Girl gamers and their boy issues.

[Princess_Dee]

YES! Big problems!!

I pretty much have three main interests that take up 99% of my spare time:
Gaming
Modeling
Basketball (and a few other sports casually)

I have issues finding a working relationship (guy or girl) because my dating specimen is cool with one, maybe two, of my interests.
Gamers don't like me modeling or playing sports because the people that I am surrounded by make them jealous.
Male models tend to be gay or just arrogant douches and they think sports are for meat-heads.
Athletes think I'm the biggest geek in the world if I talk about a game other than Call of Duty.

(These are my experiences)
(I like parentheses)

 

[CaptainLoserPants]

Thank you. Seeing all these threads about how gamer guys never get the girl...*eye roll*
yeah....there are girls out there....gamer girls....who are largely ignored. Every time I talk about Mass Effect or any of my other interests with a guy, I get the same reaction, "you really like games and movies, don't you? >,>..."
Yes. I guess I do.

 

[Asmundr]

Oh, I wish I could find a girl I could discuss Mass Effect with! Yeah, it's just the stigma gaming still unfortunately carries with it for all those who don't understand our shared hobby. Male and female gamers alike are thought of as "a bit weird" by their contempories. Be yourself, and you won't have any problem attracting a nice gamer lad.

I'm with ya on this a bit. I'd like to meet a nice girl who'd like to talk about games and such. But alas, with my luck its but a pipe dream lol

 

[Always_Remain]

Your situation could always be worse. You could be terrified of leaving your house and freak out every time you do. At least I can always find something comfortable to lay on.

 

[Asmundr]

My girlfriend's a gamer and thinks it's cute when I talk dirty to her. And this post still counts, as I am also a woman.

*Prepares for inbox bombardment*

lmao, I never quite got why some guys jump on a girl as soon as they find out they're a gamer like them. Be a bit more subtle their guys.

Coincidentally, do you have a cute friend?

 

[floppylobster]

For instance you're at a party talking to a nice guy... And realize you've ended up talking about Mass Effect. And the guy is like: Riiiiight... *backs off*

It might not have been Mass Effect, it might have been the way you talked about Mass Effect. There's nothing more off putting than someone who's really into something and they start talking about it like you know what they're going on about. Anyone is going to back away from a conversation they have no clue on how to input. You have to simplify your gaming talk, make it accessible, make it interesting. You find games interesting because you like games. Other people don't, so you have to point out what is interesting about them to them.

If you can, introduce the topic slowly -

Have you ever played Tetris? ->
Have you ever played any video games? ->
Have you seen the types of games they have these days? ->
Have you ever seen Star Wars? ->
The narratives in games are getting quite complex. ->
I've been playing this game called Mass Effect. Have you heard of it? ->
It's kind of like Star Wars. (even though I know it's not, but you have to ease them in) ->
There was some controversy about it because of some 'mature' content. ->

By this stage if you don't have them hooked then it was never going to work anyway.

I had a conversation with a girl university. A total intellectual snob. But I started talking about games anyway and I could tell she was uncomfortable so I asked her opinion on how narrative perspective changes when the viewer is the protagonist (rather than a passive observer as in film). At that point she entered the conversation because (a) She knew how (b) she had an opinion on the topic and (c) She was interested.

The bottom line is, know your audience and adjust your conversation accordingly.

 

[EvoraFalcon]

There seems to be a lack of gamer girls here and when i say lack i mean total abscence of, its hard to find a girl who would be able to switch from happily talking about a wide range of games, from ace combat six to burnout paradise to black ops.

 

[AnkaraTheFallen]

Yeah, I used to get this,but since I'm gay I've always thought it was the same problem that guys have. But I'm happy to say I have found someone, admittedly she's not really a gamer girl, but that doesn't need to define anyone, you can be just as happy with someone who doesn't play games.... and I've gotten her interested in them too. XD

 

[Lizmichi]

It's the stigma with gaming that it's "a guy thing." I spent years without a boyfriend and there were allot of gamers around me but all of my boyfriends have been hardcore gamers like my self.

Funny is most of the guys I liked in high school were not gamers. Hmmmm that could of been a problem. XD

 

[arsenicCatnip]

I've been gaming since I could hold a controller, and consider it an essential part of my life. And I've rarely had a problem attracting guys (I'm not gorgeous by any means, let's get that out of the way), especially guys who game. My current boyfriend is a hardcore gamer, and he loves it when we can share a game or talk about our achievements in TF2.

My problem is that there IS still stigma about being a female gamer. I used to laugh when girls would say that they wouldn't go on voice chat online for fear of hearing "tits or gtfo'... then I had it happen. (And I apparently sound like an 8 year old boy on voice). There shouldn't be gender separation. Girls can game, so can guys. We should be a happy community. Am I right?

 

[Escapefromwhatever]

My girlfriend's not a gamer and thinks it's cute when I talk dorky to her. And this post still counts, as I am also a woman.

*Prepares for inbox bombardment*

lmao, I never quite got why some guys jump on a girl as soon as they find out they're a gamer like them. Be a bit more subtle their guys.

Coincidentally, do you have a cute friend?

Fucked up my post- thanks for quoting, as it made me read it again. I decided to fix your quote as well.

 

[Shadu]

I'm a girl gamer. My main issue with guys isn't so much that they have a problem with me, but I have more of a problem with them. Most of the guys I hang around with are...awkward and it makes me uninterested in dating them. The other people I see aren't really my type. They are either jocks or just boring with no common interests.

I'm not really looking for anyone though because I'm just not interested, so I suppose that's a good place for me to be.

 

[Daedalus1942]

Could be worse. Could be a girl gamer who is also into girls. Much smaller pool than either gender of straight gamers has to deal with.

Or a transgirl gamer who is a lesbian. That's not fun.
-Tabs<3-

 

[Meg Galuardi]

The problem I have is that Im in the awkward position of being in the gray area in between casual gaming and hardcore gaming (I can appreciate a good flash game as much as an fps or mmorpg, and even though I love games they arent the only thing I do for fun). So all the gamer guys I know dont see me as a "gamer" but all the non-gamer guys are creeped and think Im a geek. Its horrible

 

[funksobeefy]

there is more to you then just the games you play

 

[Saelune]

My problem is just I dont get out...ever. Plus I have other reasons guys might not want to date me. Assuming they can get past that and are gamers though, I think we should be fine. (Being a gamer is one of my few musts in a guy for long term)

 

[Chemical Alia]

Not really, at least not in a long time. I'm surrounded by game industry people about 95% of the time down here, so it's rare that I'm communicating with someone who's not a gamer. Even my chiropractor recognized my Gordon Freeman costume for Halloween last year. 0:

 

[Troublesome Lagomorph]

Never had seen this before. Why? I know two girl gamers who are, well, REAL gamers (not "facebook gamers" or "farmville gamers") and I've never had any problem with them at all. One's my sister and the other a close friend. My sister had absolutely no problem finding a gamer guy who liked her and vice versa and my friend found a guy who could care less about her being a gamer.

 

[Zeema]

ive never meet a Gamer Girl

ever

 

[Zoe Castillo]

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