Im 22 and still not laid (starting to get anxious)

[newfoundland]

My little suggestion is that sex isn't all it's cranked up to be, but however when you finally score your'e be skipping around the place like thank heavens above, praise thy Lord, God does exsist.

 

[titanium turtle]

being a female virgin is fine

but for guys it is terrible

 

[ultimateownage]

Well, seeing has I'm ugly, fat and just a generally unlikeable person (apparently, because no girl has ever even liked me and I have 5 friends at the max) so I think I have zero chance of ever even getting a girlfriend so I have just accepted it and stopped caring a few years ago. Besides, it won't help people making fun of you but if you want to have sex just wank.

 

[newfoundland]

I mean exist. Yeah sex is good when you relax and think about how much better gaming is.hahaahehee

 

[Mekado]

I don't think it's that big a deal, i started having sex around 14 or 15 and i can say now that most of my pre-real-love sex i regret.Even if, at the time it seemed like the most important thing in the world, when you get with someone you really love, you can see the difference between meat grinding and making love, they're worlds apart.

I strongly suggest you start looking for love instead of looking for sex.

Oh and the prostitute thing is a bad idea imo, it's not only girls that remembers their first time all their life, guys too.i know i wouldn't want to remember it as a prostitute.If you're just looking for physical release...then make a fist and have at it

 

[Baby Tea]

So do you regret sharing your views, jokes, and ideas with people before you met your wife?

No, I regret sharing myself sexually.
I firmly believe that sex isn't 'just sex', and to treat it that way is a pretty big, and potentially dangerous, error.
So you're right that you're sharing a part of yourself when telling jokes, sharing views, and discussing almost anything. But with sex, you're giving a part of yourself away. You're not sharing something you hold as your own (Such as a joke or political viewpoint), but you are giving something of yourself. Your political view point will always be yours, but one's virginity is a gift that can only be given once. Which is why I wish I waited until I married my wife. I want her to have everything I can give her, but I wasted that gift.

 

[Mister Eff]

Go get drunk, and i mean really, really drunk.

Then go to a random new years eve party (yes, get drunk before you go, but take a train)

???????

PROFIT!

Should I add weed to the mix because I am an avid smoker. (theres a good idea for a topic)

Weed or cigarettes? 'Cause smoking can be a social thing. In a bar garden, hang outside, ask a group of people (male and female) for a light, stay around, maybe chat to them if you're feeling cool with that (a few drinks help) and get to know them. Maybe meet up again, and try forming something from there. Don't go out an expect to get instantly laid, just try meeting people like that, getting to know them and maybe form something from there. I wouldn't recommend a random bang for your first time, that's a bit uncool.

 

[HerrBobo]

You need to chillax bro, and just let it happen. I was 22 before I popped mine. It seems like a big deal at the time. When you do it though you will wounder what all the fuss was about.

Get out and meet women, all kinds of women. Act confident, even if you do not feel so.

 

[EeveeElectro]

Well, providing that this isn't a troll---let me just say that if your friends are giving you shit for being a virgin, then they aren't very good friends. Duh.

However, as a woman--desperation is not attractive. You need to decide why you want to have sex. If you want sex to fill some emotional gap in your life, then it is a ridiculously stupid idea but if you're a mature adult who feels he is ready to have possibly unattached sex, then go for it. Just make sure the girl you pick is also mature enough for unattached sex and for the love of God, use a condom. That, I think, is why people are suggesting a prostitute. They are professionals, they know what they're doing, good ones are responsible and she can teach you some things about pleasing women. Back in the day, families used to do this for their sons when they hit puberty. So it's not some strange new idea.

I don't like how everyone is suggesting you go to Amsterdamn.
I know they're probably joking, but you should lose your virginity because you love that person, not because you want to get laid.
Being a virgin does not make you a loser. I wish I lost mine to my current boyfriend, but I was stupid and reckless and now I can't get it back.
The moment you stop wanting it, it'll happen. Girls can sense desperation.

His post says that the reason he's a virgin is because he hasn't saught it and may I ask who you are exactly to dictate what his goals/leisure activities should be?
Sex is opening up to someone in a vulnerable and beautiful. It shouldn't be confined to one person, or to one scenario.

Everyone else is doing the same thing, telling him what they think he should do. No reason for you to single her out because she's telling him to do the opposite of what most of the others are saying.

Yes, thank you. I was merely offering him advice, not dictating. I would have preferred to lose it to someone I loved but he just wanted to get his fuck count up.

I don't like how everyone is suggesting you go to Amsterdamn.
I know they're probably joking, but you should lose your virginity because you love that person, not because you want to get laid.
Being a virgin does not make you a loser. I wish I lost mine to my current boyfriend, but I was stupid and reckless and now I can't get it back.
The moment you stop wanting it, it'll happen. Girls can sense desperation.

I think this is great advice, especially coming from a lady. The only thing I would disagree with you on here is the notion of having to be in love to lose your virginity, while in this case this guy sounds like his motives are to for it to happen. The physical changes a man goes through when losing it are nil, and I would argue "virgin" is more a state of mind for a man than anything, because of the significance (at least in his case) of the life experience it brings.

I don't think any harm would come from him not being "in love" with the person, as long as he could handle the experience maturely, but in my opinion, you aren't even ready for it OP. If you're considering a prostitute, and typing this up on a gaming forum, perhaps you should keep waiting, because as important as you think it is now, in retrospect, 10 years down the road, it will likely not be as significant.

