Girl gamers and their boy issues.

[Penguinishka]

Dork girls are so great...as long as they're the kind that shower regularly. So, I would say just keep trying. And always shower

Probably wasn't the right guy for you. /whiteknight

This whole reply = words to live by

 

[Wereraccoon]

Oh, I wish I could find a girl I could discuss Mass Effect with! Yeah, it's just the stigma gaming still unfortunately carries with it for all those who don't understand our shared hobby. Male and female gamers alike are thought of as "a bit weird" by their contempories. Be yourself, and you won't have any problem attracting a nice gamer lad.

Haha I've driven my room mate insane with mass Effect... xD I'd say it's one of my favourite games... But I guess I could say that about most Bioware games... So I'll just say that I really like Bioware games
Yes but the trick is to FIND a nice gamer lad There is one nice lad working in my local game store... But eh... No courage 8D

 

[burningdragoon]

The boys I know are all impressed that I play video games. But I've never really had a relationship.
(Another Girl by the way.)

Hollly crap, I just realized your avatar is a yoshi. Awesome.

 

[ydkwidrmw]

Completely disagree. Every girl gamer I know is currently in a relationship or has no problems getting guys. If you're a girl, gaming is probably the best hobby I can imagine.

 

[Neo10101]

Well, I used to live in an area that was filled with girl gamers that dated guy gamers and it was awesome, almost like a garden of eden for gamers....then I moved, against my will.

 

[Saltyk]

Is being a gamer really that big a deal? Can't you be in a relationship with something without a total overlap of interests?

They don't all have to overlap, but I think that many gamers find it important that a partner can at least understand why they spend so much time looking at a monitor playing a game, which is still a fundamentally different experience from films or books as you can't always tell when you're beginning or stopping with a gaming session. And they almost inheritly require more time than a film so... yeah.

Not to mention I'm sure many guy (and girl) gamers wouldn't mind having a partner who they can take with them to their favourite MMO or for some co-op goodness.

When gaming is a big part of your life it helps to have a partner who can understand fully why it is. And no such better person than another gamer.

(That said, I've befriended plenty of gamers, but they seem to be either too young, in the wrong country or taken when it comes to even considering them for romance)

My last girlfriend didn't play games. But she didn't hate them. I could actually talk to her about them some and she seemed at least a little bit interested. I think this was a desire to know about the things I was interested in. She did have an old Nintendo with Super Mario and I played that with her a few times. Really sucked when I realized she was better at it than me. Oh sure, I haven't played a 2D platformer since Sonic 3 and I haven't played on a Nes since the 80s, but still.

 

[Wereraccoon]

Dork girls are so great...as long as they're the kind that shower regularly. So, I would say just keep trying. And always shower

Probably wasn't the right guy for you. /whiteknight

Amen. Shower and shave girls. Shower and shave.

 

[MidnightCat]

None of my friends are into games any more. =(
I'm quiet, so meeting guys - especially gamers - is pretty hard for me. They few I've actually tried to talk about games with have not exactly reacted favourably, even the ones who game themselves.
I was hoping I'd meet more gamers in the uni course that I'm doing now, but it seems that most of them are least a couple of years younger than me. And I'm too nervous to approach them anyway.

 

[Mute52]

And the same thing occurs to guys i would assume.

If you're at a party talking to a girl i would doubt you would get anywhere if you started talking about Mass Effect.

 

[Pedro The Hutt]

Heh, meeting gamers (of either gender) was pretty easy for me when there used to be a games shop that had an actually community built around it, it helped me overcome my shy nature since, hey, you at least can be assured that people hanging out in the shop have ~one~ interest in common. Perhaps even two since this one also sold manga/anime.

 

[Brutal Peanut]

I haven't had to put up with the vocal mating dance at parties and get-togethers for quite some time. My husband and I have been together for a few years, and we both just happen to be 'gamers'. Really, him being a gamer was of little to no importance to me, even though it's nice to have someone else to share those times with. What was important was if he could accept me and my hobbies, even if he didn't take part in them. I wasn't going to change for him, and I didn't expect him to change for me. Neither do we always share the same political or religious viewpoints, but it's never been a problem. We live as two adults who love and care for each other, not two people trying to be each others parent or ruler.

