santacolia said:
Cody211282 said:
grimsprice said:
Cody211282 said:
grimsprice said:
I'd like to make two examples, one like the OP wants... I know guy A and guy B. I can't believe i know guy A who actually said, "i can't believe guy B is dating my ex.(of over a year broken up and 9 months out of communication). He should have asked me first."
I shit you not.
Eh I'm with guy A, its part of the bro code, if hes your friend you ask.
...Are you kidding me? You think you have some kind of right to your ex? That you have some kind of say whether or not a guy can date her? News flash. You don't own her. You don't have any stock in her life, let alone any amount of controlling stock.
Most of what i've heard about the "bro code" seems like childish rubbish invented by teens to satiate their puberty driven jealousy created by their scorned attempts at relationships based on sexual urges.
Learn to control your dicks gentlemen, and you'll learn to control your dick-headedness.
No its polite to ask a friend if you plan on dating an ex, hell they have no right to her but still its like a slap in the face, sure you can date her if you want but expect the friend to get pissed, you should at least tell him before hand. And I think you should read the book before judging it, because I would say its has some good guidelines you can use.
If I was his ex, I'd be extremely pissed to hear that. Come on, he has no right to make my current boyfriend feel awkward because he can't let go. After a year, its way over. Get on with your life. If he was married it might be different, but even then they can't control what happens. What if he said "no you can't?" which seems likely? Does she never get to date someone she cares about because her ex doesn't approve? They should let the guy know if they plan on ever talking to him again, but otherwise how dare he think people have to ask his permission to date his ex? Do all three of my ex's have to be called every time I go out?
Sounds like this guy is just not over her yet. Either that or he is a power trip. Does he make you ask permission to eat the same kind of food he likes too? Or wear similar clothes?
Its more a thing of not being an ass and being a friend to your friend, because he knew the guy first and will probably be there after the girls gone. I have had a few girls try to work their way around my circle of friend and all it does is create bad feelings all around(the guys were good enough to ask and got an"I dont care each time") but the girls ended up screwing them over in the same way. As far as I've seen girls go right from one friend to another are trying to be
1) Hurtful
2) Liked the other friend when dating the first
3) Are ditzy enough to think its not going to cause problems between good friend
4) Are selfish enough to not care as long as they get what they want
And this goes with the friend who dosen't ask/try to talk about it as well.