Girl troubles (Is there any other kind?)
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Are you me?
But in a few years?
Posting my life?
Because that that is exactly what happened to me.
2 months ago I got her out of my life for good.
It hurts like hell,
But it's getting easier.
Take time to look at what's happening, from the point of view of someone else.
What would you do?
But remember, some things are worth having your heart broken for.
But in a few years?
Posting my life?
Because that that is exactly what happened to me.
2 months ago I got her out of my life for good.
It hurts like hell,
But it's getting easier.
Take time to look at what's happening, from the point of view of someone else.
What would you do?
But remember, some things are worth having your heart broken for.
Okay.. I think I *may* have come to a conclusion of sorts.
I will not make -effort- to cut off communication with her, but I will make no advancements to maintain it. Ill start making other plans, live my own life etc. but if she's up to hang out or whatever, I'll be fine with it. Ill try to lose the emotional aspect of things... Stay my distance like Joker suggested.
Is my avatar self fixed now?
I will not make -effort- to cut off communication with her, but I will make no advancements to maintain it. Ill start making other plans, live my own life etc. but if she's up to hang out or whatever, I'll be fine with it. Ill try to lose the emotional aspect of things... Stay my distance like Joker suggested.
Is my avatar self fixed now?
I guess we don't know all of the facts but my 50 cents:
When there is a chance for you to get away (in a physikal sense so college or a vacation) you should confront her. If you already gone as far as confessing your love she will have had enough time to get her thoughts about you in order.
From what it sounds like your chances are not to good but that way you can break up with her with a clear concious that will make it easier than she dumping you or you worriing if you were wrong.
The physikal seperation is just so you don't have to run away from confronting her since you will/have to run away after it anyway
And most imported: Don't listen to advice from the internet
When there is a chance for you to get away (in a physikal sense so college or a vacation) you should confront her. If you already gone as far as confessing your love she will have had enough time to get her thoughts about you in order.
From what it sounds like your chances are not to good but that way you can break up with her with a clear concious that will make it easier than she dumping you or you worriing if you were wrong.
The physikal seperation is just so you don't have to run away from confronting her since you will/have to run away after it anyway
And most imported: Don't listen to advice from the internet
Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? That's what my friends used to say all the time. The woman is quite literally milking you for all you're worth. It may not be a conscious effort, but it is happening. You've turned into the backup dude, or the go to guy when every other option looks bleak. Enjoy high school now and then find love in college.
This isn't true in all circumstances, because I myself am dating my high school sweetheart, and I'm in college now. By and large, most high school girls can fall in and out of love fairly quickly. They don't know what unconditional love means. I'd say cut your loses, move on, and don't let it get to you.
This isn't true in all circumstances, because I myself am dating my high school sweetheart, and I'm in college now. By and large, most high school girls can fall in and out of love fairly quickly. They don't know what unconditional love means. I'd say cut your loses, move on, and don't let it get to you.
With sex, relationships change. A lot. It can turn a terrible relationship into a tolerable one, and a great relationship to the point where you lose somebody.JokerGrin said:
My advice: Take it back to casual, either she will go bat-shit crazy for you and practically glomp you until you give in. Or she will go and do it to your freind. With this you will know if she actually really cares about you.
This has happened to me a few times. There is one important question that must be asked. Is she in any classes with you? If not, drop her. If you do have to see her on a regular basis. it will be hard to completely ignore her. You can tell her that you can't talk to her because you're selfish but then she'll tell people how you sweat her (sorry I can't think of a better term I'm from New Jersey, and live about 4 blocks from what most internet people call "the hood"), where in that case, the only solution I ever seen that has worked is to go the jock route and say you said that because she wouldn't have relations with you. This logic works because most girls will not talk to you for a few years, if ever again. but it's drastic, because, in most cases her friends won't talkto you either, unless you're popular. This solution works best right before your senior year of HS is out, if you're going away to college, and won't see these people for years. I have seen this in action twice, and it works effectly, but those kids were cocky enough not to care about the reprocussions, and this doesn't suit your swag well.
The best thing to do, if she is in any classes, is to talk to her like things are normal in school, and outside of school come out with any excuse to not hang out with her. If she's not a rumor spreader, tell her you don't want to hang out with her because she's a bad kisser. She'll be mad, and not want to be around you, but she won't tell anyone why because she'll be embarrassed as to why you're not chillin. But if she's spiteful, and most girls are in general, at least the ones I'm dumb enough to talk to, or those dumb enough to talk to me, come to think of it, she'll spread rumors about you for mentioning this to her. Anyway, this is a long and winded reply, but hopefully it will give you ideas on how to break off the friendship. Hey, at least if inventive, and I have seen the first work. The second one, well I kinda told a girl something similar to this, and thats how I know about the rumors. People still ask me about diseases that I never had.
