I don't understand what people find so attractive about women. What is it and why?

[Jedoro]

But me, I don't get what's so attractive about women.

I don't either, but I go with it. Why? Because my instincts tell me to, and they're the only power in the 'verse that I trust to look out for my well-being at all times.

If I had to guess, I'd say I prefer more fit/athletic women because I think in more survivalistic terms than the ordinary person. I'm not attracted to underweight women because they appear to have no muscle mass with which to do anything, nor any fat at all to insulate them from the cold. I'm not attracted to overweight women because they tend to be slower, require more food, and are harder to move out of harm's way. Yes, I understand that this is probably incredibly shallow, but this is how many fucks I give:_______

Boobs are nice because they're for feeding infants, and thus have a purpose. Moobs are purely fat and do not share such functionality. Same ideology with a vagina and noticeably wider hips, they have functionalities that are absent in men. When a woman's appearance meets all of the above qualifications, it has a wonderfully graceful form that is almost exclusive to the fairer sex, and I find myself drawn to the lovely combination of appearance and usefulness.

Please note this was a ten minute analysis of my own mind, and probably sucks, but hey, I tried to answer the question. Kinda.

 

[geK0]

Well, first of all I should point out that I only find about 10% of women attractive, others are just... 'meh"

the ones I do like, it's because they have a 'cute' quality that men just can't have; it's a hard thing to describe. The curves do play a big part of it, there's also the fact that I'd prefer vag to anal, the fact that boobs are squishy and fun to play with, the fact that you (usually) have less hair than men, the fact that you (usually) put more effort into looking good,and (usually) have rounder cuter looking faces.
I can look at guys and identify the good looking ones from the ...not so good looking ones, but there's just not the same desire to just press up against them.
does this all make sense to you? lol


and about the man-boob thing... it's a matter of boob:body mass ratio and women's boobs are usually perkier. frankly i find that (some) larger women have better boobies than smaller women. Although sometimes smaller is nice...depends what mood im in = \

 

[applesandoranges]

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[Farther than stars]

Well, I've tried to figure out what's so nice about, say, boobs and the like.

Things start to make more sense when instinct comes into play. After all, sexual attraction provides an evolutionary advanctage for one single thing: reproduction. Now think of the two most popular parts of the female body, breasts and buttocks, and think of how they relate to making a baby and caring for it. Then you will understand why it is natural for men to focus on these specific qualities for psychologically deeper reasons than just being "another piece of flesh".

 

[Death God]

Simple the way males (and certain female) have been "programmed" by natural instincts. No real way to try and understand or explain. Not sure why this is a thread but, eh? What ever I guess.

 

[SangRahl]

I'll admit it... I'm completely wired like every anthropologist says I should be...
I like wide hips and pouty lips, and otherwise I'm left to my emotions.

But on an emotional level, I can't see myself with anyone else but my wife. Yes, maybe I could be alone... or with friends... or maybe someone else... but I can't imagine it for my self.

She is rational when I'm emotional... and vice versa. I ground her when she is on the verge of exploding beyond the clouds. We match, in a way that is convergent from normal exceptance... and I love her more for it.

What makes women so attractive? The idea that they can put up with US.

PS: and butts... we love butts. [see above athropological statement]

 

[Shamanic Rhythm]

OP, this thread is kind of pointless because you are asking for a specific answer to a very general question. You want an answer that goes beyond just "because we're biologically coded to like them", but that's going into the territory of aesthetic judgements which are incredibly subjective.

Here's my best attempt at an answer. Ask yourself why you find men attractive, then imagine a straight man trying to find those same things attractive. You see the traditional problem? If you asked me to find a man attractive I'd probably laugh at you for implying that I should feel aroused by someone who has what looks like a turkey with a sausage for a head between their legs.

 

[gyroscopeboy]

Because they don't have dicks...pretty much..yeahh..

 

[jpoon]

I'm wired for hot curvy bodies, men definitely don't fit that bill!

 

[thom_cat_]

I don't know... I look at my girlfriend and I want to be as close as I can to her. I never get that with guys. It's just attraction. Don't question it.
Also, sexually, I prefer smooth skin and curves over hard angles. Boobs? I don't really get boobs too much. Nipples I like, boobs? Boobs aren't a necessity. If you've got em, fine, if you don't, fine.
As for fat people? I'm attracted to healthy people, and fat on the face just ruins it. I don't mind a healthy bit of fat on the belly or hips, but I'm not attracted to a huge stomach.

It just makes sense, I'm attracted to a healthy person of the opposite sex.

Also there's personality and all that.

If you're different, fine, it's just how we're wired. I don't understand attraction to guys, but do I care? No.

