How do you handle bullies?

[InvisibleSeal]

I've never been a bully or bullied, so I probably wouldn't understand completely how you feel, but please please don't use violence.
If you do, either they will retaliate, or, if they are a coward, which most bullies are, they will tell the teacher.

You should try to tell the teacher, even though it sounds weird or cowardly.
Also, tell any of your friends. I did read that you couldn't tell those particular friends, so another option could be to try and talk to other people in your class, who will probably have realised what is going on. If you get them involved in your welfare, there are more likely to be more people who will stand up for you and make you feel more secure.
Another thing you could do is tell your parents

 

[Pigletdude]

Dude I don't wanna interrogate you, but do you have plenty of friends at school? If I was being picked on, and for some reason I didn't fight back, my friends would step in and completely own the bully. Friends who won't stick up for you aren't really your friends, as old fashioned as it sounds.

 

[Lexodus]

Oh, and also, if you get into a proper fight you can always piss on him. I remember once, when the boys' bathrooms were full, a dick tried to pull my friend away from the urinal, and when he grabbed him, my friend just let it fly. Gawd, that was hilarious!

 

[Animated Rope]

I was bullied until about midway through grade 8. how it came to an end was really rather easy.

Bully's only pick on those who don;t fight back. Seriously, even if you get your ass kicked spazz out on the fricken guy. Throw as many punches as you can as fast as you can. if you win, problem solved, if you lose, problem STILL solved cause there are ppl who are easier to pick on around.

Trust me - If I had a camera around me at all times throughout high school I would have enough footage to create a video called "When nerds attack", I've seen so many "cool guys" get their asses handed to them by smaller little dudes just because they were so angry nothing could stop them.

I say that's actually a good idea. I used to have a friend who people liked to pick on for either being fat, or looking like a girl because of his long hair. He always responded with firm arrogance and "I don't hive a flip" attitude, or simply pushed them away. So he was never actually bullied. It wasn't worth the effort or they were just unable to.

I'd like to see those videos. ><

 

[sneak_copter]

Just tell the teacher. You used to kick him, he's affecting you now. Either that, or hit him really, really hard. Please note, I neither endorse nor encourage the latter option. Because it's not like it would be fun or satisfying to do, nor could you apply his circle logic back on him...

I do endorse said violent option. Sometimes all people need is to be put in thier place.

But don't just listen to me, kid. Listen to the sensible people. Your parents, teachers etc.

 

[Arkhangelsk]

With excessive and often inappropriate levels of violence.

I say this. People used to give me crap all the time I don't really care, There options don't mean a thing to me, One of them went too far talking about crap he really doesn't know about. I have a hell of a temper just I never lose it, Yeah Wall + Face = Satisfying.

Seriously.

And OP, if you can't beat him in a fair fight, don't.
Fight dirty. Kick him in the groin. Punch him in the throat.
Do whatever it takes to make sure the other guy doesn't get up.

Yeah, but then there's the problem that he, like many, will cry for the teacher at any threat. And then they'll yell at me like I'm the bad guy. Someone told me to be able to take some shit from the teachers. But in the kind of school I go in, real violence rarely occurs, so I'll get the yell that'll reach Minnesota.

 

[marcus75]

Even if you can't "win", fighting back still deters most bullies because they only want to pick on easy targets. Sure, you'll probably take one thrashing, maybe a couple, but would you rather carry some bumps and bruises for a couple of weeks or keep reliving the current situation until graduation?

Typical schoolyard bullies - and the way you describe it, that's all this person is - aren't bullies because they enjoy being physically superior, they're in it because they get off on being feared. Whether or not you can or can't beat the bully is irrelevant, as long as you can establish that you're not afraid of them they'll have to look elsewhere for their satisfaction.

 

[MBFCPresident]

It seems that there are two schools of thought on this subject. 1) Tell a teacher 2) Kick his ass. You've already stated that the latter is not feasible at the present time also the former is not always effective. My two cents: use a discreet weapon if you can or failing that, take up some sort of legal contact sport/activity, preferably endorsed by the school. No matter what your teachers may say, violence IS sometimes the answer. Most times, if you ask me.

