If your significant other cheated...

[Leon Last Lord Shyle]

hmmm It depends on what you call "significant other" seeing as in the grand scheme i do not think ive ever been with someone long enough for it to be called that.

1) no difference never had an exclusive relationship if they feel guilty cause they slept with another then... i guess they should expect me to feel guilty.

2) honestly if it has got to the point where they are feeling guilty about stuff i am already making a break for the door... i dont do guilt nor conscience so sue me

3) male

Edit: And yes, the innuendo fairy did indeed bless that second paragraph with additional meaning. The part about guests for diner, not the tacos. I really do make great tacos.

Edit 2: Wow, a lot of unforgiving guys on this site. Mental note - don't date and then cheat on anyone who's posted on this thread so far. Except the guy who mentioned open relationships.

ok where do find other people with your view on this cause i have never actually found another whose actually able to keep it open without bloody guilt and possessiveness coming into play

also lol at the taco's

 

[similar.squirrel]

I believe in open relationships in terms of sexual activity. But only if there is honesty and transparency, and both parties are comfortable enough with themselves to keep insecurity out of the picture.

I'm male.

 

[kebab4you]

1) Nope, cheat on me and I won't stay with you under any circumstances.
2) See 1.
3) Male.

 

[Gaiseric]

"That's it man, game over man, game over!"

1. No
2. Nope
3. Male

 

[Sebenko]

1. Yeah. I'd be most pissed off if they didn't invite me to join in though.
2.-
3. manly man!

 

[Flare Phoenix]

1. I would end the relationship right then and there. If they aren't satisfied with me enough to remain faithful, continuing the relationship is a useless endeavour.

2. Probably not... Again if they need someone else to satisfy them, it's better for both parties just to break it off.

3. I am male.

 

[Simon Pettersson]

1. Well that depends on how long our relationship has been. If it has been long and we trust each other I won´t let a little mishap ruin our relationship.
He/She did trust me enough to tell me so if she shows remorse I will forgive him/her.
It is a one time deal thou if he/she does it again it´s off.

2. As stated before if he/she has shown remorse we could work it out.

3. Male

 

[Azure-Supernova]

1. Would it make a difference if they were honest enough to tell you themselves instead of hiding it from you? Would you be willing to work through it?
I'm sorry, but this is one case where telling the truth will not make what happened any better. I'll still be hurt, upset and untrusting.

2. If not, is there anything that would convince you to work through it and continue the relationship? Or might there be any aspects about the relationship that would make you want to stay?
I could try and work on the relatioship, but I don't know if I could ever trust them fully agains so i would likely fall apart. If we had kids I'm be more likely to try harder. But this would cut me pretty deep.

3. Are you male or female?
Male

 

[Artina89]

1)It takes me quite a while to trust people so if someone told me that they have cheated on me then I would listen to what they have to say, because at least he has come clean, but ultimately I would break it off. There is very little point in staying in a relationship if one of you is unhappy.

2) As I said in question 1, I would break off the relationship, as I would never trust them again and it is not fair to be constantly breathing down someone's neck. It makes you more stressed out, and if anything, it would probably make your significant other more secretive. Nobody wins in the long run.

3) I am a female.

 

[Redford Blade]

1. Would honesty make a difference? Would you be willing to work through it?

I am convinced that I've found my soulmate, and I've known her long enough to know her strengths and weaknesses. If she made a mistake in a moment of weakness, and honestly regrets it, then yes, I would work through it. But she would have to fight uphill for a long time in order to regain my previous level of trust. Worse, I am a particularly jealous person, so I would be likely to react poorly to the news regardless of how I found out.

If the roles were reversed, I would immediately go to her and confess, though I have the unfair benefit of knowing that she would almost certainly forgive me.

2. If not, is there anything that would convince you to continue the relationship? Might there be any aspects that would make you want to stay?

