God damn, Escapist. I fucked up. I fucked up real bad.

[Brandon237]

I think it's your fault. I hate to be an asshole, but you are responsible for the party and it's actions.

Personally, I hate parties. I hate people. Persons are okay, People are shit.

As cold as it is, I have to agree on both these points, up to about 6 people is survivable and fun, any more and I get the hell outta there.

As for the weed thing, don't ever put yourself between the law and a friend like that, make them deal with their shit like that, because people are gonna be reluctant to believe it isn't you breaking the law on that one.
And find some way to apologise to your parents, make the friends pay for the crap they burnt and broke, make them pay for the dry-cleaning, say that they messed x and y up, and that they need to do SOMETHING about it, if they deny it / bugger off, reconsider your friends and find a way to fix it yourself.

 

[Artina89]

While I agree that it might be better if you leave for a while so that everybody can cool off and talk about it rationally, I really wouldn't "take all my shit", that just sounds like you are running away from the situation. Maybe after a week or two, your parents will be more willing to talk about this rationally, they just need to get over the initial shock of coming back and finding the house trashed and then finding weed on you. Don't be surprised though, when they don't allow you to be in the house alone, or at the very least, call every few hours or so to check on you.

 

[T-Bone24]

It seems that this thread is a portal to Saved by the Bell. I didn't think this kind of stuff happened, and yet here we are.

A lot of stuff has been said and will be said, repeatedly (Hell, even that's been said a lot, try not to think about it), so I will say this: Learn to not be so damn stupid. Sure, you messed up, deal with it. I'm not going to guilt trip you for it (even though it's kind of necessary considering you seem to want to continue attending parties), just don't let it happen again and all will be fine.

................... So he shouldn't want to have a happy social life?

Contrary to what you might think. Parties are good..... m'kay.

I didn't mean that he should never ever attend a party again ever, what I meant is that so soon after an enormous party-related screw-up with parents still understandably fuming, it's not a great idea to want to continue attending massive drunken parties. What I'm saying is that he doesn't seem to have realised that his mistakes were due to parties and to want to continue attending them over the Summer is stupid, plain and simple, and will not help his standing with the parents. I'm referring to this attitude:

Also probably cut back on the partying for a while

Well, maybe at my own house, yeah. But there's gonna be a hell of a lot of parties to attend this summer.

It's not really conducive to parental trust, is it?

Not once did I mean to say that he shouldn't be happy and if it read like that then I apologise.

 

[Nihilism_Is_Bliss]

OP:


Is this you? If so, keep it up!

Haha I thought of this as well.

 

[Sarah Frazier]

You messed up pretty badly in a number of ways, and I know how rough it can be to have all attempts at peace-making ignored or denied, but do you honestly think that running away will make it all go away? Did you stop to think that maybe your grandmother, or other relatives you know of, may already know what happened and wouldn't trust you alone at their place either?

Honestly, if my kid, almost 20 or not, did something that resulted in property damage and illegal substances being left around the house... I would be ashamed to call them my son/daughter too. Yes I would be glad it was just a table and not the whole house, but there was still fire involved on the property that could have spread or hurt somebody... Somebody who's family may then expect me to pay any medical bills.

TL;DR Stay home, grow up, stop partying and reminding them of what happened. They may forgive you on their own.

 

[Zack84]

OP: Explain why weed is "over-rated." I don't know you, but I've met others who make similarly dismissive statements about weed while also being heavily into drinking; they're usually kind of stupid non-thinkers.

Your friends also sound like idiots.

 

[Aeonknight]

You're an idiot and a coward.

First off, you're 17, so you shouldn't even be drinking in the first place. Just because everyone does it doesn't make it right. Your parents are mad at you now, as they should be, and you don't want to face the consequences. Man up, stay at home and take what ever punishment they dish out. You want to be a big man and drink? Deal with the outcomes.

You're not a swell guy. You're just another 17 year old who thinks he's an adult. You're not. Your parents have every right to be ashamed of you because you acted like an idiot. What would you have done if that fire didn't stop at the table? I'm a 20 year old male and I'M ashamed people like you exsist.

Stay home and cop it you sook.

Judge much?

More like a hard ***** slap of truth.

The sooner the OP realizes what a twat his behavior is, the better chance he has of not becoming another degenerate moron. It's not even the fact that he has idiot friends that light his shit on fire, it's the fact that instead of understanding why he's in his predicament and learning from it, he wants to skip out on it and run to grandma, so he can become HER problem next.
Why? Because he likes parties.

OP, if you want your parents trust and respect back, the answer is one word: Accountability. Learn it, apply it, and maybe you won't be an embarassment to them or your generation anymore.

 

[Anti Nudist Cupcake]

I think it's your fault. I hate to be an asshole, but you are responsible for the party and it's actions.

Personally, I hate parties. I hate people. Persons are okay, People are shit.

This, especially about hating parties and people.

And alcohol is overrated to me, personally.
And if my closest friend needed me to hold onto weed for him, i'd just throw it away, no matter how much he paid for it. I have made it clear all too many times that I am not a storage facility.

