I wish I was a gay man...(updated on Page 4)
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In addition to everyone else's points about how your views of homosexual relationships seems to be largely erroneous (they're really not so different from us heteros), bear in mind that if you were a gay male your potential pool of partners would be astronomically cut.
Think about it. The earth's population of straight men exceeds the population of gay men by many many times; so if you're looking for your soul mate or anything, you'll have a much much MUCH better chance of finding him, statistically speaking, in a straight man.
Unless... you're thinking gay is your "destiny" or something silly like that.
Also, might I remark, I doubt you'd be entirely happy with the result of SRS if you started it now. The earlier a transexual gets the work done, the smoother the process, especially if it's done before puberty.
I suspect this is a relatively recent thing, like you didn't have these feelings until you started developing sexually or sometime after?
Not that mtf straight men don't exist, it's just more often not the case in regards to lesbian fantasies.
Think about it. The earth's population of straight men exceeds the population of gay men by many many times; so if you're looking for your soul mate or anything, you'll have a much much MUCH better chance of finding him, statistically speaking, in a straight man.
Unless... you're thinking gay is your "destiny" or something silly like that.
Also, might I remark, I doubt you'd be entirely happy with the result of SRS if you started it now. The earlier a transexual gets the work done, the smoother the process, especially if it's done before puberty.
I suspect this is a relatively recent thing, like you didn't have these feelings until you started developing sexually or sometime after?
Yes but... usually only in fantasy. Typically it has nothing to do with transexualism and those men wouldn't be happy if they were actually women.Aerosteam 1908 said:
Not that mtf straight men don't exist, it's just more often not the case in regards to lesbian fantasies.
What sane man would give up his power to pee standing up so that he could have tits of his own? Yes, the latter may seem nice for a little while, but when you go to the restroom and realize you're going to have to sit down to take a piss you'll just come crying back to the rest of the peeing standing up population (note- this joke is obviously not meant to have anything to do with actual transsexuals).Aerosteam 1908 said:
I think you just have a very romanticized view of homosexual relationships. People seem to focus so much on how "okay" they are, and supporting them (which is good), but this seems to create the idea that homosexual relationships are perfect and stronger than other relationships. Which might be somewhat true due to the shared struggle, but honestly, if you think homosexual relationships are perfect, you must have not met many homosexuals.
If you like penis, then you were born as the ideal gender for it, you'll never have to worry about homophobia, and most people would argue that you'll have a lot more potential mates. I can't speak for myself, but not all straight guys are assholes. Just most of us
If you like penis, then you were born as the ideal gender for it, you'll never have to worry about homophobia, and most people would argue that you'll have a lot more potential mates. I can't speak for myself, but not all straight guys are assholes. Just most of us
The gist that I'm getting here is that you want the following:
A strong and loving relationship
AND
Something to feel pride in
Why do either have to involve being male and/or gay? :3 As others have said, thee seems to have a very idealized impression of the lifestyle, one listen to the song "September's Children" by rise against + music video will show it's not all roses and sunshine.
Just strive for what thee wants, don't sugarcoat it with idealized images ^^
And as others have suggested, you might identify as a male :3
A strong and loving relationship
AND
Something to feel pride in
Why do either have to involve being male and/or gay? :3 As others have said, thee seems to have a very idealized impression of the lifestyle, one listen to the song "September's Children" by rise against + music video will show it's not all roses and sunshine.
Just strive for what thee wants, don't sugarcoat it with idealized images ^^
And as others have suggested, you might identify as a male :3
I'm sure homosexual relationships can be just as bad as heterosexual relationships, what gender you prefer does not automatically guarantee you a loving and healthy relationship.
Hah we me and dad were doing some carpentry work, fixing the place up for a gay couple who had moved down from sydney.
We were there a long time and we got pretty friendly with them. One of them actually told Dad that he had once knocked his partner out with a single punch after an argument.
I wouldnt be surprised if quite a few gay couples get into good punchups. Since there isnt that social stigma about hitting a woman like in a heterosexual couple for them to worry about
We were there a long time and we got pretty friendly with them. One of them actually told Dad that he had once knocked his partner out with a single punch after an argument.
I wouldnt be surprised if quite a few gay couples get into good punchups. Since there isnt that social stigma about hitting a woman like in a heterosexual couple for them to worry about
You're basing this off of the sterotype portayed by the media. Trust me, gay guys have just as much trouble with relationships as everyone else. As for the enjoying more manly things, I'm the same. I love video games, I love sports, I love getting dirty in a mosh pit but I haven't let it bother me. I don't see gender as being your personality. I don't see myself as a girl with a mans personality, just a person who likes sports. If you stop thinking oh I'm female I should be like this it might help. It's steroytyping again.
I hate to be like this, but so much of what you've said is ignorant to the point of almost being offensive. Now that's not your fault, you're not stupid or a bad person, just horribly misinformed by media. The fact of the matter though is that homo and hetero-sexual relationships really aren't that different. We all face the same basic problems in terms of the difficulties which come with a relationship. There is not a single problem you mentioned which can not come into play in a homosexual relationship. Problems concerning closeness, love, and strength of relationship are universal.
Also I can't help but notice how often you reference fiction as the source for your feelings on this issue. That's probably your biggest problem. Stop watching TV, reading books, and playing games to try and figure out what people are like. People aren't like that, fictional characters always exist with a level of meta-anaylsis which real people lack. As such they're capable of having the sorts of seemingly perfect relationships which don't ever happen. Life itself is far too nuanced and complex to be properly summarized in a TV show, and if you try to make big decisions based on what TV has lead you to believe you'll find yourself in a world of hurt.
From the sounds of it, you're scared and lonely. You're not the only one. Life doesn't get good when you find the perfection you're looking for. That just doesn't happen. Life gets good when you realize that it's perfect for all its imperfections. Stop looking and start seeing. Reach out and touch someone. You'd be surprised how many people feel exactly the same way you do. Forget these crazy ideas which would almost inevitably bring you nothing but further misery, and instead just let the world be the world, and love it for what it is.
Also I can't help but notice how often you reference fiction as the source for your feelings on this issue. That's probably your biggest problem. Stop watching TV, reading books, and playing games to try and figure out what people are like. People aren't like that, fictional characters always exist with a level of meta-anaylsis which real people lack. As such they're capable of having the sorts of seemingly perfect relationships which don't ever happen. Life itself is far too nuanced and complex to be properly summarized in a TV show, and if you try to make big decisions based on what TV has lead you to believe you'll find yourself in a world of hurt.
From the sounds of it, you're scared and lonely. You're not the only one. Life doesn't get good when you find the perfection you're looking for. That just doesn't happen. Life gets good when you realize that it's perfect for all its imperfections. Stop looking and start seeing. Reach out and touch someone. You'd be surprised how many people feel exactly the same way you do. Forget these crazy ideas which would almost inevitably bring you nothing but further misery, and instead just let the world be the world, and love it for what it is.