I don't understand what people find so attractive about women. What is it and why?

[PuffTheMagicDragon]

...Wait, is this supposed to be satire of all the "I don't understand what people see in [popular game]" threads?

OT in case it isn't: That's how we're programmed. For mating purposes, apparently.

I think if you thought about it more deeply you'd see specfic reasons... I'm not saying a fetish can make a man be attracted to a woman, which the same applys for a woman to a man, but what im trying to say is it plays a role...

Unlike my brother who is older than me mind you, he looks at women as meat to be used and disposed of. I on the other hand find that disgusting ( and yes im a guy )... I aint trying to get all lovey-dovey or whatever but alot of girls to me just dont seem right, and then i see one girl that stands out or whatnot and i cant help but fantasize about how things may playout...

Plus I never judge a book by its cover. Too bad the 99% of you women tend to do that, Just saying...

 

[Danny Ocean]

Social conditioning. Things that are "objectively pleasing" usually aren't at all. Just look through history, and you'll see things that are entirely hideous and abhorrent to us today were once considered the height of being attractive,

Example?

*snip*

You might think you're asking a clever question, but you're not. It's a stupid question. You are apparently (judging from the thread so far) asking for a logical justification for a fundamentally illogical and subjective preference.

Every time someone has just told you why they prefer the look of women, you've said "but whyyyyyyyy" like a goddam five-year-old and/or called them shallow. Do you think you're physically unattractive and pissed off about it or something? What the hell even bought this impossible question on?

You might as well be asking why so many people like red. Stupid question; condescending answer.

You're not going to get the answer you're looking for because that answer doesn't exist.

The same reason everything is attractive, because it's attraction. Attraction doesn't need to make any logical sense and to try and rationalise it is just fucking stupid. You need to simply accept that people find other people attractive and leave it at that. There isn't some higher reason behind it all, it's everything from your life pooled together that creates who you find attractive.

This.

 

[Fledge]

Dat ass, dem curves.

How can you not love the female body shape?

 

[Singularly Datarific]

They've a prettier figure, meanwhile guys have the silhouette of a box.

 

[Adeptus Aspartem]

1. General attraction to the other gender is biological.

2. The reasons why women are "overrated" is because it sells well. In our history men were mostly the ones earning the money and women the spender.
Aka get women to think they need to be more attractive = more money
and show men attractive women so they spend more money.

Also since our culture was (and still is, but to a tiny less degree) dominated by men, the female beauty was a more frequent topic then the male beauty.

Actually this question is easily answered by a mediocre knowledge of biology, history and economics.
We need to reproduce; a male-dominated past and sexs sells.

Life isn't that complicated <.<

 

[ElPatron]

What do women have that men don't? A vagina? What's so great about those? It's just another hole, a particular hole, that, if anything, is constantly under threat of being pregnant. A situation that is often disadvantageous to everyone involved.

If it serves as consolation, there is a small chance of pregnancy from anal sex too. Just don't ask me how it works.


Anyway, I don't think this will change your mind, but the vagina was developed by evolution with a purpose in mind. It's relevant that vaginal sex is more comfortable for both parties.

Second, constant threat? Ask my friends birth control pills and condoms. You see children as a "threat" so obviously I am not going to explain how it certainly is a threat if you are too young/have a crappy life - but otherwise it isn't.



Boobs? What's so great about boobs? They're flabby sacks of fat that flap around.
Maybe your grandma's flap around. Really. Get with a girl of your age, touch them. They are firm enough.

And the great thing about them is that it bonds babies to their mothers and naturally feeds them, since we are mammals. The more you know...


If you like boobs, are you attracted to man-boobs? Because I can't tell much of a difference except for that one is on a male and one is on a female.

Well, DUUHHH. If you are heterosexual you are going to be attracted to female breasts, not the man's. I mean, this is blatantly obvious.

Plus, man boobs have "nothing" on them. Female ones have. Mammal glands.

Are you sure you are really bisexual? You should try to be with more girls and find it for yourself.

 

[Draitheryn]

Why do people like men? We're hairy, we're smelly, we're more coarse, we have odd looking appendages hanging between our legs, coupled with a sweaty, stinky wrinkled sack.
I wish I was gay because I abhor 99% of women's personalities, when it comes down to it however, the male body disgusts me. I am sexually attracted to women and there's no greater reason I could possibly give you than "because". I like boobs, I like asses, I like the softness of a woman, their facial structure, hair and 100 other things that appeal to me that I couldn't explain to myself, let alone you.

