Girlfriend advice; I cheated

[lizards]

nonononoNONONON.........NO

never ever ever ever ever ever tell anybody that you cheated if it was been more than 1 month since then

NEVER

 

[similar.squirrel]

Be honest, I guess. If it was early on, she may not mind.

 

[mugetsu37]

Tell her. You know that you should, no matter the consequences.

 

[quiet_samurai]

No way, keep it locked up in a box and toss that shit in the ocean.

Do you honestly think it will make her happy if you tell her..... do you really? It won't, trust me. Just refrain from doing it ever again, if you can.

 

[bluepilot]

Never ever ever ever tell her, deny everything.

You should have told her at the beginning. Telling her now is a betrayal of trust, not tellig her is also a betrayal of trust but will hurt her less.

On the other hand, she might find out in the long term and that will be even worse trouble.

Concentrate on her for a while, make her feel loved and secure. If she feels loved and secure this should all blow away, hopefully.

 

[Shapsters]

I remember cheating on my girlfriend and wondering what to do. My advice? Blame her for it. My girlfriend had recently gained about 5-10 pounds so I just blamed it on that. I mean, like the guy in the $5000 suit is going to sleep with that....COME ON!

She cried and told me she'd lose the weight, which she did. I then went out with her sister.

I bow down to you sir, I am not worthy of your royalty.

To use an Arrested Development quote... so wonderfully, so perfectly. I am not worthy! You fully harness the almighty power of the GOB! *kisses feet*

 

[TheBigJadowski]

Just tell her. More than likely she probably has a general idea you did something, and she's just waiting to hear it from you. She already has a heightened sense of suspicion, due to be cheated on, and probably has some friends telling her you cheated on her, and such. Just make sure to wear some protective armor, she's probably going to go postal.

 

[PurpleRain]

My girlfriend and I have been going out for a year now. Recently she has suspected me of cheating on her ,but I haven't recently. By this I mean in the beginning of our relationship I had moment of weakness and cheated on her. I still feel guilty to this day now she is saying if I cheated on her to tell her. She has been hurt by past boyfriends and I don't want to hurt her and I don't know what the right thing to do is.
Can anyone help me out or give me advice? Should I tell her and hurt her or should I be quiet and let it fade out?

Quick tip: Don't cheat on the person you wish to die with. You blew it. Twice. First time by cheating on her. Second time by not telling her. Sorry but I can't see any good outcome.

 

[tsb247]

There is no easy way out of this, but the best thing to do would be to simply tell her you cheated. If you continue to date her and you don't tell her, it will eat you alive. She should acknowledge your telling her about it as a sign that you truly regret it. Hopefully, she will not be too angry with you when you do tell her. Honesty is the only realy way out of this.

 

[Haiman]

Depends.
If the memory of you cheating creaps into your mind everytime you're having fun with your girlfriend and everytime that you say you love her then telling the truth is probably the best option. Otherwise you will never be at ease with her until you do.

However if it doesn't bother you as much, you think you might get over it and you really want to have something with this girl, then telling might have terrible results. She will most likely never trust you again, take your every action with suspicion oh and remeber this till the day you die. It might be prudent to MAKE you relationship work. (Means never cheating again and beeing the man she deserves)

 

[HappyHacker]

in my opinion leave the past in the past it will only cause both of you pain and loss of trust if and when.... she finds out

 

[Pegghead]

If I know women (which I don't) then I'm sure she'd mind if you told her. It depnds on how badly you cheated I suppose. Then again, all early relationships (Unless you're one of those geeky couples who wear matching sweaters and have movie night every week, *Shudder*) go through rocky ground. Though if it were me, I wouldn't tell her, most guys who tell their partners they were disloyal are normally just doing it for an easy way out.

 

[Triple G]

My advice to you is to let sleeping dogs lie. If it meant nothing back then, it means even les now, and telling her about it will only piss her off, even though there are no longer any intentions of "cheating" in the future. I say "cheating" because starts of relationships are meant for you to still be looking around. If you find someone else that you like better, then it is ended early, but if you come away with no feelings with said woman, then your relationship should do just fine.

Signed.

 

[Icehearted]

I actually misread the title for some reasons and thought you were specifically addressing me just now.

I'll tell you now, it'll never "fade out". I don't know how old you are, but young love is fleeting anyway, so this may prove to be a smaller issue than you might think. Still it's a good idea to be open with your sweetie, otherwise you're building a relationship on lies, misplaced trust, and assumptions. Better to be honest and upfront if you love her.

 

[hydrahh]

If she doesn't know, don't tell her. You weren't man enough to be faithful, so now you are gonna make her feel like shit so you don't feel guilty anymore? I think you should just live through the pain or break up with her so she can find a man who isn't a douchebag

 

[Klarinette]

Hiding it might have made it worse. It'd be one of those "and you never told me??!!!" kind of moments. Hurt is inevitable, whether it made it worse or not. Sorry, but there's no easy or cushy way out of this one.

 

[DracoSuave]

At this point, there's no question on whether telling her or not is a betrayal of trust. That's already a done deal.

The question you should ask, is are you going to cheat again? Because you will be tempted again. You'll put yourself in that position again, and you will cheat again. And again.

So the question you should then ask, is this fair to her? Because quite frankly, if your relationship is based on trust, and monogamy, then you broke that trust and agreement.

And the thing is, she is -right- to not trust you, to feel burned. She senses it, she knows, but she's afraid to DTMFA.

And next time, pick a woman who doesn't care if you frack around. Just don't get uptight when -she- does.

Or stop fracking other women when you've agreed not to.

 

[Grampy_bone]

What she doesn't know won't hurt you.

Here's a little secret: women are 99% likely to forgive you for cheating. Oh she'll throw a shitstorm about it and you'll be in the doghouse for awhile, but that'll blow over. In the end though she'll blame herself and be happy that you clearly chose her over that other girl.

Guys cheat because women allow them to get away with it.