Its definitely harder to tell the difference between a gamer and someone who just plays games nowadays. But people on here can be as cynical as they like, but there is a huge difference. If a gamer, like me, wants to talk about games with his friends, the ones who are gamers will talk about graphics, gameplay, story, mechanics, the developer and publisher, the previous titles and how it fares against its rivals, and also what score it got on several different websites. The others may play the game, but afterwards they put down the controller and don't think about it again...like how most people act when they go to the movies.
Also I don't think its widely accepted as you claim. I think gaming still gets a bad rep, and when talking about people forgetting about their BABIES whilst playing games, or spending 72 hours playing CoD and forget to drink water, its suddenly a niche hobby for the basement-dwellers. Someone who plays angry birds will not understand how games can suck you in, and become part of your daily life. You could be an the most outdoorsiest guy ever, get onto WoW and then feel dirty for playing it for 4 hours straight. You won't admit that you enjoyed it, you'll tell your outdoorsy friends that you're 'addicted', instead of admitting you enjoyed something that millions of others do, just because its frowned upon by the mainstream. But CoD is ok.
Also I don't think its widely accepted as you claim. I think gaming still gets a bad rep, and when talking about people forgetting about their BABIES whilst playing games, or spending 72 hours playing CoD and forget to drink water, its suddenly a niche hobby for the basement-dwellers. Someone who plays angry birds will not understand how games can suck you in, and become part of your daily life. You could be an the most outdoorsiest guy ever, get onto WoW and then feel dirty for playing it for 4 hours straight. You won't admit that you enjoyed it, you'll tell your outdoorsy friends that you're 'addicted', instead of admitting you enjoyed something that millions of others do, just because its frowned upon by the mainstream. But CoD is ok.