how do you feel about being judged on your looks?

[Vault101]

Cognitive bias.

Everything you described is exactly the same for men, you just don't notice it as much because you're not looking for it.

some of what I was trying to explain is better explained in this article http://www.cracked.com/article_19785_5-ways-modern-men-are-trained-to-hate-women.html (yes, I know crakced articles should always be taken with a grain of salt)

thing is..I disagree...its not "exactally" the same for men and women in alot of circumstnces (not just the one were talking about here)..we are different, like different things

 

[Helmholtz Watson]

I see, so its more of a social requirement that women look their best?

yeah...girls are generally expected to put more effort into their looks than guys...

or one hting i notice is you have an "average' looking guy with a beautiful women (again generally in the celebrity side of things) ..but the other way round? do you ever see that?

To be far though, as a straight guy, any time I put serious effort into my looks or think about plastic surgery, I catch crap for it and I'm asked if I'm really gay. -_-

I think it sucks on both ends, girls get shit if they don't put effort into their looks and guys get shit if try to put effort into their looks.

Spoiler: I wish that I could look like this

 

[Zeema]

i don't like being judged on my looks, im overly skinny and my body language makes me out to be really scared all the time.

 

[gritch]

Judging others by their looks is something we as humans do involuntarily. When we first meet someone the first thing we notice is their appearance and their mannerisms. We then subconsciously produce an impression of that person, our minds genetically disposed to pick out potential warning signs and react before they become actual dangers to our well being.

From a survival standpoint this is a very useful skill to have developed and as such it is quite necessary for the serviceability of a species as a whole. I would reason that many animals of higher intelligence are capable of "judging other by their appearance". But what I firmly believe is the difference between humans (or rather sentient beings in general) and animals is the ability to override these basic instincts when they in fact are no longer advantageous.

The saying "don't judge a book by its cover" readily comes to mind. The ability to override instinctive reactions to sensory input is what we as humans excel at. Some examples would be willingly taking bitter or even moderately harmful medication. Despite our sensory information telling us not to ingest that funny liquid or that pill that makes us feel sick, we understand it has benefits and so we ingest away.

But I digress terribly from the topic here. If there's one thing someone should take from my pseudo-scientific rant it's that people are always going to judge each other by their appearances, but what's more important is as human beings is that we should be able to look past these outer appearance. Looking beyond the surface of things and into what really matters is what truly being a human is about.

 

[Vault101]

Cognitive bias.

Everything you described is exactly the same for men, you just don't notice it as much because you're not looking for it.

some of what I was trying to explain is better explained in this article http://www.cracked.com/article_19785_5-ways-modern-men-are-trained-to-hate-women.html (yes, I know crakced articles should always be taken with a grain of salt)

thing is..I disagree...its not "exactally" the same for men and women in alot of circumstnces (not just the one were talking about here)..we are different, like different things

I've read that article before and it's just plain horrible.

You can disagree all you want but it doesn't matter. There's just as much pressure on guys to look good as there is on girls.

yes....buuuuuuut

I think generally speaking guys can get away with not putting as much effort into their apearnce, more so than women

our prime minister isnt popular.. due to how shes running the country...yet people still comment on her looks as well as her policies..you cant tell its the same if its a guy

 

[SovietSecrets]

Don't care really. Skinny tattooed kid with acne. Been judged to hell and back and its all meh to me. Porn doesn't judge me so its okay!

 

[Fiz_The_Toaster]

I don't even care anymore to be honest.

Perhaps years ago I would've care and be incredibly self-conscious about what I've worn when I left the house, and would've been completely bothered when I hear criticism about my clothing choice. I bothers me a little now, but not as much as it use to. If anyone does it now will most likely be told to 'fuck off' and 'tell that to someone who actually cares', and I will most likely judge them for that.

I don't wear makeup since I'm incredibly lazy when it comes to that, I'm slightly over weight, and I kinda come off as intimidating, and it really irritates me since there's not a whole lot I can do about the latter. I've heard just about everything about myself and at this point it just becomes tiresome.

I kinda judge people but that can't be helped since that's how we're wired, and sometimes that's a major thing to ignore when you actually talk to the person that you judged. It's a terrible excuse, but that's how things work sadly.

 

[Brandon237]

I was told that I had the appearance of a cereal killer and if they were to see me at night they'd run the other direction.

I guess thats why I'm a loner..

A CEREAL killer?! Does he crunch the poor stuff without milk and say sadistic things as the lifeless wheat husks crunch in the darkest recesses of his cereal-slaughtering maw? Because that is pretty fucking scary!

