I Need a Friend... Oh, Wait...

[Gxas]

I hope things work out for you.

Thank you, that means a lot to me.

ah, okay. Not so far off then.. I had similar situations in high school... I've only ever had one person I could tell EVERYTHING to... but I've had at other times, 2 or 3 different friends, between which, I could tell everything... So certain things I could share with one, other things with another... and usually that was separated by gender, hence my assumption that yours were girls.

But the one I could share everything with was a girl, who was coincidentally the girlfriend of the only other person I could consider a best friend.. Which was a weird situation, to say the least.

Heh, I bet that was. That's the problem with Heather. I talk to her as though we were dating. You don't know how many times I've sent a text to her with "hun" or "dear" or "darling" in it. The worst is when I end a conversation with her with an "I love you". Its so strange that she has stuck around with me after all of this, despite having a boyfriend.

 

[IzisviAziria]

Heh, I bet that was. That's the problem with Heather. I talk to her as though we were dating. You don't know how many times I've sent a text to her with "hun" or "dear" or "darling" in it. The worst is when I end a conversation with her with an "I love you". Its so strange that she has stuck around with me after all of this, despite having a boyfriend.

She and I had some odd moments, especially if it was at a get-together involving alcohol... But we always had some awkward tension between us, like there was stuff that went unexpressed... I've always sorta wondered "what if?" but I never did explored it because I was afraid of ruining the nature of our relationship.

It's not a pleasant situation though.. She was literally the first non-related girl I ever said "I love you" to, and it was... mostly non-romantic.. And what little there may or may not have been, was left unexpressed. *shrug*

You say you talk to her as if you were dating... unexpressed feelings? or perhaps, misleadingly expressed feelings? Or is it just a quirk of the friendship? Cause I've certainly known (and been) both.

 

[Megalodon]

I often don't have someone to talk to. And even if I did, I'm a dude.

Testosterone won't allow everything to slip past. It just won't.

Times like these, life sucks big dick. Oh well.

Pretty much this, even when I want to talk to the couple of people I even slightly trust with serious stuff, I just clam up and can't.

 

[Kud]

I only have one friend and I get jealous really fast if she hangs outs with someone else that isn't me...

And we ignore each other a lot when we are annoyed at something, but we love each other anyways.

 

[Estocavio]

I have no real friends, and ive never felt the need to talk to anyone really.
I find myself thoroughly amused with this forum.
Unlike many though i intentionally made it this way and i keep it this way.

 

[Nealran]

Mh. I've...got some friends, but I've been living in my own little world since I was 7. I don't usually mind not seeing my friends for weeks on end; I know I'll see 'em soon enough, good times will be had, yadda yadda. That being said, when I'm feeding trade trolls in WoW at 4 in the morning for the sheer schadenfreude...yeah, I've had that feeling. Good times ><

 

[Sgt Doom]

Meh, got no friends, and all attempts thus far to get friends has failed. I wonder what time the express train will pass by the local station.

 

[Disaster Button]

I am seperated by the two people I am closest two by 3000 miles and an ocean inhabitated by dragons. So yeah I guess you could say I don't have any real friends, not any that I can be physically next to anyway.

 

[Acaroid]

Have you ever had a day where you just needed someone to talk to and you realize either:
a] You have no real friends.
b] You are fighting with your friends, and there's no one else to talk to.

I realized today that I have no real friends, at all. I mean, I'm close to my family, but I don't like talking to them about anything. I'm not really dating anyone either, so that's out of the question.

What about you?

So you come on the internet and complain...

GET OFF YOUR COMPUTER AND GO OUT AND MAKE SOME FRIENDS
/thread

 

[The Ambrosian]

My, this is a depressing thread.
but i'm actually quite happy with my friends at the moment.

 

[Gxas]

Heh, I bet that was. That's the problem with Heather. I talk to her as though we were dating. You don't know how many times I've sent a text to her with "hun" or "dear" or "darling" in it. The worst is when I end a conversation with her with an "I love you". Its so strange that she has stuck around with me after all of this, despite having a boyfriend.

She and I had some odd moments, especially if it was at a get-together involving alcohol... But we always had some awkward tension between us, like there was stuff that went unexpressed... I've always sorta wondered "what if?" but I never did explored it because I was afraid of ruining the nature of our relationship.

It's not a pleasant situation though.. She was literally the first non-related girl I ever said "I love you" to, and it was... mostly non-romantic.. And what little there may or may not have been, was left unexpressed. *shrug*

You say you talk to her as if you were dating... unexpressed feelings? or perhaps, misleadingly expressed feelings? Or is it just a quirk of the friendship? Cause I've certainly known (and been) both.