As stated above, I would be willing to work through it. There are many aspects of the relationship that would make me stay, from the feeling of peace when I am in her presence, to the way we laugh together at Yahtzee's reviews, to her luck when rolling dice in tabletop RPGs.

3. Are your Male or Female?
Male

 

[Damien Granz]

I'm taking a poll for a class, so I need honest opinions!

Here's the situation. Let's say your significant other cheated on you, but instead of finding out some dramatic way, they came clean and told you themselves.

1. Would it make a difference if they were honest enough to tell you themselves instead of hiding it from you? Would you be willing to work through it?
2. If not, is there anything that would convince you to work through it and continue the relationship? Or might there be any aspects about the relationship that would make you want to stay?
3. Are you male or female?

Thanks, guys!
Note: I know it really depends on the circumstances, but I mean in a general and hypothetical situation, if possible. Or, if anything, think about the relationship you're currently in now and apply it to this.

1.) Yes, it would matter to me that they were honest enough to tell me. Cheating is dishonest by definition (because if it wasn't dishonest it wouldn't be cheating, it'd be polyamory or an open relationship or.. etc.), but asking forgiveness kinda shows that they want to make amends and be honest. Obviously it's different if they're just lying or there's some pattern, but people do make mistakes. It's better to let somebody be honest too late, than to punish them equally regardless and make it so they have no reason to ever amend a mistake.

2.) I think that, it wouldn't be unreasonable to be told the full extent of the infidelous relationship, so you can make a reasonable assessment. Did this person cheat because of an accident (such as being drunk), or was it a mistake done in passion, or do they love this other person (or even still love you)? Are you at risk for any diseases or pregnancies or the like. This sort of stuff would be needed to be known before you could really try to make plans for the future. Being patient really helps though. While they might have hurt you and done something terrible to you, it's better they be able to come clean than hide it forever or the situation become even worse.

3.) Not sure why that should matter, so I'm just going to give 'no response'.

 

[eclipsed_chemistry]

Having had a cheating partner AND having a mother who cheated on my father MULTIPLE times and seeing the terrible damage done in both cases, no, I absolutely would not forgive her under any circumstance. I don't care if she had to sleep with Guy X to save the world from World War 3, I'm way past the point of ever forgiving someone for cheating. As for the last part, I'm a male.

 

[Astoria]

I'd work it out with my boyfriend. He's not the cheating type so if he did cheat I must've done something pretty bad.

 

[Colour Scientist]

1) No.
2) No.
3) Female.

 

[joshuaayt]

1-2: My girlfriend DOES cheat on me, relentlessly- and you know what I do, when I inevitably find out a few days later? Ask her what *I* did wrong.
I think I have a problem... But I can quit her, whenever I want... Yeah.

I know that she's not respecting me, at all, here, but I'm not very good at confrontations.

3: Male.

 

[Tipsy Giant]

It's over, if she cheated of her own free will! my rule in relationships is simple, wanna fuck someone else? break up with me first, or I will break up with you when I find out!

EDIT: oh and

1.no
2.no
3.male

 

[TonyVonTonyus]

1: If someone tells me they stabbed me in the back it doesn't make the knife any less deep.
2: Probably not
3: Man

 

[Kortney]

1. Would it make a difference if they were honest enough to tell you themselves instead of hiding it from you? Would you be willing to work through it?

It would make a difference, I'd respect them more for telling me. I'd still end it though.

2. If not, is there anything that would convince you to work through it and continue the relationship? Or might there be any aspects about the relationship that would make you want to stay?

Maybe. I think it's one of those events where you only truly know how you'd act when you experience it. In this current mindset, I don't think there would be much that would convince me to work through it.

3. Are you male or female?

Female.

 

[Toaster Hunter]

THough there may have been some circumstance involved and I hate to make blanket statements, if she cheated, its over. I would rather someone break up with me than cheat. if she doesn't want me any more, just say so and lets move on from there. I'm male.