 

[someonehairy-ish]

Because we're biologically programmed to find certain thing attractive, then culturally programmed to find certain things attractive. Exactly what those things are varies on culture and genetics.
There's no thought process to it. When you decide what food you like do you objectively weigh it on pros and cons?

 

[gazumped]

I (bi female) prefer female bodies and feminine men so up until this thread I could have believed that everyone agreed women were prettier. As a lot of people have pointed out, it's partially because most people would rather snuggle with the big eyed, rounded cute person with the babyface, but in the case of the less pretty and more 'handsome' women (usually older and more confident than cute) they still tend to win because they have curves, and curves are nicer on the eyes than male rectangular bodies.
Hence Hogath's line of beauty http://raggedclothcafe.com/2008/02/21/hogarths-line-of-beauty/ which is a curve that he reckoned was the basis of all great art. (Although he was a -presumably- straight male, so perhaps he was biased.)

It escapes me. Fat on the chest? Ok. Fat on the tummy? Not ok. Huh? What's the difference?

Body fashions change. I think someone already pointed out that in cultures where food is scarcer, fat is a sign of fertility and wealth. However in first world countries where food is plentiful, thinness is hard to attain so is seen as special.
The attraction to a culture's body fashion - obviously not hard wired into our animal instincts if they change across cultures and times - is a case of trying to gain social capital. By that I mean, people looking for the things that are fashionable over what they'd otherwise be attracted to in order to be seen as more successful when they find a fashionable mate.
Blind people may be more or less attracted to someone just from knowing if they're seen by others as attractive or not, even though it makes little difference to them (although it could be argued that their mate's attractiveness will have an affect on the social success of their offspring, should they chose to have any.) http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/magazine/8069993.stm

Large breast (while I think are overrated, I prefer small and perky) are a biological signal that an individual has plenty to provide to any offspring.

Another example of people thinking they're hard wired into finding the fashionable body attractive. Large breasts make no more milk than small breasts, they merely take longer to fill up http://breastfeedingbasics.info/do-big-breasts-make-more-milk and the con of them is that they're more awkward to feed children with without smothering them (this I've heard from mothers I know comparing experiences and, yes, babies have been smothered from feeding before http://www.news.com.au/travel/news/mum-smothers-baby-while-breastfeeding-on-jet/story-e6frfq80-1225805936317 ).
And for the woman herself, big boobs are more likely to lead to back problems. Neither are really better than the other and small boobs have been the ideal in times past. (See the Middle Ages, where the perfect breasts were said to be the size of apples http://www.montanakaimin.com/opinion/nobody-s-right-adore-me-1.2690014#.TtPK2rIr27s and just a century ago when it was fashionable amongst Flapper women to flatten their breasts by wrapping fabric around their chests http://www.anzasa.arts.usyd.edu.au/ahas/flappers_overview.html .)

bisexuality strikes me as selfish. what, 3.5 billion possible sexual partners isnt enough for you? its gotta be the full 7 billion? might as well be Agnostic too

Heck yeah, 7 billion potential partners and God AND Science have got my back. You should try it!

 

[TD5160]

Like I said in the OP, I anticipated such a response, but such a simple answer isn't really what I'm asking.

But it is. We can't clarify a instinctual and hormonal attraction. If you aren't attracted to girls, you're not attracted to girls. Simple as that.

Why the hell do you find guys attractive? I look at my penis, and I see a tube of meat with a wrinkly, brain coral-like sack underneath. Yet girls love it. No clue why. And I'll never understand. I'm not programmed for it.

 

[NathLines]

I didn't get it either at first. Then I started watching hentai. I never appreciated curves until I saw the effort that was being put into drawing them. I'm not afraid to admit it D:

Also, I'm a guy. Most guys like girls, it's natural. If you put a male rabbit and a female rabbit in a cage, they're going to pork eachother. There's no bigger meaning, explanation or philosophical hoo-ha behind it. We just have a basic urge to reproduce.

