Escapists and marriage

[Fern Williams]

-No but if I find the right person then I would be open to the idea.

-I don't really care it depends on what we can afford.

-Divorce is an easy way to avoid working things out. There are very few legitimate reasons to get divorced.

-I think everyone should be allowed the freedom to marry who they love.

-Not really

 

[MercenaryCanary]

I plan to get married once I become a paratrooper if I'm fortunate enough to stay with my lover throughout my service.

 

[Ironic Pirate]

Nope. Doubt I ever will, but I'd like to.

Quiet. Crowds scare me.

I think people should be able to divorce if it isn't working, but it has to be actually not working no divorcing after one fight.

Yes, and should be equal to, uh, different sex marriage.

The chances of me ever marrying are almost impossibly slim, but whatever.

 

[BabyRaptor]

Will someone PLEASE explain to me why "My god doesn't like it" is a viable reason for you to tell everyone else in the country what they can and cannot do? Why does your belief in your deity give you the right to decide what I do with my life?

If you don't approve of same sex marriage, don't get one. But let me do what I want with my life. I don't believe in your god, I shouldn't have to follow his rules. /end rant

 

[WeOwnTheSky]

-Are you married? And if not, do you intend on getting married someday?
-Will it be/was it a quiet ceremony or a big lavish event?
-How about divorce? Do you think people think too lightly about the commitment of marriage or should people be allowed to terminate a marriage for any reason they see fit?
-Same sex marriage. Should it be possible or not?
-Anything else you might want to add.

-No, I'm not married, but if I find someone I want to spend the rest of my life with, yes, eventually I'd want to get married.
-Not quiet, but not massive. Perfectly in the middle
-People think way to lightly about the commitment. You make vows (or however it is done in different cultures) to remain true to each other, stay with one another till death, stay monogamous, etc. The only reason I would see to terminate a marriage would be because of abuse, harassment, and other types of violence. I don't really know how I feel about divorce because of "falling out of love."
-Same sex marriage should be legal.
-I'm not trying to offend, but I really disagree with cultures where marriage is basically the woman agreeing to belong to the husband. Marriage should have equality. I also don't agree with arranged marriage.

 

[SkyeNeko]

-No and no.
-If I did (and that is a very big maybe) i want there to be as little people as possible. me him minister organist couple choirmembers best man and woman.
-Divorce only if it comes to violence and stuff. i mean, its your fault if you just 'dont like him', you should have waited longer to see if you were compatible. marriage is not an excuse to stay in an abusive relationship though.
-My church says no, but i say i dont care as long as they know they run a risk of offending a god. he might be against it, he might be for it, no one agrees. god doesnt run the earth with an iron fist, do what you will. the government =/= god, so the gov should allow it.

SNIP

i agree.

 

[SL33TBL1ND]

-Are you married? And if not, do you intend on getting married someday?

No, yes hopefully.

-Will it be/was it a quiet ceremony or a big lavish event?

I don't really know.

-How about divorce? Do you think people think too lightly about the commitment of marriage or should people be allowed to terminate a marriage for any reason they see fit?

Sure, if people aren't happy together forcing them to stay is wrong.

-Same sex marriage. Should it be possible or not?

Of course it should be allowed.

 

[Blue_vision]

-Are you married? And if not, do you intend on getting married someday?
Nope, but I'd like to. Someday, when I find the perfect (or just the right) person.

-Will it be/was it a quiet ceremony or a big lavish event?
Definitely a quiet ceremony. Spare everyone the formalities that nobody really benefits from and get straight to the loving, dancing, and drinking. Any parents will be advised against bringing children if they can't handle it. Most likely would be hosting a rave, or party at a nightclub or something, but I really don't know.

-How about divorce? Do you think people think too lightly about the commitment of marriage or should people be allowed to terminate a marriage for any reason they see fit?
I think that people's perceptions of marriage don't fit the cultural and social ramifications of it, i.e. want to show their commitment but there isn't really a formalized in-between.
And for many people, I do think that they commit to early, before they really know what they're getting into. I'd probably get married after like 5 or 10 years of full on living with whoever she is.