 

[Chipperz]

Sit near him and then, when it starts (and it WILL start), put up your hand and pipe up loud enough for the class to hear;

"Miss? Can I move? [Cuntface McCumbucket] keeps touching me..."

Keep doing it in every class. Take EVERY opportunity to question his sexuality, set him up with the token effeminite guy (if you don't know them personally, PAY them to act interested), tell all your mates how you saw gay porn in his locker, plant gay porn in his locker, keep making references to getting buttfucked and then say "of course, I wouldn't know what that feels like, fill us in, [Cuntface]!", ask if he only likes his favourite sports stars because of their 'big, muscly arms'.

Now, I have no problem with gay dudes, but bullies in their mid-teens hate it. He'll probably step up his campaign against you, but just keep coming up with more direct and inventive ways to out him.


This doesn't work if he IS gay, so you may have to do some recon first, 'cos he does sound like he enjoys bodily contact with you...

 

[Arkhangelsk]

Even if you can't "win", fighting back still deters most bullies because they only want to pick on easy targets. Sure, you'll probably take one thrashing, maybe a couple, but would you rather carry some bumps and bruises for a couple of weeks or keep reliving the current situation until graduation?

Typical schoolyard bullies - and the way you describe it, that's all this person is - aren't bullies because they enjoy being physically superior, they're in it because they get off on being feared. Whether or not you can or can't beat the bully is irrelevant, as long as you can establish that you're not afraid of them they'll have to look elsewhere for their satisfaction.

He knows I'm not "afraid", he just gets a kick out of knowing I get annoyed. And he already knows, cause I've already established that, so ignoring him is out of the picture. He isn't the normal kind of bully, he just enjoys making my life miserable, knowing that he does.

 

[Valkyira]

Easy. Study MMA for a few years then kung fu kick him a couple of times in the head.

 

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i cried...


=/.....can't say the rest really

 

[EMFCRACKSHOT]

With excessive and often inappropriate levels of violence.

I say this. People used to give me crap all the time I don't really care, There options don't mean a thing to me, One of them went too far talking about crap he really doesn't know about. I have a hell of a temper just I never lose it, Yeah Wall + Face = Satisfying.

Seriously.

And OP, if you can't beat him in a fair fight, don't.
Fight dirty. Kick him in the groin. Punch him in the throat.
Do whatever it takes to make sure the other guy doesn't get up.

Nothing wrong with fighting dirty, do whatever it takes to win. Pair of brass knuckles as well, nice and easy to hide afterwards.

 

[Omikron009]

I might, under some circumstances be considered a bully, but not in the tradition al sense of beating people up and taking their things. What I do ranges from joking verbal abuse to (NOT SERIOUSLY) uttering death threats.

 

[veloper]

Bullies pick easy targets.
It's hard to give good advice, other than try not be an easy target.

hang out with people who will help you
gain confidence
work out

all these things help.

Talking to teachers and principles rarely helps.

Fighting back can work, if you're any good and if the schoolyard won't turn against you.

 

[CTHereICome]

Okay, I've been lurking for a while, but I signed up to join this discussion.

I'm a black belt, I'm a nerd, and my father is a drill sergeant. Violence, pleasurable as it may be, is not the BEST answer. Laughter is. Here's an example.

BULLY: (beats his fist) Hey, f*cktard, guess what?

YOU: Look, we all know you like having fists shoved up your ass, but I don't swing that way.

BULLY: (stares and blinks)

Or, if the bully tries to make his own insult, don't worry about it. He's a bully, he can't be that smart. Example:

BULLY: Well, your mom was good at it last night.

YOU: She must not have seen your face, then, because you can't get laid in 2-dollar whorehouse with a hundred bucks in your pocket.

Another tip, try to make fun of him so everyone can hear. Bullies hate being laughed at, that's why they're bullies. After a couple insults, he'll either skulk away confused and hurt, or he'll punch you. In that case, grab his nuts and yank. At that point, it's self-defense.

 

[lava_lamp]

i just be an total asshole towards them
and thats works and they dont talk to me any more

 

[Julianking93]

I usually beat the shit out of them. Fuck the teachers, the bully aint gonna stop just cuz a teacher tells him to. You gotta take care of it yourself, so my advice, go for the nuts!

 

[Guestowel]

Have sex with his girlfriend