Girl Problems...
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they are right, my friend. You spent too much time in the friend zone, we have all done it, and most are lucky enough to mature before we stay there for too long. My friend did the same thing, for 2 years. Supporting this girl, listening to her boy problems. Well, to make a long story short, it didnt pay off. This is something that you are supposed to go through, its of part life and you have to get over it and becoming a better, more mature man. Get away from her, if your learned your lesson.
Hate to say it (at least about this girl probably being a manipulative brat yatta yatta), but I'm totally in agreement w/ this guy.Samurai Goomba said:
Thats cool but you need some distance from her first to get over her, because you can't be friends with someone you secretly want mad sex with.LooK iTz Jinjo said:
Just tell her straight that you want a relationship and if she can't give you that cool, but than you won't be able to be a friend for a while and need some time alone.
force the issue with a naked man.
as seen in season 4 episode 9 of How I Met Your Mother.
i'm not sure if i can post a link to it here but if you message me i'll send it.
although thinking about it, you lost your chance when she hit you with the cop-out argument, you shouldn't have let that lie, should have told her you could take it slow, could have persuaded her that what she needed wasn't time without seeing someone, but a firm rock to hold on to, who wouldn't let her down.
anyhow i'd go with an ultimatum. you probably won't get the answer you want, but when it comes down to it, at least at the end of the day you know where you stand.
these are best done in person too. when i do these by text or msn, you usually get a lie or no reply.
but you seem like far too nice (a.k.a. shy) a person to do that.
just my thoughts
as seen in season 4 episode 9 of How I Met Your Mother.
i'm not sure if i can post a link to it here but if you message me i'll send it.
although thinking about it, you lost your chance when she hit you with the cop-out argument, you shouldn't have let that lie, should have told her you could take it slow, could have persuaded her that what she needed wasn't time without seeing someone, but a firm rock to hold on to, who wouldn't let her down.
anyhow i'd go with an ultimatum. you probably won't get the answer you want, but when it comes down to it, at least at the end of the day you know where you stand.
these are best done in person too. when i do these by text or msn, you usually get a lie or no reply.
but you seem like far too nice (a.k.a. shy) a person to do that.
just my thoughts
my ex (who was my best friend for soooo long and is still now) we kinda didnt change our ways of hanging out when we did start dating, so we just said maybe we are beter off friends as it seems that way (we both had the same idea just didnt want to tell the other for a while >.>) i cant help you too much never been in a situation like that before sorry, but yeah, try not to overthink things and it may work out sorry for my lack of advice
If you havin' girl problems I feel bad fo you son, I got 99 problems but a ***** ain't one.
Sorry. I'll try and be helpful now.
Yea I've been in a situation similar to yours before, it didn't end well. I tried to stay her friend while she sorted herself out and left me hanging on waiting for when she'd feel ready to commit to something, but then she just found somebody else. I spent far too long hung up on her and it ended up time wasted and pretty much destroyed me emotionally. I'd hate to use the cliché phrase but unfortunately you sound like you're in the friend zone. If you want to try and wait for her I hope things work out, but my advice would be to move on asap, there are plenty of other fish in the sea.
Sorry. I'll try and be helpful now.
Yea I've been in a situation similar to yours before, it didn't end well. I tried to stay her friend while she sorted herself out and left me hanging on waiting for when she'd feel ready to commit to something, but then she just found somebody else. I spent far too long hung up on her and it ended up time wasted and pretty much destroyed me emotionally. I'd hate to use the cliché phrase but unfortunately you sound like you're in the friend zone. If you want to try and wait for her I hope things work out, but my advice would be to move on asap, there are plenty of other fish in the sea.
I almost hate to say this, but I disagree with most of the other posters here. Your friend might have hurt you, but don't turn into "that guy". You know, the guy who plays the "nice guy" who hangs around with girls he has feelings for, then judges them for sleeping with other people. She handled it badly, and may well have emotional issues (making "not wanting to be hurt again" a legitimate excuse) but to be honest, it doesn't really sound like she has feelings for you. If you can just be her friend, stay friends with her. If you can't, move on. Things like this almost never work out well.LooK iTz Jinjo said:
This thread is making me very very depressed....*goes to listen to MCR and weep while cutting himself*
In all seriousness though (Well, it IS making me depressed, but nevermind that), I would say you should talk to her. Simple and easy, talk to her and ask her to be honest. Yes, my advice sucks, I know
In all seriousness though (Well, it IS making me depressed, but nevermind that), I would say you should talk to her. Simple and easy, talk to her and ask her to be honest. Yes, my advice sucks, I know
"The heart of a fair dame is a battlefield that conquers even the greatest of generals, an enigma that stumps even the wisest minds, and a mechanism whose complexity is far beyond that of even the most gifted engineer."
Just remember that whenever you try, there's the inevitable chance you may not succeed, or that the whole thing may fail. Best to learn when to cut your losses and just throw in the towel.
Just remember that whenever you try, there's the inevitable chance you may not succeed, or that the whole thing may fail. Best to learn when to cut your losses and just throw in the towel.