Girl gamers and their boy issues.

[Sigma Van Lockheart]

You know I find girls that play games a real turn on. It makes them more unique in my view plus we have something in common. Lucky for me because well I found my girl and we met in a game so all good for me I guess. Oh and for you not sure if this will help or not but if a guy is not that much of a gamer and you go out right and start talking about games he will feel threatened as it is perceived that gaming is largely a male activity. So your best bet is to go for someone who likes games. Also note that gamers don?t look like what we use to some of us are rather attractive and I?m sure you are too so make sure you go for guys you like even if they don?t play games that much.

 

[Geeky Anomaly]

I guess it's all relative. I play games, but I would rather do other things sometimes. I had a girl come onto me once...and things were sailing great...until she informed that she plays about 40 hours of WoW a week, complete with arenas and hard-core 25 man raids. Yea, that's cool and all...but I want someone who does other stuff too....and yea, her comment really put me off.

I don't want someone who hates or tolerates my gaming. But I also don't want a hard-core "games are the ONLY thing I care about" kind of person. I've never met someone in the middle; and I guess when someone dismisses us because we play, they're assuming we're in that "hard-core" group. Just my experience and theory there.

 

[Thaluikhain]

Is being a gamer really that big a deal? Can't you be in a relationship with something without a total overlap of interests?

 

[Tibs]

I myself have never met a girl gamer so I would know nothing about this kinda thing.

 

[Asmundr]

I've never actually run into girl gamers much...and I'll say its a bit weird when your talking to a nice gal, only to realize that your conversation has turned to why such-and-such game is bad or what makes it fun.

Being a guy though I can't, nor have the right to say much about your situation as a girl gamer. All I can say is that I have seen what you've described to a friend of mine. Me and her had discussion about this at length about this and concluded that its just the gender-typing and social values we place on people.

Personally I don't think non-gaming guys should be turned off by a gal that plays video games. I was not put off by my current friends when we first met; when they fan-girl over their favorite anime characters or talk about yaoi. I know thats just me but, it a world like ours today you'd think things like this wouldn't be a problem huh?

 

[Wereraccoon]

This could be avoided by hanging out with gamers.

Most gamer girls I have met are stuck up, especially if they are pretty. I know half a dozen that do not date gamers because few gamers meet their "standards". A long time friend wanted her douchey frat boy "gamer" ((durrhurr I play socom once every five weeks, I r gamer)) to hang out with my friends, and I told her no.

Hmm I understand your point. But you can't call a girl stuck up because she doesn't feel sexually attracted to some gamers. (of course if they are a ***** about it for that reason, then yes she's a stuck up *****.) No offence but not all gamers are the best groomed. I actually don't know that many gamers to be honest though. Well I know many just don't have gamer friends really. *har har socially awkward*

And don't you think you sound kinda stuck up towards said boy friend. I don't know him but to me it sounds like you look down on him.

Oh and I'll explain something about most girls... They act stuck up towards guys that they do not feel attracted to, when said guy flirts too obvious and they are bothered by it... It's how they show they have no interest... It's painful.. But it's the female way of making clear they are not interested... *sigh* sometimes I hate my own kind.

 

[Bara_no_Hime]

So yeah. I noticed there are bizarrely many topics about gamers(male) having problems with getting girls.

Just wanted to say it's not all that easy for girls either. (sadly)
I'm a gamer girl.. And yeah for me that hasn't worked out at all. Maybe it's just the lack of male gamers in my environment. But I wonder if more girls have been experiencing this problem.

I (a female gamer) had no problems with that, but mostly because I mostly dated people from either Anime Club or the Tabletop Gaming Club. This was in college, obviously.

When I dated non-gamers, they were usually friends of friends who gamed (or watched anime) so typically that worked out fairly okay too.

So yeah, basically I just never dated outside my extended group of friends. ^^;;

 

[OmniscientOstrich]

Hmm, suppose I don't give as much thought to socially inept women trying to find somebody. And yet my immediately selfish response is why do none of these geek girls (or geek gay, bi guys for that matter) live near me!

Bad news. Good chance they do live close by! The point is, you don't see them! Because they either stay inside... Or you just won't recognise them on the streets. Aside from fangirls/fanboys it can be pretty had to recognise a gamer because it's not like we all wear the same clothes like we're some kind of cult xD

Fair point, I could make more of an effort to uncover people's interests.

