Escapists and marriage

[Jeffster92]

No, but hopefully someday.
I'd be down for anything, so long as it's not overtly stuck up about itself
Nothing wrong with divorce if things aren't working out well. No one should be tied to someone if they don't want to be.
There is no legitimate reason to ban gay marriage. period.
I think too many people these days think it's "postmodern" or "right" to actually want to be married. Don't get me wrong, if someone really doesn't want to be married, more power to 'em, but most of the people I talk to sound like they just say they don't want marriage because they think everyone else does and not wanting marriage makes them somehow better or independent. Staying single doesn't make you independent, keeping a clear identity and not allowing anything superficial to change it does.

 

[Julianking93]

... I am going to hug you every time I quote you, that catboy has gotten to me. *cuddle*

OT: This. I fail to see how a slip of paper makes you love someone more or less.

And for added fun, I'll just hug you each time I see you anywhere ^-^

 

[Julianking93]

*sigh*

Im tired of people having this mentality of marriage...

Love, commitment, and being with that special person IS marriage.

I blame the way that people of this generation have cheapen it with their ego, with as you said "just show to the world you like someone and for financial security."

If you want to be technical about it, no it isn't. Saying you love someone=marriage doesn't make any sense. The topic of this is actual legal marriage status and in that sense, I don't believe in it.

This isn't a generational thing either. I know plenty of 50 - 70 year olds who agree completely with me and will even admit the whole reason they got married was because either they were forced by their parents or they did it for financial reasons.

Marriage doesn't now, nor has it ever had a thing to do with love.

 

[Choppaduel]

Marriage is an old world concept.

 

[New Troll]

-Are you married? And if not, do you intend on getting married someday?
Divorced. Fairly certain I will get married again. Hopefully soon if things go well.

-Will it be/was it a quiet ceremony or a big lavish event?
First wedding was a fairly lavish event, especially considering our incomes. Next time I doubt it would be so. Two witnesses and a judge more than likely. Truthfully, I wouldn't mind another big time event, preferably blowing my first wedding out of the water. But it's not really up to me.

-How about divorce? Do you think people think too lightly about the commitment of marriage or should people be allowed to terminate a marriage for any reason they see fit?
I'm not a fan of divorce. I think because of divorce, people go into relationships and especially marriage way too lightly. Course I see the purpose of divorce, but I think it should possibly be more regulated. Make it more of a last resort.

-Same sex marriage. Should it be possible or not?
Sure. I have no right to stand in the way of two people's happiness. And I know God wouldn't ever want me to either.

-Anything else you might want to add.
The woman I love does like the idea of being married to me, but I think she's really only caring cause it matters so much to me. To her, it's just a piece of paper. To me, it's everything.

 

[zen5887]

-Are you married? And if not, do you intend on getting married someday?

Not married. I would like to, if not for anything else then the flippin' giant party I'll hold. In the somewhat likely event that my partner isn't into the marriage deal, then that is no biggie. I mean, if we are to the point that we are ready to get married I don' think much will change by signing some papers.

-Will it be/was it a quiet ceremony or a big lavish event?

Actual marriage or some kind of commitment celebration, I am having a massive party. It'll be cheap though, not in a church and super relaxed.

-How about divorce? Do you think people think too lightly about the commitment of marriage or should people be allowed to terminate a marriage for any reason they see fit?

I'm all for divorce. My folks split up when I was 1 or 2, simply because they got married too early and couldn't handle it. I would much rather grow up the way I did, then in a marriage that neither person wanted to be in. I don't really think its 'an easy way out.' Going of stories I've heard about custody battles and property battles and shit, it sounds pretty unpleasant.

-Same sex marriage. Should it be possible or not?

Come on guys... Its 2011. It's crazy to think this is even an issue. In Australia it's still illegal because the law recognizes that "Marriage is a legal union between a man and a woman." Uhh.. change the wording you fucks...

-Anything else you might want to add.

Nothing I can think of.

 

[DevilWolf47]

1. No, i'm not married. I have a girlfriend that i probably will stay with for an exceptionally large chunk of my life, but her idea of commitment is calling me her pet.
...she's a misanthrope and hates people, so her sign that she loves me is that she refers to me as if i was an animal. Good luck finding logic with that.
Anyway, i doubt we'll ever get married. Neither of us are big on ceremony.

2. If by some perverted twist of fate i somehow wind up becoming a parent, i'd probably go with a simple ceremony. Easy to hide from the newspapers so that my parents won't be able to track me down demanding that i raise the child to be a catholic.