I do have a friend who some say is a serial-killer look-a-like, he wears all black and grey clothes with hoodies and lives in Windsor, a really dodgy neighbourhood I am also sometimes told be people that at first they thought I was scary, then they chat a bit, think I am funny and not at all scary, many conversations later they once again realise that I am a scary mutha-fucka

 

[Relish in Chaos]

Due to me already being insecure about my appearance and race, I fucking hate it.

 

[Broady Brio]

I don't always get judged by my looks,[footnote]This is a rarity.[/footnote] but when I do, they tend to be ugly motherfuckers themselves.

Either they look like they been on a crack binge with rockstars, with their beady eyes, early-age wrinkles they shouldn't get until they're 50 and 70% being bitter, bald men or caked on 7 layers of makeup who sleep with multiple people at the same time. Should I really give a fuck about what these kind of people think?

 

[Zack Alklazaris]

I see, so its more of a social requirement that women look their best?

yeah...girls are generally expected to put more effort into their looks than guys...

or one hting i notice is you have an "average' looking guy with a beautiful women (again generally in the celebrity side of things) ..but the other way round? do you ever see that?

Other way around? You mean a good looking guy with the average woman? Yea I've seen a few of them. I love those type of relationships because it drives the "hard working to look good" women crazy.

 

[Total LOLige]

I've been told I'm quite handsome, I can't see it when I look in the mirror myself. I'm quite pale I hope to change that by going cycling in the two week holiday I've got, if the scottish weather stays nice. I'd say my strongest feature is my jaw and my chin, I have a dimple chin. I dress in band T-shirts and jeans. Sometimes I wonder how strangers in the street rate me, and if people I catch looking are checking me out or if they're amazed that such a grotesque human being walks the earth.

You could say I judge people on their looks, my friends often ask how I would rate girls walking past. If you register as a 6 you'd still have a chance with me(that sounds awful). If somone like sloth from The Goonies were to talk to me I wouldn't recoil in horror and shout kill it with fire, I would talk to them. I don't judge anyones personality by their looks.

I don't mind being judged on my looks because I don't particularly make an effort. The only reason I'm trying to un-pale my skin is because it's unhealthy to continue my current stereotypical gamer lifestyle.

 

[ThePS1Fan]

I don't care. If people don't want to talk to me or whatever based on how I look good for them I have better things to do than care about what everyone thinks of me.

 

[ace_of_something]

There's no way to say it without sounding conceited but I am well aware most of my family is good looking in the traditional sense.
It's good for me since my job requires me to interact with people. Being attractive helps people trust you, respect you and just find you approachable. Though I'm pretty tall which scares some people and very white which also scares some people.
I've read having high cheekbones makes people think you're a liar.

 

[Relish in Chaos]

There's just as much pressure on guys to look good as there is on girls.

lolwut

No offence, but that's bullshit. How come the amount of female objectification in society and the media largely outweighs the miniscule amount of male objectification mostly prevalent in...well, hardly anything?

How come there are so many magazines primarily aimed at teenage girls which brainwashes them into thinking that size-zero bodies and a spot-free face is the only thing that should matter them? How come there are even teenage boy-oriented magazines, such as Nuts and Zoo, that are largely compromised of naked girls grabbing their tits?

How come females are the only gender that it's socially acceptable to wear make-up? Why is it that so many girls are pressured to wear make-up and minidresses when they go out to nightclubs, when all that's required for men is a plain shirt and jeans?

 

[Vault101]

You could say I judge people on their looks, my friends often ask how I would rate girls walking past. If you register as a 6 you'd still have a chance with me(that sounds awful). If somone like sloth from The Goonies were to talk to me I wouldn't recoil in horror and shout kill it with fire, I would talk to them. I don't judge anyones personality by their looks.

I don't mind being judged on my looks because I don't particularly make an effort. The only reason I'm trying to un-pale my skin is because it's unhealthy to continue my current stereotypical gamer lifestyle.

I think the "attractiveness" rating scale is almost as skewed as the game reveiw rating scale

most people will rate themselfs a 5 or 6 when being modest (7 if they feel so inclined) if you go buy the logic that 10 is "super model godess" and 5 is just avergae..you have SO mnay people belving they are above avergae

the fact is no one wants to be ugly

it also relates to the thing of your brain photoshopping your face when you look in the mirror..so no doubt peopel will over rate themselfs

personally when I look in the mirror Im a 5 or 6 (if I'm feel good about myself) when I see my true reflection Im a 4....they look so different to me...

but..backto my original question..what doed trying to "un-pale" your skin have to do with your lifestyle?