Has anyone completely destroyed your trust?

[Zeema]

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Is it just me or do teens have chronic backstabbing disorder?

yep they do at my old school no one really liked my cause i was diffrent. i was suffering from Multipler personailty disorder paranoia and More

so what people like to do was befriend me and then stab me in the back because it was funny. They would convice people not to talk to me because i was a schizo [which wassn't fully true] and called me a freak.

they would befriend me then stab me and lie about stuff that i had said. because it was funny, i told someone i liked anime and they went around saying that i was into hentai and weird stuff.

i said i work at KFC they come to my workplace and make my job a living hell

i told someone i have a crush on this girl. this person then tells the girl i like that i have AID's and STD's that i got from my mother

So yeah i dont trust many people. They lie and backstab just so they can get apprecation for themselves

So yes backstabbing is very previlent and now i only trust my self

 

[lettucethesallad]

I broke up with my ex boyfriend about a year and a half ago. We'd been dating for 2 years and lived together. About 6 months later I got a facebook message from his 'friend', explaining to me that they'd been sleeping together for the last year of our relationship, and proceeded to pour out details to lessen her guilt. I told her to go away and she sent _another_ email with more details. It wasn't until after that I got a letter from my ex saying pretty much "Boohoo, sorry, I feel bad now that I was found out, forgive please, kthanksbye". Needless to say I didn't answer it, counted myself lucky that I'd broken up with him and moved on.

Relationships are still hard for me. Serious trust issues.

 

[DarkishFriend]

Yeah, teenagers seem to be addicted to backstabbing. I swear that teenagers are having hard times developing emotional intelligence. It's like they can recognize the damage they can cause and seek to do it because they can't understand the pain it can be put on someone else, but they always are there to complain and ***** when it happens to them. I've personally tried to live by one adage. "Treat others how you'd like to be treated." I screw up a lot with people I probably shouldn't be putting down sometimes. There is just something about being able to project myself about others because I've always gotten put down. Maybe that is why so many teenagers do the same thing.

I guess it's worth noting that some people are just born with a concentrated source of evil in their hearts and will do whatever it tells them to. Seems high school gathers a lot of them.

 

[sniddy_v1legacy]

Bad trust issues and low self esteem

...I guess growing up my best friend, I didn't so much 'trust' as much as know well enough to understand his bullshit - honestly I found out most of what was going on from what he didn't tell me. So I never really developed a deep trusting relationship in my teens and was always kinda loner...

I failed to get the girl - and this probably hurt the most because at this time, I was pretty well guarded...and a cynic...people where pieces to be moved on a board, who was I close to, who could I influence, who were threats, where were their opportunists...'friendships' were not about trust - they were calculated risks. Anyway given that can you imagine my shock to find someone who slipped right past all that...and it wasn't that she was stunning or bright or any one thing you could point to....she just was. Along with my old 'best friend' and some others she was part of my 'group'

I spent years trying to get close to her, in this time I introduced her to some of my old friends, she started dating one of them. She met another guy I helped through school, and yep you guessed. I even took her out one night and she hit on some twins....Looking back I was a bloody idiot...but...

That group started to fracture when my best friend split with his girlfriend, now she was something special...I defended her, I helped her...I did what I could, she's one of the few people who really I let my guard down for - to help her I had to...and she was really was something special. She had it all the looks, the brains, and the personality...when a few months before I'd - well nearly killed someone in a drinking game less then a week after my grandads death, at her birthday party - she'd been good enough to forgive and forget unlike some....she'd had past relationship issues so was taking it hard...I'll never know if I helped much, or at all...she left, and I let her go...it was the only thing I could do.

After that I can honestly say I drifted through maybe 3 to 4 years of my life eating take-aways watching porn, playing games and pretty much doing nothing...I had no real self worth, no goal, no ambition....nothing

The only 'bright' spot was the time I tried to come out of my shell, met a girl...and the only thing I saw in her was fun and free, but I'd hoped something I could enjoy with her, who cheated on me and got herself pregnant - which probably knocked me back years...

After that, I reconnected with an old fired, pulled myself out of the hole, retrained my brain somewhat...built a new circle of friends - met my wife, moved, suffered depression and a mini breakdown, come home....which hasn't helped with the whole self esteem as not a lot breaks you like knowing how weak you can be....

Do I trust people...by my standards it's a hell of an improvement...but I'm not sure it's trust....I still have lots of nagging doubts, that I need to put down....but I think maybe I'm a little too scarred, and a little too fucked up to really change much more...I'm mostly happy with my life...and I don't think that's to bad a place to be considering my years of mostly hating myself/my life and then a void of nothingness....

