Escapists and marriage
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-Are you married? And if not, do you intend on getting married someday?
-Will it be/was it a quiet ceremony or a big lavish event?
-How about divorce? Do you think people think too lightly about the commitment of marriage or should people be allowed to terminate a marriage for any reason they see fit?
-Same sex marriage. Should it be possible or not?
-Anything else you might want to add.
-Nope, not yet. I will get married when I find the right girl, but I want to finish university first and get into the military before I start looking for a wife.
-Depends on what the girl wants, I personally don't care. Though if forced to decided I'd have a smaller ceremony at a little spanish mission on the Rio Grande in La Jitas, Texas.
-I think people take marriage way to lightly now days, they think that divorce is like a reset button you can hit at any speed bump along the highway of life. I could go into a very very long explanation of why I believe marriage is taken to lightly, but I'd start a flame war... :-/
-Hmmmmm, this is a hard one. I personally do not believe in same sex marriage, I just don't agree with it at all. Though, the libertarian in me says they should be allowed to do whatever they want. If getting married will make them happy, then let them. So I guess my official stance is that yes, they should be allowed to if they really want to get married.
-Getting married will probably be one of the largest events in my life.
-Will it be/was it a quiet ceremony or a big lavish event?
-How about divorce? Do you think people think too lightly about the commitment of marriage or should people be allowed to terminate a marriage for any reason they see fit?
-Same sex marriage. Should it be possible or not?
-Anything else you might want to add.
-Nope, not yet. I will get married when I find the right girl, but I want to finish university first and get into the military before I start looking for a wife.
-Depends on what the girl wants, I personally don't care. Though if forced to decided I'd have a smaller ceremony at a little spanish mission on the Rio Grande in La Jitas, Texas.
-I think people take marriage way to lightly now days, they think that divorce is like a reset button you can hit at any speed bump along the highway of life. I could go into a very very long explanation of why I believe marriage is taken to lightly, but I'd start a flame war... :-/
-Hmmmmm, this is a hard one. I personally do not believe in same sex marriage, I just don't agree with it at all. Though, the libertarian in me says they should be allowed to do whatever they want. If getting married will make them happy, then let them. So I guess my official stance is that yes, they should be allowed to if they really want to get married.
-Getting married will probably be one of the largest events in my life.
-No, but I do
-Quiet ceremony. I'm not one for lavish of anything
-I think people should adjust their vows if they want to allow for a divorce. Saying to their face "Til death do us part" then dumping them for something stupid is kinda bullshit
-I really, truly don't give a damn either way
-Quiet ceremony. I'm not one for lavish of anything
-I think people should adjust their vows if they want to allow for a divorce. Saying to their face "Til death do us part" then dumping them for something stupid is kinda bullshit
-I really, truly don't give a damn either way
I do not think people should get divorce lightly the same as marriage should not be taken lightly. The reason I say addiction is if a person is to addicted to something (gambling, drugs, alcohol, sex) they will put themselves or their loved ones at risk to get their fix, it is better to get out of that situation and FAST!this isnt my name said:
No. I'm not particularly concerned about getting married, especially right now but it's not out of the realm of possibility.
Definitely a small ordeal. I don't want it to be a "ceremony" at all really. I'm totally fine with a court house wedding followed by a romantic dinner.
I think people think too highly of marriage, and rush into it because of social pressures. Divorce should be there for people who make that mistake (or other circumstances). I'm all for divorce. Prenups too.
Doi.
Definitely a small ordeal. I don't want it to be a "ceremony" at all really. I'm totally fine with a court house wedding followed by a romantic dinner.
I think people think too highly of marriage, and rush into it because of social pressures. Divorce should be there for people who make that mistake (or other circumstances). I'm all for divorce. Prenups too.
Doi.
I'll probably get married, and do the best I can without damaging myself financially.
I think Divorce is too easily considered, even by people with kids, it seems. Although the last piece of sacredness in marriage was lost when McDonald's invented McWeddings.
I think Divorce is too easily considered, even by people with kids, it seems. Although the last piece of sacredness in marriage was lost when McDonald's invented McWeddings.
-Are you married? And if not, do you intend on getting married someday?
Not married, and I don't intend to ever get married.
