Im 22 and still not laid (starting to get anxious)

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Loop Stricken

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DrDeath3191 said:
But if you feel that you must have sex find a nice lady, take her out on a few dates and when the moment feels right go for it.
That's the part I'm having problems with; can you post one to me? How much is shipping? Will I have to pay import tax?
coxafloppin said:
Alcohol is an automatic virginity remover, just sayin.
As far as I'm concerned it's an automatic leg remover.
 

UltraParanoia

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EmileeElectro said:
I don't like how everyone is suggesting you go to Amsterdamn.
I know they're probably joking,
Actually, most of them seem to be serious, myself included.
 

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StuddedZombie said:
Yeah 22, I know, what a loser.
Wait, what?
Why does that make you a loser?

Trust me when I say that society and media place way too much importance on sex. I know since you've never had it that you think it's this end-all-be-all of experiences, but it's not. Don't get me wrong: I enjoy sex (I'm happily married), but it's not a something to belittle yourself over, that's for sure. The people who care about the age of when you have sex are the people whose opinion you should hold in the lowest regard.

And please read this:
EmileeElectro said:
I know they're probably joking, but you should lose your virginity because you love that person, not because you want to get laid.
Being a virgin does not make you a loser. I wish I lost mine to my current boyfriend, but I was stupid and reckless and now I can't get it back.
This is very true.
I always saw sex as a gift. When you have sex with someone, you give a part of yourself to that person, and they to you. The more it's given to different people, the cheaper the gift gets. I wish I had waited until I married my wife, because I want to give her every part of me. But now I can't, because I squandered that gift on selfish lust.

Think about it.
 

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Well, providing that this isn't a troll---let me just say that if your friends are giving you shit for being a virgin, then they aren't very good friends. Duh.

However, as a woman--desperation is not attractive. You need to decide why you want to have sex. If you want sex to fill some emotional gap in your life, then it is a ridiculously stupid idea but if you're a mature adult who feels he is ready to have possibly unattached sex, then go for it. Just make sure the girl you pick is also mature enough for unattached sex and for the love of God, use a condom. That, I think, is why people are suggesting a prostitute. They are professionals, they know what they're doing, good ones are responsible and she can teach you some things about pleasing women. Back in the day, families used to do this for their sons when they hit puberty. So it's not some strange new idea.

stinkychops said:
EmileeElectro said:
I don't like how everyone is suggesting you go to Amsterdamn.
I know they're probably joking, but you should lose your virginity because you love that person, not because you want to get laid.
Being a virgin does not make you a loser. I wish I lost mine to my current boyfriend, but I was stupid and reckless and now I can't get it back.
The moment you stop wanting it, it'll happen. Girls can sense desperation.
His post says that the reason he's a virgin is because he hasn't saught it and may I ask who you are exactly to dictate what his goals/leisure activities should be?
Sex is opening up to someone in a vulnerable and beautiful. It shouldn't be confined to one person, or to one scenario.
Everyone else is doing the same thing, telling him what they think he should do. No reason for you to single her out because she's telling him to do the opposite of what most of the others are saying.
 

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AndyFromMonday said:
This might seem trollish but hell, if you REALLY are that desperate to have sex then just find a brother.
I really hope you mean brothel. I mean...my brother's a great guy, but you wouldn't catch me in bed with him!
 

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knight56 said:
I'm 19. Still a virgin. My ex girlfriend and high school sweet heart swore me to abstinence and renagged on it with SOMEONE ELSE. I feel a lot worse than you so grow a pair. XD
Does she have a decent looking friend you can bang? Preferably somewhere she would see it, like her bed or shower?

Cause that's fucked up.
 

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pinky75910 said:
I guess sex after marriage is dead?
Apparently so. Weep for humanity.

Actually don't. While I'm planning on not having sex until I'm married, if it happens, then that's cool. If it doesn't, that's cool too. Roll with the punches.

EDIT: Read Baby Tea's post. The man is a freaking genius!
 

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StuddedZombie said:
dogstile said:
Go get drunk, and i mean really, really drunk.

Then go to a random new years eve party (yes, get drunk before you go, but take a train)

???????

PROFIT!
Should I add weed to the mix because I am an avid smoker. (theres a good idea for a topic)
I won't promote the use of weed, but it all depends on what it makes you feel like.
 

