i haven't had gf troubles but i have had my trust destroyed by a few people friends and employers which is why i really don't trust anyone except for myself and a few select people
Has anyone completely destroyed your trust?
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Not by anyone I know but I am a very trusting guy to the point that my boss yelled at me for being too trusting with people.
Only thing I can think of is that at one point a customer asked if he could go into the cooler to look at what we had (we don't let anyone who isn't a worker in the cooler) I let him and later I discovered that he took one can of beer from on of the cases which makes the case literally useless and the only thing we could do with it is that my boss had to take it home. Luckily my boss is a really good friends with my dad so he didn't unrail on me too hard but I diserved it and I don't let people back there anymore and if I do I go in as well to make sure they don't steal anything.
Only thing I can think of is that at one point a customer asked if he could go into the cooler to look at what we had (we don't let anyone who isn't a worker in the cooler) I let him and later I discovered that he took one can of beer from on of the cases which makes the case literally useless and the only thing we could do with it is that my boss had to take it home. Luckily my boss is a really good friends with my dad so he didn't unrail on me too hard but I diserved it and I don't let people back there anymore and if I do I go in as well to make sure they don't steal anything.
I almost always give people around me the benefit of no doubt that they're being honest and true.
But I don't trust people in general.
Have seen countless times of lies,betrayal,back-stabbing etc. -
and more often than not it became a sort of self-destructive act for the ones doing it.
So I basically try not to lie myself (can count the lies of a decade on 1hand, i think),
and just don't care what people know about me.
That being said...possibly the first person i've ever really trusted was my proclaimed "love of my life thus far"...
which Love ended just recently and still has me kinda crushed in a "WTFhappened?"-way...
But I actually don't regret having trusted her completely -
Guess a chance for true Love demands that.
(weird, suddenly feeling like s.o. put a "hopeless romantic"-stamp on my forehead *rubs*)
Nevertheless my original mindset still stands.
(maybe just with the exception of me ever emerging similiar feelings that just have been crushed again)
But I don't trust people in general.
Have seen countless times of lies,betrayal,back-stabbing etc. -
and more often than not it became a sort of self-destructive act for the ones doing it.
So I basically try not to lie myself (can count the lies of a decade on 1hand, i think),
and just don't care what people know about me.
That being said...possibly the first person i've ever really trusted was my proclaimed "love of my life thus far"...
which Love ended just recently and still has me kinda crushed in a "WTFhappened?"-way...
But I actually don't regret having trusted her completely -
Guess a chance for true Love demands that.
(weird, suddenly feeling like s.o. put a "hopeless romantic"-stamp on my forehead *rubs*)
Nevertheless my original mindset still stands.
(maybe just with the exception of me ever emerging similiar feelings that just have been crushed again)
Nope.TheAceTheOne said:
I've been betrayed. I've been cheated upon. And I've cheated. **shrug** If you close yourself off, if you stop taking risks, then you'll never experience anything good. The pain of betrayal is nothing to all the wonderful opportunities that only open themselves up if you take a chance.
Besides, my spouse and I have an understanding. A very open and free understanding. No need to cheat when we're both allowed to sleep with other people. ^^
Yes, my aunt. She stole money from my sister, who was taking a vacation away from Iraq to see her family. That day, I realized my aunt was not only a thief, but she tried to cover up her lie by returning the wallet in the place it was taken from (my car). Fucking thief, I wouldn't trust her with anything that wasn't nailed or bolted down, out of fear of finding it conveniently "misplaced".
But other than that, no one outside of my family broke my trust, because I never got close to anyone; and from reading all the pages of people getting cheated on and lied to ad nauseam, I'm just gonna stay away from relationships altogether.
But other than that, no one outside of my family broke my trust, because I never got close to anyone; and from reading all the pages of people getting cheated on and lied to ad nauseam, I'm just gonna stay away from relationships altogether.
Practically everyone I've known outside of family has absolutely betrayed my trust more than enough times, what was more surprising than all of the hypothetical knifeholes in my back was that they were surprised when I went into a nearly (and quite possibly) depressed state. As such, I trust very few people.
No. Mainly because all my friends are grade A pieces of shit. I don't trust them as far as I can throw a fucking stick, so if one of them somehow did something to screw me over I would be completely unsurprised by it it.