So yeh my life since late teens in a post, not that good huh?

 

[Mister Swift]

My best friend has before, but I forgave him and nothing has really changed.

I'm a pretty trusting guy in general.

 

[DarkishFriend]

Bad trust issues and low self esteem

...I guess growing up my best friend, I didn't so much 'trust' as much as know well enough to understand his

I say kudos for you for knowing how to move on and be positive. I'm just trying to be able to do that.

 

[Fawcks]

I trust everyone until they give a reason they dont deserve my trust any longer.

Really? That's just recklessly foolish. Or foolishly reckless.

Anyways.

I trusted my parents, but then they became abusive. Physically, mentally. I don't remember a lot from before I was thirteen as a result. Oh, and they totally lied about Santa Claus, the bastards.

I don't remember keeping many friends. I do remember distinctly having my trust betrayed by a single person, over something stupid. He came to my house everyday, so we were pretty close, I guess. Walked to school together. But I was like, 12, so it was dumb.


I finally fell in love. As anyone would tell you, BIG MISTAKE. We dated for two years. She found out her uncle had been using the money she raised for the animal sanctuary where she worked for his own ends. She couldn't stay there knowing that, but she loved those animals. As such, she panicked. Went out to find her place in the world, assuring me she loved me and all that garbage before leaving.

A few months later, she sends an email saying she's not coming back. I ask some questions, get increasingly vague and cryptic answers, then suddenly she stops replying to me whatsoever. How can you still love someone, and claim such over and over, and tell them they're a wonderful person, all before leaving them without ever intending to return? Without ever saying why, or even where you're going? She lied to me. I trusted her, but in the end, she never could tell me the real truth.

Next I had a short fling with some other girl. A dominant in the S&M scene, of sorts. Anyway, she obviously abused my trust and dumped me out like some ball of garbage too, shouldn't come as any surprise; but she was downright vicious when it came to how she did it. I don't really want to talk about it. Ironically, we were never really in a "relationship"; she was already married, and I wasn't interested in her sexually, but she wanted to help me through the "Hard times" (I still take the loss of my fiance hard, even today). Bullshit, though. All she wanted to do was play around with me and dump me off. Probably gets off to it, pretending to talk to people about their issues and then stabbing them in the back.

So yeah, fat chance I'll ever trust ANYONE again. Ever.

 

[phantasmalWordsmith]

I remember once when I was a kid...When Yu-gi-oh trading cards were still cool.*shudders at the thought* I had a moronic friend with a moronic name who scammed me out of a bit of my collection of cheap-disposable-latest-craze-pieces-of-cards. Never again. On a more modern note, my trust in others has just slowly eroded away due to being surrounded by dishonest stupid childish idiots in my school.

 

[Spongebobdickpants]

I trust everyone until they give a reason they dont deserve my trust any longer.

Really? That's just recklessly foolish. Or foolishly reckless.

Anyways.

I trusted my parents, but then they became abusive. Physically, mentally. I don't remember a lot from before I was thirteen as a result. Oh, and they totally lied about Santa Claus, the bastards.

I don't remember keeping many friends. I do remember distinctly having my trust betrayed by a single person, over something stupid. He came to my house everyday, so we were pretty close, I guess. Walked to school together. But I was like, 12, so it was dumb.


I finally fell in love. As anyone would tell you, BIG MISTAKE. We dated for two years. She found out her uncle had been using the money she raised for the animal sanctuary where she worked for his own ends. She couldn't stay there knowing that, but she loved those animals. As such, she panicked. Went out to find her place in the world, assuring me she loved me and all that garbage before leaving.

A few months later, she sends an email saying she's not coming back. I ask some questions, get increasingly vague and cryptic answers, then suddenly she stops replying to me whatsoever. How can you still love someone, and claim such over and over, and tell them they're a wonderful person, all before leaving them without ever intending to return? Without ever saying why, or even where you're going? She lied to me. I trusted her, but in the end, she never could tell me the real truth.

Next I had a short fling with some other girl. A dominant in the S&M scene, of sorts. Anyway, she obviously abused my trust and dumped me out like some ball of garbage too, shouldn't come as any surprise; but she was downright vicious when it came to how she did it. I don't really want to talk about it. Ironically, we were never really in a "relationship"; she was already married, and I wasn't interested in her sexually, but she wanted to help me through the "Hard times" (I still take the loss of my fiance hard, even today). Bullshit, though. All she wanted to do was play around with me and dump me off. Probably gets off to it, pretending to talk to people about their issues and then stabbing them in the back.

