If you had the choice of being in a relationship, would you?

[Tdc2182]

People who say no are lying to themselves, or otherwise have severe problems with social life.

So yeah, seeing how there is no reason why you shouldn't.

Except, of course, if the only options available are doomed for failure or people you simply cannot see yourself with in ex amount of years.
Or people with a history of abusive tendencies.
Or people who are unemployed and lacking ambition.
Or people who have emotional/mental problems you're unwilling to put up with in a situation above friendship.
Or people who abuse drugs.
Or if you find them overtly sexually unappealing.

Oh, wait . . . life has variables.

or otherwise have severe problems with social life.

Usually reading helps.

 

[Tdc2182]

People who say no are lying to themselves, or otherwise have severe problems with social life.

So yeah, seeing how there is no reason why you shouldn't.

After fourteen relationships in a decade I am forced to say that you sir, are wrong. I know, that on a gaming forum thing like a real life relationship is an "epic win" or whatever, but in real life it's quite common and tends to be exhausting after a few months. Once you experience a yapping woman telling you that you don't spend enough time with her after you've come back from twelve hours shift at work you really celebrate being single. Things change when you grow up from being a teenager. Dating is no longer killing some free time after school, costs more and women are more demanding. Also you're not so desperate to have sex anymore.

Yet again, the OP is describing a girl you connect with both physically and mentally, meaning all those problems are moot, or otherwise not that big of a deal.

I have been in relationships to bud, I know how it is.

 

[Danielsmells]

No.
What sort of giant asshole would I have to be to inflict something like that upon anyone.

I mean, really. Either somebody poofs into existence purely to be in a romantic relationship with me, or somebody would suddenly have feelings for me without having any say in the matter.

In the former situation, that is just a shitty existence. Can you imagine your entire purpose being to give some pathetic dickbag fuzzy feelings inside? Your reason for existing being because some loser couldn't get laid?
How fucking inane would that be. You would be little more than a toy.

And in the latter situation, Jesus, do I really have to go into this? It is wrong to force someone to feel something for you when they do not feel it. Mind control is very bad, boys and girls. If you want to manipulate someone, do it properly.

But okay, let's add another hypothetical situation into this. Let's say, perhaps, that the feelings build up gradually and naturally. Some girl or guy likes you a lot. You maybe even like them, too. It is up to you to decide if you bump your stinky pelvic organs exclusively with each other.
Would I choose to be in a relationship if this was the case?

Still no.

If I didn't care for them, then there would be no reason for me to pursue them romantically.
If I did care for them, then I wouldn't do something as horrible as subjecting them to a romantic relationship with me.

So, there you go. I would not choose to be in a relationship, regardless of how it came about.
They all tend to be pretty crappy, anyway.

That was the most beautiful thing I have ever read. I agree completely.

 

[Tdc2182]

Double post.

 

[Troublesome Lagomorph]

No. I personally think romantic relationships are pointless. If I'm after friendships only.
And as for sexual relationships... fuck that. Sex is something I honestly do not need nor want.

 

[someonehairy-ish]

Sure why not.

Seriously.

OP's acting like it's a life or death situation. As long as you're happy, I don't think anyone would say no to that, unless they're a sociopath.

Why not all be sociopaths together?

 

[Towels]

So, as the title states, if you had the choice of being in a relationship, would you?

Um...I hope I always have the choice!

Seriously though, nothing lasts forever, but I like it that way. You live, you love, you learn.

 

[child of lileth]

I'm happy with my current partner, so yes, I'd like to be in this relationship.

Also, to answer the other question, I view it as more of a relationship thing than for the sex. Sex is just a bonus for when you find someone you really trust and enjoy being in a relationship with to me though. But there's way more to it than that, that I'm not going to get into in a forum post since that's pretty pointless.

 

[JBarracudaL]

Usually reading helps.

