Ever been in love?

[vampirekid.13]

meh, you know a fraction of the story and yet question my decisions in the big can of worms that became the last 5 years of my life. fun.

you dont know my ex, you dont know me, you dont know how our relationship was going, and you are not here nor there to decide what is best for her, me or us. In the end you cant make an accurate assessment of the situation. because i can tell you she had a history of making the WRONG decisions simply to avoid conflict. which is what a break up is.

that changes things a bit doesnt it?

I did say:

If you can't see a partner as an equal then your relationship will go straight to hell at one juncture or another.

So no, it doesn't change things, my argument still stands. Take it into consideration with the next girl instead of taking what I've said as a personal insult. Don't get involved with girls which you don't consider your equal (i.e your ex, since your opinion of her seem quite low or at least low enough for you to believe being able to decide what's best for her, which is low enough). And when you've succeeded in finding a girl you DO consider your equal, don't take it upon yourself to decide what's best for her or try to fool her by saying you only acted in her best interests.

This goes for any relationship, including yours...

but that had nothing to do w/ it. yea i saw her as my equal, and my better half, however i wasnt gonna see her emotionally torture herself by being with me.


altho you will still disagree even after this post. but its ok, because i did get to talk to her after the breakup and she was something along the lines of "oh hey, ur right, im much happier NOW"


so yea. she was making a mistake. i just helped her take the right path. she now hates me for it, even tho she realizes i was right.

 

[Mcupobob]

nope

 

[TyphoidMary]

I know it's mostly hormones and chemical reactions, but I've been in love. It's a very interesting feeling, and it's not like they describe it in books and movies (for the most part). Even though I've been hurt (who hasn't?) I don't think I would trade the experience of it to forget the pain, because it's all part of it.

Good luck to you AkJay, I hope you find it.

 

[Bat Vader]

not much room for discussion here.

yes i have been in love. i still am. i really love the person. she really hates me. kinda hurts knowing that i would still give my life for her while she wont even say hi to me.

May I ask as to why she hates you?

because i joined the navy.

because i left the state.

because after a year i realized she'd be happier w/o me since im gone.

because i broke up with her hoping she'd get someone that can make her happier than i can since im gone.

because...i wanted whats best for HER and she disagreed. even tho she'd tell me everyday how it sucks that im gone and how she has no one to hang w/ and so on.

...

Hate seems to strong for these reasons. Dislike I can see but hate, no.

 

[justnotcricket]

Indeed I have - two kinds, actually...

1) That innocent, infatuated kind of love that's nice to look back on with a nostalgic twinkle in your eye when you're a bit older, but wasn't so much fun when it got crushed at the time =P

2)What I take to be the real kind, which I am currently experiencing. It's the most incredible, unusual, painful and wonderful feeling. I wouldn't trade it, or my boyfriend, for whom I feel it, for anything. =)

 

[RavingLibDem]

I'm currently in the very early stages of a possible thing with a girl, and certainly am in a state of lust ^^ But love is difficult to define, and difficult to know until its over usually.

 

[EeveeElectro]

Yes, once.
For the past...five? years or so.

I've tried to make it go away several times and I've met with limited success, so now I figure I'll just see it to the end.

MAX FEELS LOVE??!! WHAAAA-

OT, yes, I'm in love now ^_^
So much so, all I see is him in my future, and I'll build my future round his.
It's a very nice feeling.

 

[Klarinette]

Yep, been in love many times. Well... I don't know, some people claim that there's a difference between loving and being IN love. In that case, I have loved many but only been in love twice. One more love fail and I'm done for a while; screw that noise.

 

[Doug]

I have thought I had been on a few occasions, but turned out it was infatuation instead. Ah well, I'll probably die alone.

Yes, yes I have. Still am I guess. Not too pleasant at the moment, I must admit...

...

Erm, so how's this thread gonna pan out? I'm seeing something like this -

Step 1: Answer OP's question.

Step 2: ...

Step 3: Discussion?

No, no...

Step 1: Answer OP's question.

Step 2: ...

Step 3: Profit!

 

[Shepard's Shadow]

No, just a few crushes.

 

[LockHeart]

No, no...

Step 1: Answer OP's question.

Step 2: ...

Step 3: Profit!

Ah I see! Now I know why all my get rich quick schemes go horribly wrong!

 

[Shadowed Intent]

I thought I was once, but I found out later that it was just infatuation.

I might be now, but I don't think it would change my situation.

 

[twistedshadows]

Yes, once.
For the past...five? years or so.

I've tried to make it go away several times and I've met with limited success, so now I figure I'll just see it to the end.

Someone other than yourself?? Is that even possible?
You are such a contradictory fellow, it's quite amusing.

 

[Motti]

Yes. Still feeling the residuals, actually, though I'm hopeful for more in the future.

If you mean have I experianced Chemical reactions in my brain to trick myself into a feeling of Compatablitiy with someone only because of the strong need to Reproduce then Yes, I have.

He's asking about love, not rationalized lust. You basically just accused every asexual person in the world of being halfway to psychopathy.

I'm pretty sure I reached there a long time ago so I don't mind. The route there sucks, but once you get there it's got some nice hotels and art galleries.

OT: not that kind of love.
I think I love my friends in the sense that I'd take a bullet for them if it came to it, but not in the sense that I want to get intimate with them (especially with me being asexual and all).

 

[RobCoxxy]

Twice. Once completely, and had my heart crushed and cast aside like an unwanted newborn.
This time though, my current girlfriend seems as much in love with me as I am with her, and this is set to work. :3

 

[twistedshadows]

I won't lie, I don't quite get love. I suppose I've had crushes and the like in the past, but that just comes with puberty, while my idiot friend and acquaintances are running around hooking up for about a week at a time and showering them with annoying "I love you"s over social networking sites the whole damn time.

Maybe I'm old fashioned, but aren't you only supposed to say "I love you" when you actually mean it?

I've always been irritated by people who are able to do that. I just don't get it. I don't even know that I'd be able to accurately decipher what it feels like to be in love, yet so many of my friends carelessly tell their new conquests that they are in love after a short period of dating.

OT: I've never been in love, though I did end up loving an ex for the person he was. People often don't get the distinction, and I'm not sure I can really explain it. I loved him like I love my closest friends, but there was that further step of feeling lust for him. I was never in love with him, never planned or wanted to spend the rest of my life with him, and wasn't devastated or shattered when we broke up. We dated for over a year and neither of us ever said "I love you."

 

[EMFCRACKSHOT]

Only once. Worst mistake of my life.

 

[__Anarchy__]

I have a dilemma I really really REALLY like this girl but she happens to be my best mates best friend and i have no idea what to do and i'm not sure if she feels the same way about me. We are pretty good friends but i don't want to ruin the friendship with either her or my best mate by a stupid mistake.

What should I do?

 

[Nieroshai]

I've been attached to a lot of girls, but I finally met the one I'm truly in love with 2 years ago. If anything, we love each other exponentially more than when we started dating.

 

[MiracleOfSound]

It is the greatest and the worst feeling in the world.