How to ask a girl out...

[CaseySmith]

Funny thing is: I've never ever asked anyone out. All my previous girlfriends and boyfriends have been through just being friends, and we eventually got close enough that we were in a relationship.

I think the closest I've come to, or they've come to is "We're a couple, right?".

Always kinda been that way with me. =p

Never done the gift thing - I avoid doing things with the intention of 'bagging' me a partner, I do it because they're my friend.


But hey~ I'm weird like that.

 

[Nuke_em_05]

Obligatory opening: Don't ask the internet for help.

As straightforward as possible:
"Will you go out with me?"

Seriously, you obviously know how to form questions at this point, as you did it in the OP.

You can make it less robotic, like:

"Would you like to go out sometime?"

You can go subliminal:

/sigh
"I wonder who I should ask out to [insert her favorite thing here]"

or super-liminal:

"YOU WILL JOIN ME FOR DINNER! THAT'S NOT A REQUEST!!!"*

*not recommended.

But really, the just "liminal" question seems to work the best.

 

[eggy32]

You could always ask her for relationship advice. Tell her there's a girl you want to ask out but you're not sure how, then do what she says. You get to do it in her ideal way, bam problem solved.

 

[iLikeHippos]

To make things simpler, ask her out while in a conversation, as a "change of topic" kind of thing.

"So... Yeah, your cat's kind of cute for doing that. Hey, me and the boys, we were going to this fair, and I was wondering if you were interested to come with us? It got lights and stuff. Wanna come?"

Not exactly like that, but... In that direction.

Now, the HARD part, that's at the date.

Remember to be active.
Remember to have a plan at the date (activities, food, places to visit, how to spend the time in major essentially)
Remember to smell nice and have a decent hygiene.
Remember to not be too shy.

And... Know how to time things. That is ESSENTIAL!

... Have fun!

 

[AlmostLikeLife]

Where's that picture of the guy asking the girl out with Pokemon red when you need it?

OT: Just walk up to her, be confident, and ask her if she wants to do something sometime.

 

[spartandude]

"Does this rag smell like Chloroform to you?"

 

[Broken Boy]

As a girl myself I would say MOST of the above is correct. Just ask. Maybe open with a joke, (as has been mentioned) or bring her a small gift. Emphasis on small, like a little plastic flower or a doodle or something of the like.
Also, don't ask while all your friends are watching. Break away from the group for a bit, and then ask.

Best answer right here it's how I would like to be asked. ; )

 

[theironbat46]

I am currently pondering that. Now back to the lab..

 

[Sgt AssHead]

start with conversation, then end with
"Hey, how bout we hang out sometime?"

easy as pie

 

[ScruffyTheJanitor]

Well you gotta march right up to this lady alright? Then you look her right in the eyes...lean forward just a little almost all the way...just a lips distance away from each other...and then you just tell her how much you hate her.

Tried it before, and I have to say it's the last time I take my advice from a Madagascan monkey king.

and on topic, just ask here. No silliness. I expect that if your reading this, then your trying to wuss out from the other tons of people saying the same thing. But seriously, quit looking and start thinking about when you'll see her next. You don't ask her, you'll only regret it.

 

[The_Echo]

Personally, I don't like "going out" with a girl. I much prefer hanging out. Building a friendship first is easier, anyway.

"All love that has not friendship for its base is like a mansion built upon the sand." - Ella Wheeler Wilcox

 

[technoted]

With a gun, chicks dig men who can protect them, she'll probably swoon and fall over at the sight of how manly and awesome you are. I can pretty much assure you she won't say no when you turn up with a gun and ask her out.

 

[mike1921]

"Hello female by the name of [Female's full name, including mother's maiden name and all names normally applicable, extra credit if you include patronyms], by mine genetic coding I am most thoroughly attracted to your bodice. However, I do also find solace in your good sense of humor and your impressive intellect. Forthwith, I wish to engage in a courtship with thee, and would enjoy beginning this process by taking you to the most splendid of theares, then we shall take flight to the nearest eatery. We shall enjoy the finest cuisine and depending on your enjoyment of the evening, I shall insert myself penally into your most fertile of wombs."

This is the best thing I have read ever

 

[YouBecame]

It depends on how you mean. Just for a date, you can just ask something innocuous like "Hey fancy doing for a drink?". If you're meaning as in to ask her if she s in a position to make a relationship with you, Ask her if she wants to try to make a relationship.

 

[Housebroken Lunatic]

Well, if you have ever asked anyone, HOW DO YOU DO IT CORRECTLY???

Well, uhm it sort of depends on what culture you live in. Because while we might think that love, attraction and that shit is "universal" and "fundamental" and all that crap, the acceptable ways of displaying these emotions do differ from country to country (and in more or less destructive ways).

But speaking from my own perspective that's probably biased by my own culture, I'd try to just ask her but also make sure that it doesn't come off like my entire future is depending on her reply.

You see, there is nothing wrong with liking someone a lot in a romantic manner, but if you spend a great deal of time idolizing that person from afar, it will take a great deal of nearly inhuman character for that person to actually take your awkwardness as a kind of compliment.

While she might seem fantastic to you in several ways, she's probably just a human as everyone else. And most humans don't really know what to do when they suddenly find themselves surprised by previously hidden idolatory. The freeze up, feel awkward and sometimes downright disgusted by it, depending on how confident and secure they are themselves, and what types of presumptions they carry about different kinds of behaviour.

So my recommendation would be to calm down a little and just ask her. There's nothing wrong with telling her that you feel kind of nervous because you've taken her fancy, but you also have to convey the idea that even if she turns you down you won't lock yourself in your home for three months crying and comfort eating while watching sappy soap operas.

So take it easy and be genuine. And don't go through too much effort to mask your attemtps as being "friendly" and nothing more, because that might lead her to believe that you only consider her as a friend, and it is a great deal harder to pull yourself out of the "friend zone" than it is to woo someone that doesn't know you all too well.

 

[alittlepepper]

Yeah, really the best way, just. Mention the thing you were talking about and just ask her if she'd like to go with you. It's more palatable at first if it's kind of a group thing and not a purely you/her matter, but it's still a good chance for you two to get to know each other. Low pressure, probably will be fun...yeah, most girls will say yes to that, I think. I would.

 

[Sn1P3r M98]

"Hello female by the name of [Female's full name, including mother's maiden name and all names normally applicable, extra credit if you include patronyms], by mine genetic coding I am most thoroughly attracted to your bodice. However, I do also find solace in your good sense of humor and your impressive intellect. Forthwith, I wish to engage in a courtship with thee, and would enjoy beginning this process by taking you to the most splendid of theares, then we shall take flight to the nearest eatery. We shall enjoy the finest cuisine and depending on your enjoyment of the evening, I shall insert myself penally into your most fertile of wombs."

Alternatively,
"Hey, wanna hang out sometime?"

Did you think that up yourself? Thats amazing! I honestly think I might need to try that someday!

 

[Lionsfan]

Just when your talking to her, ask if she's want to go see a movie. Or ask her if she wants to grab lunch or maybe dinner (I'd say dinner, since that's a bit more clearer)