How Do We Break It To The Mom?

[BlindMessiah94]

You're both in your 20's right? So really I'd say it's time to live your own lives. Parents always disagree with the decisions their kids make. If they are okay with her being bisexual, then I doubt that the announcement that you two are dating (which they probably already have inferred) is going to end their family. Even if it does, it's not your fault. You are allowed to feel how you feel. But ultimately it is your girlfriend's decision to tell her parents. Just support her either way. In the meantime just be mature, be responsible and rational, be an adult.
Prove to them and yourself more importantly that you are a good person and they've got no right to judge you.
Good luck!

 

[JRCB]

Why not become an attention whore and post on forums claiming to be depressed and telling everyone your a lesbian!



wait... nvm.

Uncalled for, dude.

 

[Kamaitachi]

on a more serious note, assuming you are not an attention whore, then don't.

its simple.
Its none of there business, and if they find out, act as if you thought they knew.
Don't and I repeat Don't arrange some kind of formal meeting. You will just cause a bunch of comotion.

 

[ThrobbingEgo]

Er, kinda hard to pull the "I'm an adult, I can do whatever I want" card when you're living under their roof. So long as your girlfriend lives at her parents house and accepts their money, she's got to be civil with them.

Just tell them, but be respectful.

I agree. And although most of the year, she lives at college, there's still summers and breaks. And she definitely still accepts their money, she has tuition to pay and no full-time job. We've talked briefly about the possibility of them kicking her out, but unless it goes horribly, it shouldn't come to that.

The worst part of this, is that I simply don't understand how her parents think. Mine are so different. I have nothing to do with my father, and my mother and I have a completely open, honest relationship, even though we don't talk often.

People are different, and have different relationships with their parents. Heck, different people can have completely different values and views. Something you take for granted could boggle another person's mind. You're probably already familiar with this.

You've just got to hope that they respect their daughter enough to let her make her own choices.

 

[pickleweasel785]

Why not become an attention whore and post on forums claiming to be depressed and telling everyone your a lesbian!



wait... nvm.

Why not be an asshole and claim that people have no idea about their own lives!

wait... nvm.

 

[theironbat46]

Situation: I'm a lesbian, my girlfriend is bi. Her parents know this. They knew we were really close friends and have been worried that we'd start dating. They don't have an issue with gays or lesbians, far from it. They have an issue with me. They met me a few months ago and simply don't like me. I have depression and they fear the worst of it. They don't give me credit for the good I've done, and they don't trust their daughter enough to let her make her own decisions. We're dating, but she wants them to know before it gets too serious.

Also, her parents are a little overbearing. This morning marks the third time they've called ME to find her. And no, I didn't give them my number.

Any advice on how to break the news to them?

Ok, If you and your girlfriend are serious and really love each other, just face it, tell her to tell her mom that she loves you. Maybe you could ask what exactly do they think you do wrong? Then work on it.

 

[Indecizion]

Tell them but leave them for a few days after you do so that they have some time to get over the shock of it then have them to a public place like dinner and discuss it, public so it decreases the chance of RAGE lol.

 

[omega 616]

Do what guys do, nod and smile.

The more your nice to her, the more she looks like witch or she changes.

If she has already made up her mind about you then it will be hard to change it, if your girlfriend loves you then it shouldn't be a problem.

 

[AndyFromMonday]

Why not become an attention whore and post on forums claiming to be depressed and telling everyone your a lesbian!



wait... nvm.

Uncalled for, dude.

Actually, it was called for. If she can't think and reach a conclusion then why did she come on a website asking others to create an opinion for her?

 

[Kamaitachi]

Why not become an attention whore and post on forums claiming to be depressed and telling everyone your a lesbian!



wait... nvm.

Why not be an asshole and claim that people have no idea about their own lives!

wait... nvm.

I didn't ask for advice, but thanks anyway!

you know nothing about your own life

 

[Kamaitachi]

Why not become an attention whore and post on forums claiming to be depressed and telling everyone your a lesbian!



wait... nvm.

Uncalled for, dude.

Actually, it was called for. If she can't think and reach a conclusion then why did she come on a website asking others to create an opinion for her?

You put into words what I put into joke form.
therefore, I like you.

 

[Trivun]

Why not become an attention whore and post on forums claiming to be depressed and telling everyone your a lesbian!



wait... nvm.

Despite your subsequent post that actually gave some advice, that was still a really immature comment. Why don't you grow up and actually post something useful and responsible, instead of just becoming a, how did you put it? Oh yes. 'Attention whore'. Because that's all people who post stupid replies like that are. Attention whores. Consider yourself reported.

Mods, if you disagree with this post, please let me know and I will happily edit it.

 

[ThrobbingEgo]

Why not become an attention whore and post on forums claiming to be depressed and telling everyone your a lesbian!



wait... nvm.

Why not be an asshole and claim that people have no idea about their own lives!

wait... nvm.

Eh, to be fair, this probably isn't the best place to ask for relationship advice.

There are a few forums I frequent that would give decent advice for the OP. Student.com's forums have fairly sensible advice-givers.

Just stay the fack away from anything resembling a debate thread.

 

[AndyFromMonday]

therefore, I like you.

D'awwww, I like myself to baby.

 

[Deleted]

Holy crap a Lesbian is talking to me. Well not to me directly but in my general direction.

Okay keep calm, keep calm, she's not attracted to you. Don't worry, don't ask for pics don't ask for pics don't as-

... uhm. My advice is to screw the parents and keep making hot lesbian love. DAMMIT

 

[dont_blink]

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that's hot
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ah no really though, if you have to tell them, just tell them. it's the only way to do it. if your girlfriend's insistent that they know, you'd better tell them.
but if she knows that they dont like you, and that it could potentially pull the two of you apart, i dont see why she's so eager to tell them...

 

[grimsprice]

on a more serious note, assuming you are not an attention whore, then don't.

its simple.
Its none of there business, and if they find out, act as if you thought they knew.
Don't and I repeat Don't arrange some kind of formal meeting. You will just cause a bunch of comotion.

Your opinion is voided by your previous post. So gtfo.

OT: Maybe you can just take it easy until you're both done with college.

My experience with love is that if it is indeed true, then its a mental bond you can pick up several years down the road, dust it off, and carry on. You shouldn't have a problem cooling off, and taking a few years to get your education finished. Once you're both out on your own, you can tell them whats going on.

 

[Asturiel]

This is quite the predicament. My best advice to deal with her mother is to give it to her plain and simple. You and her are going to go out, and try to keep it slow. If it goes way too fast then their parents might have reason to be wary. If thing's go really badly with her folks, time will heal the wounds.