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ScatterBen

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Furious Styles said:
I'm at uni in my first year, days seem to be either great or horrible. Today was alright, i met my tutor group for the first time and we had fun in team building exercises. Other days have made me really depressed and homesick. i suppose things will get better as i make more friends and socialise more, but at present I'm pretty down on the whole thing. Its not that i'm not making friends and getting along, today I had a good half hour chat with the romanian girl across the hall and am friendly with a number of the people where i live, but i'm still homesick and depressed despite this.

I know it'll pass, but its not easy. i don't think i've ever been on the verge of tears so often for such a long period in my whole life.
I'm in the same boat, but like you say, I know it'll get better with time.

As for the topic at hand, I'm just starting my Law course at LSE so I'm pretty apprehensive about that: I'm worried I won't be good enough and that I'm going to struggle to stay on top of all of the work; it's a well known fact that Law is a difficult subject with a high work-load, but I'm unsure about the extent of those things. Then on top of that I have the problems of meeting new people and learning to call a new place home, which is always difficult.

Mostly, though, I'm concerned about falling out of touch with my old friends, and one in particular. We're probably best friends, even while he was at uni last year and I wasn't, but he's barely spoken to me since I started last weekend, despite me making several attempts over ol' Facey-B, but to no avail. It's weird to say this when talking about male friends, but I don't want to keep at my attempts at the risk of coming off "needy" but then I also don't want to ask him outright about it when it's genuinely possible that nothing's up: he's just pressed for time these days and thinks I won't mind if he doesn't reply to every little thing I say to him. Am I being a little *****, or what?

Edit: I should point out that, while I am worried and concerned, I'm in an alright mood. I know things will get better and the stuff with my friend will no doubt blow over. I thought this was important because I didn't want it to come off as one of those depressive posts - I'm feeling fairly optimistic and excited about my situation as well as all the other stuff.
 

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Mr.Pandah said:
Why not Marter? Your pikachu looks so happy...just tell us ya damn attention seeker. =P
The Pikachu is there to make others feel happy.

And no, not trying for attention, just answering the OP's question.

I'm not quite sure why I feel bad though. I've got a few ideas, but I'm not sure as of yet. Therefore, no explanation.
 

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Marter said:
Mr.Pandah said:
Why not Marter? Your pikachu looks so happy...just tell us ya damn attention seeker. =P
The Pikachu is there to make others feel happy.

And no, not trying for attention, just answering the OP's question.

I'm not quite sure why I feel bad though. I've got a few ideas, but I'm not sure as of yet. Therefore, no explanation.
Its alright, I'm just messing with you anyway.

I've had plenty of times like that recently where I just don't whats under my skin, but whatever it is freakin' sucks. Sooner or later you'll figure it out.
 

InnerRebellion

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Depressed.

Why? Well, my ex girlfriend has now suddenly started dating a guy she just met an hour ago.

Oh and because I found out my schizophrenia is getting worse.
 

Furious Styles

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ScatterBen said:
I'm in the same boat, but like you say, I know it'll get better with time.

As for the topic at hand, I'm just starting my Law course at LSE so I'm pretty apprehensive about that: I'm worried I won't be good enough and that I'm going to struggle to stay on top of all of the work; it's a well known fact that Law is a difficult subject with a high work-load, but I'm unsure about the extent of those things. Then on top of that I have the problems of meeting new people and learning to call a new place home, which is always difficult.

Mostly, though, I'm concerned about falling out of touch with my old friends, and one in particular. We're probably best friends, even while he was at uni last year and I wasn't, but he's barely spoken to me since I started last weekend, despite me making several attempts over ol' Facey-B, but to no avail. It's weird to say this when talking about male friends, but I don't want to keep at my attempts at the risk of coming off "needy" but then I also don't want to ask him outright about it when it's genuinely possible that nothing's up: he's just pressed for time these days and thinks I won't mind if he doesn't reply to every little thing I say to him. Am I being a little *****, or what?
I'm doing law at Southampton (the good one), my tutor told me they expect a 40 hour work week! I don't know what the law course is like at LSE (I'd imagine even more strenuous given how highly ranked it is) but jesus h tap dancing christ. that's 23 hours a week of reading on top of my lectures. I'm a lazy bum, this could pose a problem.

i can't imagine falling out of contact with my friends, we were a fairly close group of about seven or eight and we were the same people in that group for seven or eight years. Even if we don't talk as often as we would, we'll definitely meet up at christmas and communicate on facebook.

