I need a hug...

[Zenofire]

*50% off hug*

{After reading other comments} However, if you don't wanna give up, there's still my method.

Stay her friend and always be there for her. Don't diss the guy. If and when he hurts her, comfort her and do NOT bad mouth him. Always be the good guy and look out for her and not yourself. Compliment her, call her beautiful. And when you do, say this: "When a guy looks at a girls body, he calls her sexy. When he calls her cute, he's looking at her face. But when a man calls a girl beautiful, he looking at her heart. And you, my dear, are the most beautiful girl I have ever had the pleasure to meet"

In the end you will still be there and she will see how wrong she was for ever letting you go. That's what's worked for me anyway. Good luck

[edited for punctuation]

 

[GoblinOnFire]

Here you go, princess... *hugs*

 

[KindOfnElf]

If you love her, then men up. It's what TRUE love does - you want her to be happy and you ALLOW her to be happy, even if happy means you are NOT in that picture.
Everything else is self pitying. Why judge her? When she said what she said, she meant it at the given time. but things change DAILY, emotions are not to be controlled and pushed. One day one just wakes up and realizes where ones happiness lies. Let her go.
How do you know that she doesn't feels bad about the things she said to you, and not being able to fulfill them? but if she forced herself to do so, than she goes against herself, and both of you will end up very very bitter, cause you'll know in time that she is with you because of a promise, and not because of love, and that my friend hurts waaayy more than this. I don't see her as a liar, I see her as a brave and honest person. And truth hurts when we don't like the way things are.
Give yourself time to be sad, deal with the pain in ways you know best. Then, when the time is right and you feel ready... let go. And start over again with someone new.
*hug*

 

[NiallXoldham]

*hugs*

You got balls kid, talking about that on a website, though this isn't 4chan so thankgod for that. I can't say 'she was just using you because she just wanted your attention' because I know nothing about you or her, but I can say that you just need to let it go, don't stop having her as a friend, but just let it go, be happy about the times you had and live your life how you wanted it, go out and live, take the chances. Loves like ducttape on your forearm, first few times it's ripped off it hurts, but as it happens it gets easier, its still terrible to go through, but its apart of life.

Be safe my friend

 

[astrav1]

Deal with it. People are shit and you'll learn eventually. It's unfortunate but necessary to grow stronger.

 

[Black Rabt]

*hug*

 

[The_root_of_all_evil]

Hehe, thanks. I still talk to her quite a bit. I woke up in the middle of the night a few hours ago, felt like crap, and she texted me to cheer me up. She really does seem to still care, but I'm appalled at how she could do such a thing to me. I've told her I'm not mad at her, just disappointed at how she jumped to a decision so hastily when she realized how much it could hurt me if she came back and didn't date me.

Son, and I say that with plenty of experience, don't do it.

She was a ***** (fact) and now she wants to have you as a friend that hangs onto her. DON'T.

She's trying to get the two of you to love her equally and that's not fair on either of you. Lose her quick and find someone who actually cares for you as much as you care for them. They are out there and you CERTAINLY don't need someone who just wants a fair-weather friend.

There's a lot of decent people out there who'd be happy to have you; but an equal amount of people who just want you to be their sycophant.

DON'T STAND FOR SECOND PLACE. And have a hug.

 

[TriggerUnhappy]

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I've been through a similar situation, it sucked. I recommend not even trying to talk with her, respond if she calls you and such, but don't be angry or make a situation. Rather, just slowly let her fade out of your life, because you don't need someone like that. Seriously, that was a huge ***** move, and to continue to be friends would only serve to hurt you more. Best of luck though.
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I don't always hug others. But when I do, I prefer tigers. Keep hugging my friends...

 

[Kris015]

Hey there. I'm having a tough time right now, and I could use a bit of emotional support and advice. You fellows at The Escapist are some of the nicest people I've ever seen on the internet, and I suppose it wouldn't hurt to talk about my problems here.

Anyways, my story.

Me and this girl have been in love with each other for about a month and a half now. We were never officially dating, because she's leaving for college in BC next month and she didn't want to date before she left. She always told me she'd come back to me when she was done her ten month course, and it felt good having something to look forward to. Last Sunday, however, me and her had a talk... Since she couldn't guarantee that we'd be together, she decided to just end it. She even said she was unsure about being in love with me any more.

That alone was a huge disappointment and hurt me greatly, but there's more. She's had this guy friend for a long time, and just recently it's become clear that he has a crush on her. I encouraged her to be friends with him, but I made my concern about his affection clear. She said she would say no if he asked her out -- she had me, after all. Just last night, she told me he asked her out and she said yes...

I feel absolutely betrayed. She went against her own wish to not date until she left. She broke her promise that she wouldn't date him. I don't know what happened to her, but I still love her and am deeply hurt by her actions. She says she still values me as a friend and care about me, but I really don't know...

I honestly don't know what to do any more... I'm so depressed, I've lost five pounds because I can't even eat. I feel absolutely horrible when I think of them...

Any support from you Escapists would make me feel leagues better.

