God damn, Escapist. I fucked up. I fucked up real bad.

[Funkiest Monkey]

So, I was home-alone for a whole week. I thought, "Hey, I'm a pretty swell guy. I think I'll just go and invite a ton of my friends and throw a big, drunken party!". Honestly, though, the party was fun. But shit.

The back-garden table ended up being set on fire, leaving a fairly expensive table pretty badly damaged. This is the main issue. I'm not sure exactly how it happened, I just know a couple of my friends were smoking in the garden and were dicking around with lighters.

The other big thing, is that a guy at my party was going on holiday in two days, and asked me to hold on to a bag of weed for him. I don't do that stuff myself, I tried it and it's really over-rated. Anyway, I didn't hide it very well, because when my mom came home she found it with a few hours. She was pretty angry with me. She was also angry at finding random empty beer cans hidden around the bed, and seeing the side of my bed was sick stained (a friend of mine CANNOT hold his drink).

My mom is angry and disappointed in me, my step-dad said he's ashamed of me. I really don't feel welcome in my home. I feel kind of regretful for holding this party and betraying my parent's trust, but on the other hand, I REALLY like parties. Tomorrow morning, I'm taking all my shit and I'm hightailing it to my grandma's house. I need to get out of here for a while.

What do you think of this, Escapist? What would you do in a similar situation?

EDIT: I think they understand about the weed, but are still kinda disappointed. Also, for the moment at least, I can't reason with them.

DOUBLE EDIT: Anyway, I did end up scurrying off down my nans. And lo and behold: They have cooled off! In fact, my mom is asking me to come home, because she said it's weird with me not around. (But erm, I dunno, I'm enjoying it here.)

Anyway, the specific TABLE BURNING friend is banned from my house indefinitely, she won't give me ANY money until the table is paid off (It's job-hunting time), and I'm never allowed in the house alone for more than a day ever again.

Fair punishments, really. Thanks for all your advice, guys!

 

[Laser Priest]

I think it's your fault. I hate to be an asshole, but you are responsible for the party and it's actions.

Personally, I hate parties. I hate people. Persons are okay, People are shit.

 

[AndyFromMonday]

How about apologizing and attempting to make up for the damage by getting a job and paying for all the expensive shit you broke? Part of being an adult is being able to deal with your mistakes and learn from them. Avoiding them isn't something I would recommend because in the end what happened was entirely your fault. Avoiding your mistake would also be a "betrayal" of sorts as instead of attempting to remedy the situation you're letting your parents deal with it while you basically run away.

 

[Funkiest Monkey]

I think it's your fault. I hate to be an asshole, but you are responsible for the party and it's actions.

Personally, I hate parties. I hate people. Persons are okay, People are shit.

I know it's my fault, and I feel pretty shit.

 

[Laser Priest]

I think it's your fault. I hate to be an asshole, but you are responsible for the party and it's actions.

Personally, I hate parties. I hate people. Persons are okay, People are shit.

I know it's my fault, and I feel pretty shit.

Well, it happens. To people that have parties at least. Get money to pay for the expensive things, and apologize until it begins to get annoying and you should be golden. Or at least a bit shinier.

 

[Funkiest Monkey]

How about apologizing and attempting to make up for the damage by getting a job and paying for all the expensive shit you broke? Part of being an adult is being able to deal with your mistakes and learn from them. Avoiding them isn't something I would recommend because in the end what happened was entirely your fault. Avoiding your mistake would also be a "betrayal" of sorts as instead of attempting to remedy the situation you're letting your parents deal with it while you basically run away.

I'm 17 and I haven't yet found a job (currently looking!), I could no way afford to replace that table. I've tried apologizing and owning up to my actions, but they don't want to hear it. My step-dad doesn't even wanna talk to me.

I think the best thing to do would to get out of their hair for a while.

 

[Amphoteric]

When has throwing a party while people are away ever turned out okay? Hasn't TV taught us anything?

 

[Jegsimmons]

So, I was home-alone for a whole week. I thought, "Hey, I'm a pretty swell guy. I think I'll just go and invite a ton of my friends and throw a big, drunken party!". Honestly, though, the party was fun. But shit.

The back-garden table ended up being set on fire, leaving a fairly expensive table pretty badly damaged. This is the main issue. I'm not sure exactly how it happened, I just know a couple of my friends were smoking in the garden and were dicking around with lighters.

The other big thing, is that a guy at my party was going on holiday in two days, and asked me to hold on to a bag of weed for him. I don't do that stuff myself, I tried it and it's really over-rated. Anyway, I didn't hide it very well, because when my mom came home she found it with a few hours. She was pretty angry with me. She was also angry at finding random empty beer cans hidden around the bed, and seeing the side of my bed was sick stained (a friend of mine CANNOT hold his drink).

