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[Seldon2639]

Well some women feel offended when a guy "not up to her standards" stares away like that. Also you could have made it a little less obvious. That was probably some girl i know, youre lucky you didnt get punched. You have much to learn young one.

I need to stop agreeing with you, it'll be bad for my reputation as contrary and petulant.

OP, if you'd been Hugo Slavinski (a name I only know because of Britanick) and staring at her, I'd bet you dimes to dollars that she would have blushed, and maybe even offered you her number. But, you're not, so instead of it being flattering and "good" attention, it was creepy "bad" attention.

Rule of thumb: if you're attractive enough that she'd likely date you, stare away. If you're not, it's creepy. I don't agree with the rule, but them's the breaks

but thats just pointing out that there is a double standard =| if i walked around in tight pants that let people see the outline of any erection i ever get, i wouldnt 1. care if an "unattractive" or "unpopular" girl was idolizing it, and 2. wouldnt be allowed to speak up to them if they did =|

Yes, there's a double standard. Yes, it's crappy. And, yes, if you walked in public wearing revealing clothing you would enjoy any attention you get from the opposite sex (positive attention, anyway). That's kind of a fundamental truth of life: men and women are different. Actually, everyone on the planet is different. Women who dress in such a way as to accent their features aren't usually doing so for non-specific male attention. They aren't doing it to be leered at by just any guy. She's doing it for the cute guy at the coffee shop, or the hot guy on the football team, or the professor she needs an "A" from. Even if she doesn't have a particular "target", she's looking for "good" male attention. She wants to be noticed by hot guys, and sexy guys, and guys she'd be willing (even eager) to sleep with.

She doesn't want attention from you.

People of different levels of physical attractiveness will get different reactions. That's just reality. Standing outside a girl's house holding up a boombox works for John Cusack, and almost any other really attractive guy. If I did it, I'd look like an idiot, and seem really creepy.

To quote from Gantz Abridged:

"Warning to all impressionable young people: asking her upfront right away is not a good way to get a girl to sleep with you. It only worked this time because Kurono is a badass action hero, and Sakura Oka is kind of a slut. You are not a badass action hero, you are a pathetic otaku, and even a slut like Sakura Oka wants to sleep with you."

 

[Haunted Serenity]

She was insecure about something and got hostile to cover it up.

 

[Hutch Hutchenson]

dude it happens all the time like today i was sitting in the class and the one chick came to me and was talking about class party and had her breast like out and when she tried to talk i was lik what huh huh ? so dude its not a big problem its normal

Gotta love the low cut shirts. "Whatcha looking at?" The cleavage you have so gloriously put on display.

 

[TheHitcher]

I think men earn the right to stare at breasts when they're on display.

Seriously, is there any other reason for them to be on display? I know that sounds sexist, but think about it properly, and it's not. Of course it's rude to stare for long periods of time. But if a women doesn't want her bits to be stared at, why dress in a revealing way?

 

[Xanadu84]

I think I see the problem...

You looked at her face, long enough to know all of those details. You looked eyes, she was looking at you, you were looking at her. Then, while locking eyes, and connecting in a small way, you then looked down at her breasts.

Don't blatantly let a girl know that your staring at her breasts. She wants to show them off, but drawing attention to the fact that your staring is just going to make her self conscious. It was a forgivable mistake, and she over-reacted. Learn your lesson in the discreet peak and move on. And if needing to be a little discreet is the price you must pay to encourage attractive girls to show em' off, then for the love of god, be discreet. It is a small price to pay.

 

[Aptspire]

My answer:
"Don't like it? Don't show em"
then again it is October in Quebec so there aren't many chances of this happening to me (it is cold outside and it is raining)

 

[Captain Schpack]

If they were out there, you can look. I mean siriusly if you know it'll happena and that it going to bother you that much then cover the fuck up.

 

[Wilfy]

No you're not a pervert.
Same sort of thing happened to me. A girl was bent over my desk when she was talking to me, said "Oh, bit of clevage there" and then told me off when I looked. I mean, she pointed it out for Christ's sake.

 

[DeathWyrmNexus]

You know what pisses me off more than ANYTHING on this topic?. Shirts with writing across the breast on women. I cant read it because il be called a pervert but it seems like the person in question wasted their time buying a humerous shirt if i do not.

Fig one: Read a girls shirt in town one i knew in passing and was called a pervert for staring there when theres some writing in MASSIVE multicoloured font.

Fig two: Different girl gets annoyed at me for not noticing the funny writing writen across her chest.