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Alright, mate, let's just message: I've somehow managed to derail my own thread!
Yes I many years ago I was introduced to this girl I met through a friend from school. She was pretty interesting of a character and introduced me to my first boyfriend.
How ever our time as friends did not last because after we started fighting (over money and items she borrowed and had not paid/brought back) I found her in my home on my computer printing stuff out. My mother was the one who let her in to help clean to pay off the loan but was not watching her. The girl actually lied to my mother on the phone when my mother called her later and asked if she had been there.
You know how she got caught she didn't clean out the Internet history on my computer and I showed not just that but the amount of ink she used to my mom.
Later on I also found out that she was sleeping with my boyfriend while I was dating him. I never slept with him myself because he was practically never around (because he was apparently always at her place) and I broke up with him. But she seriously took me for an idiot because when he moved in with her she swore the guy was not my ex.
The way she acted and treated me was horrible and it took me years to make friends and trust people who were not my immediate family. Even now with the friend I have now I sometimes compare the two and my current friend knows it.
I hate myself for it and it bothers me greatly.
How ever our time as friends did not last because after we started fighting (over money and items she borrowed and had not paid/brought back) I found her in my home on my computer printing stuff out. My mother was the one who let her in to help clean to pay off the loan but was not watching her. The girl actually lied to my mother on the phone when my mother called her later and asked if she had been there.
You know how she got caught she didn't clean out the Internet history on my computer and I showed not just that but the amount of ink she used to my mom.
Later on I also found out that she was sleeping with my boyfriend while I was dating him. I never slept with him myself because he was practically never around (because he was apparently always at her place) and I broke up with him. But she seriously took me for an idiot because when he moved in with her she swore the guy was not my ex.
The way she acted and treated me was horrible and it took me years to make friends and trust people who were not my immediate family. Even now with the friend I have now I sometimes compare the two and my current friend knows it.
I hate myself for it and it bothers me greatly.
Only once really. I usually don't trust people until they have proven trustworthy and because of that, very few people have a chance of betraying my trust. Except that one time.
A friend of mine had a girlfriend for about 1 to 1,5 years and me and the girl became pretty close friends, sometimes visiting each other without the boyfriend around. He knew about it and was fine with it. They broke up after a while for reasons I still don't fully understand and she was pretty shaken up by that and some other things. I talked to her a lot during that time, providing the comfort she sought. After a few months she started to talk about how much she liked talking to me and how much she trusted me. Even said she loved me and wanted to be together.
For a while I couldn't be more happy because I had liked that girl a long time even while she was still together with her boyfriend. We started going out and even shared a nice little evening in my home. Two weeks later she does a 180° turn and sends me a text message saying she never really liked me and that she doesn't want to see me again. While talking to my other friends that me and that girl had in common I learn that she had been having one night stands with everyone on our shared friends list except one, my neighbour. One week later she was going out with him and he had no idea what she had been up to.
Now she's is a really horrible looking skinny goth freak according to some friends who has kept contact with her, so in hindsight I might actually have dodged a bullet right after getting into the firing line. I still have trouble trusting women and taking things they say at face value, unless they have proven them trustworthy as mentioned before.
A friend of mine had a girlfriend for about 1 to 1,5 years and me and the girl became pretty close friends, sometimes visiting each other without the boyfriend around. He knew about it and was fine with it. They broke up after a while for reasons I still don't fully understand and she was pretty shaken up by that and some other things. I talked to her a lot during that time, providing the comfort she sought. After a few months she started to talk about how much she liked talking to me and how much she trusted me. Even said she loved me and wanted to be together.
For a while I couldn't be more happy because I had liked that girl a long time even while she was still together with her boyfriend. We started going out and even shared a nice little evening in my home. Two weeks later she does a 180° turn and sends me a text message saying she never really liked me and that she doesn't want to see me again. While talking to my other friends that me and that girl had in common I learn that she had been having one night stands with everyone on our shared friends list except one, my neighbour. One week later she was going out with him and he had no idea what she had been up to.
Now she's is a really horrible looking skinny goth freak according to some friends who has kept contact with her, so in hindsight I might actually have dodged a bullet right after getting into the firing line. I still have trouble trusting women and taking things they say at face value, unless they have proven them trustworthy as mentioned before.