 

[Bobbity]

Honestly, I don't think I can explain it, just as I think you'd be challenged to explain why you're interested in men, as opposed to women - it's just how we are.

 

[Krantos]

It feels like that feeling that something is overrated because you don't like it as much as other people

within the realm of sexual attraction where all is some kind of pure taste or orientation or whatever.

*blink**blink*

I think you may have just answered your own question there.

"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder." Different tastes, different strokes.

Trying to figure out why someone or a group find something beautiful is akin to trying to figure out why my wife loves tomatoes and I hate them. There's no point in asking why, because you'll likely never find the answer. There probably isn't an answer, it's just what people like.

If anything, a lot of things about us seem kinda gross.

Incidentally, I feel the same way about men. Sure, some of us are really good looking and well kept/built/etc. Most of us, however, kind of gross me out.

 

[Joby Baumann]

people find things with curves and swoops to be more aesthetically pleasing (look at any sports car, piece of futuristic technology, etc.)

girls have curves and swoopy lines to their forms, this leads them to look nice. (that and biological predisposition, which may actually lead to thins with swoopy lines looking pleasing but Im getting distracted by this chicken or egg scenario)

meanwhile men are squarish and have a dangly bit kind of glued on.

 

[Conza]

Because some people seem to act as if women are somehow universally beautiful, aside from even sexual orientation or anything.

And billions of dollars are spent on highlighting women's supposed "objective beauty". And it feels weird, I don't get it. What's so beautiful about females? I, for one, don't see any kind of objective beauty in the woman. Heck, I don't even see what people think is some "beautiful" or "pretty" about women.

I think the majority of men and women would agree that women are more beautiful transcending sexuality yes. Btw, I did intentionally snip the earlier portions, works of man are often taken from women as opposed to men, as women are the representation of life, and they are smooth and soft, men are not.

What do women have that men don't? A vagina? What's so great about those? It's just another hole, a particular hole, that, if anything, is constantly under threat of being pregnant.
A situation that is often disadvantageous to everyone involved.

That is the entry point of life itself. Threat? There are people who struggle to even get women pregnant, the idea of it being a threat is a bit strange, I mean with the pill and condoms what can go wrong?

Boobs? What's so great about boobs? They're flabby sacks of fat that flap around. If you like boobs, are you attracted to man-boobs? Because I can't tell much of a difference except for that one is on a male and one is on a female.

Well, one produces milk, and looks fantastic, one is caused from too much friend chicken. 'Boobs = Fat' is usually an observation of athletic women who don't have boobs, and I don't know about you, but 'pretty as a picture' isn't that pretty to men.

You can give a typical expected answer of "oh God this question is stupid. It's of course because evolutionary reproductive biology men are meant to be attracted to women and women are meant to be attracted to men blahblahblah" but that doesn't actually answer my question.

Actually that is the ultimate answer here, I know that you think the aesthetics don't apply to that logic, but of course it does, and objectively it makes sense too, men and women should be perceived to be attractive because of evolution, and women being the fairer sex, the better of the two, obvious choices for styling objects man made.

And I know a lot of people are going to turn heads at this topic, but it's a thought that's seriously bugging me. It's just so, mysterious and odd to me. And it's probably not in my sexuality to "get" all of it. But I'd at least like to kinda understand it aside from "well men are supposed to be attracted to women and blahblah". I mean, I know I like the colour blue because it seems calming and reminds me of the water, and I like to swim. I wish I could at least wrap my head around what goes through people's minds when they find females attractive.

I don't care if you're not even physically attracted to us, and find women beautiful nonetheless, but I just want to know why the heck people seem to find women so beautiful. If anything, a lot of things about us seem kinda gross.

Well I hope myself and others have answered your question, if you allow us to answer your question, biologically and aesthetically women are more beautiful (by a long way) then men.

 

[Joccaren]

Explain what makes men attractive on first sight. Not after looking him over and going 'He's got a nice X', but what makes you initially think 'He's hot' or W/E, and gets you interested enough to look at the rest of your body.

It is basically biological. Nothing more to it. I saw earlier you posted that if it were purely biological, then we could control our urges, but I would say the opposite. This may have been a typo on your part, but if our sexuality and our conscious minds were intertwined, we would be able to control our urges far better than we can atm. Think of other purely biological things. Your heart beating. You cannot control it. You can control other organs to have an effect on it, but you cannot directly control it. If it were linked with your conscious mind, you would be able to tell it to stop beating, though that would be a stupid thing to do for the most part.

