I Need a Friend... Oh, Wait...
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Haha, that's so harsh.JimmyBassatti said:
Anyway, to answer the original question, I feel the same. I've only had a select few during my life I could explain any emotional problems I'm having. I could never explain it to my family. In fact, some times, they make things worse. I only have one person currently I can talk to when I'm feeling bad and she's an American girl I have never met. It's weird.
I've got lots of friends. For instance:
There's K, who never calls or e-mails me, let alone meets me IRL. (In her defence, she's got a tiring life right now.)
There's I-A, who lives so far away I can't meet her.
There's L, who lives in Japan, and so I can't meet her either.
There's E, who lives so far away I can't meet her.
So even though I've got friends, there's nobody I can hang out with. But hey, at least I've got my health and my comics.
There's K, who never calls or e-mails me, let alone meets me IRL. (In her defence, she's got a tiring life right now.)
There's I-A, who lives so far away I can't meet her.
There's L, who lives in Japan, and so I can't meet her either.
There's E, who lives so far away I can't meet her.
So even though I've got friends, there's nobody I can hang out with. But hey, at least I've got my health and my comics.
You seem like the type of person who hasn't hugged their parent(s) in a long time. Are you that type of person?Aerodyamic said:
OT: No I actually have a decent small group of friends I can talk to. Lucky me!
I've got a fair few friends online and off. I can be a little bit hard to find but I'm generally there when people need me.
As far as sharing my thoughts? I'm an open book. My Facebook feed's a rollicking read, my forum posts are pretty much exactly what you could expect if I were right there in the room with you, and I'm trying to become a better person, more Neutral Good than Chaotic Neutral even though the latter's my natural alignment.
I'm not romantically involved. I find committed relationships...limiting. (but then again, that can change in a flash...in fact, that's how it usually goes with me!)
Point? My social life is a flexible, agile beast that frequently surprises even me. Can't say I've ever seriously been hard up (settle down, Beavis) for a friend when I've needed one.
As far as sharing my thoughts? I'm an open book. My Facebook feed's a rollicking read, my forum posts are pretty much exactly what you could expect if I were right there in the room with you, and I'm trying to become a better person, more Neutral Good than Chaotic Neutral even though the latter's my natural alignment.
I'm not romantically involved. I find committed relationships...limiting. (but then again, that can change in a flash...in fact, that's how it usually goes with me!)
Point? My social life is a flexible, agile beast that frequently surprises even me. Can't say I've ever seriously been hard up (settle down, Beavis) for a friend when I've needed one.
Same here. I realized years ago and haven't done much to change it.FourEyedPandora said:
I have maybe 5 online friends (ranging from 2 years to 7 years ago since meeting) that I actually talk to about anything and I find it hard to even try to make more friends online.
Recently I found out that I need the other person to talk to me first to be comfortable in real life. It's something I have to get over and I am starting college soon, so hopefully there.
Meh. I don't care much about the "talking about emotions" part most of the time, but really, why does no one ever have time to do stuff?
I admitt I have geeky needs that need to be satisfied, like comic book conventions or gaming discussions, but everyone seems to be 'too busy' to even go to the cinema. Yes, we are about to do our final exams, but that doesn't mean you can't go out for mere hours... once!
I admitt I have geeky needs that need to be satisfied, like comic book conventions or gaming discussions, but everyone seems to be 'too busy' to even go to the cinema. Yes, we are about to do our final exams, but that doesn't mean you can't go out for mere hours... once!
Seems I'm not alone after all. I do have a lot(read enough) friends but few that I feel comfortable to talk to. Actually none, strange since they are the kind of people that always bail me out of trouble. If I dared to speak I don't think they would think I'm an idiot.
I used to have the feeling of not having anyone to talk to. I still don't really in real life, as most of my friends would just laugh if I truly opened up to them, but I've met a couple on the internet that will listen to me share my feelings. 
I had that happen to me ONCE and it was last year. And the people I could talk to were in college, away at boarding school, or busy. But, it's all good now.
I'll give you some advice I wrote in a poem.
So remember
When life knocks you down
Stand back up
And knock it one right back.
I'll give you some advice I wrote in a poem.
So remember
When life knocks you down
Stand back up
And knock it one right back.
Oddly, my real friends are all long-distance Internet friends, type of dudes I'd talk to about serious stuff.
I'm very introverted, and coincidentally when it comes to my issues I talk to myself more than I talk to my friends.
I know exactly how this feels. I've been in this mode for several years now, even if I am in the so-called "good times" of life with college and all that. For me, it's all been a big joke on me that, as I am 5 weeks away from graduation, is a joke that is soon to likely turn into a nightmare.FourEyedPandora said:
Thing is... i've got alot of issues and things i'd want to talk about, and that's probably part of the problem. Anyone who has been there as a friend ends up getting overwhelmed by the sheer amount of stuff that I need to get off my chest. Imagine trying to get ~7-8 years worth of stuff that's been eating at you for years off your chest, or rather being the person who has to hear all that? That person changes from being a friend to being a shrink that isnt getting paid for it. Then they sorta stop being your friend afterwards, and eventually might have an outburst saying you are too "messed up/depressing" to spend time with.
I'm sorta resigned to living with an ever-increasing multitude of personal nightmares that just will not go away. I make friends who, after being a true friend for a time, end up becoming people who just listen to a never-ending session of thoughts, reflections, and troubles. After those people stop listening, I have to find someone else because then I am all alone once again. That's where i'm at right now. The few *sorta* friends I had who were willing to tolerate me were all fellow WoW players, and I quit WoW last month after years of game-related frustrations. I got all those people's e-mails, but... they don't respond even to friendly messages, much less introspection.
I have a loving and supporting family. On the surface at least. In reality, both of my parents, who are still married after 24 years by the way, have plenty of issues on their own and are far too caught up with their personal work to make any real difference. They "say" that they are open to talking about stuff, but everytime I do they just don't seem to understand or they jump to a conclusion well before I have finished saying what it is that I was going to talk about. They also adopted my cousin from an abusive home, and that has brought plenty of new issues with it that have only made things worse. My parents are good people, but they just have too many of their own personal issues to really be able to spare some of their already overstretched mental resources. In other words, they are there for me, but totally useless for emotional support.
Sorry about that post. But... that's just something that I needed to say. I guess that's a cry for help, maybe.
P.S. It's just heavy right now. I will always survive, and thrive, despite what happens. My personal nature is stubborn like that. But "existing" is not the same thing as "living".