My mom is angry and disappointed in me, my step-dad said he's ashamed of me. I really don't feel welcome in my home. I feel kind of regretful for holding this party and betraying my parent's trust, but on the other hand, I REALLY like parties. Tomorrow morning, I'm taking all my shit and I'm hightailing it to my grandma's house. I need to get out of here for a while.

What do you think of this, Escapist? What would you do in a similar situation?

sorry but i dont do shit that obviously fucking stupid, once the drink come out and that weed, their asses would be out. dont care if they'd be pissed, i'd kick their ass out on the street in the rain.

 

[Funkiest Monkey]

When has throwing a party while people are away ever turned out okay? Hasn't TV taught us anything?

TV has taught me that partying is really fun and awesome. I should probably watch less Jack Black movies.

 

[Saladfork]

Wow. I hate to say it, man, but your friends kind of suck. They didn't even help you clean up?

Well. I hope you've at least learned something here. Apologize profusely, as was mentioned before. Your parents are going to be very angry with you for awhile (After all, wouldn't you be?), ground you probably, and possibly give you a smack upside the head for good measure. After all that, though, just keep your nose clean and it'll eventually blow over.

Assuming you don't do it again, that is.

 

[Tizzmarelda]

Sounds like it was a good night . Just ride out the storm mate, your parents where kids too remember, they've probably gotten up to crazier shit back in the day. Theyre just upset because there house is trashed. Nothing a lil elbow grease and a mop wont cure. Trust me, this sounds like the kinda thing your mum and dad are you gonna tease you about in a years time.

 

[Doc Theta Sigma]

Way to go there ace. Throwing a party and you're not even 18. There's no way at all you knew that something like that would happen. Only thing you can do is apologize and give them whatever money you have to cover damages and idiocy.

 

[GothmogII]

Are you Pinkie Pie?

As for your parents, they need time to cool down. Don't really want to make a completely off-hand statement based on absolutely nothing (you're a complete stranger after all), but it's not the end of the world.

You'll probably need to work your ass off and find some way to make it up to them though.

 

[the spud]

Hmmm...Did they dispose of the weed yet? It is really great for stress relief.

OT: Don't do it again. That is all you can do.

 

[Soviet Steve]

I don't think showing your parents that you'll run away from your problems is going to endear you to them in any way. Try asking them what you can do to make up for it.

 

[Funkiest Monkey]

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sorry but i dont do shit that obviously fucking stupid, once the drink come out and that weed, their asses would be out. dont care if they'd be pissed, i'd kick their ass out on the street in the rain.

Well, I don't mind drink. Hell, I was pretty drunk myself (as was everyone else)! And one of my best friends does weed (occasionally, not a pot-head or anything) and I really don't mind. However, I know a few people who do M-Kat (basically a cocaine alternative), and I don't approve of that shit.

 

[AndyFromMonday]

How about apologizing and attempting to make up for the damage by getting a job and paying for all the expensive shit you broke? Part of being an adult is being able to deal with your mistakes and learn from them. Avoiding them isn't something I would recommend because in the end what happened was entirely your fault. Avoiding your mistake would also be a "betrayal" of sorts as instead of attempting to remedy the situation you're letting your parents deal with it while you basically run away.

I'm 17 and I haven't yet found a job (currently looking!), I could no way afford to replace that table. I've tried apologizing and owning up to my actions, but they don't want to hear it. My step-dad doesn't even wanna talk to me.

I think the best thing to do would to get out of their hair for a while.

No. Doing so would only show them you've learned absolutely nothing from the experience. Whether or not you can replace the table is irrelevant, the act of attempting to repay is just enough to show your parents you're not a complete fucktard. Man up and deal with the consequences.

 

[mrm5561]

if it helps this kind of thing happens all the time when parents leave and come back. i got caught a few times myself.they might be pissed now but over time they will forget.... granted i didnt get caught with weed so it might be longer. but you will be doing lawn work and getting them a new table

 

[Ishadus]

Strap on a pair and pay for what you're responsible for breaking/damaging/ruining. If you can't afford it, then take on some extra responsibilities to work things off until you can. Do all of the housework without asking recognition for it, for example.

You've made a childish mistake. Running away from it only deepens the childishness of the mistake.

 

[brunt32]

I agree with most other people that its your responsibility to have a party might as well face up to the results. However if the party was that good no need to have regrets. Pop down to your nan's house for a while give it a couple of days to sink in with your parents then come back and say sorry then it will all be cool.