 

[TelHybrid]

The answer is simple, tidy up after yourself, replace the damaged property (and if you're not working, try partying less and looking for work more), and don't let people in who don't respect other people's homes and property in future.

Also don't hold onto illegal substances for people. It's not worth the risk.

 

[Tips_of_Fingers]

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Meh...It'll blow over eventually. A very similar thing happened to me when my parents went away. The resulting damage included:

Melon stains all over a newly decorated hallway (we had a melon fight)
Peanut shells covering teh entire living room floor (we had a peanut fight)
A newly purchased kitchen table was ruined because people were opening their bottles using the edge of it.
A guy was stabvbed in the hand.
The guy who stabbed him stole the knife which happened to be my mother's best and most expensive one.

My mum cried when she entered the house, my dad called me all manner of things and told me to leave. I was asked to come home that evening and within a week they'd forgotten all about it and everything's hunky-dory.

So unless you're mum and stepdad hold grudges, you should be fine dude.

 

[Necrofudge]

You should have hid the weed better. I mean, how hard is it to hide? Did you just put it on the counter and draw a mustache on the front of the bag?

Anyway, aside from that you should take responsibility for the mess that was caused. You chose to have a party so you're supposed to make sure nobody damages anything.

 

[Tib088]

My parents are going away for a week and if I want to throw a party all I have to do is ask. I only ever throw one when their not around tho. My mum came back yesterday and found numrous empty drink bottles. If you ask and talk it over with your parents in the first place then they should understand and let you have a few friends round. The next day you have to make your possibly still drunken friends help clear up, if they do it should only take about 30 mins to clear up.

 

[MrStab]

Well I think my dad would flip his shit but there is onlty one thing you can do in this situation and that is to grow a spine and take it on the chin like a man. You made a decision you take the consequences is you run away to your grandmother's it's weak fuck it man, yeah you fucked up it happens clean up your shit get some money and replace the table and keep on living your life. (you might want to replace his weed though or you might get fucked up)

 

[NuclearPenguin]

Honestly, I can't say much about what to do, purely because I dont throw parties at home because my family has a lot of valuables & things of nostalgic value around the house at easy access.
I do have little social drinking gatherings though, but thats just about 5-10 people.

But, I had to comment.
You tried marijuana and you thought it was overrated.
You tried it once, correct?

 

[demonsbanenathan]

1. Move out

2. Throw party in own home

3. Vow never to have clean up someone else's vomit from your own bed before you can attempt to sleep

4. Grow up.

Do this, problem solved.

 

[Tips_of_Fingers]

More like a hard ***** slap of truth.

The sooner the OP realizes what a twat his behavior is, the better chance he has of not becoming another degenerate moron. It's not even the fact that he has idiot friends that light his shit on fire, it's the fact that instead of understanding why he's in his predicament and learning from it, he wants to skip out on it and run to grandma, so he can become HER problem next.
Why? Because he likes parties.

OP, if you want your parents trust and respect back, the answer is one word: Accountability. Learn it, apply it, and maybe you won't be an embarassment to them or your generation anymore.

Despite coming across as a massive prick in this comment, you make a lot of sense. After my houseparty incident, I took responsibility and everything went down fine... The thing is though, is that this could have been a one-off mistake.
Calling him a degenerate moron and an embarrassment to his generation is a little harsh because, at that age, almost everyone makes mistakes. Hell, I was the most well-behaved of my siblings and in one moment of spontaneity, I ruined the house. It doesn't mean that I'm a degenerate, it means that I made a mistake. All people make mistakes.

The difference is that I learnt from my mistake and didn't do it again...now I've just graduated from university with an English degree...look how much of a degenerate moron and embarrassment to my generation I am now.

What you say about accountabilty is true...but insulting the guy so harshly for something which, for all you know is a one-off incident, is a a little off.

 

[RabbidKuriboh]

they trusted you and you betrayed their trust, try and earn it back i guess

 

[Zeema]

I would strongly suggest that you stay put and man up to your actions. It might be a good idea to lay low in your room for a few days, but don't try to escape the house altogether. Running away from your problems won't make them go away, and in this case it would just make things worse.

Offer to pay for all the damages. ALL OF IT. If you don't have a job right now, either promise to pay them once you do (and make sure to be true to your word) or do whatever you can to scrounge up some cash performing chores for neighbors or something. Demonstrate that you are truly sorry for what you did by staying on the straight and narrow and being considerate of your parent's wishes. Just remember that old adage, "time heals all wounds."

I know this is probably unnecessary at this point, but I feel it must be said:

DON'T EVER DO ANYTHING LIKE THIS AT YOUR PARENT'S HOUSE AGAIN. EVER.

If you're going to invite stupid friends over that are just going to trash the place, you could at least wait until you've moved out so it's YOUR shit they'll trash.

Personally I've never understood the appeal of getting shit-faced and acting like a moron myself.

EDIT:

Also probably cut back on the partying for a while

Well, maybe at my own house, yeah. But there's gonna be a hell of a lot of parties to attend this summer.

...Really? REALLY?! Do you really think that's going to help your standing any with your folks?

...REALLY?!

Thank you

dude you r so stupid you don't do that and if you do at least tell your parent's what your doin.