how where you bullied

[super_mumbles]

Wow...Just from looking at the first page my response seems insignificant.

I've had a bunch of friends since mid middle school and most of use played the Yu-Gi-Oh card game. However, as soon as "bullies" learned of this they took it and ran with it often screaming things such as "ahahaha you like yugioh!?", "Yuuuuuuuuugiooooooooh ahahaha" and "Do you want to trade yuuuugiiiioh cards?" to which we would respond (in order) "Yes, we do, well done", "Are you actually trying to say something or are you just going to stand there and shout?" and "Yeah, go on then".

It's amazing how quickly we learned that playing along with what they were saying took the wind out of their sails. It was great.

 

[linkvegeta]

Mine was different, I never got bullied at school but my family bullied me all the time, you know made fun of me and called me names some times worse.

 

[Hatchet90]

Well, I used to go to a Christian school (and you'd think that'd mean people were all friendly). There was never any physical violence at my school and no one ever brought weapons. That said, the shear amount of hatred and verbal abuse that some people felt towards me just because I sat in the back and was shy nearly led me to commit suicide. They just made fun of me openly, in the middle of a lecture I might add, and the teachers didn't do a damn thing. Hell, some of the teachers joined in on the "fun". It's not like I did poorly in school, I got A's and B's all through school, there was no reason that they should allow such abuse, especially considering my parents were paying for this "safe" environment.

Looking back on some of those high school days, I still tear up just thinking about it. They assumed just because I didn't talk, that meant I was some kind of angry loner who was going to show up one day with a gun. No, I would never do that, believe it or not I am a Christian, and I would never want to harm another living soul, no matter how horrible they were to me. I would sooner pull a gun on myself. I played video games to vent my frustration and was a little overweight, so guess what they made fun of me for?

A year later, I started to gain friendships, but those jerks left an emotional scar, a stressful burden on me that will never repair. I learned other ways to vent my frustrations like playing music, and I figure the one thing I gained from being bullied was learning how to play guitar. I look back on the year 2007 with disgust and hatred.

For those of you people still in High School, don't give up, neither on yourself nor your education. Trust me when I say that the minute you step onto a college campus or enter the real world, things get a lot better. You find people who have similar interests and no one gives a damn about how you look or what you enjoy doing.

 

[dragonslayer32]

I got bullied quite a bit (the usual stuff, kicked, punched, name calling) until year 8 when I hit 6 foot.

 

[superbatranger]

I'm not sure how that could be true. Also, sometimes they'd take my stuff, mainly assignments and things like paper and pencils. Would leave me unprepared for class and I'd have to ask people for paper or a pencil. Most of the time when I'd try to tell a teacher there would be not enough proof to make anything stick. My graphing calculator was stolen, for example, and I never found out who did it. There was also that damn, pesky verbal bullying, but not a whole lot of anything really physical.

My point is that they make you feel like you don't belong because unlike them you are not another Jersey Shore douchebag. You're an interesting person. I'm not defending them, i'm defending you. Being different can make you an outcast but being different makes you interesting.

Oh! I get you now! I see what you mean.

 

[Terminate421]

Harsh words.
Use of the word '******' started in 4th grade, being told I was garbage until 8th grade, critisized over what I wear in 8th grade.

It stopped when I beat the crap out of someone I hated.

 

[standokan]

Not physically, mostly verbally and even that was done by "friends".

 

[dragonslayer32]

I am at secondary school now and in it you have the cool kids and the 'retards'. The cool kids well thats kind of self explanetory. The 'retards' were anyone who was different to the cool kids.

In middle school I started many fights ,for some reason, and lost most of them. The one person who I got into the most fights is now of my only friends of sorts. (more on that in a bit)

I used to/still do hang out with the cool kids as I thought they were guenuinally my friends and now all they do is take the piss out of anything I do. And I have no Idea how to react to it. It drives me crazy but I have no ability to do anything.

I also hate anyone who is on the same level as me and will try to isolate my self from them.

Times change, I went into secondary school with 3 close firends and by the time the 5 years were up, none of us spoke to eachother. You make more friends and forget about old ones. It sounds bad but that is just life.

 

[Epic_Mushroom]

Physically, emotionally, pretty much everything. Things I'm glad I missed out on: Swirlies.
In high school, most of them grew up, and I grew up enough to not give a shit. Honestly, in the grand scheme of things I think that bullying made me a better person. It made me grow up and really think about a lot of things. It made me a stronger person.

This is what i keep talking about. I was bullied in year 5 & 6, and it was all verbal, but it made me feel like shit. But by year 7 i learned to grow up and deal with it, and that made me stronger and better as a person. Most people keep saying that people shouldn't have to be bullied at all, and we should protect them, but no. Let them learn how to handle judgement, and abuse, because that's what the real world is like.

Thank you, god I hate that the world is turning bullying into the source of all evil. People, especially children, aren't as fragile as our society likes to believe. Don't believe me? Look up rights of passage and see what other cultures encourage or even force "children" to do, children who are fundamentally the same as our children.

