God damn, Escapist. I fucked up. I fucked up real bad.

[rutger5000]

So, I was home-alone for a whole week. I thought, "Hey, I'm a pretty swell guy. I think I'll just go and invite a ton of my friends and throw a big, drunken party!". Honestly, though, the party was fun. But shit.

The back-garden table ended up being set on fire, leaving a fairly expensive table pretty badly damaged. This is the main issue. I'm not sure exactly how it happened, I just know a couple of my friends were smoking in the garden and were dicking around with lighters.

The other big thing, is that a guy at my party was going on holiday in two days, and asked me to hold on to a bag of weed for him. I don't do that stuff myself, I tried it and it's really over-rated. Anyway, I didn't hide it very well, because when my mom came home she found it with a few hours. She was pretty angry with me. She was also angry at finding random empty beer cans hidden around the bed, and seeing the side of my bed was sick stained (a friend of mine CANNOT hold his drink).

My mom is angry and disappointed in me, my step-dad said he's ashamed of me. I really don't feel welcome in my home. I feel kind of regretful for holding this party and betraying my parent's trust, but on the other hand, I REALLY like parties. Tomorrow morning, I'm taking all my shit and I'm hightailing it to my grandma's house. I need to get out of here for a while.

What do you think of this, Escapist? What would you do in a similar situation?

EDIT: I think they understand about the weed, but are still kinda disappointed. Also, for the moment at least, I can't reason with them.

Personally I think you're chickening out with going to your grandmothers place. You screwed up there, and now you'll have to face the conciquences. Explain yourself to your mother and stephdad as well as you can, apologize and then try to work something out. You don't want to leave your home like this, or want to make a habit about walking away from your problems.
Also yeah weed is lame (it's effect is way too low), having a big bag of it is even lamer, why would you even store it? Learn to say no.

 

[ExileNZ]

Yeah I don't think up and running away is really the answer here. Man up.

You may well like parties but there are other ways to enjoy them without fucking up your parents' house. As host you have the responsibility to make sure stuff doesn't get set on fire, vomitted on, etc. If you can't do it by yourself, get some friends to help you enforce it. If you don't have enough good friends to back you up, don't throw a huge-ass party, you're just being a tool.

Also I'm not really sure you're sorry about wrecking the place so much as getting caught.
I think you need to get your priorities straight.

 

[Alexander Cunningham]

You brought it upon yourself mate, Get a job and work to buy new furniture.

 

[DYin01]

You summed it up nicely in your title. You fucked up, real bad. You see this stuff on TV all the time. Don't frigging do it.

 

[Tonimata]

Yeah, it's pretty much your responsibility. Call me a lamer, but when I hold house parties, I always make sure people are always in control. And ALWAYS, ALWAYS tell your parents. Fuck all that "it's easier to ask for forgiveness than permission", it really is not, and it would've saved you a fair amount of slack. Also, if that's the kind of people you're inviting to your home, then you should be a little more picky about whom you're inviting. Seriously, crack heads are not the way, and a real friend wouldn't ask you to hide a bag of weed. And you should've been a little more self conscious about it and tol him NO! BAD CRACKHEAD! *slap*

Yeah, house parties are dangerous. Avoid them or do them well

 

[qeinar]

How about apologizing and attempting to make up for the damage by getting a job and paying for all the expensive shit you broke? Part of being an adult is being able to deal with your mistakes and learn from them. Avoiding them isn't something I would recommend because in the end what happened was entirely your fault. Avoiding your mistake would also be a "betrayal" of sorts as instead of attempting to remedy the situation you're letting your parents deal with it while you basically run away.

I'm 17 and I haven't yet found a job (currently looking!), I could no way afford to replace that table. I've tried apologizing and owning up to my actions, but they don't want to hear it. My step-dad doesn't even wanna talk to me.

I think the best thing to do would to get out of their hair for a while.

well your family seem pretty shit then, dont know how much the table was worth but i've held some parties and things have gotten destroyed, obviously my dad gets a bit cross when he gets home and forbids me from holding another party, although me and my sister tend to not listen to that since that's what he says everytime. : p getting the silent threatment from a grown man seems a bit childish of him.