The best thing to do, if she is in any classes, is to talk to her like things are normal in school, and outside of school come out with any excuse to not hang out with her. If she's not a rumor spreader, tell her you don't want to hang out with her because she's a bad kisser. She'll be mad, and not want to be around you, but she won't tell anyone why because she'll be embarrassed as to why you're not chillin. But if she's spiteful, and most girls are in general, at least the ones I'm dumb enough to talk to, or those dumb enough to talk to me, come to think of it, she'll spread rumors about you for mentioning this to her. Anyway, this is a long and winded reply, but hopefully it will give you ideas on how to break off the friendship. Hey, at least if inventive, and I have seen the first work. The second one, well I kinda told a girl something similar to this, and thats how I know about the rumors. People still ask me about diseases that I never had.
RUN AWAY! Girls that can't make up their minds are trouble. Cut and run. Of course that's what I always do soooo.... Maybe you shouldn't listen to me.
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Yeah did this to yourself. You even admitted it (whether or not you actually know it) by saying how you put her up on a pedestal. By doing this, you said, "I am willing to do whatever you want because I am lesser than you". As of right now, the best thing I suggest for you to do is not accept everyone of her invitations to hang-out, don't call her that much, and (this is based solely on assumption) don't be so nice to her, or art least be blunt with her.
Your young...don't put up with that...there are plenty of perpetual fish in the big perpetual ocean...for lack of a better cliche...
Damn, the people here are really harsh.
My advice is to just relax. Remind yourself that this isn't the whole world. You don't need to define what is going on between you, and it doesn't have to be serious. Be honest, talk to her about this, but don't let how she feels about your friend, or how you feel for her stop the two of you from having fun.
Don't plan too much, she doesn't seem to go well with plans, keep things simple. Don't think "I'm going to meet her and we'll do X at Y". If you're going to meet her try to expect only that, that you're going to see her, it might be with friends, it might be alone, you might do any number of things. Shouldn't matter too much.
I don't know how you feel or react in situations like that. Personally, if I love someone, I like being around that person, no matter what we do. If that person is happy, then I'm happy. If I'm part of that happiness, then all the better. If a person I'm in love with is in love with someone else, then sure, I'm going to be a bit jealous. Of course I am, I would be lying if I said I wasn't, but I'd still try to be with the person, and enjoy it. Whatever there is between that person and his/her love interest, I'm still going to love the person, I'm still going to enjoy their company, especially if that person is happy. And that person will have greater joy from my company if I enjoy it, and keep happy.
It's all about keeping a positive attitude, and not letting things that shouldn't matter get in the way. Don't let the future keep you from having fun in the present. Sure, she might get together with your friend sometime in the future, sure, she might not feel the same for you as you feel for her. Then again, she actually might, and she might not end up with your friend. At the moment the two of you seem to have fun together. Keep that up instead of worrying about possible futures.
Even if all of the cynics in this thread are right, and she is using you as a stand-by, what's wrong with that? You enjoy it, don't you? It's fun. Just don't take it too seriously, and try to keep a positive attitude about it.
My advice is to just relax. Remind yourself that this isn't the whole world. You don't need to define what is going on between you, and it doesn't have to be serious. Be honest, talk to her about this, but don't let how she feels about your friend, or how you feel for her stop the two of you from having fun.
Don't plan too much, she doesn't seem to go well with plans, keep things simple. Don't think "I'm going to meet her and we'll do X at Y". If you're going to meet her try to expect only that, that you're going to see her, it might be with friends, it might be alone, you might do any number of things. Shouldn't matter too much.
I don't know how you feel or react in situations like that. Personally, if I love someone, I like being around that person, no matter what we do. If that person is happy, then I'm happy. If I'm part of that happiness, then all the better. If a person I'm in love with is in love with someone else, then sure, I'm going to be a bit jealous. Of course I am, I would be lying if I said I wasn't, but I'd still try to be with the person, and enjoy it. Whatever there is between that person and his/her love interest, I'm still going to love the person, I'm still going to enjoy their company, especially if that person is happy. And that person will have greater joy from my company if I enjoy it, and keep happy.
It's all about keeping a positive attitude, and not letting things that shouldn't matter get in the way. Don't let the future keep you from having fun in the present. Sure, she might get together with your friend sometime in the future, sure, she might not feel the same for you as you feel for her. Then again, she actually might, and she might not end up with your friend. At the moment the two of you seem to have fun together. Keep that up instead of worrying about possible futures.
Even if all of the cynics in this thread are right, and she is using you as a stand-by, what's wrong with that? You enjoy it, don't you? It's fun. Just don't take it too seriously, and try to keep a positive attitude about it.