How to ask a girl out...

[Carnagath]

I wouldn't know, I'm 28 years old and never asked a girl out. I have only been in one relationship in my life which lasted 4 years, but I knew the girl 3 years before that, we had common friends that we used to go out with and sometimes we hung out just the two of us, but it was all really cool and friendly. Until one day when we were watching a movie she put her hand on my arm and kissed my neck. It didn't feel weird at all either. I don't know why. Some things just magically click together and then magically go to hell as well. Screw it, I shouldn't be remembering that shit, there's VIDEOGAMES TO PLAY!!!

 

[Denizen]

As long as you ask her in a confident way, it will be the correct way. Confidence is the key to almost every social situation.

 

[Lust]

Hey escapist forum users,

I have encountered a problem... You see, I really like this girl (I have liked her sense 3rd grade) and I have finnaly built up the nerve to ask her out... But I have one problem... HOW THE HELL DO YOU ASK A GIRL OUT???

I asked her 6 months ago, but she was already dating someone... And I know the way I asked her was total fail. Well, tomorow, their is this festival or something like that happening at our old middle school, she is going to be their, and I plan on going with a couple of my friends (and when we get bored we just walk over to taco bell) and I want to ask her...

Well, if you have ever asked anyone, HOW DO YOU DO IT CORRECTLY???

OH AND to give you something to talk about, how have your attempts at getting dates gone?

Well..............

This has happened to me many times. I get in a rut and this feeling of consternation washes over me. What should I do? What do I say? Will she say yes? No? Will she ever speak to me again?

This sucks, but, all I can suggest that you do is act how you would in the comfort of your own home. Remember that she may be as nervous as you. Then, go from there. Joke, flirt, and tell stories. Have a good time.

I can't really tell you what to say because every time I've tried to find someone, it was usually a mutual friend that set us up.

Mind you I was also oblivious to most of the signs given off by girls. My dumbass couldn't tell if I had some sincere chemistry.

Just remember:

Act natural, don't talk about things she's not interested in, and don't worry about rejection.

It's not as bad as you would think.

 

[Housebroken Lunatic]

I wouldn't know, I'm 28 years old and never asked a girl out. I have only been in one relationship in my life which lasted 4 years, but I knew the girl 3 years before that, we had common friends that we used to go out with and sometimes we hung out just the two of us, but it was all really cool and friendly. Until one day when we were watching a movie she put her hand on my arm and kissed my neck. It didn't feel weird at all either. I don't know why. Some things just magically click together and then magically go to hell as well. Screw it, I shouldn't be remembering that shit, there's VIDEOGAMES TO PLAY!!!

The thing is, if you really want something to happen you can't just sit around and hope that it will "magically" happen on it's own (even if there is a possibility that it might).

And also, your chances to make something happen will actually increase if you take certain matters into your own hands. Not only due to the obvious reasons (like getting a glass of milk will probably happen if you actually get your ass up to the fridge and get the milk rather than sitting around hoping that someone else will get the milk for you), but also because people in general often do appriciate when people take charge of their actions, and that often includes the person of ones affections as well.

 

[Housebroken Lunatic]

Act natural, don't talk about things she's not interested in, and don't worry about rejection.

Uhm, Is it just me or does anyone else kind of feel that the "Act natural" and "don't worry about rejection" parts are somewhat oxymoronic in combination with the "don't talk about things she's not interested in"-part?

I mean, most people who act natural and don't worry about rejection talk about topics that the listeners might not find to be all too interesting, but assume that they will listen anyway and appriciate that one is sharing their interests with others even if those interests aren't shared with the other people in the conversationd, and that everyone participating is willing to repay the favor by listening to others "boring" interests as well?

And speaking for myself here, I certainly wouldn't be "acting natural" if I didn't share anything of my own interests (regardless of how uninteresting they might be to others) during a personal conversations with someone I have a more elaborate attachment to than just being "familiar" with.

It wouldn't feel very natural at all.

 

[Carnagath]

I wouldn't know, I'm 28 years old and never asked a girl out. I have only been in one relationship in my life which lasted 4 years, but I knew the girl 3 years before that, we had common friends that we used to go out with and sometimes we hung out just the two of us, but it was all really cool and friendly. Until one day when we were watching a movie she put her hand on my arm and kissed my neck. It didn't feel weird at all either. I don't know why. Some things just magically click together and then magically go to hell as well. Screw it, I shouldn't be remembering that shit, there's VIDEOGAMES TO PLAY!!!