 

[kickassfrog]

Dude, doing stupid shit is the whole point of being young. Enjoy your lack of accountability as long as you can, bro. Being grown up sucks ass.

that attitude is what will make him just as much a fuck up as an adult as he is now, this mentality seemed idiotic to me as a kid and it still looks idiotic to me now

Yeah see the difference between you and me is I have faith in humanity. Not that that's necessarily good or smart, but I just assumed he'd blossom into a better and smarter adult later, who's deeper and more interesting for the mistakes he made as a callow youth.

It's possible to grow up to be a responsible adult without holding parties wherein a bunch of fucktards trash your house. In fact I would say 90%+ of people manage it.

Also, you fuck up this bad, and your solution is to run away from home? Are you seven years old?

 

[Turing]

So, I was home-alone for a whole week. I thought, "Hey, I'm a pretty swell guy. I think I'll just go and invite a ton of my friends and throw a big, drunken party!". Honestly, though, the party was fun. But shit.

The back-garden table ended up being set on fire, leaving a fairly expensive table pretty badly damaged. This is the main issue. I'm not sure exactly how it happened, I just know a couple of my friends were smoking in the garden and were dicking around with lighters.

The other big thing, is that a guy at my party was going on holiday in two days, and asked me to hold on to a bag of weed for him. I don't do that stuff myself, I tried it and it's really over-rated. Anyway, I didn't hide it very well, because when my mom came home she found it with a few hours. She was pretty angry with me. She was also angry at finding random empty beer cans hidden around the bed, and seeing the side of my bed was sick stained (a friend of mine CANNOT hold his drink).

My mom is angry and disappointed in me, my step-dad said he's ashamed of me. I really don't feel welcome in my home. I feel kind of regretful for holding this party and betraying my parent's trust, but on the other hand, I REALLY like parties. Tomorrow morning, I'm taking all my shit and I'm hightailing it to my grandma's house. I need to get out of here for a while.

What do you think of this, Escapist? What would you do in a similar situation?

EDIT: I think they understand about the weed, but are still kinda disappointed. Also, for the moment at least, I can't reason with them.

Yeah, you pretty much have to tough it out. Spending a few days at your grandma's to get some distance and thinking time for both you and your parents might be a good idea, but "taking all your shit" makes it sound like you're intending to run away because you fucked up your parents house.
Thats not cricket at all, mate. If you're going to grandma's at least talk it out with your parents first, explain WHY you're going.

Honestly, the way you describe it it sounds like you're getting off pretty lightly already, I know any number of parents who would freak out bigtime finding out their kid is stashing what is essentially drugs in their home.
You have to remember that most parents see marijuana as something close to a quick and direct path to a life as a criminal, hobo crack-addict. Even the parents who smoked a bit of weed back in the 60's. So a bit of silent treatment and "I am very disappointed in you, young man!" is getting off rather lightly.

So in short, you should probably be glad you have parents who seem to understand that kids will make really stupid mistakes and then you should probably accept that you'll need to prove yourself worthy of their trust.
Maybe, if you're really awesome, you save up to buy them a new garden table as an apology. Although I doubt their disappointment is about their table, showing responsibility enough to pay for what your actions destroyed would probably at least win you back some respect in their eyes.

Incidentially, how much do you think that bag would sell for? Would you by any chance be able to buy a garden table for it?

 

[cuppajoe1687]

So, I was home-alone for a whole week. I thought, "Hey, I'm a pretty swell guy. I think I'll just go and invite a ton of my friends and throw a big, drunken party!". Honestly, though, the party was fun. But shit.

The back-garden table ended up being set on fire, leaving a fairly expensive table pretty badly damaged. This is the main issue. I'm not sure exactly how it happened, I just know a couple of my friends were smoking in the garden and were dicking around with lighters.

