How do i get friends?

[Sjakie]

I am depressed. No one at my new school wants to talk to me, and nobody responds when i try to strike up a conversation. It is not like i had any friends before going to my school, but i hoped to turn over a new leaf at the beginning of high school. Since that has gone to shit, how am i going to manage making friends ever?

- join a club for an activity you like (i joined a LAN-party club)
- learn to play a music instrument (music school) then join a band
- start dealing drugs, you'll have lots of "friends" then (this is a joke btw)
- pull pranks on your teachers
- have something fun to talk about when you strike up a conversation, if you can show people you can be fun they will look past the package you come in
- talk to the ugly chick to get to the hot one...no wait, thats dating advice
- read a book about social enginering, you'll learn a lot!

that's all i can think of atm. Good luck, kid. Nobody should be without friends.

 

[FinalHeart95]

Talk to people.

Seriously, just say "hi" to the people you sit near in class. You're guaranteed to make friends that way eventually.

 

[BRMXJzjsoawk321]

similar to me. Except I'm in grade 11 but was homeschooled for grade 8,9 and 10 so I have no friends at all even outside of school. I have social anxiety disorder which makes me extremely introverted so it's hard to look confident and talk to anyone. So far I've mostly just sat alone somewhere looking like a loser. I'm hoping I'll get over it someday, I can't stand being alone, I haven't had so much as one friend sense like, grade 7.

*Sob story*

I haven't really had any social anxiety until now, really. I try not to look like a loser sitting alone at lunch, but it's hard because I just look like one, even the other loner that sits at my lunch table has been talked to by one guy.

 

[le picklez]

I am depressed. No one at my new school wants to talk to me, and nobody responds when i try to strike up a conversation. It is not like i had any friends before going to my school, but i hoped to turn over a new leaf at the beginning of high school. Since that has gone to shit, how am i going to manage making friends ever?

Don't talk to anybody who is aloof- and if you're that worried about it, talk to girls, trust me, they're easier to get along with than "GRR HULK-SMASH" mentality dudes.

 

[SnootyEnglishman]

Say Hi to people and try to strike up conversations.

 

[WolfEdge]

Im not trying to depress other people, im just keeping to myself until i muster up enough courage do be fucking denied again. All people in high schools are fucking twats and i hope they get what is fucking coming to them.

Ladies and gentlemen, I do believe we've stumbled upon a breakthrough to this problem.

 

[Mr Pantomime]

Find the nicest, quietist person in your class and force yourself upon them.

 

[le picklez]

I've found upperclassmen easier to talk to... maybe its just me.

 

[le picklez]

Find the nicest, quietist person in your class and force yourself upon them.

What if he is the nicest quietest person

 

[Shawshanker]

No offence but this is really lame man...

OT:Um... I don't know. Telling something really random then after you have their attention you go for the killing blow... erm... I mean talk to them. Yes...

 

[tmujir955]

I am depressed. No one at my new school wants to talk to me, and nobody responds when i try to strike up a conversation. It is not like i had any friends before going to my school, but i hoped to turn over a new leaf at the beginning of high school. Since that has gone to shit, how am i going to manage making friends ever?

The way you do it is by adopting a certain trait.

I, for example, am "the funny guy".

So I am not popular.
I am also not unpopular.

I am BEYOND the popularity scale. Seriously. I can float into any conversation, and float out. Make a joke or two, laugh, (hopefully) make everyone else laugh, and leave. (Though I tend to hang out with the unpopulars, because they aren't massive jerks)

Try to adopt a trait of yourself that you like.

BY NO MEANS DOES THAT MEAN YOU SHOULD BECOME A DIFFERENT PERSON.

Look at yourself, and pull out a defining characteristic, and go with it.

If it doesn't work out, sit by yourself at a lunch table near a group of people. If they aren't complete dickheads, at least one of you will invite you to sit with them.