Why, thank you, I do try, haha.
Virginity means a lot more to women than it does to men, I think. My first used me for sex, fell out with me a week later and got a girlfriend T.T
I don't want that to happen to the OP, it damn hurts! :/

I don't like how everyone is suggesting you go to Amsterdamn.
I know they're probably joking, but you should lose your virginity because you love that person, not because you want to get laid.
Being a virgin does not make you a loser. I wish I lost mine to my current boyfriend, but I was stupid and reckless and now I can't get it back.
The moment you stop wanting it, it'll happen. Girls can sense desperation.

Because they are Terminators?

Yes, fronted by Christian Bale! =P

 

[silverbullet1989]

Go to Amsterdam.

PROBLEM SOLVED

lol i have to admire that idea as i have just got back from amsterdam and was completely...shocked to say the least at what its like over there.

Why where you shocked? There's nothing that special there you know... ( yes I live 30 minutes from Amsterdam...)

I live in the UK, and were not as open as you are across the sea... obviously you hear about the red light district all the time... but seeing it is something else... shocked in a good way

 

[Macgyvercas]

So do you regret sharing your views, jokes, and ideas with people before you met your wife?

No, I regret sharing myself sexually.
I firmly believe that sex isn't 'just sex', and to treat it that way is a pretty big, and potentially dangerous, error.
So you're right that you're sharing a part of yourself when telling jokes, sharing views, and discussing almost anything. But with sex, you're giving a part of yourself away. You're not sharing something you hold as your own (Such as a joke or political viewpoint), but you are giving something of yourself. Your political view point will always be yours, but one's virginity is a gift that can only be given once. Which is why I wish I waited until I married my wife. I want her to have everything I can give her, but I wasted that gift.

Out of sheer curiosity, did you ever take Philosophy? Because you're are very deep when it comes to this.

 

[RobbinHood]

Sex is the most important thing in the world, when you not getting it, and less important when it is readily available. We are men, we are made to spread our seed and pass on our genes. That is why sex is enjoyable, so that we like it and want to pass on our genes. People want to complicate sex and call it, "making love" however the only real purpose for sex is procreation.
Keep this in mind. Love is what we as a society have superimposed on sex. It is great and I believe in a difference between making love and having sex. Be sure not to confuse the two.

My advice, find a close friend who wants to help you loose your virginity. Nothing is like your first time but it is not the end all be all event of you life, or sex life.

 

[Baby Tea]

Out of sheer curiosity, did you ever take Philosophy? Because you're are very deep when it comes to this.

Haha, well I only really took philosophy 101 in college, though I don't know how really 'deep' I am on the subject.
I've got my convictions, though!

 

[Gildan Bladeborn]

Another thing, stop whining. There are plenty of people out there who are older than you and have never had sex and are HAPPY.

Quite so - happiness is a choice. There's no hidden toggle that the act of coitus flips that switches your status from "pathetic loser" to "awesome" - if you're desperately unhappy with how your life is going then it's a good idea to stop and examine just why that might be the case before doing something rash for flawed reasons.

And your underlying motivation is indeed flawed: As I not so tactfully pointed out earlier in the thread (and others have since echoed), your friends are basically immature jackasses - these are not the sort of people you should be basing your sense of self-worth off of, and that's exactly what you've been doing. So they've lost their virginity? Big freaking deal - that doesn't stop them from being immature jerks with irrelevant opinions on this subject! Anyone who has convinced themselves that being sexually active is in any way correlated with maturity is delusional, you don't suddenly 'become a man' by losing your virginity, nor are you less of one if you still have it.

Sex without love is just fleeting physical pleasure, and there are frankly a lot of things we as human beings can do for pleasure that are far more rewarding than casual sex (and probably a great deal less risky to boot).

So stop assigning meaning to the act of 'having engaged in physical intimacy' that isn't there, and just get on with your life. Do what makes you happy - don't let a bunch of jackasses convince you that you shouldn't be happy because you're a virgin, because they're full of crap.

 

[duchaked]

just wait for the right time...whether that be pre-20s or late 20s...(gets a bit weird around age 28-30 tho)
and anyone who is giving you a hard time are the ones who aren't grown up (that's my key point haha), whether or not they're virgins

 

[Baby Tea]

For clarification: All sex is a gift, not just the first time.

...your distinction is particularly unsupportable, as your passion and all the other wonderful things that go with sex with someone you love are just as much a part of you as the rest of your personality that you share.

Yes, they are a part of you, but the distinction is this: ideas are shared, gifts are given. You stated that a joke or conversation was sharing yourself with someone, and this is true. But with that example, you are sharing, not giving, a part of yourself. In essence, you are really merely allowing people to see who you are. Where with sex, you are giving a part of your self. You are allowing people to, really, experience a part of who you are.

And I hold that part in high regard. It's a deep, meaningful, vulnerable part of a person, and to be cavalier with it is, as I said, a serious, and possibly dangerous, error.

 

[RobbinHood]

For clarification: All sex is a gift, not just the first time.

...your distinction is particularly unsupportable, as your passion and all the other wonderful things that go with sex with someone you love are just as much a part of you as the rest of your personality that you share.

Yes, they are a part of you, but the distinction is this: ideas are shared, gifts are given. You stated that a joke or conversation was sharing yourself with someone, and this is true. But with that example, you are sharing, not giving, a part of yourself. In essence, you are really merely allowing people to see who you are. Where with sex, you are giving a part of your self. You are allowing people to, really, experience a part of who you are.

And I hold that part in high regard. It's a deep, meaningful, vulnerable part of a person, and to be cavalier with it is, as I said, a serious, and possibly dangerous, error.

How, may I ask, are you allowing them to experience a part of you? If it is an emotional bond would you agree that this can be done with out intercourse?