3. Interesting question. Admittedly the neglect of commitment is concerning even to me, but cases of spousal abuse are a harsh enough reality that i'll permit divorce.

4. Let people who love each other get married. So long as it's consensual and doesn't create problems, i don't care.

5. Yes, i have something to add. Safe sex is something that should be taught in schools. Seems to me that proper sexual education will prevent hasty marriages doomed to fail because it will help prevent unplanned pregnancies.

 

[cathou]

Are you married? And if not, do you intend on getting married someday?

i'm married for 5 years now.

Was it a quiet ceremony or a big lavish event?

It was pretty small. Since i'm married to another girl, it wasnt possible to do it in a church, so i got married in the local courthouose in front of a judge, with just a couple of friend and my wife family.

How about divorce? Do you think people think too lightly about the commitment of marriage or should people be allowed to terminate a marriage for any reason they see fit?

I think it's inhumaine to force someone to stay married to someone they dont love anymore, so yeah i'm in favor of divorce. However, i think people should really think twice before getting married. not get married after 2 months and divorced after 3 months...

Same sex marriage. Should it be possible or not?

since i'm in that situation, yeah totally

Anything else you might want to add

Marriage isnt only religious. i considere myself agnostic, and been married was something i did for me, for what it meant for me, not for any God. I hate when people claim that marriage is a religious institution only...

 

[The Unworthy Gentleman]

I really can't agree with this. All of the divorces I know about involve a lot of heartbreak and regret, but are ultimately for the best. And if it isn't, there's always the option of remarriage.

I also find it hard to see marriage as some ultimate commitment, in my view people marry and have a wedding as a celebration of their love. That doesn't seem to be the case everywhere, is the 'till death do us part' thing really what it's all about? I find that a little hard to grasp...

I think you see marriage too lightly. While marriage is a celebration of your love it is also the biggest way of showing your commitment to one another. Sure you can say you love them and that you'll be together to the end, but you aren't really forced to do that. With marriage you have to go through law processes to say you are no longer (or never were, in the case of annulments) married.

Marriage is a legal commitment to one another, not just words. It's an action that says you're willing to go that extra mile to prove how much you want to be with someone. The idea is that when you ask them to marry you, you are willing to go till death, not just till 20 years later.

 

[Shoggoth2588]

*I'm not married but I believe I've met the one I will marry. I don't see it actually happening for at few years though as we would both like to enjoy time in each relationship phase (boyfriend/girlfriend, fiancée, etc...)

*We've talked about it and would prefer a small ceremony. We may just go to the courthouse and have it done that way then, throw a small party after. Something like that.

*My Father wasn't a good example when it came to commitment but most of the other people I know have married and remained that way for many years. I don't think you should be allowed to divorce for just any reason but, in instances of abuse or, neglect I see divorce as being a viable option.

*Same sex marriage isn't just possible, it's already happening and I support it. One's genitalia doesn't hinder one's ability to find a life-mate. I also don't see why what goes on behind closed doors needs to be regulated by state. Religious groups should be the ones to lighten up but that's unlikely to happen for a while.

*I can count the number of weddings I've attended on my right hand. I can't count the number of weddings I've wanted to go to or, the number of wedding's I've enjoyed. I like the idea of pageantry behind a wedding though and, while I wouldn't want a lavish ceremony, I would love to continue watching them...on Bridezillas which is a really funny show. Kinda sad too but mostly funny.

 

[Sandernista]

-Nope, and yep.
-I'd like a quiet ceremony but any girl I'd marry would want a real big party.
-I think that divorce is necessary in some cases.
-I don't care, people can do what they want as long as it doesn't affect me. (Which it doesn't.)

 

[LittleWench1629]

- Yes, I am married
- It was a lovely quiet ceremony with close friends and family
- I think if you are going to get married, it should be a life long commitment. It shouldn?t be done on a whim. But things obliviously change. I do think there should be another choice though e.g. a different type of marriage that lasts for a year and a day and then after that you could either stop there or get married properly.
- Same sex marriages should be allowed
- A little info on my marriage: I met him when I was 16 and we got married September last year. He was my first and is still my only love.

 

[Mr Fixit]

I'm not married & i don't plan on it, but i will if she really wants too.
Very small just family & friends, probly on the beach somewhere.
Divorce is fine, but too many people take marrage way to lightly.
Everyone should have the right to be miserable, but seriously people should be allowed to marry whomever they choose.

