody who thinks that homosexuals are evil.

 

[Grahav]

Being spat on when asking politely gives enough reason to make you hate and assault said spitter doesn't matter if it is gay or the goddamn queen of cheese.

 

[Trebort]

I wrote the title in first person so it'd be more immediate and attention-grabbing, but this actually happened to a friend of mine (yeah right, I'm sure you're thinking). Though it could hypothetically happen to me.

My friend and I have discussed how we feel about homosexuality, and we generally agreed that we accept it as long as it's not annoying or obnoxious, just like everything else. We don't like gays going all "look at me, I'm so gay!" just as we dislike emos going "look at me, I'm all deep and dark!" or political extremists or whatever. We're both friends with a gay guy, and we treat him the same as anyone else (I mean, we "tease" him about it, but he doesn't mind, and he slags us right back. Everyone's got something to rip on).

But one thing was that it always creeped me out to see guys kiss. I don't think I'm really alone on this. It's like the equivalent of watching someone pick their nose. It's just... eew. It's not something I have any control over, it just disturbs me on a fundamental level. People have been throwing slogans around like "homosexuality isn't a choice, but homophobia is", and I'd have to say that if being a bit disgusted by men kissing is homophobic, then it really isn't a choice. If I had a choice, I wouldn't choose to be disgusted by anything. (On a side note, I always hated the word "homophobe". 'Homos' means 'one and the same', so 'homophobia' would technically mean 'a pathological fear of things staying the same')

Anyway, here's the thing. Recently my friend and his friend went to see Inception (I think), and the cinema was fairly empty, except for these two other guys in front of them. And halfway through the film these two other guys got bored, for whatever reason, and started making out. And my friend was distracted, and grossed out, and couldn't enjoy the film properly. So, never being one to suffer in silence, he gently (according to him) said something alone the lines of "here lads, would you give it a rest? We're trying to watch a movie". And then, one of the guys turned and spat directly into my friend's face.

This apparently resulted in a big brawl (as all things in Ireland inevitably do), and everyone was ejected from the cinema. The local newspaper even caught wind of it, spinning the whole thing to sound like some sort of hate crime riot.


So, what do you think? Was my friend being intolerant, and deserved what he got? Were the homosexual couple being rude, and should've stopped when asked? Did they overreact? Do you think gays in general seem to be more intolerant of people expressing their feelings about homosexuality than heterosexuals are? Or do you think the homosexual community should take a zero tolerance policy to any form of discrimination?

I'm not really sure what to believe.

What a load of bollocks.

Both parties sound as moronic as the other.

Your friend should have kept his gob shut, and the other guy should not have spit on him. But it all comes down to your friend, if he'd have kept his mouth shut, none of this would have happened. Who gives a shit if people are kissing in a theatre? Just watch the bloody film and not them?

 

[Hurray Forums]

He handled it the wrong way. What he SHOULD have done: Blatantly stare at them and slide his hand down his pants, maybe moan a little bit. If they asked him to stop tell them to stop being bigots who are trying to suppress his sexuality and then spit in their faces.

 

[FightThePower]

Nah, that would have been just as annoying if it was a straight couple, personally.

 

[Dags90]

I was just curious, a few posters keep saying "in the front row" even though that was never actually said in the OP. The account we were given said "in front of", for all we know the OPs friends were in the last row on the side of the theater and the couple hadn't made a sound.

A lot of people seem to misconstruing the presented set of events and adding factors out of nowhere.

 

[LuckyClover95]

Your friend didn't deserve to be spat on. It'd distract anyone, straight or gay couple. The guy overreacted.

 

[duchaked]

you guys were fine in asking them to stop, they were just rude and mean
being gay doesn't change the fact that couples making out in public, esp during a movie in front of you, is bloody annoying

 

[AnonymouZero]

overreacted like jerks... or assholes. an asshole is an asshole, even if he's a faerie.

nuff said.

(i really hate the people that distract me from my movies, hell at inception being interrupted, i'd be the first one to spit on the motherfuckers)

 

[Breaker deGodot]

No, he didn't deserve it. He was completely justified in telling them to stop so he could enjoy and AWESOME movie.

 

[marblemadness]

I agree with your friend, as long as your friend told them to stop in the manner that you said he did. I would have told them to stop, regardless if it were two guys/two girls/a guy and a girl.

It doesn't justify spitting on someone. That's just low. I hope your friend kicked the crap out of him

 

[Adrian Wright]

No your friend was perfectly justified in saying something. Having a similar situation in where I was making out with my boyfriend in the theater and a man asked in roughly the same way so he could enjoy the show, so I politely apologized and the simply moved to the back. Though one of the first to get in a scrap over disrespect, that man was way out of line which seemingly happen a lot now. I guess people are just getting sick of hiding it and taking others attacks.