How many sexual partners is too many?

[Lucifron]

Two.

Yeah, I'm one of those freaks who actually believes in virginity until marriage.

Would that be for any reason other than "my religious text of choice says so"?

OT: 73.

 

[Divine Miss Bee]

Here's the rule to live by: If you have a key that can open many locks, then you have a master key. If you have a lock that can be opened by many keys, you have a shitty lock.

see, this is what buffy was talking about when she said "insane troll logic." if one breaks down just the biology of it, it's kind of stupid to say that only guys can get with a bunch of people. ALL humans feel sex drive, and i am personally quite proud of women for attempting to throw off the stereotypes and attempting to find some sexual freedom. because if we hadn't, most of the men in the world wouldn't have been able to amass high counts without paying for them.

 

[Ericb]

The whole double-standard kind of pisses me off. Most guys really don't realize how hard girls work to be viewed as attractive, and thus to get dates. We already work twice as hard as guys do for less money and less recognition.
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I've only recently realized how tough girls have it.

Yeah, most of the time, all you have to do is say "yes"... but, more than one time girls have talked to me how they were into such and such guy. The shock in their eyes when I asked "why don't you ask him out?" made my brain work on ths subject ever since.

The fact that a girl sometimes gets labeled a slut for even so much as approching a dude... just shows the most guys are insecure, who need to feel some sort of conquest to vaue what they have.

Remember dudes, in the end it's her "yes" or "no" that gets things going.

In the end, if I really wanted to feel the thrill of hunting and conquest, I'd take a bow and arrow to the african savannah.

Women do NOT earn less then men do at most jobs, that is a lie.

Then I think you better read this, because either it is not a lie or you have uncovered a U.S. Census fraud.

I believe that this is a reproductive thing if a man sleeps with many women he reproduces a lot more (or at least chance) then when a woman sleeps with many men

I believe that there is a reproducive factor that influenced us waaaay back when reproducing was matter of immediate survival of the species.

Nowadays, it's a old and decrepit social remnant of those days gone by.

 

[Sebenko]

Most guys really don't realize how hard girls work to be viewed as attractive, and thus to get dates. We already work twice as hard as guys do for less money and less recognition.

[small]For the love of God. I'm stopping here, lol. No need to soapbox over it all.[/small]

I call that unnecessary. I managed to get guys into bed with just about zero effort. (Many) Guys are easy. Very easy.

But that's all behind me. I have my boyfriend, I'm content with what I have.

Oh, and to elaborate, that's a several year relationship that formed without a single bit of blusher or lipstick or a sparkly dress.
[small]though I bet he would like that... *notes this down*[/small]

 

[The_Healer]

nobody's done it yet so...OVER 9000!!!

Damn YOU! I came to this thread solely to say that.

OT:

Doesn't really have a bearing as long as its only 1 since I've been with her.

 

[FallenJellyDoughnut]

I think that 3 people (that means 4 people in a group, counting you) is about as far as you can go.
Any more than that and you'll run out of things for people to do.

We're talking about the past, not at one time.

 

[BringBackBuck]

Oh, and the sex has to be vaginal to count.

Wow, lots of stuff on this thread that I disagree with, but that takes the cake. Since when does anal not count? I reckon that would count as double.

OT: I am 31 years old, if I were single I would expect female partner to have been sexually active for about 15 years. At a very reasonable 3 or 4 partners per year that would put her around 50 partners. i would say any number from 5-100 I would consider reasonable. I would certainly be happier going out with a girl who had slept with 60 guys than zero.

 

[StarStruckStrumpets]

Two.

Yeah, I'm one of those freaks who actually believes in virginity until marriage. Don't try to convince me otherwise, people have already tried (and failed).

In an ideal world...I'd love it if this way the way the world was now. In an ideal world, I'd also say 1. But being realistic, I'd probably say 4, but I really wouldn't want to know. I still consider sexual relations to be a way of fortifying one's bond with their significant other. Knowing that other people had engaged in that supposedly love-based act, would make me feel a little weird.

 

[Riobux]

Oh, and the sex has to be vaginal to count.

Wow, lots of stuff on this thread that I disagree with, but that takes the cake. Since when does anal not count? I reckon that would count as double.

Would you believe me if I didn't think of anal?

 

[FallenJellyDoughnut]

Oh, and the sex has to be vaginal to count.

Wow, lots of stuff on this thread that I disagree with, but that takes the cake. Since when does anal not count? I reckon that would count as double.

Would you believe me if I didn't think of anal?

DIDN'T THINK OF ANAL?! HOW DARE YOU! YOU MUST ALWAYS THINK OF ANAL! Seriously though, aside from anal, all other seckzez are not seckzez, for example, Oral sex, doesn't count as sex to me.

 

[SimuLord]

For guys, there is none.

For a girl, 3. That's when the tread starts to wear.

Double standard much? Why is it that when a guy sleeps with a ton of people he's a hero, but a girl doing it is a slut?

I hope you're joking, but that's not funny.

Really, the number doesn't matter to me so long as a. there was proper protection involved, b. my partner's not sleeping with anyone other than me when we're together.

you know why he's a hero? because a guy has to work to get a chick. not the same for a chick.

even if a guy is an 11/10, he still has to work and put effort into getting a chick. If a girl is even a 4/10, she just has to wait a little bit later but doesn't have to work at all. Thus the reason for the double standard.