The other big thing, is that a guy at my party was going on holiday in two days, and asked me to hold on to a bag of weed for him. I don't do that stuff myself, I tried it and it's really over-rated. Anyway, I didn't hide it very well, because when my mom came home she found it with a few hours. She was pretty angry with me. She was also angry at finding random empty beer cans hidden around the bed, and seeing the side of my bed was sick stained (a friend of mine CANNOT hold his drink).

My mom is angry and disappointed in me, my step-dad said he's ashamed of me. I really don't feel welcome in my home. I feel kind of regretful for holding this party and betraying my parent's trust, but on the other hand, I REALLY like parties. Tomorrow morning, I'm taking all my shit and I'm hightailing it to my grandma's house. I need to get out of here for a while.

What do you think of this, Escapist? What would you do in a similar situation?

EDIT: I think they understand about the weed, but are still kinda disappointed. Also, for the moment at least, I can't reason with them.

hahahahahahaha...wow

They'll get over it, just apologize and do what you can, maybe don't do it again. I've done waaaaaay more fucked up shit than this and my parents got over it...eventually. That fire thing though, that's one of those things that you just cant predict. One time I threw a birthday party at my apartment and a guy threw up off my balcony onto someone downstairs, some things just cant be expected. It seems like you knew enough to hide all the expensive stuff though, so that's good. Don't beat yourself up too much buddy, just apologize and get some really good ass-kissing in there, man up do what you gotta do and don't run to grandma. Was this party full of randoms or was it all people you know?

 

[Wuggy]

Ok, first of all: This is all your own fault. Sure your friends were drunken assholes but (for the time being) it was your property, you invited them, it's your responsibility. This is the sole reason why I don't have parties, even though I have the ability to: people lose common sense and courtesy when they're drunk and I would rather not have that around expensive things that I own.

So, the best thing you can do is to take it like a man. I fucked up a lot as a kid, it's just a matter of regaining your parent's trust. You establish this by not fucking up similarly again.

 

[cuppajoe1687]

You're an idiot and a coward.

First off, you're 17, so you shouldn't even be drinking in the first place. Just because everyone does it doesn't make it right. Your parents are mad at you now, as they should be, and you don't want to face the consequences. Man up, stay at home and take what ever punishment they dish out. You want to be a big man and drink? Deal with the outcomes.

You're not a swell guy. You're just another 17 year old who thinks he's an adult. You're not. Your parents have every right to be ashamed of you because you acted like an idiot. What would you have done if that fire didn't stop at the table? I'm a 20 year old male and I'M ashamed people like you exsist.

Stay home and cop it you sook.

Judge much?

 

[TerribleAssassin]

So, I was home-alone for a whole week. I thought, "Hey, I'm a pretty swell guy. I think I'll just go and invite a ton of my friends and throw a big, drunken party!". Honestly, though, the party was fun. But shit.

The back-garden table ended up being set on fire, leaving a fairly expensive table pretty badly damaged. This is the main issue. I'm not sure exactly how it happened, I just know a couple of my friends were smoking in the garden and were dicking around with lighters.

The other big thing, is that a guy at my party was going on holiday in two days, and asked me to hold on to a bag of weed for him. I don't do that stuff myself, I tried it and it's really over-rated. Anyway, I didn't hide it very well, because when my mom came home she found it with a few hours. She was pretty angry with me. She was also angry at finding random empty beer cans hidden around the bed, and seeing the side of my bed was sick stained (a friend of mine CANNOT hold his drink).

My mom is angry and disappointed in me, my step-dad said he's ashamed of me. I really don't feel welcome in my home. I feel kind of regretful for holding this party and betraying my parent's trust, but on the other hand, I REALLY like parties. Tomorrow morning, I'm taking all my shit and I'm hightailing it to my grandma's house. I need to get out of here for a while.

What do you think of this, Escapist? What would you do in a similar situation?

EDIT: I think they understand about the weed, but are still kinda disappointed. Also, for the moment at least, I can't reason with them.