Really, I don't mind my friends and my husband and I not having the same interests. That can make conversations, hanging out, and debates all the more interesting; but I'll be damned if I let them talk shit to me all the time about it.

 

[Kahunaburger]

And the same thing occurs to guys i would assume.

If you're at a party talking to a girl i would doubt you would get anywhere if you started talking about Mass Effect.

Unless she plays Mass Effect

Really, it's more of a broad issue with general interests - people like to have conversations they can participate in, and they can't participate in a conversation they know nothing about. So in other words, you'd get about as far talking about the Giants game with a non-sports fan as you would talking about Mass Effect with a non-gamer, which is to say not very.

But I've never seen the topic drive people away or whatever. My gf isn't a gamer, but she likes having those "hey, I could build that building in minecraft!" conversations after I showed her the game.

 

[drisky]

In my experience, any single gamer girl has usually chosen to be. Just find out the guy is a nerd, then make the first move, lots of nerdy guys are so used to rejection they lack the confidence to make the first move. And it depends where your looking if you can't find a nerd to talk to, they aren't often in clubs or bars.

 

[TheFinalFantasyWolf]

Actually I think I'm quite daft when it comes to guys.

I wasn't really looking for boyfriend at the time so maybe I didn't understand the "signals" they were giving me? I don't know, but alot of my guy gamer friends (who now all have girlfriends, go figure) admitted to me that they wanted to go out with me, but didn't understand if I liked them or not......(You know, cause I'm an idiot who doesn't understand when people are trying to give me a sign).....So because of that, they were too scared.....(BTW they didn't admit this to me all together lol....about half of them told me over a span of 6 months)

 

[OverweightWhale]

Many of the girls that I'm friends with play games on a somewhat regular basis and enjoy talking about them. Yet for some reason they're all single or not interested in dating. Why? I'm not entirely sure and believe me I wouldn't mind dating one of them . I don't really see why a guy gamer would be put off by a girl who talks about games, if anything that seems like it'd be a bonus for most guys.

 

[Escapefromwhatever]

My girlfriend's not a gamer and thinks it's cute when I talk dorky to her. And this post still counts, as I am also a woman.

*Prepares for inbox bombardment*

 

[OverweightWhale]

Actually I think I'm quite daft when it comes to guys.

I wasn't really looking for boyfriend at the time so maybe I didn't understand the "signals" they were giving me? I don't know, but alot of my guy gamer friends (who now all have girlfriends, go figure) admitted to me that they wanted to go out with me, but didn't understand if I liked them or not......(You know, cause I'm an idiot who doesn't understand when people are trying to give me a sign).....So because of that, they were too scared.....(BTW they didn't admit this to me all together lol....about half of them told me over a span of 6 months)

The way I've seen it. Many guys might be too shy to tell you or thought they might freak you out. Your situation was kind of similar for me. I liked one of my gamer friends and by the time I worked up the courage to tell her she ended up having a bf. Oh well. So guys might not show signs directly.

 

[MinishArcticFox]

All the female gamers I have met with one exception have been assholes and expected everyone around them to praise the ground they walk on because they were women surrounded by men. Can't say I've ever met a girl who started a conversation about a game with me.

 

[DarkhoIlow]

Well,personally,I think that gamer girls have an easier job to get men than the other way around.

For example,I have a girl,friend,in WoW that plays regularly and manages her irl quite well(goes to parties,has a job and boyfriend unfortunately) and at first glance,if you would see her,you wouldn't believe that she is playing any games at all.Can't really call her a "gamer" since the only thing she plays is WoW,but still.

Getting lucky enough to find a girl that is into games and have subjects to talk about is one of the things I want,but most probably will never get.After so many years as a gamer I really can't think of talking anything besides games.I can't seem to think of different subjects that are not redundant.

 

[AMMO Kid]

Really? Most girls I know would just have to flirt with a guy to get him to ask her out in a couple of days... This is new info for me.