How do you know you're being cheated on?

[Retosa]

If you're paranoid or afraid you're being cheated on, and you can't get past it, move on. Regardless of whether or not the person's actually cheating on you, you need to be able to trust the person you're with. If you can't trust said person, you're not in a good relationship for one reason or another.

Also, there are many psychological queues:

Check texts, from both sexes names. (The intelligent cheaters will give their 'on the side' a name that is unassuming. Examples: A guy's cheating with a girl named Desiree, but on their cell Desiree is listed as Ryan. A girl is cheating with a guy named Andrew, but on their cell the guy is listed as Lisa. The stupid ones, or the ones new at it will leave the names as normal.)

The different scents thing works on the unintelligent ones, but the smart ones buy a second set of everything for the other place they shower. But if you smell a perfume/cologne that you don't use on your significant other, that's a good sign. They can hide their own scent, but not the scent of the the other man/woman.

Someone listed a very good way regarding MSN/Facebook/other IM clients earlier in the thread. Another good indication is when they get snappy if you 'look over their shoulder' too much. AKA sit too close to them when they're on Facebook/MSN/texting etc. Everyone is entitled to their privacy, but being private to the point of paranoia indicates a cheater.

 

[Juzari]

If your significant other is wearing their infidelity pants.... yeah, you know the ones

 

[FamoFunk]

I've never had a girlfriend who didn't cheat on me... so based on experience
If the person I'm dating is a Woman, they're cheating on me

Are you doing anything in all your relationships that would cause this?

 

[ApophisMP]

I'll always be cheated on because I was cursed with having respect and caring. Im not a vain sellfish jerk with a 12 pack, calls women Ho'es or beats them so im the one guy the ladies ***** that they cant find but in the end they dont want

 

[Mr Companion]

When you look at your partners browser history and find a link to aimbot downloads. Sneaky basterd.
...
That wasn't what you meant? Sheesh! There is no pleasing some people.

 

[Mr Companion]

I've never had a girlfriend who didn't cheat on me... so based on experience
If the person I'm dating is a Woman, they're cheating on me

Are you doing anything in all your relationships that would cause this?

Maybe he insists on teabagging them after having intercourse

 

[e102ewan]

All of these are pretty good indications:
1) There are extra wires coming out of her Xbox 360.
2) She has friends on Xbox Live who live in Asia and she has never met them in her life.
3) She is better than you at Black Ops.
4) Her Xbox 360 has been opened.

 

[Link_to_Future]

I've never had a girlfriend who didn't cheat on me... so based on experience
If the person I'm dating is a Woman, they're cheating on me

Are you doing anything in all your relationships that would cause this?

Maybe he insists on teabagging them after having intercourse

Yeah, in my experience, that's a pretty quick way to force some distance in a relationship.

Not that I've ever done that. Because that would be wrong... [http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/AndThatWouldBeWrong]

 

[The Unworthy Gentleman]

If you and your significant other are playing a card game, and spare cards fall out of their sleeves, that's a good indication that they've been cheating.

It's morning, I'm groggy, greasy and have a headache. You have just made my day, thank you so much.

OT: Probably when you go through her phone and find evidence that she's been with another guy. Just because you think she's cheating doesn't mean she is.

 

[GotMalkAvian]

Unfortunately, unless you find some hard evidence (actually catching your significant other engaged in explicit sexual activity with another person, emails or texts of an obvious sexual nature- sent from your significant other to someone else; incoming messages could be a wrong number- dated to a time when you were together, etc.), it's fairly hard to prove anything. Once you get suspicious of your significant other, it's easy for tiny, relatively innocent things to seem like "obvious" signs that they're cheating on you. I know what it's like to be suspicious of someone, but don't make accusations that you can't really back up. Not only will your significant other lose trust in you if they're innocent, but they'll be more careful about covering up their footsteps if they're guilty, making it even harder to find real proof.