I will call BS on this reasoning, and leave it at that. The standard should be the same for women and men, because girls have to work just as hard as guys do to get laid.

lol i'll throw a BS call on that, where in the hell would a guy ever ever ever ever ever ever ever EVER say no to getting laid unless the chick was extremely ugly, fat or both

I'd call one exception to this: When a guy is rich and/or famous, he's going to have more opportunities to sleep around than he wants or needs. I refer you to guys like Larry King, Dan Aykroyd, and Scottie Pippen (seriously, what woman would have sex with Scottie Pippen with the lights on unless he made millions as Michael Jordan's sidekick?)

 

[jamesworkshop]

Two.

Yeah, I'm one of those freaks who actually believes in virginity until marriage. Don't try to convince me otherwise, people have already tried (and failed).

In an ideal world...I'd love it if this way the way the world was now. In an ideal world, I'd also say 1. But being realistic, I'd probably say 4, but I really wouldn't want to know. I still consider sexual relations to be a way of fortifying one's bond with their significant other. Knowing that other people had engaged in that supposedly love-based act, would make me feel a little weird.

Don't be too fooled sex before marriage was protected mostly because peoples parents would have already have their children married by about 14, not like today when people generally get married in their 30's and 40's.
Times change that rule only came about to protect the society at the time it's simply an outdated rule that in todays world is considered more harmfull than good

http://www.japanprobe.com/2006/07/13/10-of-japanese-men-in-their-40s-are-virgins/

unless people get married as teenagers again with arranged marriages becoming the norm asking people to remain virgins into their 30's and 40's is unreasonable and unwise.



"It has been widely noted that many of Europe's predominantly Catholic nations seem to be particularly hard-hit by the demographic plunge. According to statistics available from the CIA World Fact Book, Portugal, with a Catholic population of 84.5 percent, has a birth rate of 1.49 children born per woman and a median female age of 41.6 years. Italy's birth rate is 1.31 children per woman with a median female age of 44.8 years and the population is 90 percent Catholic. Poland's birth rate stands at 1.28 children per woman and the median female age is 39.7 years.

Around the world, the industrialised nations are all conforming to this pattern to varying degrees, with only the US currently maintaining close to a replacement-level birth rate of 2.05 children born per woman. Outside Europe, at 1.8 children per woman Australia has one of the highest birth rates, with China (1.79), Canada (1.58), Japan (1.21), South Korea (1.21) lagging far behind."

http://www.lifesitenews.com/ldn/2009/may/09052202.html

 

[IckleMissMayhem]

'Too many' is one more than you're personally comfortable with, whether that be 1, or 1 billion. Also, who says you have to share that info with anyone else? So long as you use protection, it's no-one else's business how many people you've been with.

 

[TotallyFake]

Here's the rule to live by: If you have a key that can open many locks, then you have a master key. If you have a lock that can be opened by many keys, you have a shitty lock.

Congratulations! You're a misogynist! How's that double standard treating you?

 

[Flames66]

If I was in a relationship I wouldn't snoop into their past. If they wanted to talk about it, I would listen.

I am not in a relationship and I don't want to be until I meet the right person. The "Dating Game" is not something I want to be involved with.

 

[darkmushroomm]

Theres no such thing as too much, but it really depends on wha.t your sexual partners think

 

[armaina]

As long as you are safe and have partners you trust, I don't think there's such a thing as having too many sexual partners.

 

[Avatar Roku]

I think you misunderstood. He didn't ask how many sex partners at one time (as in, an orgy), he meant, how many in the past. As in, how many exes you've had.

No, I understood. I actually believe in not having sex until you are married, and divorce being the very last possible option.

Shocking, I know.

So it's impossible to have an ex without having sex? You're automatically going to marry your first girlfriend?

For the record, I'm in a similar boat to yours (less official though: just no sex before love, since marriage has lost all meaning to me). But despite the fact that I'm a virgin, I still have an ex girlfriend, you understand?

 

[FreelancerADP]

Two.

Yeah, I'm one of those freaks who actually believes in virginity until marriage. Don't try to convince me otherwise, people have already tried (and failed).

So this post has been cited a bunch in this thread as if some sort of commonly held belief. But- It begs some questions.

Is the poster married? If yes, are they divorced? If yes, did they remarry before the sex again? Yes?

Plain and simple, any answers other than the ones I just lined out make the poster (and I would venture every last person that quoted them) hypocrites. In all probability, the aforementioned poster espouses this view, but has never been married. Instead, the reality is more likely that the espoused belief cover some fears/insecurities/etc associated with sex courtesy of said belief system, yadda yadda yadda.

From my experience, I never gave a fuck how many people someone I was fucking had been with so long as they were clean. I mean, bottom line, THAT'S what is important. It only takes one person to get Herpes. Or HIV.

Also from my experience though, there's a lot to be learned from how many partners someone has been with. A small number can speak as many volumes as a big number once everyone is over 18. More so once everyone is over 25.

But then again, I live in Portland, Oregon, which is just this side of Vegas in terms of per capita debauchery. <3 Portland