WHY DAMMIT WHY! I cant win with these people.

I just tend to give them the same scathing look they give me with more acid on it. Convey their level of fucking jackass with my eyes. They even get madder or surprised. Then I just chuckle and keep walking.

I'm just glad that I won the female lottery with my Lynn. She wears the stuff from time to time but lacks the hypocritical batshit insanity to think she isn't making a spectacle.

 

[Elurindel]

Well, my opinion is, if you don't want people looking, don't show them off so obviously. You put breasts on display, people are going to look, get used to it.

 

[DeathWyrmNexus]

No you're not a pervert.
Same sort of thing happened to me. A girl was bent over my desk when she was talking to me, said "Oh, bit of clevage there" and then told me off when I looked. I mean, she pointed it out for Christ's sake.

I am adding this woman to my list of people to hate with a seething passion.

 

[Godavari]

I stand firmly resolved that women who put their bodies on display should fully expect to be stared at, and not take offense. That being said, most women who dress like sluts (who aren't actually sluts) don't think that way.

It's a double standard I'd like to abolish, but for now, I'll just wear dark sunglasses wherever I go.

 

[Sparcrypt]

I LOVE when women do that to me...

First - sorry ladies but you get a choice... dress like that and guys will stare. You know they will, don't ***** when they do. If you don't like it then too bad - I really don't care how much of a 'right' you think you have to dress like that and expect people to pretend you're not because you're living in a fantasy world.

Basically I will probably check you out if I think you're attractive. If you're dressed like a slut, I'm also laughing at you. If you're dressed nicely, I'm just silently admiring before going on with my day. I'm not obsessing over you, I'm noticing that you're attractive the same way you notice a guy you think is attractive. The main difference is that women are more likely to notice you doing it (apparently I get checked out, according to my female friends.. I never notice) and that if a guy DOES notice? He takes it as a compliment, just like you should.

Second.. my response! Now I don't stare like a perv and think guys who do are a bit odd... it's not hard to get a look subtly. However if they scream at you for that.. just come back with "Sorry, I thought you looked quite nice today and was appreciating it... were you not trying to look attractive?" quite often makes them feel stupid

Or if they're really annoying "Yes.. because what you're wearing just screams 'respect me as a woman...'" then walk off.

If nothing else, don't let it get to you - they're being stupid so it's not your problem. Try not to look embarrassed or bashful - that's what they're aiming for. Whatever your response, make it clear and strong and you will win.

 

[Sparcrypt]

Still, not a problem I ever face, being Asexual/Anti-sexual.

Why? Choice or psychological issues?

I mean bad relationships etc suck but good ones make up for it with ease.

 

[Altorin]

"'Hey!! Just because I'm dressed this way, does not make me a whore!'

and she's right, just because you dress a certain way doesn't mean you are a certain way, but believe me ladies.. you have to understand how confusing that is..

That'd be like me, Dave Chapelle, the comedian, walking around dressed in a cop's uniform. Someone might come up to me and --

'Oh Officer, I'm so glad you're here, there are some guys chasing us.'
'Hey!! Just because i'm dressed this way, does not make me a police officer.'

So ladies, you might not be a whore.. but you are wearing a whore's uniform."

- Dave Chapelle, Killing Me Softly HBO Special

 

[Julianking93]

Well some women feel offended when a guy "not up to her standards" stares away like that. Also you could have made it a little less obvious. That was probably some girl i know, you're lucky you didn't get punched. You have much to learn young one.

I never understood that, i mean, now stuck up can you be when you think "He's not good enough to be looking at me". That is without a doubt one of the bitchiest things a woman can think.

Very true. If she puts it on display, she should expect [b/]everyone[/b] to notice.

 

[KamachoMcSagget]

Question.

Were you staring, or just glancing?

good question.

 

[ScruffyTheJanitor]

Loads of women say they'll hate something when they do in fact, like it. Surely it's a bit of a compliment if you like a women's appearance to look and enjoy the view. Sure it may be a bit takky and if the guy gawks at it it's hardly a sophisticated compliment, but it's nice once in a while to know your an attractive person and can catch the eye of the opposite sex just by walking near them.

 

[quiet_samurai]

If a girl doesn't want you to see her goods she won't put them on display, she wanted you to look... she just didn't want you to know that she wanted you to.

or

She wasn't attracted to you and figured you had no right to do so.

women..........

 

[Numb1lp]

Screw her. Why do girls do that?