The main difference would be that those children were actually celebrated and given acknowledgement for passing these tests. Though I can see the positive side-effects of bullying, having been bullied for nine lovely years in a row, I'd say that it's not really worth it. Bullying exists and we must all learn how to cope with it, but actually hailing it as a means to advance growth in our young... No, I don't see that.

Personally, I don't remember much from that time, much of it's probably suppressed. I do remember ignoring them most of the time, and when they inconvenienced me I'd simply tell the teacher. I guess I should be glad to grow up in a country where one's ability at sports isn't valued over the way we treat our fellow human beings. That being said, I also remember being a bully to my younger brother. We're allright now, but there are so many thing that I regret. I see the damage in him, and I can't help wonder how much of that I did. Becoming an emotional amputee is hardly what I'd call a positive trait in anyone, but you're entitled to your own opinions, I guess. I just miss my brother.

I'm not an emotional amputee, I learned how to deal with my issues, not how to bury and ignore them. Never said that bullying should be supported, only that it's not as harmful as most people tend to think because children are more resilient than people believe, and that you can learn from being bullied, just like any other experience, good or bad.

My apologies, I did not mean to insinuate that you were an emotional amputee, I was still talking about my younger brother. What was done to him, by others as well as myself, has damaged him deeply. Whilst I will agree with you that bullying might help in that area, I'd say that there's a tipping point when bullying becomes much more destructive than anything else, and from what I read here in nearly every case that point is passed simply for the bullies' perverted satisfaction.

 

[BanthaFodder]

I was just bullied a bit in elementary school. basically just older douchebags on the bus, trying to take my hat (remember when THOSE were allowed?) and general shit like that... I pretended to use karate one day (waving my arms around and going "whoo"). it scared the shit out of the kid (he was like 7 or 8, soooo... yeah). since I'm the general nerd archetype (smart, glasses, likes video games and sci fi, suck at sports, etc etc), I get a lot of the over-exaggerated compliments during Gym and such in the event that I actually preform quite well ("man you could be a badminton PRO! FUCK YEAH! NICE HUSSLE! YEAH!"). I used to consider my options:
A. retort with minor hostility (ie. glaring, etc)
B. ignore completely
C. just smile
D. laugh along with it
I tend to just laugh along, seeing as how most of the guys who do this ARE genuinely nice people and not just sarcastic douchebags (I can tell the difference). if I smile, they win if it was a joke. if I ignore, I look like a creeper. if I glare, I look like a douche (if it was genuine). by laughing, I can look appreciative if its genuine and look like I'm in on it and dont care if its a joke.
If there's one thing I've learned and would like to share with everyone, it's this: despite the douchebags, sadists, ignorami, neglegent teachers and parents, Jersey Shore wannabees, jocks, preps, rich kids, thugs, racists, and god knows what else, THERE IS STILL GOOD IN THE WORLD. no matter how bad things get, NEVER give up on human kindness. this is something that took me a while to learn. I used to have NO tolerence for "stupid" people, if someone who was considered by me to be stupid or popular complimented me, I would respond by either ignoring them or by immediatly taking it as sarcasm. I've come out of my shell in high school and things are great; I'm not exactly popular, but no one really has a beef with me. people who were once of some strange, separate class of people are now general aquaintences. I learned that just because someone is popular, or not as smart as me, or generally of a higher social class, it does not mean that they are incapable of genuine kindness.

EDIT: sorry guys, just re-read this and realised I wrote a frigging novel XD
on a side note... well it's not really bullying per-say... but just a lot of people who act like condescending hipsters a good 30% of the time...
"Black Ops was a TERRIBLE GAME. Anyone who bought it was a consumerist idiot..."
"um, I bought Black Ops..."
"yeah?"
"and... YOU bought Black Ops..."
"... TREYARCH SUCKS. AND MODERN WARFARE 2. THE MULTIPLAYER WAS AWFUL. SO UNREALISTIC. MEDAL OF HONOR IS SO MUCH BETTER."

 

[rokema]

Well in holland when I was 7 til 12(I think) I got lots of racism from small kids because I was half-german, calling me a nazi etc.

Probably why I'm prejudice against everyone, I assume everyone is an asshole unless proven otherwise. Funny thing I'm half-asian too.

***** nazi, haha.

 

[scorptatious]

I got bullied quite a bit (the usual stuff, kicked, punched, name calling) until year 8 when I hit 6 foot.

By year eight, do you mean eight years old, or eighth grade?

Because if it's the former than:

YOU'RE HUGE!!

 

[EHKOS]

Well, for about half a year I was at a school where my entire class hated me because I was an outsider to the.

 

[Chaza]

I am at secondary school now and in it you have the cool kids and the 'retards'. The cool kids well thats kind of self explanetory. The 'retards' were anyone who was different to the cool kids.

In middle school I started many fights ,for some reason, and lost most of them. The one person who I got into the most fights is now of my only friends of sorts. (more on that in a bit)

I used to/still do hang out with the cool kids as I thought they were guenuinally my friends and now all they do is take the piss out of anything I do. And I have no Idea how to react to it. It drives me crazy but I have no ability to do anything.

