Doesn't much matter to me the gender, but if somoene straight up honestly beats me when I'm "bringing my A game" and actually competing, good on them, I may not be the "BEST EVAR" but when I'm givin it a hard competitive effort in a game I know well, I'm not an easy opponent, especially in RTS games, sometimes in shooters(depends on the shooter).
So I guess I'm Congradulatory? Regardless of gender, unless someone is a total asshole, I will congradulate them on their victory, and consider it a "Good Game", I think it's what's called being a good sport.
If I beat someone else, I don't gloat, unless it's on a bet, and it's me vs like 3 of my friends, and I still trounce them all, then I've earned the right to a little dance, and a good laugh.