For me, meeting new people isn't the problem. i can talk to people just fine and have already made some potential friends (like to hold off on calling them friend for a while, its only been a week so nothing's set in stone friendwise), but maintaining those friendships is the hard part. If I bump into someone or they come to me I'm fine, we talk, get on well, laugh, joke etc. But as for actually knocking on their door and putting myself out there? Not so much. I'm going to have to get over that hang up. Maybe i will when we get to be better friends, but right now it seems a bit... like you said, needy.

And like you said, getting to call this place home is going to be a hurdle. I've only moved house once prior to this; i was set in my ways and my surroundings, burrowed in like a contented.... burrowing thing (you know what i mean) so I am really quite homesick and waaaaay outside my comfort zone.
 

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Furious Styles said:
Limie said:
I'm halfway through freshers week at the moment so I know where you're coming from. Don't worry if you ever feel lonely there is always the escapist.

Anyway I feel really on edge at the moment for reason above.

Edit: felt a little better as i've finally got around to finish Dante's inferno.
I did leave my xbox, ps3 and TV at home, that may have played a role in my mood :)

But seriously, there's a guy down the hall who likes all the same stuff as me and who i get on great with (he and I went for a pint at the campus pub then saw iron man 2 at the uni cinema, it was a good evening), i get on with almost everyone else pretty well really and am doing fine as far as I'm aware. That's what makes it annoying, there's no real reason for me to be so down.

I think maybe its because I don't like clubbing, so feel like a bit of a weird recluse when they ask me, "You coming?" And I say, "I think I'm going to sit this one out, but have a good time." Then spend the evening in my bleak little room watching family guy on my laptop.

c'est la vie

Anyway how's your freshers going (wherever you are)? (see, newfound uni friendliness)
i don't like clubbing either, to be honest i'd rather have a drink in a pub so you talk and get to know people as opposed to shouting yourself hoarse asking someone their name, whilst dodging the piles of sick. My vice isn't family guy it's the inbetweeners.
 

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Limie said:
i don't like clubbing either, to be honest i'd rather have a drink in a pub so you talk and get to know people as opposed to shouting yourself hoarse asking someone their name, whilst dodging the piles of sick. My vice isn't family guy it's the inbetweeners.
Same here, how can you make friends when you can't even hear yourself speak, let alone them? Pubs are the best, the best night I've had thus far (barring the first night when I got too titfaced to have a bad time) was the night in the pub with my neighbour and then watching iron man. That's more me than any of these obnoxious freshers events.

And its not that family guy's my vice, it was just the dvd boxset I decided to get through first. i still have arrested development and the mighty boosh, as well as any I may get when i go home at reading week.
 

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i feel fantastic as per usual, not only does everything work out for me but i have the personallity to appreciate how lucky i am.
 

Limie

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Furious Styles said:
Limie said:
i don't like clubbing either, to be honest i'd rather have a drink in a pub so you talk and get to know people as opposed to shouting yourself hoarse asking someone their name, whilst dodging the piles of sick. My vice isn't family guy it's the inbetweeners.
Same here, how can you make friends when you can't even hear yourself speak, let alone them? Pubs are the best, the best night I've had thus far (barring the first night when I got too titfaced to have a bad time) was the night in the pub with my neighbour and then watching iron man. That's more me than any of these obnoxious freshers events.

And its not that family guy's my vice, it was just the dvd boxset I decided to get through first. i still have arrested development and the mighty boosh, as well as any I may get when i go home at reading week.
My money's going on textbooks and Fable 3 (don't judge me harshly) so no boxsets and it's good to see that someone else doesn't particularly think freshers events are the be all and end all of your first week at uni. I'm not saying they are bad they are just not my sorta thing.
 