First of all I like the way your Post counter says: 1337

and Second, when you parents cool down, just say you were wrong to hold the party and will help repair/clean the mess

 

[WaReloaded]

I'm not a fan of parties at all, sure I attend one every now and then but that's only because my girlfriend likes having a social life. But I digress, I hosted a non LAN party for my 17th birthday party, and it went off in a similar fashion, people were sick, things were damaged etc. My Dad and Step Mum understood the whole "teenagers + parties = mess" thing pretty well though. In conclusion, I'm glad I matured.

 

[Nihilism_Is_Bliss]

I think the biggest mistake you could make at this point would be posting. 1337 posts! Never post again!

 

[Canid117]

That is called consequences. They will fuck you over and for good reason. Make up for what you broke and do not do it again. Wait till you have your own house to break everything.

 

[surg3n]

My brother made a similar mistake to your parents, let his daughter have a party while they were on vacation... Junkies crashed her party, stole an xbox, DVD's, kicked holes in the walls, then stole the spare car keys and house keys.

Teenagers should not be allowed to be in-charge of someone elses home. You might see it as your home, but believe me, it's your parents. They pay the mortgage, the bills, insurance, and make sure there is food so you don't starve. Show some respect if you want to win back their trust - show respect for the house that you let your friends vandalize. Either that, or run off to grandmas, maybe think up some convenient issues that you can have with your parents, it's all part of the douche-bag code. Women really like guys who run from their problems, buckle under peer pressure, get drunk, and live with their grandmas.

 

[Cheesus333]

So, I was home-alone for a whole week. I thought, "Hey, I'm a pretty swell guy. I think I'll just go and invite a ton of my friends and throw a big, drunken party!".

Well, at least there's no difficulty in finding the exact moment you went wrong...

What do you think of this, Escapist? What would you do in a similar situation?

I think it was a stupid idea to begin with. And I would have just not done it in my house. Does that ever end well? Hell, the last time one of my friends did something like this her Dad practically disowned her. He literally destroyed her GCSE coursework. It was fucking crazy.

But since there's np use lamenting what you've already done, the most you can do is talk to your parents (and step-parent) and apologise. Very sincerely. Hopefully they'll forgive you, but if not (and I really hope it doesn't come to this) then I suppose you'll just have to live with another family member or a friend for a while.

 

[airrazor7]

You can apologize and promise to never do that again and help them clean up your mess and by "help" I mean volunteer yourself to clean it all up alone starting with the vomit stains. Have fun!

 

[Charisma]

Dude, doing stupid shit is the whole point of being young. Enjoy your lack of accountability as long as you can, bro. Being grown up sucks ass.

that attitude is what will make him just as much a fuck up as an adult as he is now, this mentality seemed idiotic to me as a kid and it still looks idiotic to me now

Yeah see the difference between you and me is I have faith in humanity. Not that that's necessarily good or smart, but I just assumed he'd blossom into a better and smarter adult later, who's deeper and more interesting for the mistakes he made as a callow youth.

It's possible to grow up to be a responsible adult without holding parties wherein a bunch of fucktards trash your house. In fact I would say 90%+ of people manage it.

Also, you fuck up this bad, and your solution is to run away from home? Are you seven years old?

whoa whoa hold on

where did i say you have to have been a crazy teenager to be a responsible adult? at best i implied that a crazy teenager becomes a deeper or more interesting adult, but i don't actually necessarily believe that, either.

also, i'm gonna go ahead and say that if hosting a party where a few beer cans and a bag of pot end up in weird places, and you burn an outdoor table a little, is "fucking up horribly" then... jesus, what kind of world has this become? if you're not an absolutely perfect, uninteresting drone, you're a fuck-up?

seriously, what this kid did really isn't that bad. it'll be forgotten in a month, by everyone.

 

[Tim Mazzola]

Yup. You DID fuck up. All you can do is face it and not do it again.

Until, of course, you have a place of your own, where your friends will end up trashing YOUR house instead of your parents'. Frankly, if I were your dad, I'd be furious. Like, loud, visible rage furious.