-Will it be/was it a quiet ceremony or a big lavish event?
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-How about divorce? Do you think people think too lightly about the commitment of marriage or should people be allowed to terminate a marriage for any reason they see fit?
I think people take marriage too lightly, but if it doesn't work out there's not many other options. It seems like a divorce is more common than trying to repair the problems.
"'til death to us part"
-Same sex marriage. Should it be possible or not?
I really don't care. If it's for the same rights married couple gets, there's other ways to get that now.
Not married, and I don't intend to ever get married.
-Will it be/was it a quiet ceremony or a big lavish event?
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-How about divorce? Do you think people think too lightly about the commitment of marriage or should people be allowed to terminate a marriage for any reason they see fit?
I think people take marriage too lightly, but if it doesn't work out there's not many other options. It seems like a divorce is more common than trying to repair the problems.
"'til death to us part"
-Same sex marriage. Should it be possible or not?
I really don't care. If it's for the same rights married couple gets, there's other ways to get that now.
-Are you married? And if not, do you intend on getting married someday?
No. Possibly if I meet the right person.
-Will it be/was it a quiet ceremony or a big lavish event?
Quiet. I dislike large crowds of people and only very rarely go to large social events.
-How about divorce? Do you think people think too lightly about the commitment of marriage or should people be allowed to terminate a marriage for any reason they see fit?
Yes, but I feel that people should put in a bit more commitment than many currently do.
-Same sex marriage. Should it be possible or not?
I don't see why not. Maybe under a different name though as marriage is usually though of as a religious institution.
-Anything else you might want to add.
Not really.
No. Possibly if I meet the right person.
-Will it be/was it a quiet ceremony or a big lavish event?
Quiet. I dislike large crowds of people and only very rarely go to large social events.
-How about divorce? Do you think people think too lightly about the commitment of marriage or should people be allowed to terminate a marriage for any reason they see fit?
Yes, but I feel that people should put in a bit more commitment than many currently do.
-Same sex marriage. Should it be possible or not?
I don't see why not. Maybe under a different name though as marriage is usually though of as a religious institution.
-Anything else you might want to add.
Not really.
-Are you married?
No.
And if not, do you intend on getting married someday?
Hopefully within the next seven years, if not than I most likely won't be able to have a family, because I would like to have a couple years of marriage before the wife and I have a kid. Also, 34 my cut off age for the first child.
My problem is that women are way to picky and it sames like one I've been interested in has had a boyfriend, was about to get married, or was already married.
-Will it be/was it a quiet ceremony or a big lavish event?
As much as I would like to have a say in it, I doubt I will since guys usually don't.
If it was my decision, it would be something we could afford and wouldn't put us in debt(I've seen it happen).
-How about divorce? Do you think people think too lightly about the commitment of marriage or should people be allowed to terminate a marriage for any reason they see fit?
No on divorce. People definitely think too lightly about marriage. I say if the problem the couple is having isn't life threatening, physical and mentally(Within normal reason), than the the couple should suck it up and at least talk it out or go to counseling. I guarantee that over half of the divorces that happen are for no good reason.
-Same sex marriage. Should it be possible or not?
No. If they are to have anything, they can have civil unions, but not marriage.
-Anything else you might want to add.
Women, learn to settle and date guys that or outside your range, chances are that if you don't you will miss the guy that could be the perfect guy(though nobody is perfect).
Also, stop throwing out the "you are a good friend rejection", it is totally asinine. Every solid marriage that lasted that I have seen, was made up of two people that were good friends before they got into a relationship together.
Marriage isn't just about sex and love; a large part of marriage is friendship. It is common sense. Why would you want to live the rest of your life with someone that isn't your friend?
No.
And if not, do you intend on getting married someday?
Hopefully within the next seven years, if not than I most likely won't be able to have a family, because I would like to have a couple years of marriage before the wife and I have a kid. Also, 34 my cut off age for the first child.
My problem is that women are way to picky and it sames like one I've been interested in has had a boyfriend, was about to get married, or was already married.
-Will it be/was it a quiet ceremony or a big lavish event?
As much as I would like to have a say in it, I doubt I will since guys usually don't.
If it was my decision, it would be something we could afford and wouldn't put us in debt(I've seen it happen).