ScatterBen

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Furious Styles said:
Limie said:
i don't like clubbing either, to be honest i'd rather have a drink in a pub so you talk and get to know people as opposed to shouting yourself hoarse asking someone their name, whilst dodging the piles of sick. My vice isn't family guy it's the inbetweeners.
Same here, how can you make friends when you can't even hear yourself speak, let alone them? Pubs are the best, the best night I've had thus far (barring the first night when I got too titfaced to have a bad time) was the night in the pub with my neighbour and then watching iron man. That's more me than any of these obnoxious freshers events.

And its not that family guy's my vice, it was just the dvd boxset I decided to get through first. i still have arrested development and the mighty boosh, as well as any I may get when i go home at reading week.
Christ I am identical. In fact, they're all out now because, at LSE, Wednesday is a free day (though I have an hour lecture at 12). If I had a free day I'd not want to spend it hungover for fucks sake.

I also went out the first night, got wasted and had a good time. But I spent way too much. Since then I went out a couple of times with the people I'd met but hated it because I didn't want to be hungover (pussy, I know) and didn't drink. I did go and see some of my Belgium friends on Saturday, though, and that really lifted my spirits.

In response to your other post, I too have met some people I could potentially call "friend" and I too can't bring myself to really do so and just show up at peoples doors. Shit, only one person knows where my room is, and I only just added anyone on Facebook, which is pretty embarrassing, even for me. I'm not exactly a social recluse, I'm just pretty anti-social and enjoy my own space.

Edit: Also, Arrested Development = the funniest show ever made.
 
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I'm in the same boat as you. I've just started my first year of sixth form. My business studies book is open next to me and I'm here, I've spent most of the day procrastinating my late[footnote]Teacher was ill or some shit, I enjoy footnotes[/footnote] history work.

I feel like I should be working as it's due in in a matter of hours now and it's only half complete. *Sigh*

But usually, I feel fucking awesome, I have done all day up till now. I felt bad last week because I wanted my lass back but that was sorted by an artist switch to Foo Fighters, so yeah... awesome.
 

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ScatterBen said:
Christ I am identical. In fact, they're all out now because, at LSE, Wednesday is a free day (though I have an hour lecture at 12). If I had a free day I'd not want to spend it hungover for fucks sake.

I also went out the first night, got wasted and had a good time. But I spent way too much. Since then I went out a couple of times with the people I'd met but hated it because I didn't want to be hungover (pussy, I know) and didn't drink. I did go and see some of my Belgium friends on Saturday, though, and that really lifted my spirits.

In response to your other post, I too have made some people I could potentially call "friend" and I too can't bring myself to really do so and just show up at peoples doors. Shit, only one person knows where my room is, and I only just added anyone on Facebook, which is pretty embarrassing, even for me. I'm not exactly a social recluse, I'm just pretty anti-social and enjoy my own space.

Edit: Also, Arrested Development = the funniest show ever made.
Doing a work-intense subject like law, i think the smart move would be to turn up to lectures and such not, nursing a hangover. Looking at my timetable i'll have 9-5 days and a hell of a lot of reading and self study but it's all worth it in the end.
 

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FargoDog said:
Depressed and tired.

I'm not going to bore anyone with the 'why' though.
I want to know. I'm here for you.
OT: Exhausted, but determined. Recently I talked someone out of suicide and that feels pretty great.
 

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I'm good. I just finished my workout for today (minus situps, leg raises and crunches - but did an extra 4x12 set of hammer curls).

Playing FIFA 11 at the moment (got it in the post today) and I'm enjoying it somewhat.

I'm going to go to bed shortly so I can be up early and have a decent (I hope) sleep.

[Added]

Oh I need to write what exercises I did down too! *me does that*
 

Gardenia

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Depressed, but not as bad as it has been over the past 3 years. I'm actually seeing "light at the end of the tunnel"
Now, if I could only know if that light was a train or not...
 

Serenegoose

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I'm not really on top form at the moment. There's no reason for it, which makes it feel worse than it is, because at least being depressed about something has a kind of sense to it - being depressed because it's a neurochemical reaction is just uncool. I guess maybe I'm just a little more irritated about something than I thought I was? I hope that's the explanation. Probably just angry at world of tanks, heh.
 

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I'm pissed at how EA only changed the name of Taliban to OPFOR, I mean, they still act/look like the Taliban! Gah! People are idiots.