how do you feel about being judged on your looks?

[Galletea]

We do judge people based on their looks whether we want to or not, you can attempt to reserve judgement but what you really mean is that you're prepared to have your first impression turned on it's head. I think that in a few years you'll probably learn to only make yourself look good because it makes you feel good, and not because you're concerned about what other people think.

I think that it is somewhat harder for women, because we have more pressure on us to look good, from media influences and clothing stores, while men can do the 'I slept on the floor/in the car' chic, it really just makes girls look rough. I'm not saying that men have it easier in terms of being judged based on appearances but there are more pre-placed ideas about what a woman's appearance says about her, created from exaggerations from the media.

I am fully aware that people are constantly judging me based on my appearance, that is what people do, I am a tall confident woman wearing bright eye make up so people do notice me, especially at work. I only really care when I know I look a mess, and that's more about being comfortable than worrying about what others think. I don't pay it any attention most of the time, I know when I look good, and if other people don't agree, well why should I give a shit? I'm not trying to impress strangers.

 

[kurupt87]

I'm a guy so not the target demographic for this thread. However, I do have a video that is somewhat related to the subject and probably gets my opinion across better than I ever could.

Spoiler

 

[Total LOLige]

You could say I judge people on their looks, my friends often ask how I would rate girls walking past. If you register as a 6 you'd still have a chance with me(that sounds awful). If somone like sloth from The Goonies were to talk to me I wouldn't recoil in horror and shout kill it with fire, I would talk to them. I don't judge anyones personality by their looks.

I don't mind being judged on my looks because I don't particularly make an effort. The only reason I'm trying to un-pale my skin is because it's unhealthy to continue my current stereotypical gamer lifestyle.

I think the "attractiveness" rating scale is almost as skewed as the game reveiw rating scale

most people will rate themselfs a 5 or 6 when being modest (7 if they feel so inclined) if you go buy the logic that 10 is "super model godess" and 5 is just avergae..you have SO mnay people belving they are above avergae

the fact is no one wants to be ugly

it also relates to the thing of your brain photoshopping your face when you look in the mirror..so no doubt peopel will over rate themselfs

personally when I look in the mirror Im a 5 or 6 (if I'm feel good about myself) when I see my true reflection Im a 4....they look so different to me...

but..backto my original question..what doed trying to "un-pale" your skin have to do with your lifestyle?

Well I'm sat inside playing videogames 85% of the time, and this means I have pale skin due to a lack of sunlight. I need to get out more so I don't get a lack of vitamin D illness like rickets.

 

[gazumped]

I never cared about my looks until I decided I wanted a partner (which, to be fair, was back when I was 16). I am very thankful that I'm a decent looking gal and haven't had a huge amount of trouble pulling guys.
I only decided I might start trying make-up last week (I'm 22 now) as a compliment to my gothy/punky dress style (so only heavy eye make-up, really), but I'm pretty rubbish at putting it on at the moment so it just kind of makes me look like a Victorian prostitute...

Outside of dating, I find that being halfway attractive doesn't do much for me in social interactions. The popular/trendy people at my uni can sniff out my nerdy awkwardness and avoid me no matter how pretty I'm looking.

 

[Mayhaps]

Other than people telling me to get a haircut I and that I'm skinny I don't know what people think of me, but that's coming from friends, I don't know what people think of me at first sight.

The only times girls compliment my looks is when they've had a few drinks, I guess that's better than them secretly hating the way I look and start letting it out when they start losing control of their tongue.

As for myself I certainly think about how other people look, both male and females, but I'd say I make more assumptions about the personality of males than females.

 

[Moonlight Butterfly]

I hate it, I really do.

I know what you mean about the women thing. It's such a big deal that you look perfect 24-7 frankly I couldn't give a damn as long as I look clean and tidy.

It's like someone asking the people on this website to care about x factor or something.

 

[OmniscientOstrich]

Apathetic. Although I probably don't want to be bothered with people who will judge me by my looks.

