Have you ever "got" the girl/guy?

[barbzilla]

A short update to the Just Friends story I told you earlier, I just found out my suspicions were right about the reasons for the just friends issue with her having feelings for a douche bag and that being the reason behind it. During the call (with her crying her eyes out) I tried my best to comfort her, yet I am not going to play second string. I will be her friend at this point, but if I am correct again she will want more. I just don't think i can give it to her now. Point of the story being, Girls if you have a guy who you know is a better man don't let him play second string to some asshole. We won't be around forever

 

[buhee]

I found my partner after i stopped looking for a boyfriend. He heard me talking about ice cream to my friend. Then added me on facebook. then started convienently bumping into me at college. Then asked me out to go see films and all that. ALl because of ice cream.
I guess this is a case of him getting the girl.
But i got the most amazing boyfriend ever out of it. So I guess i got the guy too. Even though i wasn't looking.

 

[Kenami]

I have gotten the girl twice but I would like to note that despite being a confident 20 year old whose had relationships in the past that I have no idea how to talk to women and am terribly shy/lost for words around them (discreetly of course).

This first girl is quite irrelevant to the current but I'll give a short summary; met when 13, grew up together via long distance, dated on and off for 6 years (throughout middle school and high school), got cheated on, broke it off, and than decided to stay single for two years.

So now on the current: After deciding to stay single for two years (the two years weren't planned it just happened and conveniently I was attending college so I pushed myself into that) I met a girl my high school via facebook. Now the thing about her is that I had a BIG crush on her throughout high school but I never talked to her because of A. She was always around the most insufferable girls imaginable and I somewhat assumed that she'd be quite insufferable herself after getting to know her (you know the idea that a girl you like can never live up to the idea in your head) and B. I was terribly shy and every attempt of talking to her turned out like this http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MSA_SZTx8z4&feature=fvwrel (luckily it only happened twice and a mutual acquaintance was around to relieve the awkwardness).

So we talk on facebook for a month, both end up chatting on a night with nothing to do and decide to hang out. She picks me up and we spend the night driving, pushing a car out of gas, laughing at how open we were with each other with embarrassing stuff and having a really good time. Keep in mind I was single for two years and practically gave up the idea meeting a girl I could not only trust but be genuinely interested in, All I really cared for at that time was "hooking up" with girls and I was planning on doing the same with her and never talking to her again but that first time we hung out struck a chord that hadn't been struck in a very long time.

We hang out 3 more times in the span of a month, talk some more and than on the first weekend of December I invite her over to watch a film, attempt to kiss her, fail horribly but luckily she wanted it to happen, she kisses me and than I ask her out. The most shocking thing of all is that she turned out to be a really nice person. Stuck up at times and ignorant at times as well but over all a really caring person who...never had a boyfriend before. I was (still am) her first ever relationship.

We've been together for a year and 7 months now (will be 8 on August 3rd). We have had some VERY hard times though and have broken up on and off loads of times (which is ironic because as much as I hate the overuse of parentheses in a post I also always swore I'd never be in a relationship where we'd be constantly breaking it off/re-establishing it). So yeah I'm hoping that this is "it" I've dated loads of times and can honestly say I hate it, I like the idea and responsibilities of being committed to someone and if we can grow as not only people but as a couple as well than I think than I'll be able to fully say that I got the girl.

 

[Craazhy]

Spoiler: Unhappy story

Every girl I've ever been head over heels for had a boyfriend or girlfriend (yep) for the entire time I knew them. So, I stopped falling in love, and so far it has actually worked out. Commitment-less sex substantially reduces overall stress, although there is substantially less genuine joy. But, what are you gonna do?

Now, whenever I see a girl that obliterates my awareness of my surroundings and chronological/physical state, I just assume and convince myself not to bother.

I figure the taken ones are always content and that's what I'm attracted to. Maybe they're not always smiling, but their eyes sure are.

 

[smithy_2045]

I'd never even tried during the first 20 years of my life. The past month though, I've been working on getting the girl I'm currently obsessed with, who I can't stop thinking or dreaming about.

 

[Johnny Impact]

I wouldn't say that I've "gotten" a woman because I don't live in a shitty cliche movie.

Relationships shouldn't be like a ball game or Pokemon where you can brag about "getting" someone.

I do have a girlfriend, but I didn't "get" her like some prize or medal.

Well spoken, sir.

Too many people think of it like caging a bird. Once it's done, they need only feed it occasionally for it to sing forever. "Okay, I've got that, now I can stop working" seems to be the attitude. I've seen it in half the relationships my friends have had. Disastrous in nearly all cases.