-Same sex marriage. Should it be possible or not?
Duh.

-Anything else you might want to add.
Not really. I love the idea of marriage. I genuinely think that most of the people who are on here going "marriage is stupid!!!" just don't have a proper life philosophy. If you disagree, please try to legitimately convince me otherwise, I don't usually like to think that's the case.

 

[babinro]

-Are you married? And if not, do you intend on getting married someday?
-Will it be/was it a quiet ceremony or a big lavish event?
-How about divorce? Do you think people think too lightly about the commitment of marriage or should people be allowed to terminate a marriage for any reason they see fit?
-Same sex marriage. Should it be possible or not?

Not married. I very much like the idea of marriage and would like to be some day. Though I dislike the idea of kids.

Being anti-social, I'd love to not have a ceremony at all, but I'd imagine the reality of things would be a small gathering 30-60 people...non-religious ceremony.

I think people take marriage too lightly and as such there is a higher than expected divorce rate. People should not be forced to remain together against their will, as such, they should be allowed to terminate a marriage as they see fit in my opinion.

100 percent in favor of gay marriage, I'm disappointed that this has even been a topic of dabate in the past few decades. Change takes a long time.

 

[Nimcha]

Interesting points on divorce. Some people seem to be of the opinion people should try to avoid divorce by any means possible. This really confuses me, if you're not compatible anymore for whatever reason why should you work to keep an unhealthy relationship?

Divorce is seen as a quick way out now though, that's what everyone seems to have against it. When a couple stop working for a while then they think it's time for a divorce. However, with a little work you could easily get that relationship back to normal. If you still find it impossible to keep up that relationship then divorce may be the only solution.

Try and fix something before you throw it away.

I really can't agree with this. All of the divorces I know about involve a lot of heartbreak and regret, but are ultimately for the best. And if it isn't, there's always the option of remarriage.

I also find it hard to see marriage as some ultimate commitment, in my view people marry and have a wedding as a celebration of their love. That doesn't seem to be the case everywhere, is the 'till death do us part' thing really what it's all about? I find that a little hard to grasp...

 

[aegix drakan_v1legacy]

-Are you married? And if not, do you intend on getting married someday?

(is 20 and has never had a girlfriend) Really up in the air. If me and my (eventual) significant other are absolutely positive about each other, then I'm open to the idea. But otherwise, not really. (more in ETC bit at bottom)

-Will it be/was it a quiet ceremony or a big lavish event?

Probably small-medium. It should be nice, but no way in hell am I gonna spend tons of money where I don't need to.

-How about divorce? Do you think people think too lightly about the commitment of marriage or should people be allowed to terminate a marriage for any reason they see fit?

Hard to say...There ARE valid reasons for ending it. But a lot of people don't end it for the right reasons (or the marriage was doomed from the start). I'd be perfectly fine with it if less idiots jumped crotch first into their marriages.

-Same sex marriage. Should it be possible or not?

Civil marriage? Sure. But religiously? ...Well, it depends on the priest/cleric/whatever. They shouldn't be forced to marry someone they don't want to. If the two men/women can find someone willing, more power to them. I don't think it's right to deny them that right, but it's also not right to force a priest to marry them if he doesn't want to either.

-Anything else you might want to add.

Well, Marriage is nice and all, but...It also makes your relationship LAW. So I can see why many people would feel imprisoned by it (even if the marriage is working out nicely). Some might have that feeling in the back of your head going "You signed a contract. You are obligated to this relationship. You cannot get out without serious problems. There is no escape". If you get that feeling, it can cause friction. Honestly, I'd be happy with just a mutual commitment. Less authoritative, but essentially the same, minus the big party. That way, if I ever ask myself "why am I still with her?" I can answer "Because I love her, otherwise I would have already walked", and not "Because of the contract...".

 

[BlumiereBleck]

1. no im not anywhere near that and probably will never happen.
2. will probably be a vegas one if any.
3. if youre going to divorce dont even marry
4. no.