I've been through something similar, yet worse and more serious recently. My only advice, though this may seem a bit harsh and extremely hard, is just to get over it. Starving yourself is definetly not the answer and you're a teenager, these things happen to a lot of people this age. Trust me, you'll find someone else, it's really just to get back up.

oh, and *hug*

 

[open trap]

Leave her just as emotionally scared, give her a big speech on how you trusted her and shes ruining her life and put her on big guilt trip.

 

[ESCAPIST DELETE THIS ACCOUNT]

Punch the other guy, then you`ll feel better unless he beats you up then you`ll feel even worse.. all i know is it worked for me i felt much better after

 

[clipse15]

wow the misogyny is strong in this forum. What's with all the people calling her a *****? what did she do? stop loving a guy who from what i am reading was probably quite smothering? Your angry because she did something she said she wouldn't do? (Dating before she left) Well you weren't upset when she went against what she said to date you. Look she's not doing any of this to spite you she's just doing what she knows she wants. My only advice to you is to not stay cooked up and to get out and keep yourself busy.

 

[Zarthek]

Something almost exactly like this happened to me a few years ago, I was down for a while until my dad noticed I was acting a little wierd... He then took me out to the desert with a shotgun and the piece of crap computer that everyone hated. I think the only thing of it that survived was a stick of RAM...

Long story short, Destruction can be a good therapy... just don't go too crazy now.

More Advice: It's best that you move on, I think she was trying to lie to soften it up to you somehow then realized it wouldn't work =/, the girl that betrayed me was straight about it and it still hurt like hell, I'm not sure if there's a good way to end a relationship unless it's a mutual agreement.
Just take it easy, listen to music that will help, if possible bring some inanimate object you hate out to the gun range/nearby desert and blow it to bits.

 

[rt052192]

my advice to you is to hang out with some guy friends to get over it. Don't sit alone or brood on it, try to move on and go about as normal. Easier said than done, but trust me you will feel alot better and I'm sure your friends will support you.

 

[Blitzkreg]

You know, sometimes things like that hurt, but there really isn't anything you can do without making the situation worse. I know you still feel for her, but its probably time to let go and move on. Dwelling on something that is dead really wont help anyone. Besides, the sooner you do this the sooner you'll find someone else and hopefully next time things will go better.
best of luck
/hug

 

[Burningsok]

Hey there. I'm having a tough time right now, and I could use a bit of emotional support and advice. You fellows at The Escapist are some of the nicest people I've ever seen on the internet, and I suppose it wouldn't hurt to talk about my problems here.

Anyways, my story.

Me and this girl have been in love with each other for about a month and a half now. We were never officially dating, because she's leaving for college in BC next month and she didn't want to date before she left. She always told me she'd come back to me when she was done her ten month course, and it felt good having something to look forward to. Last Sunday, however, me and her had a talk... Since she couldn't guarantee that we'd be together, she decided to just end it. She even said she was unsure about being in love with me any more.

That alone was a huge disappointment and hurt me greatly, but there's more. She's had this guy friend for a long time, and just recently it's become clear that he has a crush on her. I encouraged her to be friends with him, but I made my concern about his affection clear. She said she would say no if he asked her out -- she had me, after all. Just last night, she told me he asked her out and she said yes...

I feel absolutely betrayed. She went against her own wish to not date until she left. She broke her promise that she wouldn't date him. I don't know what happened to her, but I still love her and am deeply hurt by her actions. She says she still values me as a friend and care about me, but I really don't know...

I honestly don't know what to do any more... I'm so depressed, I've lost five pounds because I can't even eat. I feel absolutely horrible when I think of them...

Any support from you Escapists would make me feel leagues better.

BIG Escapist Group Hug!!!

anyways, sry man. I know it's hard to deal with this. Here I'll give you some advice; the other members might of already given you advice like this or similar to it. Call her, ask her whats been going on, you know; small talk. Just be a very good supporting friend to her. I know she went against her own promise to you, but at some point it just needs to be forgiven. Also, stay in contact with her, show her that you don't want to forget her. Who knows she might get the message of what you are trying to tell her. Be supportive, hell try and get to know the guy she is going out with, he might be a cool guy. Not only will you possibly be good friends with the guy, but you will make her happy that you can get along.

One more thing, After talking to her for a while bring up the subject of why she decided to date the guy. Don't get angry at her; just ask why, and then forgive her. Be happy for her. Something about the guy must of made her instantly convinced. If she doesn't want to talk to you at all then tell her how you feel about this whole situation and if she can't understand and acknowledge how you feel then she isn't worth your time. If that is the case it would good to just move on. Keep a little bit of hope man. The future is very unpredictable.

Oh and keep your mind open if a random girl comes by and you want to date and get to know her. Only time will tell my friend. *big hug*

 

[Connor Lonske]

Man, at this very moment, I am going throught the exact samething as you are. I think the best thing to do is to let her go. If you really care about her, then do what makes her happy. Yeah, you will be heart broken, buts its even more resion to be proud. Tell her that you will leave her alone, and that she can make her own choices. She will respect you for that. Also, free man hug for you. *hugs*

 

[Ace of Spades]

I might sound a bit callous, but I would cut her off completely. If she was willing to break her promise of not dating for him and not you, she clearly does not care for you, regardless of what she says.