I do love it when someone puts forth an opinion close enough to my own that I can just swoop in and leech off it. :3

 

[Daverson]

I'm not attractive, I know this. It's good to know this, because if someone says you are, then you know they're trying to get something from you! D=

In general though, I've been told I look quite intimidating, which I useful, I guess! If people want to be intimidated by me, why not let them? =D

 

[Cheesus333]

No-one really seems to judge my appearance, to be honest. Well... that seems like a stupid thing to say, actually - what I mean is that no-one announces their judgment of my appearance.

I think I look okay, and that's absolutely good enough for me.

 

[Gunjester]

I'm a tall, thin guy with large eyes and pronounced features (i.e. my nose, eyes, mouth seem to be a bit big for my head)
From what I've heard I'm about average, like a 6 or a 7.
So I don't really care when people judge me.

 

[Sehnsucht Engel]

I think it happens a lot to me, where people think I want to get attention, because of how I look. I used to have a septum piercing, now I have long hair that's dyed in two colors. I don't want attention, I want to differentiate from every other boring person. I don't give a damn if someone dislikes or likes how I look.

It's funny, because I have a guy friend, who says he gets more negative comments about how he looks from other guys than from girls. He's not gay though and as far as I know, neither were they... So why do they care?

I also wear glasses, but those who can't look past that doesn't have much intelligence to begin with.

 

[xXGeckoXx]

Meh fuck looks. I dress by whatever I feel like wearing (mostly hawaiian shirts) or whatever I have to wear for the occasion.

I once in a while look in the mirror and ask myself "do I look ridiculous?" and if the answer is no I am good to go.

 

[Zyrocz]

It doesn't bother me.
Personally I try to judge people based on how they are behaving and what they are saying. I will admit though that sometimes I judge someone based on their looks.

When I see young wannabe gangsters walking around with their pants down on their knees, I usually think "these guys must be a bunch of stupid assholes".

When I see people put up pictures with stupid poses on their facebook walls, I usually think "what a bunch of idiots".

When I see people applyiing make up, hair gels etc. etc., I usually think "what a bunch of insecure idiots".

 

[RaikuFA]

I hate it, I've been judged ever since I was in Grade school just because I was... different.

If you judge someone solely on looks, you deserve to see only ugliness and be alone for the rest of your life unless you change your attitude.

 

[spartan231490]

I have no problem with being judged by my looks. I judge other people by their looks, I accept the fact that they will do the same to me.

 

[Muspelheim]

I haven't had the money to get a proper haircut for a good while, or the energy to care for it properly, so it's an absolute mess. I understand perfectly well why I'd be judged based on that. Sucks, perhaps, but it's how things works, everyone pass some form of judgment, conscious or not, about others depending on how the appear.

Of course, giving someone a chance until you've had the chance to actually meet them is a good idea, either it'll prove or disprove your judgment and all is well.

 

[Axyun]

As a consultant, I'm meeting new clients every few months after I finish a project. Presentation, regardless of my knowledge or skills in the field, is a big factor. My skills land me the contract but my initial presentation opens the door. If I don't look the part, I don't get the opportunity to wow them.

I think you can see where I'm going with this.

"Being me" isn't good enough when I'm interviewing. I have to be "me" and be presentable, professional, intelligent, trust-worthy and reliable amongst other things. Few people are all these things at all times of the day. Yet, that's what I have to demonstrate before I get my hands dirty and show them what I can do.

You are always being judged. By everyone. All the time. For a billion different factors. I don't believe anyone for a second that they don't judge people by their looks. You might not actively do so but you bet your ass you do so subconsciously.

For those whose problem is being overweight, you have it easy. Lose the weight. I was bordering 200Lbs at one point. I decided to do something about it and my last weight-in a week ago clocked me in at 159. I've gone from being ignored to turning some heads. Being fat is the easiest kind of "unattractive" (some people do like that or truly don't mind it) to address. It's still hard work, but it is completely within your control.

 

[Something Amyss]

Apathetic. Although I probably don't want to be bothered with people who will judge me by my looks.

I do love it when someone puts forth an opinion close enough to my own that I can just swoop in and leech off it. :3

Thief! Thief! I feel violated! I need an adult!

>.>

 

[Jaeke]

I don't really mind HOW I look. I don't even mind if people point something out about me as long as they give me a chance to respond to it, and if they don't repeat it OVER and OVER and OVER again.