HELP! Is this 2 early?

[IntangibleMango]

If you really wanted to be engaged, you wouldn't be thinking that it's too early. Wait until when someone proposes to you that you are overcome with happiness and exciting thoughts for the future, instead of worry and fear of it not being the right thing to do.

 

[TimeLord]

First off, welcome to the Escapist.

Second, think of it this way, if you are asking a bunch of strangers (don't worry we are friendly strangers) over the internet about this decision, I'd say you weren't sure about this so you should hold off for a while longer so you can make sure it's what you want.

 

[Arkhangelsk]

It's up to you. Do you love him? Does he make you happy? Do you want to spend your entire life with him? If the answers to all those questions are yes without a doubt, then I'd say you should say yes. But you seem a bit doubtful. If you weren't filled with happiness when he asked, that's probably not a good sign. But as I said, it's up to you. Do what's right for you. Dig deep down in your heart, and you will find the answer.

 

[TIMESWORDSMAN]

I'd wait.
Besides, A study showed that premarital couples that live together have a higher chance of divorcing later.

 

[ProfessorLayton]

Honestly, it's way too early. You said you've never had an argument. Well, it's going to happen some time. I hate to say it but it's true. Better to argue outside of marriage and see how that turns out. Really, just give it some more time. A year, at least.

 

[sms_117b]

I've herd successful marriages about the same time of dating. I mean arranged marriages tend to last and not just because 9/10 times they can't divorce! My preference is to be in my mid to late 20's to marry, so in my perspective you're a little young.

All of that is irrelevant, as your posting here says you're not ready yet.

 

[Coldsnap]

If you say you've never argued, then I would assume that you haven't really talked about important issues yet; if you want kids and how many, what your priorities are in spending your money, political beliefs, and so on.

There's nothing wrong with arguing sometimes as long as it doesn't turn physical or emotionally abusive.

 

[ThatJagoGuy]

I feel comfortable with the idea of living together, just not sure about being engaged...

Sounds like you've answered your own question there; you're not sure about being engaged. If you're not sure about it, why on earth would you even consider doing it?!

 

[DazZ.]

Way too early.
Way way way too early.

What's the rush to get married? Is anyone fatally ill? Can't you just enjoy being together instead of having to make plans of a wedding and whatnot on top on also moving in together?

Too much at once to be honest, as well as too soon.

("Done too much, much too young..." the song doesn't really apply but it is a good song [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s-t6i1GVCww] anyway.)

 

[feather240]

I've heard you don't know if you love someone until you stop enjoying the relationship.

 

[nativebelle]

You're obviously not sure, and it's not the kinda thing you can go into thinking 'Hey it might work out, this marraige thing might be FUN!'.

Tell him to cool his jets. Don't use the phrase 'cool your jets' though because he might dump you on the spot.

 

[Abedeus]

A bit early. My sister married her boyfriend (fiancee...) after 3 years. Now they are really happy together, but it took them so long because they wanted to be sure they are really meant for each other.

And now if you excuse me, I'll go barf.

 

[AddytheGreat]

Yey, someone else from around Newcastle!

OT: Seems abit early, you might want to wait abit more, see how things are after afew weeks/months etc. If you can still honestly say you love him then, then I would say go ahead.

 

[ae86gamer]

If you can see yourself with him for with for the rest of your life then go for it. If not, then don't get married and tell him you want to wait longer.

 

[Availible]

I have friends that got engaged about three months after meeting eachother. They have been engaged for about nine months now, live together and all. (They're both eighteen now. When they got engaged they were seventeen.)

In my opinion it's too early for you, since you feel you've got to ask it means you are unsure about the whole thing. But think of it this way, it's just about as easy to break an engagement as it is to just simply break up.

Hope I was any help

 

[maddawg IAJI]

How about asking your famnily or other pepole in your life.

Not the internet.

She asked her family already. Please pay attention to the OP.

OT: You never know how a marriage will fair until you live with said person. You're young right now, there is no need rushing into this if you feel you are not ready.

 

[MGlBlaze]

Give it time, there's no rush to be married. There's nothing wrong with being an un-married couple living together, hell that'll help you learn whether you can really live with them for many years to come.

Also this.

Second.

OP: Of course, it all depends on what's right for you, but if you ask me, things are moving quite fast. I'd suggest not getting married for a while, because, as The Maddest March Hare said, there's nothing wrong with being an unmarried couple living together.

 

[Talendra]

Tell him, explain how you feel. There is no point rushing into it, it will just cause problems.
He will surely understand and it will give you time together to settle in with living under the same roof.
Though if you think that you cannot talk to him about your feelings on this and how you are confused then you probably should not get married.

 

[Gruthar]

Too early! Live together for a few years first. If your relationship survives that and you're still in love, then I would consider it. As other have pointed out, you already sound hesitant. If you were looking for validation as to whether turning down your boyfriend is the right choice, here it is.