Relationships *are* a game but attracting a mate does not mean the game stops. Quite the opposite. Searching for a mate is sitting on the bench. You've got your colors on, you're warmed up and ready, but all you're really doing is hoping to be called. Attracting a mate means you've left the bench and earned the privilege to play. Now's the time to show how hard you can work.

 

[Dr. Danger]

I'm a sad victim of the "want but can't have" disease.

I'm kind of a big deal and could have been happily settled down twice over. I've been sought after too many times to count over the past ten months while traveling and the only one I've sought after is the only one who doesn't feel the same way for me. Story of my life.

 

[Gazzoid]

Nope. Never.

 

[CerealKiller214]

I really had a crush on a girl just recently. I wanted to do anything to "get" her. She wasn't interested in me at all. Up until a day I was still pretty sad but then I thought, "I'm tired of running after her, helping her out and getting no reward for it. Fuck her! I don't care anymore. There are people out there who enjoy my company, so I just go out there and talk with the people (and mostly girls) that like me before I waste my time with her." Anyway now I feel great and I look forward to meet others.

 

[disgruntledgamer]

I've always thought that if it's a relationship meant to happen (i.e. that it'll be a lasting one) then it's mutual right from the start and neither party has to seduce the other.

As for me, well, you can get the entire story by just listening to Love the Way You Lie.

Nothing ever happens because it "Was meant to happen." You want something in this world you got to go get it or hope Lady Luck gives you 6's.

 

[BOOM headshot65]

Yes, I did. In a way that is very much "Reality is Unrealistic." See, it all started in 9th grade (ie, around me being 15). There was a new friend I had just gotten from the other middle school in town and we started getting close. However, I had no interest in a relationship and was blind to the signs due to my Aspergers. But apparently, I was subconsiously starting to like her in a more than friendly way, because I had a bizzare (AND NON SEXUAL, before anyone says anything) about her, and told her about it the next day. She has told me she doesnt know what changed, but on Valintines day, she sat down at the lunch table with me at breakfast, and while I was ready a book on the Vietnam war (and silently thinking to myself "Fricking Hippies ruining it all."), she gave me a note with a heart on it and on the inside it said "I REALLY like you. Signed, your secret admireer." As I read it, she looks down (blushing), and says "I-I-I didnt write that. So-someone else did and asked me to give it to you." Of course, be being as thick/blind as I was, I just brushed it off and didnt think about it. I mean, I still had a book on WW2 armored tactics and the Art of War to read, for petes sake! But at lunch, I sat with her and the rest of my friends, and then another one of my female friends that I had known since I was little said to her "So, KK, did you give Keegan your love letter? >" My girlfriend started blushing and said "Yeah, I did. I wrote that Keegan. " And in the biggest thick thinking of the day, I just responded "Oh, ok. :/" and went back to reading the Art of War. Afew months pass, and I find out that she is moving to another school and I may not get to see her again. I give her a hug on the last day and get my picture taken with her. She move away........."Wait....She loved me?! And I didnt accept her!! NOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!" (yes, it took me 5 months to realise that).

So, 2 years go by, some girls I had crushes on turned me down, I go semi-depressed because I wanted a girlfriend but no one wanted me because I was too weird, and all of my female friends were either taken, wanted to stay friends, and one was a lesbian/bi. However, I found out one of my guy friends had had a crush on her back in middle school (and got turned down because "she it picky.") and knew that she was living close by, about 10 minutes from my town. Then, I found out her cousin was in my first hour class, and he gave me her number/called his aunt to let her know I was trying to get ahold of KK. Then I get home and we make a date for the first day of spring break. I meet her at her house, and the first thing she says is "Wow, you got tall." (XD) We go and get ice cream and go to the park for 4 hours, talking about nothing but Fallout and other video games. Then I ask her if she still liked me. Turns out, she like me for those 2 years she never heard from me, and still liked me now. So we walk back to my truck, holding hands the whole way.

1.7 years later (which, I might add, is about 7 times the average length of a high school relationship), we are still going strong, she says she is so happy that we found eachother again because I am the "only good boyfriend out there", still being nuts about video games and anime, staying together between college, and we want to get married after I am done with college. The only thing that is going to stop that now is a direct act from God (athiest take that how you will). Hell, we have already started talking about the family we want. She REALLY wants to have twins, and I want to have one son and one daughter to keep a gender balance in the house. So hopefully both of our wishes are fulfilled.

I LOVE YOU KRISTEN/DARKRAVEN28!!

 

[aegix drakan_v1legacy]

Not really.

I had a few crushes, but the girls were taken (the one I liked most was engaged actually).