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EmileeElectro said:
I don't like how everyone is suggesting you go to Amsterdamn.
I know they're probably joking, but you should lose your virginity because you love that person, not because you want to get laid.
Being a virgin does not make you a loser. I wish I lost mine to my current boyfriend, but I was stupid and reckless and now I can't get it back.
The moment you stop wanting it, it'll happen. Girls can sense desperation.
I think this is great advice, especially coming from a lady. The only thing I would disagree with you on here is the notion of having to be in love to lose your virginity, while in this case this guy sounds like his motives are to for it to happen. The physical changes a man goes through when losing it are nil, and I would argue "virgin" is more a state of mind for a man than anything, because of the significance (at least in his case) of the life experience it brings.

I don't think any harm would come from him not being "in love" with the person, as long as he could handle the experience maturely, but in my opinion, you aren't even ready for it OP. If you're considering a prostitute, and typing this up on a gaming forum, perhaps you should keep waiting, because as important as you think it is now, in retrospect, 10 years down the road, it will likely not be as significant.

And talking abhout toking up before your first sexual encounter and using terms like "social butterfly" isn't going to help you much either. I don't know who you hang with, but most girls I know aren't into the whole drug-use thing. I know, because I do it too, but I am also married.
AndyFromMonday said:
This might seem trollish but hell, if you REALLY are that desperate to have sex then just find a brother.
I haven't laughed so hard in like a week. Bravo!

Also, OP, have you tried the DENNIS system?
 

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EmileeElectro said:
I don't like how everyone is suggesting you go to Amsterdamn.
I know they're probably joking, but you should lose your virginity because you love that person, not because you want to get laid.
Being a virgin does not make you a loser. I wish I lost mine to my current boyfriend, but I was stupid and reckless and now I can't get it back.
The moment you stop wanting it, it'll happen. Girls can sense desperation.
Because they are Terminators?

Seriously man, you're still young. Virginity isn't that big of a thing. Once you've lost it, oh well, let us move on. It isn't like you're planning to just have sex with one person. Realisticly speaking anyway. Just be patient.
 

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Stop looking for sex. When you meet women, look for friendship, look for someone you enjoy spending time with. Don't keep thinking "will she fuck me?" because that just means your head is in the wrong place the whole time you are with her. Sex should come naturally, not be forced. There is nothing wrong with being 22 and a virgin. Most people regret their first times, or come to regret actions they do later, so don't do something you think you will regret. I'm not saying wait till marriage, I'm saying wait till you find someone that is special to you. Don't hire a prostitute, that's not really something you'll ever want to mention to your girlfriend/wife in the future, and you can achieve emotionless sexual release without spending that type of money with the internet and a hand. Not to mention its cleaner.
 

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Macgyvercas said:
EDIT: Read Baby Tea's post. The man is a freaking genius!
I second this. Seriously StuddedZombie, listen to this Baby Tea, I'm sure he knows better than any of us. Getting drunk/stoned whatever just to sleep with someone will just make you regret it in the long run.
 

JamesTehWench

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Hmm, well, im sure that posting the fact that you are a virgin on a video game forum will get you laid in no time! :3
 

Lord_Duke

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I'm 19 atm and havent been with a girl for over 16 months, It's not that great to know what you're missing either
 

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you probably don't drink enough, now I'm at uni it's much easier to get off my tits on booze so I've found relationships are coming on a bit easier. but hey, don't force it, that'd be weird and you'll just end up with some fatty or something.

also try to to hit on girls with really low self esteem, or ones that're just out of a relationship. the key fact: in order to fuck, one must be a dick. works better than when I'm my normal decent self (DON'T SAY IT'S NOT TRUE WOMEN, YOU KNOW IT IS!)

god I'm bitter...

omega 616 said:
(or catch a goat you've pulled)
I wouldn't, it's now my personal mission to punch anybody I hear saying that. it's all bullshit, films, tv, avertising. being socially retarded is NOT an attractive quality, full-fucking-stop.

edit: just realised I come across as a total **** in this post, I'm really not, promise.
 

Beatrix

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Being a virgin isn't a bad thing, it's certainly not a requisite for adult-hood, if anything it helps keep most of the adults acting like children :p
If it's that big of a deal to you though, just try to get out a bit more, find groups of people that share your interests. I'm sure you'll stumble upon a person of your gender of preference and have a great time eventually.