So yeah, fat chance I'll ever trust ANYONE again. Ever.

I was going to say the story of how my best friend and brother completely betrayed me.

But i couldnt hold a candle to that level of consistant betrayal, all i can say is good luck for the future cause it sounds like you deserve it.

 

[Flack]

I used to be very open, shit happens and yeah.
There is only one person who I confide in now. If she ever betrayed that trust though I would never get a replacement person-to-talk-to-thing.

 

[SckizoBoy]

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Someone? No, thankfully. Most of my friends that I consider intimate, I do trust, and thus far, my trust is not misplaced.

However, something? Yes.

Hope. I only genuinely hoped for one thing, and I built it up for months, only for it to shit all over me and my girlfriend.

I'd expand, but I'm determined not to feel shit today...

 

[Use_Imagination_here]

Nope. I pretty muhc shrug absolutely everything of in a couple of days or week or two. I don't bury things, I just get all the grief or diappointment out as fast as I can and realise that i tried, and there's nothing I can do to make it better. Sometimes I'm lying to myself but it works nontheless.

I call It cheating at life.

 

[aegix drakan_v1legacy]

I count myself exceptionally fortunate to have avoided this kind of drama so far.

There are only about 4 people I trust completely (3 childhood friends who are almost brothers to me, and my GF). None of them have broken that trust yet. If any of them did.......It would not be pretty.

In general, though...I trust no one. Oh sure, I'll give people the benefit of the doubt, but if they ask for implicit trust...I usually don't give it. Too many acquaintances, or schoolmates have taken advantage of my trusting nature for me to continue being so trusting.

Beyond the small amount that's I'm required by society to give everyone...My trust and respect are EARNED.

 

[Housebroken Lunatic]

Yeah, teenagers seem to be addicted to backstabbing. I swear that teenagers are having hard times developing emotional intelligence. It's like they can recognize the damage they can cause and seek to do it because they can't understand the pain it can be put on someone else, but they always are there to complain and ***** when it happens to them.

Well it's not really strange that it's like that.

I mean, the human brain and it's functions (consistent empathy for instance) isn't fully developed in the average individual until around their mid-twenties.

That's why small children and teenagers tend to display really cruel, selfish and self-centered behaviour towards eachother in a much larger extent, which is only normally found in psychopaths or otherwise emotionally disturbed individuals of the adult demographic.

 

[TheAceTheOne]

Yep. Title says it all. Anyone ever betray you so bad that you worry you'll be betrayed by someone else who has given you no reason to think that way?

(If that doesn't make sense, this story should add some background)

A few years back, a girl cheated on me with two guys at once. She then told me about it. I have trouble trusting my current girlfriend even though she hasn't done anything to earn any distrust. I try hard not to worry, but sometimes, the worry creeps back in and I get afraid that she'll hurt me too.

Basically, what I'm asking is: Have you felt like this? Did you do anything about it? Any words for someone who's feeling it?

Ouch...That has to suck. I have yet to have something like that happen but if I did I keep telling myself she will just be ruining her chances with the best man ever...Gotta boost my self esteem somehow lol.

oT: Not really. But a girl did break my heart by stringing me along for...6 years then telling me over the phone we would never be together and I should just forget about her. We might meet again one day as we had a lot of the same friends and depending on how she turns out could ruin me worse lol.

Ouch. Me and my current girl have known each other for six years. I trust her enough that she won'd let me down. I just end up questioning things and worrying like an arse when everything's alright.

Known her since you were 11? Well then you should have someone you can trust...I thought you were closer to my age. I was gonna say something like 6 years? I woulda married her already lol.

Colour me intrigued... Did you look at my profile and do math, perchance?

Yeah. I trust her. The thing about my ex is... My ex keeps popping up everywhere (as in, texting late at nights, generally harassing me through friends, and pulling shit like that.) She hasn't tagged my house yet. But just give it time.

The fact that she won't piss off is what's making it hard for me to get past all the scars she left me. I've told her "F*** off, Thanks to you, I'll never be the man I once was." and she can't take the damn hint. Coming to the point where I haven't slept in about a week. Haha.

Just look at her. Don't say or do anything. Just stand there and let her belittle and insult you. Then when she pauses for a breath smile. Then walk away laughing under your breath and say a single word. Pathetic.

Yeah. That's what I'm going to do.

(Still wondering how you got my age, haha)

 

[TheTim]

I've had some friends who have done it unintentionally but none the less they did it.

thats why i live by one phrase today

DON'T TRUST ANYONE