The thing is, if you really want something to happen you can't just sit around and hope that it will "magically" happen on it's own (even if there is a possibility that it might).

And also, your chances to make something happen will actually increase if you take certain matters into your own hands. Not only due to the obvious reasons (like getting a glass of milk will probably happen if you actually get your ass up to the fridge and get the milk rather than sitting around hoping that someone else will get the milk for you), but also because people in general often do appriciate when people take charge of their actions, and that often includes the person of ones affections as well.

Heh, well obviously I was just kidding about the videogames part, I'm not a cave dweller (yet). I have been interested in a couple of girls since then, but none of them were single, which was quite the bummer. I also have to join the army in late August (it's mandatory in my country), which will be an awesome 12 month long sausage fest, so happy 30th birthday after that for me. Yay...

 

[lokun489]

just ask her! these are the thread types that justified the MANuel

 

[blindthrall]

"Hey baby, it's not going to suck itself. Don't give me that look sweetheart, you've heard worse from your pops."

Then while her mouth is still hanging open, club her in the head and drag her back to your cave.

 

[cheese_wizington]

Hey, want to go to that thing at our school? We could have some food, dance, maybe some sex.

Simple.

 

[gallaetha_matt]

Just ask her, is my advice. Don't build it up too much. Worst thing you can do is overthink. During the course of a normal conversation with the girl just say something along the lines of 'So, do you want to have a drink/coffee/dinner/butt sex some time?'

No other type of sex works for that last variation. Just butt sex. Trust me.

Other than that, groundwork is important but not essential. Get to know the girl a bit, let her get to know you and when in doubt whip it out.

A fool berates himself for the nine times he is arrested for indecent exposure, while the wise man comforts himself with thoughts of that one night of whacky sex.

There's good advice buried in that rant somewhere.

 

[Cherry Cola]

Confidence, I cannot stress this enough, Have fucking CONFIDENCE when you ask her out, and as for what you say look at what above users had said.

THE TRUTH IS SPOKEN!

You need confidence!

Or chloroform. But confidence is the best way

[sub]I bet I'm like the tenth guy to make that joke. *sigh*[/sub]

 

[Footinbox]

You: Hey; you want to go out sometime?
Her: Sure thing!
It's that easy.

Problem is that sometimes the other person thinks that you mean going out as friends. This could lead to misunderstanding and thus create conflicts that could potentially do more damage than good. Just saying that it's not QUITE that easy.

 

[zenoaugustus]

"Hey, can I stick my piece into you?"
"Sure!"

All kidding aside, it's all about confidence, just ask her to do something with you that she likes.

 

[jopomeister]

You: Hey; you want to go out sometime?
Her: Sure thing!
It's that easy.

You have fixed my life.
Till now I always thought you'd have to make some huge romantic gesture or something.

 

[benoitowns]

Just ask her. Strange though it may seem, girls are humans too, not mystical monsters which are likely to bite your head off when approached the wrong way.

Really? This changes everything!

 

[Good morning blues]

You: Hey; you want to go out sometime?
Her: Sure thing!
It's that easy.

No, this isn't a good approach. Say something specific:

You: Hey, want to go to this festival this weekend together?
Her: Sure thing!

 

[Rotharn]

I find this to be more unique

you: hey
her: hey
y: so do you have a boyfriend?
h: what? ummm no. why?
y: we should date
h: wha?
y: pick you up half hour before the movie?
h: umm which movie?
y: the one that starts at 10
h: ok

BAM take her to the drive in play the old arcade cabinet there wither her, half way though the 1st movie go for the old yawn arm around make eye contact and laugh like you were making an ironic joke about generic dates but don't take your arm off. when the 2nd movie comes on casualy place your arm back then attempt a make-out during either the worst or most romantic part of it

and BAM girlfriend

 

[mike1921]

As long as you ask her in a confident way, it will be the correct way. Confidence is the key to almost every social situation.

I can think of some pretty incorrect ways to ask a girl out where confidence will make them even worse