A common joke that I use when I am chatting with someone (particularly the girl I like) and don't have much left to say is , "Sorry, I'm going through my list of conversation topics, and I kind of ran out a minute ago" *nervous chuckle*

If you are not a funny guy, PLEASE don't try to be. Be yourself is the main thing to do.

Also, don't talk about one thing too much (makes you appear to be boring) and don't be clingy to your friends, when you make them. Class is usually the best place to meet someone, like a class project.

Good luck, and have a good game.

 

[AugustFall]

Surely there is some club in your school which plays video games or something you are interested in?
Fuck even my school had a quake club. It was made up of the most socially stunted kids in the school but fuck it they were friends with eachother, what's wrong with that?

 

[2fish]

I am depressed. No one at my new school wants to talk to me, and nobody responds when i try to strike up a conversation. It is not like i had any friends before going to my school, but i hoped to turn over a new leaf at the beginning of high school. Since that has gone to shit, how am i going to manage making friends ever?

I need more intel before I can get you good solid info.

1.Who are you talking to?
2.What are you talking about?
3.How do you approach them?
4.Do you have any examples?



Ok now what to do (generic due to lack of info)

1.Act casual, it is school in a few years it won?t matter anymore

2.Stop worrying it is only holding you back

3.Build you confidence by taking it slow, join clubs/groups that are easy targets

4.Ignore the drama, school is full of drama it means nothing

5.Focus on your goal, make the goal easy then once you have it make a harder one until you
reach your final objective

6.Be cool, in a few years the only person who will remember school with you are yourself and close friends

7.Do NOT try to please everyone

8.Stop moping start moving, ARE YOU MOVING YET?

 

[Darknacht]

Spend less time on the internet and more interacting with real people.

 

[Jfswift]

I think, just continue what you're doing, try to mimic their behavior and interests too. It may take time to make friends though but after you've been there a while they should loosen up. Try out for sports, that might help and practice alot, do the best you can.

 

[Mr Pantomime]

Find the nicest, quietist person in your class and force yourself upon them.

What if he is the nicest quietest person

Wait for someone unpleasent to force themselves on him

 

[KefkaCultist]

Right... I may be of some help.
My freshman year of high school I was friends with absolutely NO ONE at the time because Jr. High was a sad, disappointing 4 years of my life and my only friend had moved away.
During lunch one day I heard this upperclassman at the table behind me talking about something I shared an interest in, in this case it was Magic the Gathering. I approached him in a cool, calm way. Not, "ZOMG YOU PLAY MAGIC TOO!!1!11! WE SHOULD BE FRIENDSIES FOREVER!" just like, "Hey, I heard you talking about playing Magic, what kind of deck do you play?" and from then on I sat at the table and he's one of my best friends to this day.

So I have a list of advice:
-Pay attention to conversations around you and if you hear someone talking about something you're interested in and use it to talk to them in a non-absurdly, annoying way

-Be yourself, don't try acting "cool" to fit in with the "cool" crowd. Most of the time the "cool" kids will see through the ploy and the non-"cool" kids will think you're just a poser. (You're friends shouldn't be chose just to make yourself popular, so be with the "losers" group if you like those guys and don't care about what others think)

-Be nice to people. If someone is into something you're not then deal with it and don't be a dick about it; its their opinion, not yours (one of my friends really dislikes anime and a lot of my favorite bands, but he's a good guy and fun to hang out with)

-Finally, like many others have said, just talk to people like a normal person. I know its hard, I really do but getting past your timidness gives a great feeling. My life motto is "Its better to regret something you did rather than something you didn't do"

I wish you luck, one shy high schooler to another

EDIT: I'd like to add: Don't try showing off to people when you really don't know what you're talking about. Theres a freshman I tried being friends with but he just annoyed me beyond belief because he thought he knew EVERYTHING about rock/metal music yet he confused Five Finger Death Punch with Iron Maiden (and many other things, that's just the one argument I remember)

 

[Still Life]

"How do I get friends?"

You buy it....

... In all seriousness: just be yourself and hang around people with similar interests as yourself.