-How about divorce? Do you think people think too lightly about the commitment of marriage or should people be allowed to terminate a marriage for any reason they see fit?
No on divorce. People definitely think too lightly about marriage. I say if the problem the couple is having isn't life threatening, physical and mentally(Within normal reason), than the the couple should suck it up and at least talk it out or go to counseling. I guarantee that over half of the divorces that happen are for no good reason.
-Same sex marriage. Should it be possible or not?
No. If they are to have anything, they can have civil unions, but not marriage.
-Anything else you might want to add.
Women, learn to settle and date guys that or outside your range, chances are that if you don't you will miss the guy that could be the perfect guy(though nobody is perfect).
Also, stop throwing out the "you are a good friend rejection", it is totally asinine. Every solid marriage that lasted that I have seen, was made up of two people that were good friends before they got into a relationship together.
Marriage isn't just about sex and love; a large part of marriage is friendship. It is common sense. Why would you want to live the rest of your life with someone that isn't your friend?
- No, nor am I interested in such arrangement. Taking obligatory family law kind of put me off that stuff. No problem with the institution being available for those who desire it, so long as they don't think their kind of relationship is in any way superior to what others choose. Besides, wedlock is such a cool word.
- N/A.
- Divorce should be possible for any and all reasons, though I do believe people rush into this fairly extensive set of obligations without appropriate knowledge on just what it entails for them. Their choice and responsibility though.
- Yes, most definitely. Equal rights for equal humans.
-N/A.
-Are you married? And if not, do you intend on getting married someday?
-Will it be/was it a quiet ceremony or a big lavish event?
-How about divorce? Do you think people think too lightly about the commitment of marriage or should people be allowed to terminate a marriage for any reason they see fit?
-Same sex marriage. Should it be possible or not?
-Anything else you might want to add.
Not yet, but I want to someday, if the right girl comes along
It won't be anywhere in the middle! Either ridiculously big, and involving a castle, or small and quiet, with very few guests
The increased divorce rate of late is making marriage start to look like nothing more than a slightly more serious form of dating. Divorce should be possible, yes, but people should probably think through marriage more in the first place, especially if children are planned.
Yes. Marriage is an affirmation of love etc..., right? Why should it matter whether it's different sex or same sex?
My wedding cake will be the single most expensive part of the ceremony. I will make a point of finding out how much the bride's dress was, and making the cake just a little bit more. And it will be the greatest cake ever!
-Will it be/was it a quiet ceremony or a big lavish event?
-How about divorce? Do you think people think too lightly about the commitment of marriage or should people be allowed to terminate a marriage for any reason they see fit?
-Same sex marriage. Should it be possible or not?
-Anything else you might want to add.
Not yet, but I want to someday, if the right girl comes along
It won't be anywhere in the middle! Either ridiculously big, and involving a castle, or small and quiet, with very few guests
The increased divorce rate of late is making marriage start to look like nothing more than a slightly more serious form of dating. Divorce should be possible, yes, but people should probably think through marriage more in the first place, especially if children are planned.
Yes. Marriage is an affirmation of love etc..., right? Why should it matter whether it's different sex or same sex?
My wedding cake will be the single most expensive part of the ceremony. I will make a point of finding out how much the bride's dress was, and making the cake just a little bit more. And it will be the greatest cake ever!
Amen to that.Jedoro said:
I don't know the full extent of the divorce one of my friends went through, but I know one of the girl's reasons was that my friend spent too much time with his friends(1 night a week).
She actually stole his Xbox 360 when she left. She said that he didn't pay off his section of the credit card that he used to buy it with(even though he did not long after he purchased it). His parents had to intervene, because he didn't have the money for it(she wanted 500 dollars for it).
Though now that I remember more, within a year she was married to someone else and was pregnant.
-No, I'm not married and unless I meet someone I want to actually spend the rest of my life with, I won't marry. A wise person once said that "Marriage is just a relationship that's harder to break off" or something like that...Nimcha said:
-If I ever do get married, it'll probably be a nice outside wedding...it's peaceful and nature is beautiful.
-I have no problems with divorce. If you were rushed into marriage or if it's a bad relationship, why shouldn't you be able to break it off?
-It should be and is in Canada, which I'm very thankful for if I ever get married.