If you think about it, it's not really even unique to 'gamers' - if you start geeking out about anything, it's a toss-up as to whether the person you're talking to (chatting up =P) will engage or escape.

True, really I guess if I could find somebody with a similarish tastse/obssession in films or music I'd be happy with that too.

 

[intheweeds]

Is being a gamer really that big a deal? Can't you be in a relationship with something without a total overlap of interests?

In my experience, depends on the game. In my relationship, after much arguing and whatnot over a long time, i was forced to quit WoW. (not a raider btw, just a ridiculous bias against it). Single player campaigns seem to be fine though... I can play anything i want in single player without tremendous issue. She won't play with me mind you, but it works.

I can see it working, but maybe not if one person plays WoW and the other doesn't.

 

[Klarinette]

The guys I've been with have been into games that I'm not. My taste in gaming has always been completely different from theirs, so there has never been any common ground in that sense (actually, my ex was hardcore into The Sims... hmm). Mind you, that could change now that Mortal Kombat came back and kicked everyone's ass with its awesomeness.

 

[Blood Countess]

never had this issue with guys being I am gay but have with girls but I got lucky and married me a gamer geek girl who plays more games than me lol

 

[Wereraccoon]

never had this issue with guys being I am gay but have with girls but I got lucky and married me a gamer geek girl who plays more games than me lol

Lol if I don't think I could date a guy that games MORE than me... It would be unhealthy... I think x'D
But it's nice you found a nice girl

 

[burningdragoon]

The lesson here is that sometimes it's just not always easy for anybody. The few 'gamer girls' that I know have had some decent successes in that department.

The girls I've been interested in in the past few years haven't been especially gamer-y anyway, so it's not like just being a gamer is going to help in the first place... or something.

 

[infohippie]

Oh, I wish I could find a girl I could discuss Mass Effect with! Yeah, it's just the stigma gaming still unfortunately carries with it for all those who don't understand our shared hobby. Male and female gamers alike are thought of as "a bit weird" by their contempories. Be yourself, and you won't have any problem attracting a nice gamer lad.

 

[Camaranth]

Meh, it's the same situation all round trying to chat up anyone anywhere. Although despite being gamer myself I found it odd when one of the girls I work with suddenly started talking about E3. There was absolutely no reason for me to assume she didn't play games it was just kinda unexpected.
Of course that could just be the underlying social prejudices I try to ignore talking.

My experience with peoples judgement of gamers can be summed up in a short conversation I had with two friends over our timmies break one monday,

Friend1: How was your weekend?
Me: Quiet, I just got Mass Effect 2 so that ate a lot of time.
Friend1: You're a gamer?
Friend2: Oh she's definitely a gamer.
Friend1: oh dear...

 

[Penguinishka]

While I've had quite a few "boy issues" in my romantic life and life in general, I can't think of any that had to do with me playing video games. Aside from the occasional, well-intentioned offer to "help" (play/highjack) a game I'm in the middle of. Seriously, what is that?
Although, I don't think I can call myself a gamer girl unfortunately. I loooove video games, bad at most of them, but they're always fun.

 

[Pedro The Hutt]

Is being a gamer really that big a deal? Can't you be in a relationship with something without a total overlap of interests?

They don't all have to overlap, but I think that many gamers find it important that a partner can at least understand why they spend so much time looking at a monitor playing a game, which is still a fundamentally different experience from films or books as you can't always tell when you're beginning or stopping with a gaming session. And they almost inheritly require more time than a film so... yeah.

Not to mention I'm sure many guy (and girl) gamers wouldn't mind having a partner who they can take with them to their favourite MMO or for some co-op goodness.

When gaming is a big part of your life it helps to have a partner who can understand fully why it is. And no such better person than another gamer.

(That said, I've befriended plenty of gamers, but they seem to be either too young, in the wrong country or taken when it comes to even considering them for romance)

 

[Saltyk]

Odd, just went to a store with a friend and the woman that cashed us out was a gamer. It got brought up because we got a phone call from a friend about games when we were in line. Suddenly, she explains that she understands 'cause she plays games, too. We were both surprised, and ended up talking to her about a few things before we left. Main reason we left rather than talking to her for about 30 minutes about games was there was a line behind us. Too bad she was much older than either of us.

Anyway, 90% of the girls that I've met that game generally have a boyfriend or I wouldn't want a relationship with (they're young or I'm just not attracted to them).