Im 22 and still not laid (starting to get anxious)

[Soxafloppin]

But if you feel that you must have sex find a nice lady, take her out on a few dates and when the moment feels right go for it.

That's the part I'm having problems with; can you post one to me? How much is shipping? Will I have to pay import tax?

Alcohol is an automatic virginity remover, just sayin.

As far as I'm concerned it's an automatic leg remover.

Not sure i follow?

 

[Mr Wednesday]

This is really not the forum for this kind of issue mate. You might glean something insightful, but looking for wisdom on an internet video games forum is like panning for gold in a pile of horse crap.

Maybe some kind of professional councilor, a female friend?

 

[StarkRavingSane]

The importance of getting laid is a shallow social construct and a cultural by-product of our times. And it's stupid. People who go all "omg ur still a virgin" are, emotionally, somewhere around 14. Don't treat such comments seriously. I suspect your dad proposed his option only to make you stop worrying.

My advice? Don't look for sex. Look for a girlfriend. Or even better, look for friends. Don't rush anything, it's not worth it.

The people who make their lives look like a cheap porn flick? They're the ones who are missing out on the good stuff.

 

[CulexVanda]

honey, have fun with that

 

[Croaker42]

I've always found if you go out looking for sex or a partner or whatever you will never get it. Just clear your mind of all this stuff and try not to think about it otherwise you'll rot your brain. and no girl is gonna suck off a crazy guy.

This one makes a good point.

I have had several relationships (25) and they have all come to me when I wasn't really looking for it. I guess the only thing you can take from that is 'be your self'. Just you know be yourself around girls.

 

[AndyFromMonday]

This might seem trollish but hell, if you REALLY are that desperate to have sex then just find a brother.

I really hope you mean brothel. I mean...my brother's a great guy, but you wouldn't catch me in bed with him!

Whoops, my mistake. Corrected, thanks.

 

[DFish]

Just stop worrying about it.

 

[Destal]

Stop worrying about it and go out and do interesting things and become an interesting person and the women will come. The more you stress about it the less likely it will happen.

 

[Mr Wednesday]

The importance of getting laid is a shallow social construct and a cultural by-product of our times.

I'm really not so sure about that one.

I don't think history, or biology, agree.

 

[ace_of_something]

Don't sweat it my twin brother didn't have his first till he was 21.
My brother in law is 32, three years older than myself. He has his FIRST GIRLFRIEND now. Why? Cause he was really really picky. Now he found someone he's very compatable with and doesn't regret waiting.

Everyone does romance/love/sex differently there isn't any 'normal' way or timeline to use.

I'm 19. Still a virgin. My ex girlfriend and high school sweet heart swore me to abstinence and renagged on it with SOMEONE ELSE. I feel a lot worse than you so grow a pair. XD

Knew about 100 girls who were like that. They changed as soon as they hit college or were a bit older. It's an excuse for being scared or not ready. (Which are fine reasons on their own and don't need an excuse)

 

[Rigs83]

26, virgin, don't care.

I understand that when you live in a world where they use sex to sell anything and everything you feel a strong pressure to lose your virginity but it's not really a big deal.

It's about confidence.

No really.

To most women, THE most important quality for a guy to have, is confidence. Ask some girls, and most will agree. Although some people seem convinced that you can't work on shyness, you CAN work on it. You just have to force yourself to do things which feel uncomfortable at first, and then gradually they become easier and feel more natural. Once women see you're comfortable around them, and confident in yourself and your environment it will be MUCH easier to get into a relationship and go all the way.

Long story short, just forget about being pressured. Just enjoy yourself and talk to women as though they were your mates, rather than 'potentials'. They will feel comfortable because you are and you'll be able to impress people with effortless cool, charm and yada yada yah.

and this too.

Or go to third world nation *cough* Thailand *cough* where your money instantly gets tripled and be the big money man for a week. The girls will just throw themselves at you.

 

[xDarc]

That's pathetic. I have a friend who reminds me of you. He hasn't been laid in over a year. He spends 6 months getting rejected by some girl he gets infatuated with. When a girl likes him, he makes an excuse- her ass is too big, she's skanky- etc.

God he's so stupid.

It's just sex and dating.

My first time was on the floor of a trailer in Iowa with a girl on her period- and I hail from Detroit. Never saw that girl again.

 

[Baby Tea]

I've had plenty of both types of sex (fucked and sober) and am yet to regret any of it... Baby Tea is full of shit - 'giving all of myself to her' pffffffft. Every time you come up with a witty comment or joke and tell someone it you are giving them a part of yourself. What, should you not share with anyone until you decide to settle down monogamously?

No, I'm not full of shit.
And yeah, that's exactly what I'm saying.

You know, I didn't regret my premarital sex either, until I fell in love with my wife. I wanted (And still want) to give her everything, but I gave part of myself away to other people. I realized what I wasted, and what I couldn't get back. I'm not moping around sad about it, but it's certainly how I feel.

 

[Do4600]

Sounds like you're not carpeing enough diem. Your "pathetic" string of relationships sounds like you've been rather indifferent.

Go for what you want, speak your mind and be yourself, you don't need confidence for that; if you fail miserably at least it'll be a good story later. If you keep that up long enough you'll end up being around people who will like who you are and more often than not will want to sleep with you. And whatever you do, don't stress, stress is the antisex. If that fails, add alcohol and stir vigorously.

 

[Treefingers]

Not that bigger deal.

 

[Pingieking]

I'm 19. Still a virgin. My ex girlfriend and high school sweet heart swore me to abstinence and renagged on it with SOMEONE ELSE. I feel a lot worse than you so grow a pair. XD

Man, that sucks big time.

I'm 6 months away from being 22 and virgin, so I'm finding some of the stuff on this thread to be helful. However, unlike the OP, my virginity stems from lack of trying/interest. I just don't care enough right now to put in the time/effort of getting some meaningful relationships going.
I do have a question though; should I wait for that meaningful relationship or visit a proper (and safe!) brothel? I want to be able to please a girl that I'm emotionally attached to and practice makes perfect. I know that all girls are different, but there should be a few things that are like "Do this, it'll work 90% of the time" and "Don't do this, it won't work 90% of the time" that I can learn from a prostitute.

 

[BaldursBananaSoap]

This is why there are hookers.

 

[mindclockwork]

don't worry too much about it. it's just sex after all. it's wonderful thing in life of a human, but it's NOT that special.

women feel comfortable when talking with guys with no 'back thoughts' like fact that one just wants to party out.

my life personally would not have been significally different even if i hadn't get laid.

women also like confident individuals, so find something that you're good in, and increase your confidence.