 

[zehydra]

-Nope, but I do plan to.
-I have a feeling people will make it into a big lavish event regardless of whether or not I want it to be. The groom really doesn't have a choice.
-No, the point of marriage is that you're making a promise to stay together. If you're not willing to keep that promise, don't get married.
-I don't really care. The government shouldn't have anything involvement with marriage anyway.
-nope.

 

[Veldel]

Perhaps I might one day not sure

Id like a small wedding


Divorce sucks period

Same Sex Marrage should be allowed no mater what its fucking asinine that it isnt and anyone who thinks people shouldnt including using there religion as a excuse well I hate you plain and simple I belive in equal rights and its about love not your religion or how you feel

 

[SturmDolch]

-Are you married? And if not, do you intend on getting married someday?

No, but if plans go accordingly, I will be in about 3-4 years.

-Will it be/was it a quiet ceremony or a big lavish event?

I'd prefer quiet, but my girlfriend has a gigantic family... And my family lives in Switzerland for the most part, so I doubt many of them will fly over. I really hope my aunt does, though.

-How about divorce? Do you think people think too lightly about the commitment of marriage or should people be allowed to terminate a marriage for any reason they see fit?

People do take it too lightly. But really, if it's not working out, you should be able to terminate it. It's a stupid mistake that shouldn't happen, but lots of those do.

-Same sex marriage. Should it be possible or not?

Yes, but I don't think churches should be required by law to do gay marriages. We wouldn't force a Jewish restaurant to serve pork.

-Anything else you might want to add.

I don't get people that say they don't believe in marriage. You do know it works for a lot of people? I'm not saying you should get married, but saying "I don't want to get married" sounds a lot less spiteful than "I don't believe in marriage".

 

[Faladorian]

-Same sex marriage. Should it be possible or not?
It should be. If you argue this, well piss off.

I adore this kind of attitude when dealing with a matter like this.

Honestly, should black people be able to get married? Are you sure? Some people don't like black people. Maybe next time they shouldn't choose to be black.

What's that? it's not the same thing? Yeah, it basically is. If I was a congressman and I tried to legislate a bill that says that nobody was allowed to hold hands because Cthulhu told me it's bad, would it pass? No. And if you think the christian god is even a tiny bit more likely to exist than Cthulhu, you need to reflect on some realism for a minute.

Abrasiveness aside:

-No and probably not
-Very small and quiet
-Divorce is A-Okay
-Same sex marriage? Absolutely. In fact, see quote above for my thoughts summarized.

 

[Dango]

1. No, but hopefully someday.
2. Depends on what my partner wants.
3. I really, really don't like divorce, but if a couple really hates each enough that both consider it an option, then I understand.
4. Yes.

This thread reminds of me of how lonely I am...

 

[trollnystan]

- Nope, and probably not. Heck I'm single and looks like I'm staying that way...

- VERY quiet unless the man I marry wants otherwise. Then he gets to plan it =P

- I think if people stand up in front of witnesses - especially all their family and friends - and say the traditional wedding vows or variations thereof, then they should damn well work like hell on their marriage before divorcing. Don't say "Till death do us part" if you're gonna just give up on it a year later. And don't get me started on prenups: "I love you babe and I want to be with you always. But you know, just in case, sign the dotted line here, here, and initials here." But if you're in an abusive relationship and s/he refuses to change? Go find the nearest lawyer immediately.

- For it. Although with people going "God meant marriage to be between a man and a woman" I'm starting to wonder if we should just revamp our entire legal system so that everyone just registers for partnerships regardless of sexual orientation. That way everyone gets the same rights, and people can call themselves married or whatever the heck they want.

- I'm pretty much for the legalisation of any form of marriage/partnerships - gay, straight, threesomes. But if I ever do fall in love I won't care if we get married or not. I just don't think it's that important as long as we're faithful.

I don't know how much sense this makes; it's 4:35 AM and my brain is tired... G'night!