Ever Been [b]IN[/b] Love?

[silasbufu]

I have been in love for 4 or 5 years now. Its still strong. Although it only flairs when i talk to her on the phone. Unfortunately she's about 240 miles away, and on the other side of a mountain. So we haven't seen each other in at least 2 years.

Its sad panda, but i doubt we'll ever let it go.

Wow..what's the source of such devotion?
I can't see myself doing that.

You'll know. its like a pair of extra complicated puzzle pieces fitting together.

Well in no offense , but I hope I won't know. I'm in love with my girlfriend for 4 years now and I can't see how I would manage to not see her for 2 years. best of luck

 

[Smagmuck_]

Yes, the ***** broke my heart.

 

[AndyFromMonday]

I don't have emotions. I'm a cold, heartless bastard who only cares about himself...

Yes, of course I've been in love. The fact that the woman I was in love with liked somebody else and that I entered the "Friend zone of no return" is a totally different story. Ah well, love is the perfect example of how life can screw you over in the blink of an eye.

 

[SovietSecrets]

Sure. Did it work out well? No.

 

[MelziGurl]

A month engaged, 4 years together next March.

So, I decided that was it. I returned the engagement ring to the shop, took a copy of both the receipt I had gotten when I bought the ring and when I returned it and mailed to copies to my now-ex-girlfriend. I had underlined the dates and the words 'engagement ring x1'.

Sounds like something my fiance would have done had we ended up in the same situation or worse. Good on ya though, sounds like you've pulled through a devastation that many wouldn't pull through that well on.

I'm happy for you, congrats.

As for that girl of mine... well, she was my first. I've accepted that there will always be a slight twinge in my gut if my thoughts wander to her, but I can honestly say that I'm over her. I was a total wreck for that month after, but the saying 'what does not kill only makes you stronger' does hold true. Been almost 2 years since she dumped me in fact, and there is this girl at the boardgame club at my uni who tends to look at me quite often.

But you know...

life is great, isn't it?

Hope your wedding, whenever it might be, is a grand success.

You should hook in

Serious note, we have our ups and downs. I still suffer from sporadic episodes of depression that he has never actually witnessed. And we have our fights, which are common with most couples. But we prefer to work them out rather than just walk away from them. Recently, I confessed to him that I have wondered what it would have been like to be with another guy (my fiance is my one and only). It's worried him a little, fair enough but I don't have the temptation to go and find out. Oh, and this thought was sparked by a friend of mine who's mother cheated on her father because she didn't know what it was like to have had another guy, it wasn't just a random thought We are just open to discuss everything rather than hold back.

 

[Video Gone]

I was in love with a nice, beautiful girl. We were together for over 3 years. I decided to pop the question, having already bought the engagement ring, figured how to do, you know the works.

Just as I was about to do it, she gives the dreaded 'just friends' speech and dumped me on the spot.

I was pretty heartbroken. I figured what the hell, what had changed.

A week later, while I was still recovering, I saw her together with my best friend. Going out, holding hands, kissing.

So, I decided that was it. I returned the engagement ring to the shop, took a copy of both the receipt I had gotten when I bought the ring and when I returned it and mailed to copies to my now-ex-girlfriend. I had underlined the dates and the words 'engagement ring x1'.

I didn't answer her calls. She stopped trying three weeks later. I figured, if she was willing to throw away three years together in an increasingly serious relationship for a try at my best friend, then she wasn't the girl I wanted to marry. And attempting to fix whatever pieces were left felt futile and too much hard work for too little gain. After all, I would never be able to forget that feeling of betrayal, so indeed friends was the absolute best we could have hoped for.

EDIT: Took me about a month after that until I was feeling okay. Then I realized that I had nothing to be really sorry about. Heartbreak is part of life, I was almost 23, single, had my own (albeit small) rental flat, my good health and my mates. Took me about two hours to organize the loudest party the neighborhood had seen in two years. And considering it was an apartment for university students only, thats saying something. Partying is one thing we do well and with gusto, when we rarely have the chance for it.

For the OP: get over her. It's way past time for that. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, go out and do something you have never done before (for example, bungee jumping, sea cruise), enjoy the experience and once done, shout out 'Life is Good!' from the bottom of your lungs. Then force a smile for the rest of the day if it doesn't come naturally. I swear, by the next morning you'll be feeling a whole lot better.

You're awesome. You just give off that sense of someone who's great to have a conversation with, NOT being sarcastic here.
Dude, you get my once-off, once-in-my-lifetime Awesome Aura prize. Now know that you do have an electric personality, even in text, and carry with you for the rest of your life the fact that you are awesome.

 

[Cowabungaa]

Oh yes, still kind of am, I try to put some of my feelings on hold a little, for the future.

I've also had some crushes in the past and one girl who really broke my heart, but nothing compared to this.

 

[Cmwissy]

Nope - I don't think allot of people have personally; I believe people say the feel love when they feel sexual attraction.

I hate it the most when Teenagers say they have known/are in love.

They're genitals aren't even matured yet and they think they feel such a complex emotion.

[MINI RANT BEGGING}

For example - when a teenage couple go around telling everyone they're in love saying it will last forever; they may even diddle; it ends in a couple of weeks

[MINI RANT END}

It's so superficial and stupid; If there is such a thing as real love it has nothing to do with silly sexual attraction.

 

[Video Gone]

I'm in love, engaged as of a week ago.
We then threw a massive party, the biggest of my life.
The after-wedding party will probably be the biggest of all our friend's lives as well. And that's covering the future as well. And their close descendants.