 

[hotacidbath]

-Are you married? And if not, do you intend on getting married someday?
No, but I would like to be married eventually.
-Will it be/was it a quiet ceremony or a big lavish event?
It really depends on the religious beliefs of my future husband. I'm not religious enough to want a big church wedding, but I would love to have a smaller outdoor wedding of 50-100 people. I guess mid-size and not too expensive as I don't want to start off married life under a mountain of debt.
-How about divorce? Do you think people think too lightly about the commitment of marriage or should people be allowed to terminate a marriage for any reason they see fit?
I think that people take it too lightly. I believe that there are circumstances that warrant terminating a marriage, but marriage is also something you have to work at and I think that some people expect it to come easy and run when it doesn't work that way.
-Same sex marriage. Should it be possible or not?
Yes. If someone is in love enough to want to make the commitment of marriage than they should be allowed to do it, regardless of sex.
-Anything else you might want to add.
Not especially.

 

[FamoFunk]

-Are you married? And if not, do you intend on getting married someday? No, I'm not. Maybe one day, depending on if I find the pserson I want to marry.

-Will it be/was it a quiet ceremony or a big lavish event? In the middle, I want it to be celebrated a lot. But I don't want it being OTT and too fancy.

-How about divorce? Do you think people think too lightly about the commitment of marriage or should people be allowed to terminate a marriage for any reason they see fit? I think some people do jump into marraige too soon and for the sake of it. But, it's up to them and it's no affecting me so I don't really care.

-Same sex marriage. Should it be possible or not? I like what we have in the UK which is. for gay people, Civil Partnerships. IT's pretty much the same thing.

-Anything else you might want to add. Marry me?

 

[Captain Pirate]

-Are you married? And if not, do you intend on getting married someday?
-No, and I do intend on being married someday.
-Will it be/was it a quiet ceremony or a big lavish event?
-Not exactly either. I mean, not quiet, but not massive. Relatively large. All my friends, all hers, our relatives, etc, and taking place in our Church.

-How about divorce? Do you think people think too lightly about the commitment of marriage or should people be allowed to terminate a marriage for any reason they see fit?
-Love is probably the most complicated thing I know of, and so people may simply stop loving one another. There may be other reasons, like one of the couple betraying the other's trust so severely, or any of hundreds of reasons why divorce should be allowed. So yes, I think people sometimes do choose too quickly, and Divorce should continue to be allowed.
-Same sex marriage. Should it be possible or not?
-Yes, of course.

-Anything else you might want to add.
-I want to get married young, and have kids around mid-late twenties, latest early thirties.
If you think this is wierd, it's mainly because I grew up (and am still growing up) with parents in their late 40s and 50s. I love them, obviously, I just wish I could've done all sorts of activities that I wasn't able to do.
Playing Football with my dad, stuff like that.
I want to be at a good young age and still with a relatively childish mind to want to and be able to do those sorts of things with my kids.

 

[SimuLord]

Ahem. From a bitter thirtysomething straight to your ears:

-Are you married? And if not, do you intend on getting married someday? No. And it'd have to be VERY exceptional circumstances for me to ever say "I do" within earshot of a justice of the peace again. Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me, you dig?
-Will it be/was it a quiet ceremony or a big lavish event? My first wedding was a simple courthouse matter. No elaborate production involved. If I ever get married again, I might grant her the benefit of a storybook wedding, but only if someone else pays for it because I personally think the wedding/bridal industry is a money sink for the stupid.
-How about divorce? Do you think people think too lightly about the commitment of marriage or should people be allowed to terminate a marriage for any reason they see fit? When I got divorced, I was less hurt by the wife deciding she wanted to go on in life without me and more annoyed by the fact that I'd be so foolish as to marry someone with such a questionable sense of commitment, honor, and loyalty. A broken vow is a big deal with me, marriage vow or otherwise---the most important traits in a person that I value are loyalty and dedication and she showed neither. Divorce is dishonorable to me. And I was faithful and devoted (and at least she didn't cheat on me, I'll give her that.)
-Same sex marriage. Should it be possible or not? True answer: Sexual orientation is not a disqualifier for basic human rights. Snarky answer: Keep it forbidden because I wouldn't wish marriage on anyone, gay or straight.
-Anything else you might want to add. Yeah. In the words of my uncle Joe: "If it flies, floats, or fucks, rent it."