That was needlessly snide. Obviously, I read that much. I merely rejected it because one can elect not to enter a relationship without severe problems with social life. For the reasons I stated: a healthy, balanced, sane individual might refuse to date. I'm just giving examples I've dealt with personally. I think it's more easy to say a social dilemma would be never knowing when to say no. I can think of at least three people I've known who've gotten themselves into a serious mess because they latched onto the first guy that said "Yeah, sure."

 

[awmperry]

Until I was 27 I'd never even had a girlfriend, never kissed a girl, nothing. Always rather liked the idea, but I didn't want to jump into anything without being certain.

Then I met a delightful young South African lady, and I became certain. There have been problems and downsides and all sorts of things, but once you find the right person it seems you reach a point where those cease to matter.

So yeah. I heartily recommend finding a relationship - if the one you find seems to be the right one.

Oh, and by the way, that girl I found... we're married now. And very happy.

 

[Keava]

I -always- have a choice. That's what makes me a free willed human being I suppose. Long time ago, when I was still young and even more foolish I tried it, several times had it's ups and downs but eventually figured it's just not something I'm looking for. Too many limits, too much of self restriction and constant, nagging uncertainty what will the other side think at every action.

I am quite happy being single, free and living on my own, egocentric terms. I get to choose the playgrounds and who I play with depending on my mood, on my needs and on my personal pursuit for 'pleasure' however you tend to understand that term. Over years managed to get enough friends, some closer, some less, and i manage to not feel alone same time eliminating the whole 'feeling trapped' part.

30 years on this earth and i can't really complain about missing a stable relationship, on the contrary, thinking of those times when i tried it feels like wasted effort. Life's too short to limit oneself with abstract ideas.

 

[Ickorus]

Yes, I would.

 

[Brad Shepard]

Im in a really happy relationship right now, so you can guess my responce.

 

[-Samurai-]

No, my last relationship taught me all I needed to know.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not anti-people. I loved being in a relationship. I loved being extremely close to someone and having someone to physically and mentally be there with. It's a great feeling.

But, my last relationship has forced on me some pretty big trust issues, and I can safely say that I'd never trust someone to be in a committed relationship again.

It's funny how one cheater can give you trust issues for the rest of your life. I'll never let another person get that close to me again.[/emo story]
[small]No, it wasn't a highschool relationship(though it did begin there). This was a full on, moved in together, shared everything type of relationship.[/small]

 

[Shaun Hastings]

Yes, though most of the times it tends to get boring after a week or two. So, I guess having a fun fling is a bit better than an all strings emotional attachment relationship - for me at least for the time being.

 

[Risingblade]

Nope, I'm happy just fooling around at the moment. ^^

 

[Skullpanda]

Personally, I prefer being in a relationship to being single. It helps to have that person I can just talk to about stuff...and some of the other entertaining things that happen when you're with someone.

And the "I'm cheap/poor" excuse doesn't really fly with me either. If you like someone, and they actually care about you, how much money you have shouldn't matter.

 

[NoNameMcgee]

I think you'll find that the majority of the people on here who reject relationships are angsty teens who are not socially proficient enough to get into a relationship, and as a result, reject them as a coping mechanism to make themselves and others feel as though it is intentional.

 

[Dango]

I'm confused, why wouldn't anyone want to be?

My answer of course is, yes, definitely.

 

[CaptainREBell]

I really don't know.
I've been in a relationship for almost 10 months now, but we're splitting up for uni, and OH DEAR I am so looking forward to being single again.
I miss going out and thinking "what can happen, who might I meet?". Whereas in a relationship I think "what can't I let happen, will I piss them off?"
I'm still trying to figure out whether I'd rather be single or whether I just want to be in a relationship with someone else who had more in common with me.
In conclusion, for now I would rather not be in a relationship. I find I've grown a lot more attractive in the past year, and I get a better pick of people than when I first started hanging with my partner. I miss the freedom and potential of it, and I dislike the fact that I've gotten into the habit of automatically asking my partner to do something with me, instead of my friends.
OMNOM confused text :3