As to why certain features on women are attractive? Biological too.
The biological purpose of mating with the opposite gender is to create strong offspring. The stronger the better. It is a subconscious form of Eugenics. Why are big breasts attractive yet 'fat' people not? Big breasts indicate the ability to aptly provide a child with milk, fat elsewhere implies either a genetic disorder causing the extra weight, a different biological problem causing the extra weight, or laziness, all of which are unattractive qualities when trying to find a strong mate. We do not, however, look at women and go 'Big breasts, that means she will provide milk for our children well', we look at them and go 'Big breasts. Hot'. Our subconscious and biology does all of the 'it will provide for the child well' kind of stuff, we just get the impulses left over.
This also explains the fetish thing. If it is not a biological advantageous attribute that our very nature is telling us to go after, there is going to be some form of experience in that person's life that causes them to go after it, or some birth 'defect' (Using that word to mean different from 'normal', not necessarily a problem).

These days, we have more freedom in what will produce a strong mate, as medicine will take care of that for us, so we begin to biologically look for other factors too. Humans are instinctually social creatures, so we look at other's social habits and personalities to look for what will carry across and be taught to the child to give it a good ability socially. We don't consciously think this, but our biology tells us to do it.

And I have been kinda ninja'd a few posts up, but I've already written this so W/E

 

[LilithSlave]

just as I think you'd be challenged to explain why you're interested in men, as opposed to women - it's just how we are.

I'm actually sexually interested in women, as well. I just don't understand the common praise of women. I suppose part of this topic is coming from about how many people seem to always praise women's looks and how much of an industry there is around it, when we don't even seem that pretty to me.

I bet I could explain why I like what I like better. Just like I did with why I think penis is more attractive than vagina, the most fundamental thing that makes you like men or women better. And without much problem. I would rather put my face near a penis than a vagina, because the penis looks flesh coloured like the rest of the body. While the vagina, the inside at least(and most guys don't seem to care about the outside, or at least find pubic hair repulsive), looks like the inside of an intestine. That's a major difference right there. Most humans aren't repulsed by too many body parts made of skin that are outer flesh coloured. Most people feel a little queasy looking at innards like intestines, though.

I, and most people would have more of an opportunity to be challenged to explain such a thing if we were every asked. Mostly, people instead of inquire, accuse. For instance, I've seen many guys called gay, creepy, mentally deranged, and even sometimes nasty things like paedophiles for not liking breasts as large as some others. And I've seen guys called ugly, desperate, pathetic, "beta", losers, and other such for finding fatter women attractive. Men don't explain, well, they do explain they want to "tap that", but more often they accuse.

Many men seem to treat the objectification of women like some kind of competition. The way many of them talk about women, you'd almost think they were talking about religion or politics. You would think that as much as many women want to describe how they think a woman's bottom or breasts are "perfect", they'd at least be capable of explaining what the heck about that bottom is so perfect and why other than just "I'm a man, lol". I don't see how this thread can be more ridiculous than how many guys seem fixated upon describing a woman's body as perfect with no decent reasoning behind it. I must be spending too much time on the internet, because I've seen a flame war or two arise just from talking about a woman's body and people having different opinions on it. It's utterly dumbfounding.

I figure if humans are capable of telling other people they have bad taste in their personal shallow judgment of another person's body. They ought to at least be able to explain why. Otherwise I think they can honestly shut their shallow mouthes and stop arguing about which women are better looking.

 

[corvanjer]

No fat chicks.
/Thread?

 

[Slayer_2]

Because my smaller head says I like those things. Oh, I'm sure the media has some hand in it, too. Regardless, we're programmed to like those things (vag, boobs, etc), so hence we enjoy them. I look at a girl, and in seconds I can tell whether or not I want to hook up with her. Trying to answer WHY in detail just can't be done, at least not in my case.

EDIT: I also just want to say that the whole beauty industry is retarded and a waste of time and money. Either you're hot or you're not, it's that brutal and instant.

 

[StBishop]

Short answer: We're programmed to find members of the opposite sex attractive (well, unless you're wired differently, but hey, I don't judge).

Like I said in the OP, I anticipated such a response, but such a simple answer isn't really what I'm asking.

Surely there's some kind of thought process.

Again, I'm always hearing this sort of response but it doesn't really answer the question at all. I mean, it's the root reason why people are attracted to different things, different wiring. But it doesn't explain what exactly goes through the mind about different stuff. Saying that "it's just programming" just doesn't tell you near enough. It more avoids answering the question that actually answers it.

Furthermore, some stuff about attraction seems downright shallow anyway. Not dating people because they're fat? Come on.

fat mother = fat offspring.

Shallow is a term we've created to mean "Selective in choosing potential mates based on Phenotypes." or choosing certain mate types (athleticism, fat %, height, breast size, skin tone, eye colour, hair colour, etc.) all of the traits listed have benefits or negatives for our offspring. That's pretty much the answer.