If you had the choice of being in a relationship, would you?
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If I could turn back the clock and ask out somebody who'd obviously liked me (and who I got on very well with) but who I didn't consider due to my crush on somebody who turned out to be an utter cow (and now she's just another waster), yes I would.
Unfortunately, life doesn't work like that so I'll just have to go on being me until I find someone naturally.
Unfortunately, life doesn't work like that so I'll just have to go on being me until I find someone naturally.
Except, of course, if the only options available are doomed for failure or people you simply cannot see yourself with in ex amount of years.Tdc2182 said:
Or people with a history of abusive tendencies.
Or people who are unemployed and lacking ambition.
Or people who have emotional/mental problems you're unwilling to put up with in a situation above friendship.
Or people who abuse drugs.
Or if you find them overtly sexually unappealing.
Oh, wait . . . life has variables.
I'm one of them, but at the same time, I look back on it and it would have never worked out or ended horribly anyway. But, I'm one of those people who would only really date someone I could see myself being with. Trying to be with someone just to get into their pants seems morally wrong to me, so I'd never do it. But to answer your question, if it was with the right person, then yes, definitely.nunqual said:
Yeah, if I was ever given the choice, I'd always say yes.
I have had very few girlfriends and although the time spent with them was pleasent, the breaking up was not, for either party (Not that breaking up is ever truly a pleasent experience). Things just seem to go wrong with otherwise ideal situations for me.
Then I realised I was going about it all wrong, searching desperately for someone to be with while not realising what exactly it was that I wanted from this mystery person. Turns out what I wanted was right under my nose the whole time. I've just started a relationship with a friend from college, someone I spent 2 years with almost every day but have not really seen or spoken to in several years.
We started up a conversation on Facebook over another subject, purely by chance, and found out a lot more about each other than we ever really knew. She really understands me and I totally get her too. It seems like an unlikely match, I was never particularly attracted to her before, but now we've revealed so much to each other and feel we can say anything, she's suddenly the most desireable person I know. I think that's what it's all about.
I have had very few girlfriends and although the time spent with them was pleasent, the breaking up was not, for either party (Not that breaking up is ever truly a pleasent experience). Things just seem to go wrong with otherwise ideal situations for me.
Then I realised I was going about it all wrong, searching desperately for someone to be with while not realising what exactly it was that I wanted from this mystery person. Turns out what I wanted was right under my nose the whole time. I've just started a relationship with a friend from college, someone I spent 2 years with almost every day but have not really seen or spoken to in several years.
We started up a conversation on Facebook over another subject, purely by chance, and found out a lot more about each other than we ever really knew. She really understands me and I totally get her too. It seems like an unlikely match, I was never particularly attracted to her before, but now we've revealed so much to each other and feel we can say anything, she's suddenly the most desireable person I know. I think that's what it's all about.
No.
What sort of giant asshole would I have to be to inflict something like that upon anyone.
I mean, really. Either somebody poofs into existence purely to be in a romantic relationship with me, or somebody would suddenly have feelings for me without having any say in the matter.
In the former situation, that is just a shitty existence. Can you imagine your entire purpose being to give some pathetic dickbag fuzzy feelings inside? Your reason for existing being because some loser couldn't get laid?
How fucking inane would that be. You would be little more than a toy.
And in the latter situation, Jesus, do I really have to go into this? It is wrong to force someone to feel something for you when they do not feel it. Mind control is very bad, boys and girls. If you want to manipulate someone, do it properly.
But okay, let's add another hypothetical situation into this. Let's say, perhaps, that the feelings build up gradually and naturally. Some girl or guy likes you a lot. You maybe even like them, too. It is up to you to decide if you bump your stinky pelvic organs exclusively with each other.
Would I choose to be in a relationship if this was the case?
Still no.
If I didn't care for them, then there would be no reason for me to pursue them romantically.
If I did care for them, then I wouldn't do something as horrible as subjecting them to a romantic relationship with me.
So, there you go. I would not choose to be in a relationship, regardless of how it came about.
They all tend to be pretty crappy, anyway.
What sort of giant asshole would I have to be to inflict something like that upon anyone.
I mean, really. Either somebody poofs into existence purely to be in a romantic relationship with me, or somebody would suddenly have feelings for me without having any say in the matter.
In the former situation, that is just a shitty existence. Can you imagine your entire purpose being to give some pathetic dickbag fuzzy feelings inside? Your reason for existing being because some loser couldn't get laid?
How fucking inane would that be. You would be little more than a toy.
And in the latter situation, Jesus, do I really have to go into this? It is wrong to force someone to feel something for you when they do not feel it. Mind control is very bad, boys and girls. If you want to manipulate someone, do it properly.
But okay, let's add another hypothetical situation into this. Let's say, perhaps, that the feelings build up gradually and naturally. Some girl or guy likes you a lot. You maybe even like them, too. It is up to you to decide if you bump your stinky pelvic organs exclusively with each other.
Would I choose to be in a relationship if this was the case?
Still no.
If I didn't care for them, then there would be no reason for me to pursue them romantically.
If I did care for them, then I wouldn't do something as horrible as subjecting them to a romantic relationship with me.
So, there you go. I would not choose to be in a relationship, regardless of how it came about.
They all tend to be pretty crappy, anyway.
I haven't been single for over 5 years. I've been with the same person and she's awesome.
Unfortunately your topic doesn't leave homosexuality on the menu, and boy/boy girl/girl is still a relationship regardless of whether or not people consider it wrong.
Unfortunately your topic doesn't leave homosexuality on the menu, and boy/boy girl/girl is still a relationship regardless of whether or not people consider it wrong.
After fourteen relationships in a decade I am forced to say that you sir, are wrong. I know, that on a gaming forum thing like a real life relationship is an "epic win" or whatever, but in real life it's quite common and tends to be exhausting after a few months. Once you experience a yapping woman telling you that you don't spend enough time with her after you've come back from twelve hours shift at work you really celebrate being single. Things change when you grow up from being a teenager. Dating is no longer killing some free time after school, costs more and women are more demanding. Also you're not so desperate to have sex anymore.Tdc2182 said:
Yea. Some have been shit and others have been short and sweet- the one Im in now has been long and overall positive.
I think that despite all of that, I just like being in a relationship and knowing that I have someone to confide things in, and just sit around and do nothing if I've had a really shitty day and just need to unwind. That and sex with some kind of emotional bond and trust and experience makes for some really good sex
I think that despite all of that, I just like being in a relationship and knowing that I have someone to confide things in, and just sit around and do nothing if I've had a really shitty day and just need to unwind. That and sex with some kind of emotional bond and trust and experience makes for some really good sex