-Anything else? not really...
-Are you married? And if not, do you intend on getting married someday?
-Will it be/was it a quiet ceremony or a big lavish event?
-How about divorce? Do you think people think too lightly about the commitment of marriage or should people be allowed to terminate a marriage for any reason they see fit?
-Same sex marriage. Should it be possible or not?
-Anything else you might want to add.
-No, but I intend to get married, if I can find the right girl. It's nothing that I want to rush into.
-I don't know, but I'm not good with standing infront of large groups of people, being in the center of attention and whatnot so I'd probably rather have a small wedding.
-I think divorces should be possible, but I really don't think marriages should be taken lightly.
-I don't know about religious marriage, but they sure as hell should have the same legal rights and all that jazz as straight couples.
-Will it be/was it a quiet ceremony or a big lavish event?
-How about divorce? Do you think people think too lightly about the commitment of marriage or should people be allowed to terminate a marriage for any reason they see fit?
-Same sex marriage. Should it be possible or not?
-Anything else you might want to add.
-No, but I intend to get married, if I can find the right girl. It's nothing that I want to rush into.
-I don't know, but I'm not good with standing infront of large groups of people, being in the center of attention and whatnot so I'd probably rather have a small wedding.
-I think divorces should be possible, but I really don't think marriages should be taken lightly.
-I don't know about religious marriage, but they sure as hell should have the same legal rights and all that jazz as straight couples.
No I am not married but I do want to get married someday and have a few kids. I just haven't found the right girl to get involved with (they've all disappointed me)Nimcha said:
It will be a quiet and subtle ceremony but then again I am Indian/Pakistani and weddings in my culture are usually always big, lavish events so it's probably gonna end up being big.
I think people quit on their marriages too easily and throw around the words love and marriage like they do one night stand. I hate how the moment it becomes unsatisfactory (even for a moment), people will cheat or divorce; I can't stand it. If a person wants out, I think they should need a damn good reason other than my partner is no longer cute.
Same sex marriage? I don't care either ways, I don't agree with it (no offense to anyone) but I don't think I have a right to stop it, it really doesn't affect me much.
I am just waiting for the right person, i don't believe in having a million girlfriends before sticking with one, and despite what anyone says I remain abstinent.
- No. Not likely to happen any time soon. Or ever.
Even if I wasn't a repugnant asshole, I am not interested in ever getting romantically involved with anyone.
Though I may marry someone to give them citizen status or something. You know, a purely legal thing. It almost happened once and all, but then she had her kid and was allowed to stay because of his citizen status.
- Not applicable.
- I think the existence of divorce kind of makes the whole marriage shebang a much less serious commitment. You can get out of it pretty much any time you want. It's not as permanent as it would be.
Which isn't to say I think divorce is a bad thing. It's not. Some marriages need to end. And, well, marriage is still a big deal. People still approach it tentatively because there is a cultural significance placed upon it, and a stigma against divorce.
I'm just saying it isn't really a lifelong thing anymore.
- Of course. I don't see why not. Marriage is more than religious or legal, it's a heady commitment and what is mostly regarded as the highest point a relationship can reach. It isn't fair that certain people should not be allowed to reach that stage just because of WHO they love.
- Nope.
Oh look I have opinions and they are all dull.
Even if I wasn't a repugnant asshole, I am not interested in ever getting romantically involved with anyone.
Though I may marry someone to give them citizen status or something. You know, a purely legal thing. It almost happened once and all, but then she had her kid and was allowed to stay because of his citizen status.
- Not applicable.
- I think the existence of divorce kind of makes the whole marriage shebang a much less serious commitment. You can get out of it pretty much any time you want. It's not as permanent as it would be.
Which isn't to say I think divorce is a bad thing. It's not. Some marriages need to end. And, well, marriage is still a big deal. People still approach it tentatively because there is a cultural significance placed upon it, and a stigma against divorce.
I'm just saying it isn't really a lifelong thing anymore.
- Of course. I don't see why not. Marriage is more than religious or legal, it's a heady commitment and what is mostly regarded as the highest point a relationship can reach. It isn't fair that certain people should not be allowed to reach that stage just because of WHO they love.
- Nope.
Oh look I have opinions and they are all dull.