 

[Blow_Pop]

boobs and ass are great on women blah blah blah but in all honesty for a lot of people it is pheromones. They just don't realise it. I am bisexual as well but I am not so much attracted to someone's looks as I am their intelligence. Give me good mentally stimulating conversation for an hour or two over the "hottest woman/man on the planet" any day and that is more satisfying to me than any physical pleasure I may or may not get from them. I will say that I have a disposition of being attracted to women with red hair more than any other hair colour but that is probably because it is pleasing to my eyes. Some of what you are attracted to has to do with your personal preferences and the psychological and sociological aspects of how you were raised.

 

[Dystopia]

This thread is hilarious.

OP, you can't claim to be bisexual then in the same post state that you find vaginas revolting and that you wouldn't go near one, and that breasts are just 'sacks of fat'. Do you know what bisexual means?

Also, breasts are not just fat. They are also made up of pectoral muscle, then a layer of fat, and the majority are lobules and milk ducts. The reason men find them more attractive than moobs is because they are ON WOMEN.

OP is clearly a troll looking for an argument, as the question has been answered thoroughly. Surely that's a bannable offense?

 

[The Man With the Soap]

I don't mean to say I don't understand any small portion of it. I'm a bisexual myself so I'm indeed just a bit attracted to women, too.

And yet, I still don't get it. It feels like that feeling that something is overrated because you don't like it as much as other people, even if that reasoning is completely illogical. And especially within the realm of sexual attraction where all is some kind of pure taste or orientation or whatever. But it rather bugs me.

Because some people seem to act as if women are somehow universally beautiful, aside from even sexual orientation or anything. And billions of dollars are spent on highlighting women's supposed "objective beauty". And it feels weird, I don't get it. What's so beautiful about females? I, for one, don't see any kind of objective beauty in the woman. Heck, I don't even see what people think is some "beautiful" or "pretty" about women.

I know this isn't any better than a man asking "what's so attractive about men? I don't understand it." topic. And I would be fine with such a topic, to be honest.

But I seriously just feel dumbfounded. Feel free to make your own about men. But me, I don't get what's so attractive about women. What do women have that men don't? A vagina? What's so great about those? It's just another hole, a particular hole, that, if anything, is constantly under threat of being pregnant. A situation that is often disadvantageous to everyone involved. Boobs? What's so great about boobs? They're flabby sacks of fat that flap around. If you like boobs, are you attracted to man-boobs? Because I can't tell much of a difference except for that one is on a male and one is on a female.

You can give a typical expected answer of "oh God this question is stupid. It's of course because evolutionary reproductive biology men are meant to be attracted to women and women are meant to be attracted to men blahblahblah" but that doesn't actually answer my question.

And I know a lot of people are going to turn heads at this topic, but it's a thought that's seriously bugging me. It's just so, mysterious and odd to me. And it's probably not in my sexuality to "get" all of it. But I'd at least like to kinda understand it aside from "well men are supposed to be attracted to women and blahblah". I mean, I know I like the colour blue because it seems calming and reminds me of the water, and I like to swim. I wish I could at least wrap my head around what goes through people's minds when they find females attractive.

I don't care if you're not even physically attracted to us, and find women beautiful nonetheless, but I just want to know why the heck people seem to find women so beautiful. If anything, a lot of things about us seem kinda gross.

The answer to your question is that there is no one answer to your question. The reasoning depends on a myriad of factors: society, media, orientation, gender, biology, personal preference, ect. There is also the problem that every woman is different, so there are no universal features to women.

 

[DevilWithaHalo]

Now I?m all for delving into the natures of people?s sexuality for curiosities sake, but?

Secondly, something seems wrong about a man being attracted to lactation. It has to do with feeding babies. Not adult men, babies. And being attracted to lactation seems like a twist to one's sexuality. Because the first thing that should come to someone's mind if they think of lactation should be children. Not "that turns me on".

?this is the second time I?ve seen you insult others based on their sexual preferences. If you?re so demanding that others be accepting of your own, then stop being a hypocrite. I figure I'll point it out to you one time before you hop on my ignore list.

Sucking on a nice pair of tits doesn't mean I have mommy issues or have a twisted sense of perverted sexuality. Nor does enjoying anal sex mean I'm a fecalpheliac (spellings probably way off).

But hey, I don't understand your wierd attraction toward men, or your current sexual crisis on the disgust you find with you own body parts. So I'll just call you a woman, and avoid the unneccessary insults I could use.

 

[kaizen2468]

It's instinct I think. At least it largely is. Just a big mix of chemicals and brain tissue