I also hate anyone who is on the same level as me and will try to isolate my self from them.

Times change, I went into secondary school with 3 close firends and by the time the 5 years were up, none of us spoke to eachother. You make more friends and forget about old ones. It sounds bad but that is just life.

At the end of the year I leave to go to college and I plan to have a fresh start.

 

[Kortney]

High School, because that's "rough for everyone" except of course all the dicks in your high school with their magical perfect lives of course.

I understand the tenderness you face with this issue, and for good reason too - but just because someone isn't bullied in high school doesn't mean they have a perfect life or must be a dick.

 

[The Man With the Soap]

I never really got much physical bullying for very long.

As soon as people realised that trying to hit me was going to result in me hurting them in some way (even if I got hurt a lot more) they kinda stopped.

without fear, they didn't bother with physical abuse.

However, I found myself socially ostracised because of it. You pity the kid who gets bullied, the kid who smashes the bully's head into a wall you fear.

Fancy a bit of the ol' ultr-violence, eh? A few horrorshow tolchocks to the litso will send most upstart lewdies running and boo hoo hooing.

In all seriousness, though, I'm right there with you. I've always been a bit of a loner, and most people don't like a loner. But, I've always been a fairly large and physically intimidating sort of person, so I haven't had much of the physical violence taken out on me. That's probably due largely to the fact that I really enjoy a good fight. Most of my bullying comes verbally and over the internet, but no one ever really has the guts to say anything to my face. They prefer to start the nasty sort of rumors. One of my friends told me that most of the kids at school think I'm going to shoot up the place. So, all in all, I guess I can't be complaining. As you said, the key not being physically bullied is to hit harder than the bullies.

Mostly emotionally. After my parents died, I became very unsure of myself and a bit out of place to most people. That typically lead to the popular girls teasing me for being sensitive, or causing problems for me whenever I was alone. It became much easier when I started hanging out with my best friends (thank god for lunch switches) though.

If I may, I offer my condolences for the passings of your parents (however small they must seem). I take it that you did not go around the school trumpetting the news of your parents' deaths, so not many people probably knew the emotional trauma you were suffering. They probably only knew you as "that weird girl," making you an easy target for their abuse. Another example of how people will always think that they can tell everything about you without ever talking to you. Those kinds of bullies are the lowest to me, because they never confront you directly unless they are backed up by a group of friends. Girls aren't the only ones that do this, but they certainly do it a lot. This is what goes on in school. This is why I can't see any point in going through four more years of college after high school.

I was never bullied at school, but my Dad seriously abused me for about five years straight. I guess that counts?

I guess you're lucky you've never been bullied, but I would have to say that parental abuse is much worse. All I can say is, "That sucks, and I hope you're alright now."

 

[Knusper]

I never really got properly bullied, some people used to jokingly speculate that I was gay, but they do that for about half the year group.

I guess I am too charismatic, confident and big to be bullied.

 

[OniaPL]

I was called names and etc. since the first grade, usually for most amusing things. The thing was, ever since I was a kid I have been taller and stronger than most, and never got bullied physically. Occasionally some people attacked me but I just struck them down. But to be honest, if it weren't for my father, I would have seriously injured my bullies. But he forbid me from ever attacking anyone, and I had no choice but to comply. Anyways, for the first couple of years all the name calling and shunning really wore me out and it really hurted. But I grew used to it and started to laugh at everyone who called me names from afar, but didn't have the guts to come close.

Of course, I have couple of bad memories from being handled by the older kids. For example, my pants were taken from me one day.

But more than all those people who bullied me, it was my "friends" who hurted me the most. One day at school I got impaled by a wooden fence (I fell on it while standing on it), and it made a really bad injury. Blood was coming out of my stomach and I remember just laying on the fence. And every single ************ laughed at me, went to class and left me there, wishing me good luck.

I was at 8th grade almost misanthropic, but it then turned to some kind of apathy (I'm not sure if that's the right word).

But the thing I was shunned for was that I didn't do what others did and I didn't wear the same clothes as others did. Even today, this continues in a lesser form.

 

[dragonslayer32]

I am at secondary school now and in it you have the cool kids and the 'retards'. The cool kids well thats kind of self explanetory. The 'retards' were anyone who was different to the cool kids.

In middle school I started many fights ,for some reason, and lost most of them. The one person who I got into the most fights is now of my only friends of sorts. (more on that in a bit)

I used to/still do hang out with the cool kids as I thought they were guenuinally my friends and now all they do is take the piss out of anything I do. And I have no Idea how to react to it. It drives me crazy but I have no ability to do anything.

I also hate anyone who is on the same level as me and will try to isolate my self from them.

Times change, I went into secondary school with 3 close firends and by the time the 5 years were up, none of us spoke to eachother. You make more friends and forget about old ones. It sounds bad but that is just life.

At the end of the year I leave to go to college and I plan to have a fresh start.

Good for you. That is what I done and I have made friends there that I would trust with my life. Good luck.