Like I said, she is the love of my life and the one that got away. We had dated for a time, but then the distance didn't work out and we were forced to break up. We talked for a while after, where I obsessed over her, but then she got a boyfriend who told her to stop talking to me or they were through.

Off and on for about half a year she messaged me telling me to stop talking shit about her (which I never did... I still don't know who told her I was...) but eventually she came to her senses and realized that she couldn't stand not talking to me, the feeling was mutual. We started talking again and still realize that we are in love. She is torn between me and her current boyfriend and stays with him because they live together and she cannot stand hurting him.

I keep her around as a friend because I cannot stop talking to her, no matter how much it hurts, but know that I need to move on.

Thats a brief explanation of our relationship.

 

[IzisviAziria]

Like I said, she is the love of my life and the one that got away. We had dated for a time, but then the distance didn't work out and we were forced to break up. We talked for a while after, where I obsessed over her, but then she got a boyfriend who told her to stop talking to me or they were through.

Off and on for about half a year she messaged me telling me to stop talking shit about her (which I never did... I still don't know who told her I was...) but eventually she came to her senses and realized that she couldn't stand not talking to me, the feeling was mutual. We started talking again and still realize that we are in love. She is torn between me and her current boyfriend and stays with him because they live together and she cannot stand hurting him.

I keep her around as a friend because I cannot stop talking to her, no matter how much it hurts, but know that I need to move on.

Thats a brief explanation of our relationship.

I'm so sorry to hear that Distance does terrible things to people in love, as do circumstances. Live life, find joy, find friends, be with friends, and eventually you'll find yourself moving on. Time heals.

Best of luck.. You sound like you could use some.

 

[Gxas]

I'm so sorry to hear that Distance does terrible things to people in love, as do circumstances. Live life, find joy, find friends, be with friends, and eventually you'll find yourself moving on. Time heals.

Best of luck.. You sound like you could use some.

Thank you, my friend. It is always nice to hear that, so few people really understand and just tell me to quit whining.

Thank you again, I really appreciate it.

 

[jultub]

I have no real friends, and ive never felt the need to talk to anyone really.
I find myself thoroughly amused with this forum.
Unlike many though i intentionally made it this way and i keep it this way.

Or maybe you're just living in complete and utter denial?

 

[Capt. Crankypants]

Yeah, too true. It's been a long road of circumstance and my own personality crashing my socialness. Working nightfill for so long after I finished school, not keeping in touch with any of my school friends because they really weren't worth the effort. Fortunately I have a loving girlfriend just down the street though, and she's just a complete life-saver. She always wants to spend time with me and I'm glad for it.

Anyway, Hopefully I'll be moving interstate soon, so I'll be able to start over with my social life, hopefully develop a small group of friends, and possibly find 1 or 2 real good chums to hang around with. And perhaps some lady chums

Good thread O.P, I'm sure you'll get a lot of sincere responses, and looks like you already have

 

[Estocavio]

I have no real friends, and ive never felt the need to talk to anyone really.
I find myself thoroughly amused with this forum.
Unlike many though i intentionally made it this way and i keep it this way.

Or maybe you're just living in complete and utter denial?

Thats what everyone seems to think.
And my response will always be "Im sure".

 

[James Hueick]

A) Is exactly my school life...

 

[Raikov]

If you lack friends that live close by, and have no way of visiting them, you should try a version of what you are doing right now.

Get some random friend (a good, serious friend, that is not afraid to talk about feelings, be it a man or woman) on the internet, preferably one that live so far away that meeting them is out of the question, and then just talk about everything you need to with them.
I've tried this a few times with fellows I've met in MMO:s, and it really... released me of alot of anxiety. Tell them your whole life if necessary. You will be safe knowing that whatever you say to them will not get known to the guys you're talking about.

And who knows, you might get a friend for life. Just make sure that the person you're talking to has the time to listen, and is not an asshole.

 

[SextusMaximus]

I have a fair few friends, there are about 5 I share secrets with.

 

[jultub]

I have no real friends, and ive never felt the need to talk to anyone really.
I find myself thoroughly amused with this forum.
Unlike many though i intentionally made it this way and i keep it this way.

Or maybe you're just living in complete and utter denial?

Thats what everyone seems to think.
And my response will always be "Im sure".

Kinda funny, because I have intentionally made it the same way, and I'm currently striving very hard to break it. Though I must admit that I was happy with it for very long Not that I'm saying that the same will happen to you. But if it does, good luck... It's not an easy pattern to break :/