 

[Inco]

I'll always be cheated on because I was cursed with having respect and caring. Im not a vain sellfish jerk with a 12 pack, calls women Ho'es or beats them so im the one guy the ladies ***** that they cant find but in the end they dont want

Yea, here here, buddy.
Its the same with me.

Its kind of a pain. They say what they want, and say that you have it, but dont want for for some poor reason and go and get screwed over again by the 'jerks'.

Advice, don't be offended by it, if they are willing to overlook you, then its their fault.

 

[ApophisMP]

I'll always be cheated on because I was cursed with having respect and caring. Im not a vain sellfish jerk with a 12 pack, calls women Ho'es or beats them so im the one guy the ladies ***** that they cant find but in the end they dont want

Yea, here here, buddy.
Its the same with me.

Its kind of a pain. They say what they want, and say that you have it, but dont want for for some poor reason and go and get screwed over again by the 'jerks'.

Advice, don't be offended by it, if they are willing to overlook you, then its their fault.

Yea gotta love it when your 6,000 miles away fighting for your country, and its your fault

 

[EmzOLV]

When I was dating my last boyfriend, things became obvious in the last month or so. It was already a complicated relationship, we basically dated for 2 years of which the last 6 months he was on a work placement in Cyprus. He just completely stopped replying to emails/texts or whatever (and I mean, I was working on site and so I was working 18 hour days and it's not like I texted him a billion times, or so on, just every other day sent him "hows it going? "

And then he started over-reacting at stuff, like when I asked when I'd be able to speak to him next he'd freak out and use all these excuses about work and about time zone differences, which had never been a problem before.

Then he decided to FINALLY end it (lets face it, at this rate I was going to) and erm, next day updated his status on facebook to being going out with some other girl who lives FURTHER AWAY.

It was pretty obvious that something wasn't right and something was going on.

 

[Droppa Deuce]

Don't be paranoid, but follow your instincts!

I suspected the last chock I was dating, and put her in the chill box. Suspended all contact etcm when she called after 2 weeks asking what was happening I ended it. It felt great, because I didn't trust her.

Her loss.

Bring it uo once, but not too often or you'll seem paranoid and that's not cool. But if you don't trust her, pull the plug bruh.

 

[Rhaff]

I'll always be cheated on because I was cursed with having respect and caring. Im not a vain sellfish jerk with a 12 pack, calls women Ho'es or beats them so im the one guy the ladies ***** that they cant find but in the end they dont want

Try hitting on them while they are ovulating, only time period where you have an advantage over the "bad boys". I personally fall under the category "Jerk", and quite often cheat on my significant others, even doing so last night. And i have noticed that with girls that i have hit on multiple times, that sometimes they end up going home with the nice guy and not me, so i asked them how come, turns out most of them were ovulating. Then i did some research, and turns out that when they are ovulating, they look for men who would be better suited as fathers..

 

[Korenith]

If you find yourself asking that question too often, its time to move on. Without trust there isn't much of anything.

This pretty much. Ask yourself whether it's because you're a suspicious person by nature or whether there really is something you're picking up on. If it's you then you probably need to talk about it because otherwise you'll never get over it, in this or any other relationship. If it's not and things in the relationship have been on a downhill anyway maybe it's time to walk away. Hard decision to make sometimes but otherwise you'll just have months of doubt and pissing each other off.

 

[Flying Dagger]

This thread is a paranoid boyfriend's worst nightmare.

I'm stopping reading it before the end, before I start freaking on every little decision my girlfriend makes.

(I'm lucky enough to have one of those people you can know won't cheat, and I still feel this way)

 

[Girl With One Eye]

When they turn their phone off when they are around you, or seem jumpy if it goes off and don't answer it.

When they get very very defensive when asked what they did last night.

When they shower you with presents/attention out of the blue when they normally don't.

When they accuse you of cheating.

When you find pictures of girls on their laptop.