Having Children...yes or no?

[Svartfalk]

Yes, I would like to have kids someday. Not in the near future, God no, but in like 10 years or so. That way I won't be too old nor too young.

 

[Mistermixmaster]

It would depend on my partner really. I haven't really given this matter much thought, but I guess it could be nice to have 1 (maaaybe 2) kid(s)? Again, it would kinda depend on my partner if she wants kids or not (as she is the one who has to carry the kid for 9 months).

 

[Shockolate]

Definitely not.

I'd be a horrible father.

 

[Hamster at Dawn]

I'd like to have kids although my genes aren't particularly great so I feel like I should abstain for the good of humanity. Mind you, both evolution and the population are pretty much fucked at this stage anyway so I doubt that I can do much more harm.

 

[Kenko]

When ive got a more stable economy and life as well as a mate i'd aim for 2-3 children I think.

 

[Martin Toy]

Kids... Now there's an interesting one... I think I would have kids, but I'd have to do something like have them take on both mine and my partner's last name. The reason for this being is that it makes life hell for the teachers at school with their registers. ^__^

 

[JoJo]

I would love to have kids, I have 7 year old sister who's great to take care of... and they're just all so cute! On a related note I've recently signed up to do some volunteering in schools with kids aged 8 - 11 although it doesn't start until November :-(

 

[Cavouku]

Yes i would love having Kids.

3 at the most.
I have 4 younger sister and i love em but, i would not wish them upon anyone.
I think 3 is a good number for me, hopefully 2 boys and a Girl.

Though i don't want to have Kids anytime soon, maybe in my Mid-Late twenties/early thirties.

I gotta' say ditto.

As for the selfish thing, I guess neither act is truly selfish. More so done out of a desire to have kids. Someone said the kids waste resources, and that can be true. But, ehn, it's capitalism, right? More buyers?

Leave me alone, I don't know how the economy works.

 

[neoontime]

Maybe in the future though I'll have to get back to that one later.

 

[Darenus]

Simply no. I know too well that I am far from being a good parent to a cat already (as in; taking care. Don't get weird with my weird answers)

I simply have not the endurance, patience or resource to take care for a kid 24/7 for more than maybe a month. AT BEST. Hence I will just not make it. Lucky I got no girlfriend then, eh? ;p

 

[LadyMint]

I love the "idea" of having children, but right now I'm just not ready. I certainly couldn't support one financially, as I'm still trying to work on that for just myself. But one day I'd like to have a few.

As for other people's children? Right about now they drive me insane. Especially the young ones who are just old enough to talk but not old enough to realize they shouldn't speak seventy-five percent of the things that come to mind.

 

[Guffe]

I like kids, they'r energetic and they can enjoy all the little things.
I hope I will have a family one day with maybe 2 kids, I have a younger brother who's 2 years younger and I hope that my kid(s) will have the same thing since a brother really is one of greatest things I've ever had.

 

[Verkain]

I see a lot of people saying they can't stand being around other people's children and I think that's perfectly understandable. I was the same way. In fact when my wife and I talked about it and eventually agreed it was something we were ready to try I was sure that when the baby came it would be the end of our marriage.

However, when it's your child it's a whole different experience I guarantee it. When my son was born and the nurses let me cut the cord and the clean him up all of my fears of being annoyed by him were replaced by fears that I would be a bad parent. (Although, today he will probably tell you that I am a bad parent since I limit his xbox time and make him do his homework.)

To answer the OP,I am all for having kids. Coming home from work and hearing my daughter yell "daddy!" as she gives me a big hug and getting beat by son in a game of Madden are all the reason in the world for me to be happy with my choice.

 

[shadyh8er]

I like kids, but there is such thing as too much of a good thing. Like if they're too clingy or spoiled I might blow a fuse on them.

 

[Slash Dementia]

I do want kids, but probably in my late 20s, or just whenever my girlfriend and I would be ready.

 

[Vault101]

I'm 28, and the wife and me agree to wait a little longer, we want to, but in the proper time.

Me sis has 5, and the first was born when she was 16... what a waste of youth.

 

[HotFezz8]

i want kids, late 20s maybe

 

[Therumancer]

So whats your additude toward having kids, or just kids in general, like most people do you want to have kids in the future or would you rather not

For me I can't see myself having kids anytime soon or mabye even ever, but then again its impossible to tell what I'll want/be like in the futre , but right now the thourght of having kids is just......No way

Also do you see the attitudes some people have, that not having kids is somhow selfish? I actually think having kids is much more selfish than not having them (If you want to look at it that way I mean, nothing wrong with having kids) If you were truly unselfish about it then you would adopt , then again mabye this attitude isn;t as common

I'm inherantly broken on an innate genetic level, I will never have kids because in doing so I risk passing that on, even if it misses a generation. I didn't eventually wind up retired on disabillity just for the yucks. In some ways it's quite scary how quickly I got rubber stamped for retirement/social security given some of the people that I know really need/deserve it and can't get it. Of course then again I have paperwork going back to when I was like six and an interesting history to say the least.

Myself aside, on a general level I think people need to have less kids simply because of overpopulation. Genereations ago we knew we needed to embrace zero population growth, and we didn't. Right now what we need is an actual negative population growth. Whether it be politics, or resources, or any of a million other things I think a lot of the problems boil down to the fact that there are too many bloody people out there, and it's getting to be impossible to maintain.

One of the reasons why I'm such a war-monger, and so callous when it comes to dispatching people by the billions even if it seems Hitler-Like, is that I feel that objectively something like that would be a good thing if we could contain a "baby boom" afterwards. See, it's one thing to tell an individual "we should cull you" or to cull your own population, but in large groups it becomes a lot less personal, and while scary that's sort of what we need right now. I think there are plenty of things worth fighting for as well.

This is also incidently one of the reasons why we need to achieve a world unity and get out into space IMO. We need living space. Even if we never find aliens or anything, we have the tech needed to say build habitates on Mars and the like (just as we can build them underwater). We need places to put people so our population can expand so we don't need to periodically wonder "oh gee, how do we cull the population this time" every century or two. Constant expansion is something we need, and space is the only place we can go, not to mention the need for resources and the like and while we're unsure about aliens we know we're going to find minerals and the like out there from the astroids we've had crash, and various probes that have sent back soil analysis and such.

At any rate, I'm rambling. While it would be abused, a lot of the time I pretty much think we should reversibly castrate/sterlize everyone born, and then make people apply to the goverment to have children based on their resources, suitability to be parents, and similar factrors. Doubtlessly this would lead to a situation with the higher economic strata raising more children, and a lot of people screaming about the fundemental human right to reproduce and have heirs to carry on in their name. In the end though it results in controlled population levels until such a time as we could deal with our own unfettered breeding. A good case could be made for such a "travesty" being the lesser of evils.

We can't stop having kids, but we sure as heck need to start having a whole lot less of them.


Such are my overall thoughts on children and having them, both personally, and on a societal level.