 

[Video Gone]

Nope - I don't think allot of people have personally; I believe people say the feel love when they feel sexual attraction.

I hate it the most when Teenagers say they have known/are in love.

They're genitals aren't even matured yet and they think they feel such a complex emotion.

[MINI RANT BEGGING}

For example - when a teenage couple go around telling everyone they're in love saying it will last forever; they may even diddle; it ends in a couple of weeks

[MINI RANT END}

It's so superficial and stupid; If there is such a thing as real love it has nothing to do with silly sexual attraction.

Ain't it the truth?

EDIT: I mean the post, not teen love.

 

[Video Gone]

I don't have emotions. I'm a cold, heartless bastard who only cares about himself...

Yes, of course I've been in love. The fact that the woman I was in love with liked somebody else and that I entered the "Friend zone of no return" is a totally different story. Ah well, love is the perfect example of how life can screw you over in the blink of an eye.

IN love means the other person loves you.

Sorry if I hurt you inside there.

 

[seious]

unfortualey i have never been in love but i wouldnt know even if i had because i dont know what it fells like heres a counter question is love baiscally going out with your bestfreind of the oppisite sex(or same i have no proplem with that)so they answer is no maybe i will or i become a guy who plays mass effect until i think im the main charcter oh well

 

[Sccye]

I think being in love and loving someone are different things to me.

Being 'in love' is the first 6-month to a year honeymoon period where you're getting to know eachother and you generally don't spot any of their faults. Passion, romance and maybe borderline infatuation. Loving someone is where things settle a bit. Suddenly you realise that they're not so perfect. Things might start to annoy you a little bit sometimes. Maybe you have doubts. But then you work at it. You love eachother despite grievances, arguments and all the inevitable problems that come with a serious relationship. It's not that the spark and the passion are gone, they're just not the whole thing anymore. There's something quite pleasant about doing the mundane things in life because they're there.

I've been in love a couple of times but, only loved someone once, as I understand it. Which is lucky, because we're getting married next year

 

[Lexodus]

I'll let Meat Loaf field this one. *passes mic*

Well, there's only one girl that I will ever love
and that was so many years ago
And though I know i'll never get her out of my heart
She never loved me back, ooh, I know
I remember how she left me on a stormy night
She kissed me and got out of our bed
And though I pleaded and I begged her not to walk out that door
She packed her bags and turned right away

And she kept on telling me
she kept on telling me
she kept on telling me
I want you
I need you
But there ain't no way I'm ever gonna love you
Now don't be sad
Cause 2 out of 3 aint bad...

Spoiler: Back to you, Lex...

Yes, and been trying to get over her for four years. She has ruined other women for me because I can't look at another without subconsciously comparing them. She always wins. (T.T)

 

[Lexodus]

Yes, i went swimming IN love on thursday

Kinkaaaaay.

 

[Lexodus]

I was in Love.

She was my good friend's sister. I loved her when she was a weirdo-loner who nobody gave a second thought to.

We dated for 2 years. She blossomed into an absolutely stunning beauty, got in with the wrong "popular" crowd of artsy-poser no-lifes... They didn't like me... They began whispering in her ear that she could do better. She dumped me. To say i was devastated would be understating the situation. That was 8 years ago, now. And to be honest, there is still a part of me that has not gotten over her.

The good news is that I'm pretty sure she finally came her senses and realized her mistake. Unfortunately i think we're both too proud to ever admit that we still probably love each other.

I've moved on with my life, but fear the day she may ever decide to come and ask for me back.

Cause i would probably go to her in a heart-beat. My buddy likes to say that every man has that ONE girl that, no matter what, we will always love and drop everything for in a heart-beat. This is that girl for me.

I hate her for this. I hate that i will never be able to love a woman as much as i loved her.

Take the first step! Go back to her and tell her how you feel!

 

[evilartist]

I once had feelings for a woman I used to work with. Damn beautiful, very articulate, and awesome laid-back personality. Unfortunately, she was married. I worked with her for over two years and I just had to deal with it. I don't care anymore now, although I still think she's hot.

 

[Nickolai77]

I would say i fell in love with a girl when i was 16, after these intense emotions for a good few months i asked her out but got rejected.. still kept on loving her for just under a year afterwards, was pretty emotionally scared from it. Then when i got a gf that helped me get over her, i loved my then-girlfriend for most of the 16 month relationship.. of course that didn't work out and the break up, soon before my 18th birthday, was rather traumatic.

Since then, i'm 19 now, i've never really fallen in love with anyone, nor had strong sustained feelings for any other woman. Which is fair enough really, i'm not going to start worrying about my long period of asexuality unless i'm still as i am now when i'm 22.

Now, to me love simply rather instense biological feeling that we get, i don't see it as the mystical and magical thing that disney told us as children. The whole "fated love" and "one true love" thing also annoy's me. It's stikingly odd how people tend to find their one and only true soul mate, out of the 6 billion people spread across the planet, in their workplaces, in their school's and in their universitys or circle of friends. Love is just an intense, almost obbsessive, attachment to someone, and it could be apsolutly anyone.

Also,the only person who can accuratly say they are in love is the person directly feeling those emotions. Another person carn't tell you "your not in love, your too young!". Well how can they? They can not experience that person's emotions to tell for themselves, only the person experiencing them emotions can make a judgment as to what they are. The only person who knows if your in love or not is yourself.

 

[zohmbee]

Hmmm...maybe. Bah, I don't know what to call it, but whatever-it-is, it's one-sided. Stings like a ************, tell you that much.

Off-topic. Anyway, I know more about love than anyone my age here who's actually been "in love", I've just never been in it, I guess.