And then I met my current girlfriend (also my first!). And after about a month of hanging out on break and eating supper together once a week we both fell for each other pretty much simultaneously.

So...In my case it's more like I hit the love lottery. XD

 

[Eddie the head]

Never had a crush really. But I was the "Guy" in question once, I think. And no she didn't succeed, I just couldn't find anything to talk about with her. It may sound odd but being the person that is "crushed" upon can be creepy at times. For one thing don't stare at me.

 

[Zack Alklazaris]

I met my Girl on myspace she lived 250 miles away, had a fiance', and found me interesting at best.

We are now married and have been living together for 4 years. So I guess you could say I won.

 

[Blunderman]

Nothing ever happens because it "Was meant to happen." You want something in this world you got to go get it or hope Lady Luck gives you 6's.

The content of your post isn't even half as interesting as the fact that you wrote it. What I said was from over a year ago and I can't imagine anyone would think that it was a controversial or even confrontational point to make. You've resurrected a really old thread because you felt it was important that I hear just how wrong I am.

That leads me to think that my suggestion was strongly opposed to what you believe, and you hold that belief for largely emotional reasons. Given the topic of the thread, I'd wager that there's a girl you fancy but she doesn't like you back, however you don't want to lose hope that she one day will.

It's either that or you just felt like telling someone on a forum that they're wrong, to which I really only have one thing to say: Welcome to the Internet.

 

[WolfThomas]

No. I was gotten by the girl. Not meaning that in a bragging way. I'm very oblivious and naive sometimes. I'd met my partner once six months before the period that lead to our dating. I'd made an impression on her even then.

So we're on rotation together and I'm hanging out with her and her friends regularly. Sitting opposite he at dinners and BBQs not really noticing all the hints. Then my last weekend on the rotation she had a little to drink and jumped me in a night club. It was a bit awkward because she was very drunk and I was practically sober. Anyway message finally receiving we started dating.

 

[StormShaun]

I'm worki-...wait a flying fork second!

Im working on it!

Post this topic in a few years and I will tell you if it worked, I hope it will.

F*ck...well...I haven't meet anyone that I would be interested yet so...lets wait one more year before we do this again shall we?

Also it is nice to see some people fall in love.

Oh well...I'm a patient guy who will wait for the moment I meet my dream girl.

 

[0p3rati0n]

Just about any girl I've gone after has always crashed and burned in a way bigger than I expected. Only one or two (it's arguable) have survived. The current crush I have currently has a boyfriend (who lives 3 hours away *twitch*) so I see no place to stating my love interest.

 

[cerealnmuffin]

I actually cried to sleep thinking back to this moment, because it was one of the few happiest moments in my life. Time and again, I've had potential relationships fail, because of my low self esteeem. To this day, I'd never forgive myself for ruining moments where people were actually interested in me. Well, one time things worked out.

We met at two different middle school dances, the first one, she had a boy friend that was quite rude to her and we had talked a bit. The second, I didn't have the confidence to ask her to dance. Crossing that great expanse of tiled floor to approach her, surrounded by her friends orbiting like satellites was daunting. My incredibly friend at the time was even more awkward than I was, and fortunately a bit hard of hearing. He didn't know who I liked so he walked over to them, TOWERING OVER THEM, POINTED DOWN AT HER, AND SHOUTED ACROSS THE ROOM 'THIS IS THE GIRL YOU LIKE?"

I was mortified, but then her friends excused themselves so I could ask her to dance. We were both really shy and our slow dancing consisted of stepping on one another's feet. Then we started dating and I was happy for once. Not a day go by that we didn't talk at school, on the phone for hours, or at her house.

Well, my family and her family have been trying to sell their house and both ended up getting bought only two months into our relationship. I still remember when we were saying goodbye on her porch. Being both extremely shy, we were about to kiss goodbye (our first, and mine) and then didn't though our faces were inches apart. This is one of my life's greatest regrets and I don't think I'd still be so emotionally fragmented if I could push past my shyness. Riding my bike home that day, I was balling my eyes out.

I still keep the letter she had written me and her photo from all those years ago. The paper has since yellowed with age but every now and then I read it as it was one of the few times I have ever meant a lot to someone. I've had relationships since then but never did I have the same skip of my heart and pure joy from then.


Sad, sweet, or pathetic... your call.

 

[Strazdas]

We have all met our ex-/girlfriends when we're in a nightclub and 90% of the time we're also drunk. Never has there been a girl in my life that I properly had to "fight" for.

that sounds like the worst kind of girlfriend out there.



The two real crushes that i had, very early on they have firmly stated they want nothing to do with me or any man for that matter. So i became a stalker.